EPTOn January 22 2012 14:10 mordk wrote:
This is one of my biggest doubts about this. I know for certain I can keep it casual, but does her wanting to do this mean she can do the same? Even if she states she doesn't want a relationship I still have my doubts.
This is one of my biggest doubts about this. I know for certain I can keep it casual, but does her wanting to do this mean she can do the same? Even if she states she doesn't want a relationship I still have my doubts.
This is already your red flag that you needed. Girls saying they don't want a relationship but always sticks around and stuff...AND you have your doubts. Your doubts are telling you something; listen to them.
On January 22 2012 12:30 Auren wrote:
The problem is, if you guys go down this road and you successfully maintain your friendship afterward, you are now in a shitty situation with future relationships.
Basically, you get the choice of:
a) telling your future girlfriend that you and your best friend had that kind of relationship...with the likely response being she doesn't want you two to see each other anymore/ends up having trust issues with the two of spending time alone.
or
b) you don't tell her at all... and then she ends up getting pissed off at you when she finds out later on which will likely either bring you back to a) or end your relationship all together
or
c) you never tell her and pray to god or whatever she never finds out. In my experience, girls tend to get more pissed off at you the longer you keep something from them :\
The problem is, if you guys go down this road and you successfully maintain your friendship afterward, you are now in a shitty situation with future relationships.
Basically, you get the choice of:
a) telling your future girlfriend that you and your best friend had that kind of relationship...with the likely response being she doesn't want you two to see each other anymore/ends up having trust issues with the two of spending time alone.
or
b) you don't tell her at all... and then she ends up getting pissed off at you when she finds out later on which will likely either bring you back to a) or end your relationship all together
or
c) you never tell her and pray to god or whatever she never finds out. In my experience, girls tend to get more pissed off at you the longer you keep something from them :\
Also this pretty much says the things you need to consider as well. I know its enticing...but don't do it dude. Good Luck.
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