EPTGirl Blog: Dating a Girl at Work...Part 1 - Page 2
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PointyShoes
Northern Ireland20 Posts
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On November 26 2012 05:44 PointyShoes wrote: Did you consider the possibility that the 5 year relationship that the guy was able to end over text message may have been dead long before that? But by all means go in all guns blazing like a man and end it over a reason that doesn't have any real grounding in anything but your own insecurity. This. Of course if you've found someone better than her, then by all means just break things off with her | ||
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Blue
Norway359 Posts
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
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Zim23
United States1681 Posts
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ziggurat
Canada847 Posts
And for God's sake stop whining about how you don't want to invest your feelings or risk getting your heart broken or whatever. You sound like one of the girls on the Bachelor. <gag> | ||
FlaShFTW
United States10325 Posts
how long before you two started dating? | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
 My advice: Ask the guy and girl why the guy broke it off. | ||
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Bippzy
United States1466 Posts
Edit: actually OP, are you assuming this or do you knoe this, because if assume stay ewith her dammit | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
That's the basis for a relationship, not some artificial commitment or choice of words. On November 26 2012 03:45 Zeller wrote: Thank god this was a reasonable post from someone who has their shit straight. Most guys on here would be crying about their feelings for this girl and how much help they need to figure it out. Thank you sir for handling this like a reasonable adult with some self-confidence. Nope. It's from someone who is scared of something that hasn't happened yet and is trying to prematurely end the relationship to avoid getting hurt. | ||
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supervizor
Netherlands42 Posts
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B.I.G.
3251 Posts
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
On November 26 2012 09:00 B.I.G. wrote: My advice is to not take our advice and do whats best for you. Everyone has a different set of standards and preferences, and since we have no way of telling what yours are your better of asking people who actually know you. I don't think he should take this advice. | ||
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
If she doesn't seem to mind, then maybe think about ending it. Don't throw away something good out of fear. | ||
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Fumanchu
Canada669 Posts
Without getting too after school special, let me just say that I really appreciate the honesty of the feedback given here. Whether you think I'm an idiot or in the right place or I'm just trolling, you have stated so plainly. It's refreshing and for me personally it's much needed in these types of situations. So thank you to anyone who posted honestly. | ||
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
measure twice, cut once | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10344 Posts
Also, if you were present, I'd slap you in the "GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF, MAN" style. You're so overreacting, there's nothing wrong with a woman who's had a previous relationship. To desire a woman with "no baggage" is idiotic. These people do not exist. There's less baggage. There's too much baggage. There is no "none." This applies for men and women. Why is it a bad thing she had a serious commitment with another man? You've barely been dating her and you've already made holiday plans? Sounds like you've already committed the next few months to her in a way? You didn't have a problem doing that. Before you found out she was engaged. " This girl was actually forthcoming about her past (hey, I wouldn't whip that out in the first week, either), and now she's almost tainted to you. Fuck, this girl sounds pretty awesome to me. I hope you realize how childish you're behaving, and you're ruining a good thing in the very early non-committing stages of a new relationship. You will regret this. But maybe she's better off. | ||
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synapse
China13814 Posts
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
On November 26 2012 05:44 Shady Sands wrote: This. Of course if you've found someone better than her, then by all means just break things off with her Agreed. I was engaged to a girl and broke up with her after a 7 year mostly long distance relationship and just a short time after, she was fine and found someone else (It was after 3 month, not 1, but that was mostly due to lack of opportunity). Especially long distance relationships can end up being dead long before they formally end and those involved often suffer a lot less from the break-up. Don't make assumptions, unless she said something else you should just proceed "as normal". | ||
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Raithed
China7078 Posts
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