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On August 10 2012 17:10 MaV_gGSC wrote: all that research.. damn. Just talk to her o_O Yeah, wow, my god! It's really not one millionth as tricky as you're making it look :p and this from a guy who had difficulty talking to anybody for some time! Just *ahem* man up. | ||
Ghin
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Shock710
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I'll be able to report back after monday lol | ||
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Azera
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Shock710
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1) Does she like me? 2) Why is she angry u can be as fabulous and flamboyant with ur answers | ||
Ghin
United States2391 Posts
You won't be able to plan everything out all the time. The first step is to say hi. The longer you wait, the more she'll think of you as the weird guy who stares at her instead of someone she might like to know. | ||
Masq
Canada1792 Posts
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zalz
Netherlands3704 Posts
She gave you smiles, she gave you glances, she did everything short of waving the landing sign. You didn't approach her, giving her a non-verbal fuck you, regardless of how many glances you threw back. She realized you were never going to talk to her, so she moved on. Don't talk to her, you will only look like an idiot if you try anything at this point. Either you go for it, or you don't. The longer you wait, the weirder things get. Notably, the establishment of an elaborate bus schedule that is only appropriate on the fridge of a serial killer. | ||
Sporadic44
United States533 Posts
On August 10 2012 17:33 Ghin wrote: Instead of stalking her with an elaborate bus schedule scheme, talk to her ask her to go some place with you. Easy advice to give, harder to actually carry out. Especially for the shy-guys out there. This is however the truth. This blog actually felt kind of ridiculous while reading. The amount of thought you put into assessing QT's age for example. You've obviously spent more than a fleeting moment thinking about it. When really you could just find out how old she is through talking to her. That said I also found this blog extremely enlightening to read. It's never been age for me but I realize now I've often spent a fair deal of time dwelling on specific(often times seemingly random) characteristics or impressions concerning girls that I would be dating, talking to, or crushing on. So much so that at times I get hung up on the details i'm staring at while remaining oblivious to the many other facets unique to each girl. When you're in a committed long term relationship this very same idea can ruin things unless sorted out and discussed between partners. Likewise, when you're crushing on a girl, a detail like age can deter you from taking a risk and talking to the girl. In both instances the idea and practice of communication is paramount. You cite her age as a reason for not talking to her So this continued till the first semester ended, we never said a word to each other in that time just smiles and glances. (cause I have no balls and also the age thing) Following the logic above, you would more than likely find out QT's age before it was even relevant in your interactions with her. You can be friendly toward people of all ages without being thrown in jail, yet your categorizations of asian age stages says you've thought about this one detail for longer than you probably should. --A lot of this is simply me brainstorming. As I mentioned this blog really made me consider my perception of girls i'm attracted to. On more than one occasion I spent too much time, or weighed too much worth on assumptions or guesstimations about girls. Because of that I lost several opportunities to get to know said girls better. A kind of self defeating course to take. Let me know if anything i've said rings true with you. Maybe I personalized your words too much. For me this blog has a message. Details are innumerable and certain aspects of a woman seem to swallow my attention and curiosity. It can be enticing to consider each detail and think through them like sorting through gold. But sometimes the big picture is what you need to be looking at, if you hope to establish deeper connections with a girl. Idk let me know what you think. As for the looking out the window, aloof demeanor following your vacation; I see this as one of three possibilities. Of course all hypothetical 1. She's now seeing someone//no longer seeking companionship 2. She's in a rough point in her life(bad day, week, etc) and internally focused on that instead of her physical surroundings 3. She may recognize you, but never gave a rats ass about getting to know you//The special connection you feel for her may not be reciprocated. This coincides with my original thought regarding communication. Simply assuming or guessing why she didn't look at you is ultimately a fruitless thought to pursue. Find your next window of opportunity to open up the lines of communication with this girl. Worst comes to worst you suffer through an awkward moment of embarassment or blatant rejection and come out a lot stronger because you took the chance. Who knows until you try right? Grats on 2k posts. Thanks for sharing! | ||
Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
She specifically went out of her way to get off at your stop, it's been a long time, and you still didn't do anything, so... HURRY OR YOU'LL MISS IT Also, you may or may not need to be reminded that she's human. People enjoy being challenged, so worshipping them like gods is counter-productive. Here's the plan: 1) See her alone on the bus/tram/w.e 2) Sit next to her - No more testing the waters, she's tried an all-in, you defended it, and if you don't counter-attack to win now, you're just wasting her time and your own. (and also giving yourself unnecessary chances to lose the game) 3) TALK - i suggest opening with 'hi, I'm X' (She should reply with her name here) 'I see you here a lot, what's your stop?' when she replies high school, that's an easy lead-in for asking what year, If she's interested, the talk will go well. If sitting down next to her isn't possible and she isnt looking happy, tell her she's looking down, and that you seeing her smile in the mornings helps you put on a positive mindset or something. It'll cheer her up, and maybe you can swap names. I wouldn't push this one much further than that in one go, you don't just want to dump everything on her in one go when you've spent months preparing. At any rate, if you don't approach her, it's not going to happen. You do want it to happen, right? | ||
krndandaman
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MyLastSerenade
Germany710 Posts
if u really talk to her, let us know how it went! | ||
Yanami
Germany49 Posts
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ArcticMuse
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surfinbird1
Germany999 Posts
On August 10 2012 21:05 Yanami wrote: That was probably the cutes girl blog I've ever read. I melted. I hope it will word out for you somehow! Yeah, it's like from a Disney cartoon. We're rooting for you! | ||
Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
On August 10 2012 19:11 Sporadic44 wrote: + Show Spoiler + On August 10 2012 17:33 Ghin wrote: Instead of stalking her with an elaborate bus schedule scheme, talk to her ask her to go some place with you. Easy advice to give, harder to actually carry out. Especially for the shy-guys out there. This is however the truth. This blog actually felt kind of ridiculous while reading. The amount of thought you put into assessing QT's age for example. You've obviously spent more than a fleeting moment thinking about it. When really you could just find out how old she is through talking to her. That said I also found this blog extremely enlightening to read. It's never been age for me but I realize now I've often spent a fair deal of time dwelling on specific(often times seemingly random) characteristics or impressions concerning girls that I would be dating, talking to, or crushing on. So much so that at times I get hung up on the details i'm staring at while remaining oblivious to the many other facets unique to each girl. When you're in a committed long term relationship this very same idea can ruin things unless sorted out and discussed between partners. Likewise, when you're crushing on a girl, a detail like age can deter you from taking a risk and talking to the girl. In both instances the idea and practice of communication is paramount. You cite her age as a reason for not talking to her So this continued till the first semester ended, we never said a word to each other in that time just smiles and glances. (cause I have no balls and also the age thing) Following the logic above, you would more than likely find out QT's age before it was even relevant in your interactions with her. You can be friendly toward people of all ages without being thrown in jail, yet your categorizations of asian age stages says you've thought about this one detail for longer than you probably should. --A lot of this is simply me brainstorming. As I mentioned this blog really made me consider my perception of girls i'm attracted to. On more than one occasion I spent too much time, or weighed too much worth on assumptions or guesstimations about girls. Because of that I lost several opportunities to get to know said girls better. A kind of self defeating course to take. Let me know if anything i've said rings true with you. Maybe I personalized your words too much. For me this blog has a message. Details are innumerable and certain aspects of a woman seem to swallow my attention and curiosity. It can be enticing to consider each detail and think through them like sorting through gold. But sometimes the big picture is what you need to be looking at, if you hope to establish deeper connections with a girl. Idk let me know what you think. As for the looking out the window, aloof demeanor following your vacation; I see this as one of three possibilities. Of course all hypothetical 1. She's now seeing someone//no longer seeking