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On July 28 2011 22:52 krndandaman wrote:Show nested quote +On July 28 2011 22:44 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:38 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:29 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:25 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:14 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:11 krndandaman wrote:
hmm ill give a shot at this.
girl who never had boyfriend. cute and pretty. generally was/is never interested in boys.
got all positive signals from her for the first month and was pretty damn confident that she liked me.
all of a sudden the way she treats me and looks at me changed. she no longer approached me and only rarely would i get a good reaction when i approached her. idk what happened cause I definitely did not do something that would make her act like that. we were super close and mass texting for a few days then all of a sudden i got cold, curt responses to texts and felt like she was trying to avoid me whenever we saw each other. i dont get the feeling that she hates me but something is definitely up.
any idea on wtf happened?
i was friggin 99.9999% sure she liked me as we hit it off like fireworks and at the peak it just dropped to a pithole which makes no sense.
this year we're gonna see even more and more of each other since we're basically in the same classes, same clubs, student government, same everything (did not do this on purpose we just happen to have the same interests/coincidence). dunno how i should approach this situation this year. just go along with the flow as regular friends until she makes a move or not, confess, or give it up? How old is she? Are you still in high school? Are her parents strict? Need more deets. both 18. both seniors now. probably? dont rly know them but we both go to a boarding school atm. Someone probably tipped her parents off to the budding romance and they strictly forbade her not to do anything. That or she herself got cold feet because she's worried about the consequences. You should really give more deets though. Boarding school is a pretty huge factor, what kind of school, how she usually dresses, how she usually is with other guys, etc. Don't boil it all down to just the question you have. Details matter! hm... i think the only people who caught hint of the 'budding romance' was our group of friends. she really doesn't have a "best" friend persay (shes not the gossipy type of girl and doesnt spill out her secrets to anyone). its a small christian boarding school. the school itself doesnt care whether students date and there are a decent number of couples in our small school. the dorm however is pretty anal about it. shes very religious herself but i heard from my best friend that she seemed open about dating. he asked her (before i even came to the school) whether she had a boyfriend or wanted one and she basically said no to both but also said if the right guy comes shes not off-limits to dating. she dresses well. not slutty, but well. kind of the casual yet fashionable type of girl. something simple like skinny jeans, flats, cardigan. she's pretty good with guys. she kinda treats them like her girl friends though... very comfortable with them. hence why i felt something off when she suddenly became awkward around me. From the sounds of it, she's become a bit awkward because something HAS changed between you. maybe she realised that a relationship was developing and she felt uncomfortable because of what she said beforehand; are you the right guy that would mean she's happy to get in a a relationship? I've always felt that talking is the best way to handle it. Maybe not straight away, but when you feel its right, just ask her if you did anything wrong? You never know, maybe it was something you didn't pick up and a simple apology would be fine. However, at least you can then have a real talk about where you both are and if you can see anything happening between the two of you On July 28 2011 16:24 katzby wrote:
HALP. I have a guy problem! Can I pm you with it or must be out in the open? ^_^ Post! I think ILK is asleep, maybe one of us who only mildly like kittens can help hmm seems like a good assessment of the situation. dunno how I would approach her about this though. i have yet to meet a single person who have had a deep meaningful talk with her. im good friends with her ex-"best-friend" and the reason they stopped being friends was because the exbff couldnt handle how unresponsive she was on the deep personal level. she would just plain not talk whenever their talks got deep and pretty much ignored her for a while when she continued to try. idk, i dont even understand that situation and why the girl is like that.
That could easily be a tell. If she isn't that responsive about it, then maybe its not going anywhere. But if she does open up a bit then you've made an impact. Either way, I personally don't think that simply asking if you did something wrong will be too deep of a question, and you can always slip in the "Oh ok, I just thought I messed up somehow, and you were a bit distant because I hadn't said sorry" She might open up there. If not, The reason will come out soon enough.
Patience and communication!
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On July 28 2011 23:17 krndandaman wrote:Show nested quote +On July 28 2011 22:58 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:52 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:44 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:38 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:29 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:25 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:14 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:11 krndandaman wrote:
hmm ill give a shot at this.
girl who never had boyfriend. cute and pretty. generally was/is never interested in boys.
got all positive signals from her for the first month and was pretty damn confident that she liked me.
all of a sudden the way she treats me and looks at me changed. she no longer approached me and only rarely would i get a good reaction when i approached her. idk what happened cause I definitely did not do something that would make her act like that. we were super close and mass texting for a few days then all of a sudden i got cold, curt responses to texts and felt like she was trying to avoid me whenever we saw each other. i dont get the feeling that she hates me but something is definitely up.
any idea on wtf happened?
i was friggin 99.9999% sure she liked me as we hit it off like fireworks and at the peak it just dropped to a pithole which makes no sense.
