[Boy blog] Just Friends - Page 3

On October 03 2012 05:32 Mr. Black wrote:


You don't need to be a rapist to be a piece of shit. If only I could think of an example...

On October 03 2012 12:27 QuanticHawk wrote:


the second this married dude stood in front of her, this girls legs opened up like the automatic doors to a supermarket. let's be real here, they're both fucking idiots

On October 03 2012 12:42 QuanticIllusion wrote:
wat?

On October 03 2012 05:44 tonight wrote:
Chick is obviously too busy going on secret dates to respond to her own blog. Quickly and quietly deleting any sort of evidence that she was "politely" asked to remove "for us".

On October 03 2012 13:08 amethyst wrote:
Thanks to everyone who posted genuine words of advice.

I mainly posted this because I just wanted to share this story. I am aware that what I did was wrong and unacceptable, and I am just as responsible for what happened as he is. I am neither looking to meet with him outside of work again or develop a real relationship with him now that I see clearly what kind of a guy he is.

On October 03 2012 13:08 amethyst wrote:
Thanks to everyone who posted genuine words of advice.

I mainly posted this because I just wanted to share this story. I am aware that what I did was wrong and unacceptable, and I am just as responsible for what happened as he is. I am neither looking to meet with him outside of work again or develop a real relationship with him now that I see clearly what kind of a guy he is.



I have no idea what you're trying to say here. I have not asked anyone to delete anything, nor has anyone asked me to remove anything.

On October 03 2012 05:06 xedric wrote:
I've been on TL for years but never care to post anything but since this touched me in a way I'd like to add my thought.

I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories.

On October 03 2012 13:35 metbull wrote:


I read this and cracked up laughing.
You should include the sentence, "Looking forward to the next 20. Or until my wife figures out I'm always looking for a better her, and she starts looking for better me."

As for OP.
-The guy used you. Learn and move forward.

On October 03 2012 13:41 Shady Sands wrote:
I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage
...
2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years

On October 03 2012 13:41 Shady Sands wrote:

Actually if you try and automatically believe that getting married = blinders on every single other girl out there, then your married life will be hellish

I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage

1) a good pre-nup that clearly delineates who gets what in a divorce
2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years

so many marriages die because one party or another just believes it can skate on by now that it's locked up both sides to an eternal contract. people make mistakes all the time. why make marriage the one mistake with which you have to suffer for the rest of your life?

On October 03 2012 05:06 xedric wrote:
I've been on TL for years but never care to post anything but since this touched me in a way I'd like to add my thought.

I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories.

On October 03 2012 13:41 Shady Sands wrote:
Actually if you try and automatically believe that getting married = blinders on every single other girl out there, then your married life will be hellish

I firmly believe two things are necessary for a happy marriage

1) a good pre-nup that clearly delineates who gets what in a divorce
2) a renewal clause in the marriage that requires both parties to actively renew the marriage every four, five, or six years

so many marriages die because one party or another just believes it can skate on by now that it's locked up both sides to an eternal contract. people make mistakes all the time. why make marriage the one mistake with which you have to suffer for the rest of your life?

[B]
To the guy who "stole" his girl, what happens if someone "steals" her from you? If you are married or even just mutually exclusively dating you are making a commitment to that person. To tell that person you are the one but then look for someone better behind their back is fucked up. If things are going that badly between you and your partner, that you are interested in other ppl fucking man up and tell them you need to seperate, you don't have to go and cheat behind ppl's backs. Unless your girls ex was physically abusing her she apparently was already looking for an out before you met her and she just didn't have the means to do it on her own. What is to say she isn't sick of your shit right now and just looking for the next or better man to leech off of?

On October 04 2012 08:52 xedric wrote:
Never said I was looking for someone better but if someone came along then why would you throw that away?

Do you think its okay to stay with someone who makes you unhappy? You realize that if you are unhappy then they are too just by the way you will treat them because you are not happy.

It's silly to think you can meet the best person for you so easily. There are over 7B people in this world.

Small problems can be fixed in a marriage with compromise. Large problems usually relate to your individual personalities and these cannot be changed. Recognize them so that you know when to bail. Why waste the time for both of you for something that will turn bad later?

On October 04 2012 08:52 xedric wrote:
Never said I was looking for someone better but if someone came along then why would you throw that away?

Do you think its okay to stay with someone who makes you unhappy? You realize that if you are unhappy then they are too just by the way you will treat them because you are not happy.

It's silly to think you can meet the best person for you so easily. There are over 7B people in this world.

Small problems can be fixed in a marriage with compromise. Large problems usually relate to your individual personalities and these cannot be changed. Recognize them so that you know when to bail. Why waste the time for both of you for something that will turn bad later?