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So, I like to wear my hair long. Not anything out of control, but fairly long bangs, covering the ears; not shoulder length or anything. Sadly, I have a problem. Whenever I wear my hair long, if I take a shower in the morning, by lunchtime my hair explodes.
What starts out as something like this
![[image loading]](http://ishmam.files.wordpress.com/2011/11/jaedong.png)
Ends up like this:
![[image loading]](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_CzNBc7C_ORs/SwztL1gpw8I/AAAAAAAAACo/1mxGjAm5lRM/s1600/POOFY+HAIR.jpg)
Perhaps that's a hyperbole, but you can see what I'm getting at. If I washed my hair in the morning, it always ended up curling and poofing out, if it's windy the wind will blow it everywhere and it ends up even worse. As a result, I ended up only washing my hair at night, and washing only your body in the morning. I didn't really enjoy doing that, so I decided that when I went to go get my hair cut today, I was going to finally get it cut short.
I was going to go to my regular barber shop but my friends new(ish) GF insisted that I go to her solon where she worked and get my hair cut by her friend because she thought I'd like her and she was really good (I think she was trying to set me up with her, but I don't know). I was getting a new style anyway, so I said that was fine.
Fast forward to this morning when I'm seated at her chair. We had been talking for a few minutes and getting along, and she seemed pretty fun/interesting. We talked about what we each were studying, music, jobs, etc. At this point I'm thinking of asking this girl out to coffee or something to get to know her better. She eventually asks me what I want my hair to look like. I just know I wanted it short, so I told her as much and just told her to do whatever she thinks would look good because I've never really had short hair before.
We talked a bit more as she shampoos and starts trimming, and then the worst thing happened. I was talking about my birthday a few weeks past and she asks me how old I was (22). After talking a bit about that she asks me how old I think she is. D:
Well, any guy can tell you, this question is bullshit. You can't answer too old, because she's going to be pissed off. You can't answer too young because you know she's going to know you're not serious. I said I thought she was 24. I thought she was probably 27 or maybe 28, so I thought that this was a safe bet. Nope. I could tell immediately that She was not happy at all. All of a sudden we went from a nice conversation to fucking coldface silence. I tried to bring up some more topics, but you could tell she wasn't in the mood to talk anymore. I felt like such a poop for upsetting her like that, but what really sucked was when she spun the chair around to the mirror.
I had just gotten the worst haircut I have ever received. She took off almost everythig from the sides and there's just a point where the hair starts and it goes like striaght up. I've never been a fan of spikes (not that I dislike them), but this has got to be the wierdest looking spike haircut I've ever seen. It's too short now to really do anything with it but what she's done and I look horrible with a buzzcut, so I'm basically stuck with it. I still felt bad for upsetting her, so I took this as a punishment for being a poop and thanked her and left; there's nothing she could have done anway besides buzzing it down completely.
Sigh. I left with a bad haircut and didn't even dare asking for her number after that. It's a shame, she was a really interesting person, too. Well, I guess it was my fault for going with a barber who I don't know and trust. Let that be a lesson to all of you out there; if you find a good barber, stay loyal!
I'm going to go play some ladder games to cheer myself up. Glhf TL, peace.
  
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Dude it's not your fault. If she gets all spiteful for you thinking she's only 24 then she's not worth it. What in the world is wrong with being 24? Women are so psychotic sometimes.
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I like the poofy hair better. Moar hair.
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Moral of the story TLers....women can be bitches. Stay away.
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Seriously, don't feel bad about this. It's not your fault she was a total bitch. And you should have gone to her manager about that. She deliberately did that for ultimately no reason whatsoever.
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Your hair (before you got it cut) sounds just like mine. I guess I'll learn from your lesson and not do what you did.
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So how old is she? You think she was like 19?
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That age question... fuuuuuuuu.
Should've said 24 and half. Maybe then your hair would look OK.
