EPTbut oh well, might already be to late (seeing as you apparently want more, you'd probably feel bad already if you stopped now). I'd say there's no pretty way out, you migth as well enjoy it for as long as it lasts. But it's going to end about as well as any "real" relationship ends well, there's almost no difference just because you don't call it that.
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MisterD
Germany1338 Posts
but oh well, might already be to late (seeing as you apparently want more, you'd probably feel bad already if you stopped now). I'd say there's no pretty way out, you migth as well enjoy it for as long as it lasts. But it's going to end about as well as any "real" relationship ends well, there's almost no difference just because you don't call it that. | ||
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Omnipresent
United States871 Posts
On January 22 2012 04:33 mordk wrote: But she needed company!.. I'm glad to help a friend out! :D Plus I'm sure once my friends start getting married it's gonna be a useful skill toi have BTW thanks to all good luck wishes... Apparently I'll need some lol. This post says it all. You've already failed at goal #3. 3.- We agreed to stop as soon as one party fell in love when the other didn't and/or if one of us starts a relationship with another person. It's a good goal, but almost no one can pull it off. Even if you think you're being successful, you probably aren't. It's probably too late to back out as well. If you say you want it to stop, you risk hurting her. At the very least, many of the interactions you were once comfortable with will seem suspect (i.e. any casual physical contact, especially when no one else is around). If you weren't prepared, you're more or less screwed. If you were prepared, you've got a shot. GLHF | ||
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Mithriel
Netherlands2969 Posts
On January 22 2012 04:24 kusto wrote: No, it can't. When intimacy is involved, things will get messy. Absolutely guaranteed. Pretty much this, been there, done that. Casual feels good, but when one of the two wants to end it, no matter what promises you made, it will get messy. That being said, go for it, eventually friendship will stabilize again. Also what person above me said is true. Every touch will be suspect. We used to casually touch and massage w/e and now ecrry touch we do, you don't want other person to think its more than it is. | ||
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GohgamX
Canada1096 Posts
To quote Shakespeare's Juliet "What's in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet." Think about it  | ||
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RoboBob
United States798 Posts
That can work if there's no emotions involved. But from your post it sounds like there's definitely emotions on both sides. I think if you go down that path you'll either end up as a couple or destroy your friendship. Its up to you to decide if the physical intimacy is worth risking your friendship. | ||
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:04 Mithriel wrote: Pretty much this, been there, done that. Casual feels good, but when one of the two wants to end it, no matter what promises you made, it will get messy. That being said, go for it, eventually friendship will stabilize again. Also what person above me said is true. Every touch will be suspect. We used to casually touch and massage w/e and now ecrry touch we do, you don't want other person to think its more than it is. This is pretty much my take on it so far. I know this will eventually end, and one/both of us will be at least somewhat hurt, but maybe once we go through the rough patch we can go back to normal? | ||
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Dalguno
United States2446 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:11 mordk wrote: This is pretty much my take on it so far. I know this will eventually end, and one/both of us will be at least somewhat hurt, but maybe once we go through the rough patch we can go back to normal? Again speaking from experience, it won't go back to normal, or it will take a really long time to do so. | ||
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Mithriel
Netherlands2969 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:13 Dalguno wrote: Again speaking from experience, it won't go back to normal, or it will take a really long time to do so. For me it actually did, it take quite some time, but eventually we went back to being really good friends again. The only difference is there is no physical contact or to much talk about sex. | ||
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TwoToneTerran
United States8841 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:11 mordk wrote: This is pretty much my take on it so far. I know this will eventually end, and one/both of us will be at least somewhat hurt, but maybe once we go through the rough patch we can go back to normal? Hopeful thinking at its best, you need to decide which is more important: sex with the girl or friendship with the girl. After that the decision is obvious. | ||
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TheSubtleArt
Canada2527 Posts
On January 22 2012 04:33 mordk wrote: But she needed company!.. I'm glad to help a friend out! :D Plus I'm sure once my friends start getting married it's gonna be a useful skill toi have BTW thanks to all good luck wishes... Apparently I'll need some lol. Lool would you do the same for a male friend? | ||
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LastDance
New Zealand510 Posts
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RedJustice
United States1004 Posts
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:26 TheSubtleArt wrote: Lool would you do the same for a male friend? Hahahha not salsa ofc, but something else? Say, a sport I don't usually like? Sure, why not | ||
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maartendq
Belgium3115 Posts
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TheSubtleArt
Canada2527 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:35 mordk wrote: Hahahha not salsa ofc, but something else? Say, a sport I don't usually like? Sure, why not Yea but if you're a guy, trying out a new sport doesn't seem as out of character and as implicit as trying salsa dancing. Idk, I get the impression you're trying to convince yourself that you view her as only a friend. Good luck ; p | ||
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Brett
Australia3820 Posts
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dogabutila
United States1437 Posts
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
 I'll be sure to update this if something happens.. I hate it when people leave stories without an end | ||
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Erasme
Bahamas15899 Posts
On January 22 2012 05:19 Mithriel wrote: For me it actually did, it take quite some time, but eventually we went back to being really good friends again. The only difference is there is no physical contact or to much talk about sex. So it's not normal anymore :p It will make boundary, it always does. | ||
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n.DieJokes
United States3443 Posts
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