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StateofReverie
United States633 Posts
gratz on probably a life-long friend if you choose to keep in contact with him for that long | ||
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Topin
Peru10077 Posts
sorry but i think they are right.. just get out of there, you dont need that shit you are just gonna get hurt. | ||
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Brandish
United States339 Posts
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krndandaman
Mozambique16569 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
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Zetter
Germany629 Posts
There's basically a number of reasons why he'd act like he does, but none of them is that he wants to be just friends. Obviously he doesn't want anything serious, but he doesn't want to be "normal" friends as well. Otherwise there's just no explanation to why he'd hold hands with you and kiss you. I at least don't do this with my female friends and I don't know anyone else who'd do this. The other thing is his fiance. You know that he is engaged and just from my guess, she'd be really hurt if she'd knew about this and if she'd knew that you're aware of him being engaged. If you keep on going like this you'll not only hurt yourself, you hurt her as well. | ||
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felisconcolori
United States6168 Posts
Read it, want to throttle "boy" its about. Ditch him, quickly, and if someone has a fiance? Don't go out with them to dinner. Just don't. Because... he is probably playing you, and if he isn't he's fucking up by the numbers with his other girl. What makes you think you'd be different from her? He's not worth the pain and aggravation the whole mess will cause in the best of times, and he is a douche. Plus, as you've seen here, some people will blame you, whether or not the drama is your fault. Fucking guys. I mean, yeah, I am one, but they're still douchebags. (Maybe including me. I dunno. I try to keep an open mind about myself, at least.) | ||
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~ava
Canada378 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32054 Posts
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rauk
United States2228 Posts
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lightrise
United States1355 Posts
On October 03 2012 01:17 StateofReverie wrote: enjoyed reading this gratz on probably a life-long friend if you choose to keep in contact with him for that longLooking for some state blog action and instead get this fucking gem of a comment instead. Dude this is not ok behavior for the dude at all. It puts his fiance in a shithole of a situation and puts this girl in a bad situation as well. She is considered a home wrecked if she goes for it but he was the one that initiated the whole situation. She had feelings for him and he played her. | ||
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xedric
United States3 Posts
I "stole" my girl from her 13 year marriage, 16 year relationship and we've been going strong for 8 years now. Looking forward to the next 20. You never know who you may meet regardless of your status. There is always someone better for you out there and if you find them then why not give it the chance? If you don't you are just settling for something less that you know won't achieve the happiness you want for your life. You only live once. Enjoy whatever life gives you and whether it works out or not you still have those memories. | ||
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Mr. Black
United States470 Posts
On October 03 2012 00:50 EffervescentAureola wrote: This was a really great and sweet story, that guy obviously loves you and cares about you a great deal. When he said that he wished you would find a guy who could "appreciate you as much you deserve", that just completely broke my heart  Maybe he is a little bit conflicted deep inside, but the fact that he wants to be friends with you despite the intimacy shows that he is genuine and not trying to take advantage of you, or anything like that. Nonono. If he loved her, he would leave his fiance to be with her. He wants to be friends with benefits--real friends don't mess around with each other when they are engaged to other people. He probably does have real feelings for the OP, but he is trying to have his cake and eat it too. This guy is a narcissist, and you should shut him down. You do not have to quit your job, or be mean. Just be business-like. If this guy would cheat on his fiance with you, he would cheat on you with someone else, because he is only concerned with what HE wants. To the OP: you are a talented writer. Given that you posted on this site, you have at least two qualities that make you a highly rare and desirable person. You can find someone who only wants to be with you, rather than someone who takes advantage of people. Dudes can seem damn genuine when they want to--you have to look past what they say to what they actually do. Good luck to you! | ||
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Mr. Black
United States470 Posts
On October 03 2012 04:11 QuanticHawk wrote: hahahahaahha yeah what a dirt bag did you guys read about the part where he had to pry her legs open with the jaws of life oh ok neither did i You don't need to be a rapist to be a piece of shit. If only I could think of an example... | ||
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qrs
United States3637 Posts
I think openness is good, and guys in general tend to value directness, so if I were you, I would try to have a straight-up conversation with the guy about how you'd like to be friends, but the other night made it clear that your feelings for each other go beyond friendship and this isn't going to work, he being engaged to someone else. That will probably confirm things that he's been thinking already, and he'll agree that it's probably for the best that you not be with each other alone again. Then STICK to that. You'll be sad for a little while, but you'll get over it. The deeper in you let yourself get, the harder that will be. Same goes for him. | ||
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tonight
United States11130 Posts
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Xhiwi
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I also expired the same thing. He's married but he also raises your hopes. This is ridiculous. He loves you and the other woman. Now he has to choose but he's too cowardly. Hope this doesn't turn into a nightmare/your nightmare. Good Luck! | ||
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Nabes
Canada1800 Posts
Although this is all based on what you wrote, so take your best judgement in whatever you decide. I am by no means a relationship expert, just based off personal experience. | ||
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a176
Canada6688 Posts
On October 03 2012 05:59 Xhiwi wrote: Wow, this guy is an idiot. I also expired the same thing. He's married but he also raises your hopes. This is ridiculous. He loves you and the other woman. Now he has to choose but he's too cowardly. Hope this doesn't turn into a nightmare/your nightmare. Good Luck! or you could, you know, not be a homewrecker and find a single guy | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On October 03 2012 03:16 felisconcolori wrote: Fucking guys. I mean, yeah, I am one, but they're still douchebags. (Maybe including me. I dunno. I try to keep an open mind about myself, at least.) I hate it when my fellow man says this sort of shit. Not every guy is a douchebag, not every woman is a bitch. Stop using a broad brush to paint everyone else. Stop feeding people's negative stereotypes. Also the OP (woman) isn't completely absolved of any blame, yes the guy should know better but so should she. He has a fiancee already, she shouldn't even be considering going out to dinner with him, let alone kissing him. | ||
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