companionship 2. She's in a rough point in her life(bad day, week, etc) and internally focused on that instead of her physical surroundings 3. She may recognize you, but never gave a rats ass about getting to know you//The special connection you feel for her may not be reciprocated. This coincides with my original thought regarding communication. Simply assuming or guessing why she didn't look at you is ultimately a fruitless thought to pursue. Find your next window of opportunity to open up the lines of communication with this girl. Worst comes to worst you suffer through an awkward moment of embarassment or blatant rejection and come out a lot stronger because you took the chance. Who knows until you try right? Grats on 2k posts. Thanks for sharing Yeah her not liking me has crossed my mind a few times lol, I'm just gonna talk to her on monday, if shes happy i can just be like "hi" and if shes sad "are u okay? ect ect, just following what people have posted here On August 10 2012 19:27 Cyber_Cheese wrote: + Show Spoiler + it's possible she doesn't think you're interested anymore. She specifically went out of her way to get off at your stop, it's been a long time, and you still didn't do anything, so... HURRY OR YOU'LL MISS IT Also, you may or may not need to be reminded that she's human. People enjoy being challenged, so worshipping them like gods is counter-productive. Here's the plan: 1) See her alone on the bus/tram/w.e 2) Sit next to her - No more testing the waters, she's tried an all-in, you defended it, and if you don't counter-attack to win now, you're just wasting her time and your own. (and also giving yourself unnecessary chances to lose the game) 3) TALK - i suggest opening with 'hi, I'm X' (She should reply with her name here) 'I see you here a lot, what's your stop?' when she replies high school, that's an easy lead-in for asking what year, If she's interested, the talk will go well. If sitting down next to her isn't possible and she isnt looking happy, tell her she's looking down, and that you seeing her smile in the mornings helps you put on a positive mindset or something. It'll cheer her up, and maybe you can swap names. I wouldn't push this one much further than that in one go, you don't just want to dump everything on her in one go when you've spent months preparing. At any rate, if you don't approach her, it's not going to happen. You do want it to happen, right? Ur right! and ofc i want it to happen =) gonna try this! Time to proxy 2 gate and make some MANLOTS On August 10 2012 19:56 krndandaman wrote: + Show Spoiler + no... you're overanalyzing. the girl probably doesn't think much of you at all. you're just a nice (i'd hope) person she sees alot on the bus. i've done this alot and think the smiles a girl gave would indicate interest and that we had all this tension and attraction and whatnot but it was all in my head. i went out with 1 eventually and when i asked her about it she said she just didn't think much of me and that i was a stranger when the whole time i thought we had something going on between us 2. don't be too quick and ask her out or anything. but that doesn't mean just watch from afar and 'research' her like you are doing right now. since you see her often, sit next to her one day and just initiate conversation. here i'll outline how one might go: "hi can i sit here?" 'sure' "*smile* hey my name is Shock. i feel like i see you everyday on the bus, what's your name?" 'QT *smile*' "great! glad that we aren't strangers no more ^^ so are you going to school around here? i go to the blahblah uni over there" talk talk talk ez stuff yo just have confidence and don't think too much! be friendly and likeable! Will take ur advice =D MyLastSerenade, Yanami, surfinbird1 thankyou <3 lol u can ask me for a cookie too even if u didnt read the bw part =D On August 10 2012 21:23 ArcticMuse wrote: Stop scouting her build and expo already (start a conversation). Also do you go to a Uni in Sydney? If so what one, might be going to the same one o.O I'm in Melbourne, Monash uni sry Thanks guys wish me luck for monday!!! | ||
The KY
United Kingdom6252 Posts
Ok ok kidding, but seriously you are making such a big deal of this. Practice makes perfect, if you just (to be brutally honest) grow a fucking pair and risk some disappointment every once in a while this kind of thing becomes fairly routine because you realise it's really not a big deal. I feel this one is doomed to failure as you've spent a long time building an attachment. Just fucking do this. On August 10 2012 19:56 krndandaman wrote: "hi can i sit here?" 'sure' "*smile* hey my name is Shock. i feel like i see you everyday on the bus, what's your name?" 'QT *smile*' "great! glad that we aren't strangers no more ^^ so are you going to school around here? i go to the blahblah uni over there" talk talk talk ez stuff yo just have confidence and don't think too much! be friendly and likeable! Smile, wide and often. Eye contact, but not constantly, move from eye to eye and glance away every so often. On August 10 2012 21:46 surfinbird1 wrote: Yeah, it's like from a Disney cartoon. We're rooting for you! Yeah a Disney cartoon. Or a rap sheet. + Show Spoiler + | ||
