EPTNot having a place to hook up sucks - Page 3
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Deleted User 61629
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0ne
Spain2464 Posts
I'm considering to invite her home but it's the first time i'd be with a girl here and i keep thinking about the new situations i could find myself.... I don't want this to look like a big deal but if she realizes she's the first girl to be here she might think i'm going too serious with her and feel uncomfortable, we are really just hanging out at the moment. I want to think about this as the common stuff it's, but i haven't done this before and i'm not sure how to act. I also want to point out that my apartment is not really big and you can hear almost everything so we can't have much privacy here unless my parents are sleeping... | ||
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zalz
Netherlands3704 Posts
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Dirkzor
Denmark1944 Posts
Just remember your parents have also been young at some point and have been doing stuff. Might be sex, but then they did other things which to them was "forbidden". To put this in perspective: I'm 25. Living by myself now. My parents sometimes hints in a teasing fashion that they knew everything going on in my room behind closed doors when I lived at home. Be it watching porn late at night or being with a girl. So they know either way and probably don't care. At least my parents don't/didn't. | ||
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Deleted User 61629
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On April 10 2012 19:51 Inori wrote: Here's a radical thought: stop trying to have sex with girls until you're an actual adult capable of supporting himself? Honestly your problem sounds like something a stupid 15 year old would have, not 20. If you're so serious about finishing college, then study more instead. Having sex in the parents apartment will be as awkward as you might imagine, unless you're into these things, which means you have bigger problems than finding a place to have sex. Wow, we have a mormon right here! Vade retro, sexual fiends, let me study in peace! OP, just bring her home and introduce her to your family. I did this and after one or two days of awkwardness, it went away, Of course, you can't just have sex on the couch in the middle of the day, but at night everyone does whatever they want and you don't need to go as far as sharing breakfast with everyone. I was 18 at the time, and kept doing this until I was 19. The current economical context makes it much wiser for many students to stay with their parents for a few more years. Save money, and you will eventually be able to move out and maintain a certain stability. It's better than getting an apartment and sucking the life out of your parents just to eat a plate of plain pasta everyday. | ||
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Deleted User 61629
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bonifaceviii
Canada2890 Posts
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0ne
Spain2464 Posts
On April 11 2012 01:09 bonifaceviii wrote: I think the thread consensus is move out, bro. How is that the thread consensus? There's a lot of posters who understand why it's not a good option for me to move out right now and are giving me advice about other things i'm a lot more interested in | ||
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On April 11 2012 01:07 Inori wrote: Are you retarded? You do realize my response was to his excuses on not moving out? All I said that one shouldn't be running around having sex if he's not adult enough to support oneself (and thus unable to face potential consequences), doesn't matter if you hit that at 15 or 25 age. And in any case having sex in parents apartment will be an awkward experience. I'd understand a house, but an apartment, with parents sitting in the next room.. lol. "Running around having sex"... hahaha how old are you kid? No one can support themselves when they're 15, unless they're orphans or live in a third-world country. Do you condemn sex between people who are under 21 and thus not completely legally of age? In any case, you're probably a virgin (not trying to troll or anything, but from your answers you're either extremely prude or 15 years old), so any "advice" you give is pure fantasy. And don't worry OP, all those rich kids are telling you to move out, but anyone with common sense knows you simply can't when you're poor and you're studying 24/7. | ||
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Deleted User 61629
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WhatisProtoss
Korea (South)2325 Posts
Don't bring her home JUST for the sake of having sex everytime. Bring her home, hang out, watch a movie, or study together. Get her comfortable at your place, and your mom will be okay with you bringing a girl over. If you bring her home, with that glazed look on your face, your mom will know that you're acting strange and that you just want to fuck the girl. Just bring her home innocently, watch some TV, tell your mom you're going to study a bit together. Then your mom will like the girl and respect your privacy. Obviously you won't have the freedom to be in bed for 12 hours straight, with a 2 hour session of sex. But you'll have the freedom to mess around after a few times of bringing her over. Don't rush into things; you're still only 20. Don't buy a hotel; that's just sketchy and expensive. Don't tell her that she's the first girl you're bringing home, that's WEIRD. Tell her that you just wanna relax with her at home. Like I said, TV or some chill activity at home. | ||
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WhatisProtoss
Korea (South)2325 Posts
On April 11 2012 03:13 Inori wrote: Sorry to dissapoint you, but I'm 23, been living on my own since ~19 (without any family support, in fact I'm the one supporting my parents atm), got my first job at ~16, oh and lost my virginity at ~15. Currently working as software engineer. If you can't manage it, doesn't mean it's impossible, just means you're lazy. Those are not things to be proud of. Why do some people think that losing virginity at a super young age is awesome? I remember high school, when people would count on their fingers how many times they had sex. Getting a girlfriend in college is so much better. Anyways, your life story sounds pretty typical. People go to college at 19, live on their own, and graduate at 22 and get a job. As a software engineer, I doubt you have enough money to support yourself and your parents. | ||
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fritfrat
United States50 Posts
While I would never actually say something that ridiculous, my wife and I both waited until marriage, and it worked out just fine for us. On a more practical basis, I can remind you of the cost savings of not moving out and not renting hotel rooms, buying more time for you to find your own path to chastity  And I know that a lot of people reading this will just think the suggestion is totally unrealistic, but at least momentarily consider, why DOES culture assume that hookups with girlfriends is the best way to find happiness? Note momentarily, as in don't derail the thread.. just throwing something out there. Also, it is indeed mostly common for college students in the US (that actually graduate) to be a full time student and then work after graduation- most students go away to college, but it is normal to stay for monetary reasons, too | ||
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Deleted User 61629
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TheToast
United States4808 Posts
Yeah, student debt sucks. If the decision was between 2 years of no sex and a large chunk of debt, trust me the no sex is the far better option. | ||
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Animzor
Sweden2154 Posts
On April 10 2012 09:05 Angel_ wrote: People here seriously have parents that would let their gf stay the night? Get a job, move out. You're 20. User was temp banned for this post. Parents in the States don't let their kids' bfs/gfs stay the night? LOL In Sweden it's not even an issue. | ||
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Animzor
Sweden2154 Posts
On April 11 2012 03:32 WhatisProtoss wrote: Those are not things to be proud of. Why do some people think that losing virginity at a super young age is awesome? I remember high school, when people would count on their fingers how many times they had sex. Getting a girlfriend in college is so much better. Anyways, your life story sounds pretty typical. People go to college at 19, live on their own, and graduate at 22 and get a job. As a software engineer, I doubt you have enough money to support yourself and your parents. Actually, those are things to be proud of, except the virginity thing, which totally doesn't matter. Anyway, just because you're not working hard at the age of 16 and moved out by the age of 19 doesn't mean you're lazy, some people are just born into families where they don't have to struggle hard at that age, nothing wrong with that. | ||
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mawno
Sweden114 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On April 11 2012 03:13 Inori wrote: Sorry to dissapoint you, but I'm 23, been living on my own since ~19 (without any family support, in fact I'm the one supporting my parents atm), got my first job at ~16, oh and lost my virginity at ~15. Currently working as software engineer. If you can't manage it, doesn't mean it's impossible, just means you're lazy. Even if what you're saying is true (which I seriously doubt, with all due respect) you broke your own rules yourself by having sex four years before living on your own. Oh, and OP, didn't know you were from Spain. Stay at your parent's home for as long as possible and then leave the country ASAP, things aren't looking bright down there... | ||
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