Then my dad walks in the house, demands a family meeting, starts crying at how my family treats him, again demands that we finish a checklist of arbitrary tasks that have no meaning to us [the rest of my family] whatsoever, and proceeds to leave the room.
Backtrack a bit, and let me describe my dad to you in as truthful a manner possible.
He only cares for his family and not for himself. Hasn't taken a vacation for himself for over 20 years, demands more work, more money, just so he can provide for himse family. Constantly asks me what I want, tells me to do this, do that, stop this, stop that...makes me feel like i'm a 4-year-old kid with down syndrome.
Only knows 1 type of communcation - formal. Has no sense of intimate conversation, private, family-type of conversation. Basically, me, my mom, and my brother are his employees and he is the boss. No matter how good his intentions, no one listens to him one bit because he does not trust us. He's blatently said that outloud, that he has to "double check everything because I don't trust you."
Suffers from that intellegent-arrogance complex you find a couple of people. In my dad, it's actually to the extreme. He's so smart there is literally nothing he can't do. Ph. D in electric engineering, DIY guy at home..basically anything involving numbers, he can do. And then he's so arrogant, even when he's wrong occasionally, he blows it off and still claims the moral high ground, saying "he didn't have all the information" or some bullshit. Lately, it's gotten to the point where we tell him what's wrong with him, and he blatently says "it's impossible for me to change because" of x, y, and z.
In a nutshell, he's Will Hunting + the professor if Robin williams never intervened.
And it's that last part that's been getting on everyone's nerves for the last 20 years.
He demands for us to let him know whats wrong with him, and tells us before hand, "I will explain to you why i'm right, you're wrong, and why I can't change." I'm sitting there doing a troll face, my brother is staring at the ground, and my mom is doing the eye-roll. And he doesn't care, as long as he says his piece. I've given up on arguing with him because he refuses to change.
And the worst part is, my dad is right. We all know he's right. My brother's too lazy to look for a job, my mom is an artist (artists and engineers never agree on anything), and I suffer from some reverse psychology "even-if-he-is-right,i'm-going-to-do-the-opposite-just-so-i-can-feel-good-about-something" syndrome. If i do what he says, it makes me feel like a bitch, some trophy kid that does everything his parents says to do. It makes me want to punch a wall when I have to do what he says.
And then I take a step back.
He is actually content to live a life of misery in America, one of the few countries in the world where you're actually entitled to have a few weekends off and take a vacation. Not only that, he wants me, my brother, and my mom to live like him, constantly under a workplace stress, with no idea of anything "fun".
He grew up in martial law Taiwan, where slander, intellegence, and misbehavior were crimes and deemed punishable by death or prison for an indefinite amount of time. I understand why his history and past have defined the way he lives now, but he isn't going to get killed here for being smart, relaxed, and being able to speak his mind.
He's living in a dog-eat-dog world where everyone is a cat. There aren't any other dogs to eat cause they've all been domesticated. My dad is a lone wolf that isn't willing to live like the others. If you think I was exagerrating up there (it's more of a simplfication imo), this part isn't exagerrated or simplified one bit.
And so I look at the classes I'm taking this coming fall, and I see Math, Chemistry, Physics, and all these engineering classes.
I've loved science, and I never understood why people chose a liberal arts major rather than a science major. I think I understand now.
The world today is polluted with people like my dad, who aren't nearly as smart or as arrogant, but live by the same ideals. Wake up, go to school, beat the curve, make money, raise a family, repeat the cycle. No sense of individualism, philosophy, a reason to live. It's a cruel cycle, albiet one that works.
There was a blog that was saying something about what you wish schools would teach you. It isn't about what schools should teach, it's about what we learn from it.
And I'm sorely wishing that people would learn something about individuals who take the same classes as you, that want the same thing as you.
And I'm hoping that one day, people will start learning from each other instead of making enemies of one another.