VenomBRA
Netherlands168 Posts
People above already gave some solid feedback, so all I can add is: before getting to her stop, make sure you have asked for her email or something so you can contact her later! | ||
Incze
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Gprime
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applepielon
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Chexx
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Ryalnos
United States1946 Posts
On August 11 2012 14:05 Chexx wrote: which age are you that you thin 17 is ok to date? Just curious. Maybe read the part of his blog that says he's a first year student in a university? Btw, 4 stars - I laughed hard at part 2. It did drag on a little, though... | ||
Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
On August 11 2012 14:05 Chexx wrote: which age are you that you thin 17 is ok to date? Just curious. I'm 19, turned 19 just 6 days ago lol i feel that dating a 17 year old at 19 is pretty fine | ||
krndandaman
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Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
On August 11 2012 18:43 krndandaman wrote: in most states in the United States (which probably have some of the strictest laws) a 19 year old with a 16 year old is fine as long as you don't turn 20 before she turns 17 iirc Well than i'm even in the clear for the "most strictest laws" =D | ||
Arcanefrost
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Chexx
Korea (South)11232 Posts
On August 11 2012 14:13 Ryalnos wrote: Maybe read the part of his blog that says he's a first year student in a university? Btw, 4 stars - I laughed hard at part 2. It did drag on a little, though... And what does it tell me about his age? Nothing. Yeah 19 is fine ^^ But you cant go out together for some beer and cocktails :/ | ||
Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
On August 11 2012 07:48 Gprime wrote: i kinda LIKE the diagram you made. i just like data in general. i dont think youve been stalkerish,your just an observant fellow but i think you HAVE waited to long to talk to her. just be your friendly self. shes shy too! I would have to agree =D lol i dont felt like i've been stalker like, i've just spent alot of time thinking about her. I havent followed her anyway, i havent deviated from my journey (home to uni, uni to home), i guessed her school because she wasnt wearing a uniform(explained in more detail above), the google mapping of her route is a bit stalkerish i guess, but its cause her school is two trams stops away from mine, and she started to get off and seemingly random stops and being interested in the pretty girl lol i noted it in my head. I'm sad that i dont see Redjustice and OpticalShot one of the two biggest girl blog hunters out there I guess Redjustice has an excuse because when she hit 999 post i pmed her on whether she gonna do a 1k post blog thing, she said she might but she has nothing to write about, but that was ages ago and she hasnt really shown up on TL for quite a while. OpticalShot however T_T u break my [girl blog] heart Tho Redjustice did reply to me, (pm was sent when i was studying for exams, so the period where i wasnt able to see her till the start of 2nd semester) this is her reply Anyway, I can't tell you if you she likes you from this! You haven't even managed to talk to her yet, so it's very hard to say. However, I will say that when girls like a guy, they do the 'eye-flirting' thing. You look at him, smile a little, look away, look back again a few minutes later, etcetc. The fact that she's making eye contact with you means she at least feels friendly towards you. When girls aren't interested in someone at all or creeped out they usually try to avoid all eye contact. Therefore-- be encouraged! Now, she may think you're cute, maybe not, but her bus route probably doesn't have much to do with you. The thing you must do is go and talk to her. If you don't then it is guaranteed to go nowhere. Start a conversation by commenting on something about her. Maybe she is reading a book-- ask her about it. Or if she listens to music on the bus, ask what she's listening to. Maybe she wears something pretty-- compliment her on it. Whatever you do, start talking to her. Then say "My name is ___ btw, I always see you on the bus in the morning. I'm going to school, what about you?" That should start a conversation and then you can carry it on each time you see each other. From there you will be able to see if you like her as a gf or friend, and maybe ask her to do something or get her number. On August 10 2012 19:11 Sporadic44 wrote: + Show Spoiler + On August 10 2012 17:33 Ghin wrote: Instead of stalking her with an elaborate bus schedule scheme, talk to her ask her to go some place with you. Easy advice to give, harder to actually carry out. Especially for the shy-guys out there. This is however the truth. This blog actually felt kind of ridiculous while reading. The amount of thought you put into assessing QT's age for example. You've