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Seriously, if that girl got so fucking pissed because you answered a bullshit question fairly decently, you should talk to her manager and tell her off. She had no right to do that.
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you're too hard on yourself. a girl who's age conscious about being 24 isn't really a girl anyone should be dating.
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Real pictures so we see it and make proper response.
Also, ironing, it works wonders!
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I felt like such a poop for upsetting her like that
I laughed so hard at this sentence I don't even know why.
That girl was seriously a bitch though. No one fucks with my hair. I would have flipped a shit. She shouldn't have asked such a question if she was going to be all pissy about the answer.
Is it too late to talk to the manager or something?
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lol age question. Always better to go too young than to go over. The mistake in your thought process was when you assumed them thinking you are not being serious / lying is a bad thing. People in a lot of situations actually like/want to be lied to whether they realize it or not, it's part of being human. Why do you think she asked you in the first place. If they say they think you're not being serious go "well how old are you really then?" and when they tell you their age go "WHAT NO WAY wow! and look honestly shocked. They'll forget about not believing the original lie and feel happy  .
Sometimes I'm so cynical I scare myself. 
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My psychology professor in college claimed 24 was the age women were supposed to be the most "beautiful" because of hormones or some such ( I may be wrong on the reason but I remember the age). She should have taken it as a compliment!
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On January 25 2012 11:47 Arterial wrote:
Moral of the story TLers....women can be bitches. Stay away.
Hah, how about: don't piss off your barber.
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Did you find out her actual age (by asking your buddy's girlfriend)?
Also, if she's self-conscious at 24, you probably don't want to be with her when she gets older.
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24? Too close to 25, which is halfway to 30, which no woman wants to be.
21? Too cliche.
22? Saucy, the same number duplicated twice has subtle unconscious references to bra sizes and a sposh of ditzy to it.
23? Just right.
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Bro, if she got upset over being called 24 (one of the sexiest ages out there might I add), then you didn't want her number in the first place.
also, i wanna see actual pics of the hair
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If your hair looks like Jaedong's you are one fine ass man
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Best solution is to be born asian imo, no amount of anything will make your hair curl then lol
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If the kind and hair sexy people on tl.net can approve/disapprove. Probably it isn't that bad =D
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dude. you gotta lower than that. fuck if you don't have any idea just say 19 or 20. cuz yes, they know you are bullshitting but they can't really get mad at you because it is like a compliment.
The best way to say it is like this:
Her: How old do you think I am?
You: You look soooooooooo young. omg omg, you LOOK like a 19-20 year old!
The key phrase is, "you look like". Not, "I think you are". If you say, "you look like", you can friggin say 18 and she will get all bubbly and giggly inside.
Then she asks: No really. How old do you really think I am?
You: Omg omg you look soooooo young! I can't tell! Impossibru!
bam. she will give you her virginity on a plate right there. okay she probably won't but she will be flattered nonetheless. im korean and korean women REALLY take this shit seriously but I have yet to have my tires slashed nor have i received an ugly haircut. gl
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I say you say screw the hair and make a pass at her anyway.
It will surprise her if she screwed up your hair on purpose and you still go up to her all friendly like.
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Always dodge that question!
If you get asked that question take one of two approaches:
Joke about it before you answer regarding how it is such a loaded question and that if you pick her age or above she gets offended for you thinking she's old or if you answer too young she gets offended because she thinks you're lying to her.
Or tell her that age is meaningless because it doesn't matter if someone is 20 or 40 they can still be attractive and that the most attractive thing a woman can do it be secure with who she is and her age. (This involves a subtle attack at her for asking such a stupid question and implying she's insecure - she likely wont get offended but wont press you for a number).
Besides, if she's asking that question - and getting offended by the answer - she's probably not a person you want to date anyway. It just sucks about the haircut though, fortunately it grows back.
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1. Did she ever say how old she actually was? Because if she's 23 then stfu you whinny bitch.
