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Hi TL this is my first blog (and my first girl blog lol). I want to apologize in advance if my english isn't very good, i'm not used to write long texts  .
I've dating a girl from a couple of moths and there's a problem i've never had before, i don't really have a place to be with her.
I'm a third year college student but i'm living with my parents because my school is just 30 minutes by bus from where i live and she's living with her parents in the same city. This situation is new for me since most of the girls i've dated before were living by herself and i could spend a lot of time on her apartment and sleep there from time to time.
I can still go out with her for drinks or go watch a movie but there's a part of a relationship that i really enjoy i can't really have with her.
I'm 20 years old but i've never been with a girl in my house. I don't really talk about girls with my parents and my mom is home all the time so we can't really be alone here. I'm not sure if her situation is the same but it looks like it. I've thought about talking with my parents about it and i think they'd be ok with it but it would be so awkward that i'm not sure i'd really enjoy it.
I just feel really stupid everytime he goes to her house and i go to mine after going out together and i think our relationship is kind of stuck because of that.
Maybe i can pay for a hotel room a couple of times but i don't think that's really a good idea lol.
I wonder if someone has been in a similar situation and found a good solution or they just decided to move on.
Edit: I add this to the OP to explain better my situation
Ok, so i'm not moving out before i finish my studies period,you can stop with that. I'm not making any excuses, i planned to stay home during college, i'm focusing on getting my degree and then move out. I can't have a stable job with my actual schedule and my family doesn't have the money to support me if i'm not home. I'm not willing to discuss this anymore.
I'm considering to invite her home but it's the first time i'd be with a girl here and i keep thinking about the new situations i could find myself.... I don't want this to look like a big deal but if she realizes she's the first girl to be here she might think i'm going too serious with her and feel uncomfortable, we are really just hanging out at the moment.
I want to think about this as the common stuff it's, but i haven't done this before and i'm not sure how to act.
I also want to point out that my apartment is not really big and you can hear almost everything so we can't have much privacy here unless my parents are sleeping...
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Hotel room is a horrible idea.
Obviously I don't know what your life is like at home, but just talk to your parents about having some privacy when she's over.
That or man up and move out.
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Do the grown up thing:
Move out.
Or to the other grown up thing:
Introduce her to your Mother... I imagine she would "guess" that you won't just sleep/study in your room anyway...
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What exactly is the problem? Just hook up with her at your parents' house in your own room? Or do you share a room with somebody? Are your parents uber strict and would have a problem with you and your gf having le sexy time? You're 20, they should know that by now you don't only talk to girls, I suspect. =)
In essence: Close your door and let the fun begin. 
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Yea the best thing to do would be to talk it out with your parents, just say that she might stay over a couple of nights and they should be fine with it since you're in a long term relationship.
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Mantoss up and rent an apartment somewhere that is a little bit away from your house but still accessible.
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On April 10 2012 08:05 joshrogan wrote:
Yea the best thing to do would be to talk it out with your parents, just say that she might stay over a couple of nights and they should be fine with it since you're in a long term relationship.
I wouldnt really call "a few months" long term, but I do agree with the other posters. If your parents are really strict, move out. If not, just invite her over. You're an adult now, dont feel embarrassed that your parents know you're having sex.
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parents are more understanding than we can even comprehend. Food for thought.
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Maybe think about buying a car?
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On April 10 2012 08:14 dAPhREAk wrote:
public parks. =D
I was the kid in a situation similar to what the OP would commence with if he were to follow your idea...it's awkward...
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Sadly moving out and renting an apartment is impossible for me, i'm just a student with no source of income.
My parents are pretty okeish, it's more about me or she feeling uncomfortable than they having a problem with it.
On April 10 2012 08:14 dAPhREAk wrote:
public parks. =D
On April 10 2012 08:21 Artline wrote:
Maybe think about buying a car?
I don't think i can do that if i'm not really drunk LOL
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do it at your home, not hers
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I think you're old enough that your parents should understand the situation. I was in a similar one when I was 20, my parents just kept out of the way when the girl was over.
Just make sure to talk to them first so they don't walk in on you.
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So you have been jacking off in your room for like a good 10 or so years and yet you are not sure about telling your mom about a girl whom you have interests in? I'm pretty sure she would be delighted!
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On April 10 2012 08:39 0ne wrote:Sadly moving out and renting an apartment is impossible for me, i'm just a student with no source of income. My parents are pretty okeish, it's more about me or she feeling uncomfortable than they having a problem with it. I don't think i can do that if i'm not really drunk LOL
get drunk then. its quite exhilarating. i assume it would be awkward if you got caught, but thats part of the fun.
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Just have her over a lot so it becomes natural for her to be over, don't do anything for the first few weeks. Then when your family leaves the house get to doing your thing. I mean who cares if your family knows what your having sex with your girlfriend as long as they don't catch you i don't see a problem :D
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On April 10 2012 08:43 Swwww wrote:
So you have been jacking off in your room for like a good 10 or so years and yet you are not sure about telling your mom about a girl whom you have interests in? I'm pretty sure she would be delighted!
LOLOL this mad me laugh too much, i agree 100%.
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I would consider getting a job and moving out.
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People here seriously have parents that would let their gf stay the night?
Get a job, move out. You're 20.
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