obviously spent more than a fleeting moment thinking about it. When really you could just find out how old she is through talking to her. That said I also found this blog extremely enlightening to read. It's never been age for me but I realize now I've often spent a fair deal of time dwelling on specific(often times seemingly random) characteristics or impressions concerning girls that I would be dating, talking to, or crushing on. So much so that at times I get hung up on the details i'm staring at while remaining oblivious to the many other facets unique to each girl. When you're in a committed long term relationship this very same idea can ruin things unless sorted out and discussed between partners. Likewise, when you're crushing on a girl, a detail like age can deter you from taking a risk and talking to the girl. In both instances the idea and practice of communication is paramount. You cite her age as a reason for not talking to her So this continued till the first semester ended, we never said a word to each other in that time just smiles and glances. (cause I have no balls and also the age thing) Following the logic above, you would more than likely find out QT's age before it was even relevant in your interactions with her. You can be friendly toward people of all ages without being thrown in jail, yet your categorizations of asian age stages says you've thought about this one detail for longer than you probably should. --A lot of this is simply me brainstorming. As I mentioned this blog really made me consider my perception of girls i'm attracted to. On more than one occasion I spent too much time, or weighed too much worth on assumptions or guesstimations about girls. Because of that I lost several opportunities to get to know said girls better. A kind of self defeating course to take. Let me know if anything i've said rings true with you. Maybe I personalized your words too much. For me this blog has a message. Details are innumerable and certain aspects of a woman seem to swallow my attention and curiosity. It can be enticing to consider each detail and think through them like sorting through gold. But sometimes the big picture is what you need to be looking at, if you hope to establish deeper connections with a girl. Idk let me know what you think. As for the looking out the window, aloof demeanor following your vacation; I see this as one of three possibilities. Of course all hypothetical 1. She's now seeing someone//no longer seeking companionship 2. She's in a rough point in her life(bad day, week, etc) and internally focused on that instead of her physical surroundings 3. She may recognize you, but never gave a rats ass about getting to know you//The special connection you feel for her may not be reciprocated. This coincides with my original thought regarding communication. Simply assuming or guessing why she didn't look at you is ultimately a fruitless thought to pursue. Find your next window of opportunity to open up the lines of communication with this girl. Worst comes to worst you suffer through an awkward moment of embarassment or blatant rejection and come out a lot stronger because you took the chance. Who knows until you try right? Grats on 2k posts. Thanks for sharing! Yeah i agree with your points thought i should actually tell you instead of nodding my head where u cant see lol. Yeah i dont alot of experience with this, the first time went pretty horribly the second was a stupid mistake on my part, where i noticed a girl i liked standing at the tram stop infront of my school (she was wearing our school uniform and i had seen her around and taken a liking to her) it was during a class break so i went up to her and ask if she would like to see a movie with me (i did it pretty boldly, dont know where the courage came from) but she said sry she couldnt she was going home at that movie because she was sick, (yeah i asked her to go see a moive with me RIGHT at that moment lol not a couple of days later or when she got better) being a bit disapointed i said "oh okay" and started to walk away and she called out sry and i replied with dw, and yeah...i didnt follow up with her, felt like maybe i could have asked her a couple more times when she wasnt sick but didnt have the balls to do it even when she start conversations with me. GOD I'M HORRIBLE AT THIS arrrrgg! Sry i'm ranting a bit, but i'm already pretty nervous about asking her because i've decided i'm gonna do it tmr! and my god damn brain is jumping in with all these horrible responses that i'm gonna get from her (my brain is sooo evil...) shes like rejecting me in the worst possible ways...i really hope i dont fuck up tmr, than again there isnt much i need to say, just sit next to her, tell her "hi im [Shock]," wait for her response and ask her a) why shes seem kinda sad lately" or b) that i noticed that she gets off early compared to a while ago" GOD DAMN FUCK I'm nervous atm... | ||
Aerisky
United States12128 Posts
Moving onto the next one, but seeing as it says Fool...I'm prepared for the worst ;__; | ||
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