2. If a girl asks you to guess her age, don't answer, say that you don't know and aren't good at guessing ages.
3. If your wavy hair really bothered you that much that you would get it cut short, but you like long hair better, you should have tried product. I know guys have an issue with using product, but it works and it makes your hair smell delicious, and it feels so soft. If you do grow your hair out again then take my advice: Don't use volumizing shampoo, if you don't already use conditioner, use it! Conditioner makes a huge difference. Use a creamy shampoo, not a clear one, it's good for dry hair if your hair is getting frizzy towards the end of the day. If none of that works then you can always chemically straighten it.
4. Seriously, picture of the hair.
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Still waiting for those photos... @_@
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+ Show Spoiler +
What's wrong with 24? o_O
...for anyone younger, that would be like "oh hey I look pretty mature" and anyone older "I guess I still have my youth shit goin on."
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On January 25 2012 13:20 Ushio wrote:
If your hair looks like Jaedong's you are one fine ass man
I agree with Ushio.
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I think metal-dudes with long hair skips the schampoo and only washes it with hot water and then uses conditioner to get super-straight hair, but I can't guarantee it.
If the hair on the sides are cut short you will get less volume in the hair, even if the hair on top is longish (think MMA), maybe that is a good thing for you?
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You always answer 21. Even if they look 150.
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lol eRROr
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As someone who has the roughly the same kind of hair as you (according to your description, at least), I would recommend just cutting your losses and getting a buzz just so you can start from scratch. I did that a couple years ago and have since found a nice balance in terms of length. I looked pretty terrible with a buzz while I had one, but I think the temporary sacrifice was well worth it. Your call, though.
Also, don't take the experience with that girl to heart. In my opinion, that is a question that nobody should ever use on another person. I mean, I can't think of anything positive that could come from asking it, so the fact that she did makes me question her reasons for doing so.
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Fuckin' girl blog out of no where, sick-nasty trojan you got here.
Hair-wise, what I like to do -- I have hair that poofs out after a shower, too -- is immediately put my touque on for roughly an hour to keep it pressed just enough. That's my simple fix without using styling product -- dear god, am I fucking afraid of styling product. Don't know how to use that shit efficiently.
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I never dodge the question.
The way I approach it, is with "feigned" uncertainty. Especially when they look older I tend to do this :
Me: I do not know, I look at you and you look young, but then I look at the way you come across as person and that looks more mature.
Her : Tell me! (Or any reasonably close reply)
Here I put emphasis that she comes across older than she looks, so she doesn't feel too hurt if I am too high.
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u shoudl of said 18 witha cheeky smile and made it out as a joke, if u said 25 then stared or something no wonder it went frosty haha
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Next time tell her she's 14 but you don't mind and quickly follow up with something else.
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Pics orbit didn't happen xD. Jokes aside, how old was she actually?
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Pics or it didn't happen xD. Jokes aside, how old was she actually?
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I enjoyed the blog, but I do not enjoy not knowing what her actual age was, OR what your haircut looks like.
Ergo, I'm taking my 5 star and docking you two stars if you have not remedied this situation by 11pm EST today.
Thank you, and have a nice day.
-Torenhire
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Ya dude, you dodged a bullet. Crazies..
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Shit, you're just supposed to refuse to answer. Obvious trap is obvious, shoulda said as much.
If you had to answer, undershooting is so much better, and you can make it sound flirty if you want.
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Usually when presented with that question I claim they look 45 (unless they actually look that old, in which case say 80). If they press you to give a serious answer, make some joke that they're acting like a 3 year old, so you'll meet them halfway and guess 23.
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On January 25 2012 11:39 boesthius wrote:
We're gonna need some pictures, y'know. Maybe your wavy hair that you hate actually makes you look amazing.
Also you should have talked to her manager and ask for a refund.
You can't talk to the manager about your shitty hair if you just said 'do whatever you think looks good'. That's a dickhead move.
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