this year we're gonna see even more and more of each other since we're basically in the same classes, same clubs, student government, same everything (did not do this on purpose we just happen to have the same interests/coincidence). dunno how i should approach this situation this year. just go along with the flow as regular friends until she makes a move or not, confess, or give it up? How old is she? Are you still in high school? Are her parents strict? Need more deets. both 18. both seniors now. probably? dont rly know them but we both go to a boarding school atm. Someone probably tipped her parents off to the budding romance and they strictly forbade her not to do anything. That or she herself got cold feet because she's worried about the consequences. You should really give more deets though. Boarding school is a pretty huge factor, what kind of school, how she usually dresses, how she usually is with other guys, etc. Don't boil it all down to just the question you have. Details matter! hm... i think the only people who caught hint of the 'budding romance' was our group of friends. she really doesn't have a "best" friend persay (shes not the gossipy type of girl and doesnt spill out her secrets to anyone). its a small christian boarding school. the school itself doesnt care whether students date and there are a decent number of couples in our small school. the dorm however is pretty anal about it. shes very religious herself but i heard from my best friend that she seemed open about dating. he asked her (before i even came to the school) whether she had a boyfriend or wanted one and she basically said no to both but also said if the right guy comes shes not off-limits to dating. she dresses well. not slutty, but well. kind of the casual yet fashionable type of girl. something simple like skinny jeans, flats, cardigan. she's pretty good with guys. she kinda treats them like her girl friends though... very comfortable with them. hence why i felt something off when she suddenly became awkward around me. From the sounds of it, she's become a bit awkward because something HAS changed between you. maybe she realised that a relationship was developing and she felt uncomfortable because of what she said beforehand; are you the right guy that would mean she's happy to get in a a relationship? I've always felt that talking is the best way to handle it. Maybe not straight away, but when you feel its right, just ask her if you did anything wrong? You never know, maybe it was something you didn't pick up and a simple apology would be fine. However, at least you can then have a real talk about where you both are and if you can see anything happening between the two of you On July 28 2011 16:24 katzby wrote:
HALP. I have a guy problem! Can I pm you with it or must be out in the open? ^_^ Post! I think ILK is asleep, maybe one of us who only mildly like kittens can help hmm seems like a good assessment of the situation. dunno how I would approach her about this though. i have yet to meet a single person who have had a deep meaningful talk with her. im good friends with her ex-"best-friend" and the reason they stopped being friends was because the exbff couldnt handle how unresponsive she was on the deep personal level. she would just plain not talk whenever their talks got deep and pretty much ignored her for a while when she continued to try. idk, i dont even understand that situation and why the girl is like that. That could easily be a tell. If she isn't that responsive about it, then maybe its not going anywhere. But if she does open up a bit then you've made an impact. Either way, I personally don't think that simply asking if you did something wrong will be too deep of a question, and you can always slip in the "Oh ok, I just thought I messed up somehow, and you were a bit distant because I hadn't said sorry" She might open up there. If not, The reason will come out soon enough. Patience and communication! seems like pretty solid advice to me! if she acts weird again this coming school year i'll bring it up. hopefully it turns out well? been super confused lately as she just went anti-social mode. none of us (her school friends) can get in contact with her this summer even though we all made plans to meet up together which was ironically started because of her suggestion.
Tbh, she sounds kind of psychotic. Then again, that's dating in high school. If I could do high school over again I would have just hung out with the sluts and had a lot of fun. You'll get to deal with all the "good girls" coming out of their shell and wanting to sleep with everything that moves in college. And after college is typically where you find a girl who knows what she wants. Maybe. This is women after all.
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On July 28 2011 23:36 krndandaman wrote:Show nested quote +On July 28 2011 23:25 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 23:17 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:58 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:52 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:44 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:38 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:29 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:25 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:14 StorkHwaiting wrote:
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How old is she? Are you still in high school? Are her parents strict? Need more deets. both 18. both seniors now. probably? dont rly know them but we both go to a boarding school atm. Someone probably tipped her parents off to the budding romance and they strictly forbade her not to do anything. That or she herself got cold feet because she's worried about the consequences. You should really give more deets though. Boarding school is a pretty huge factor, what kind of school, how she usually dresses, how she usually is with other guys, etc. Don't boil it all down to just the question you have. Details matter! hm... i think the only people who caught hint of the 'budding romance' was our group of friends. she really doesn't have a "best" friend persay (shes not the gossipy type of girl and doesnt spill out her secrets to anyone). its a small christian boarding school. the school itself doesnt care whether students date and there are a decent number of couples in our small school. the dorm however is pretty anal about it. shes very religious herself but i heard from my best friend that she seemed open about dating. he asked her (before i even came to the school) whether she had a boyfriend or wanted one and she basically said no to both but also said if the right guy comes shes not off-limits to dating. she dresses well. not slutty, but well. kind of the casual yet fashionable type of girl. something simple like skinny jeans, flats, cardigan. she's pretty good with guys. she kinda treats them like her girl friends though... very comfortable with them. hence why i felt something off when she suddenly became awkward around me. From the sounds of it, she's become a bit awkward because something HAS changed between you. maybe she realised that a relationship was developing and she felt uncomfortable because of what she said beforehand; are you the right guy that would mean she's happy to get in a a relationship? I've always felt that talking is the best way to handle it. Maybe not straight away, but when you feel its right, just ask her if you did anything wrong? You never know, maybe it was something you didn't pick up and a simple apology would be fine. However, at least you can then have a real talk about where you both are and if you can see anything happening between the two of you On July 28 2011 16:24 katzby wrote:
HALP. I have a guy problem! Can I pm you with it or must be out in the open? ^_^ Post! I think ILK is asleep, maybe one of us who only mildly like kittens can help hmm seems like a good assessment of the situation. dunno how I would approach her about this though. i have yet to meet a single person who have had a deep meaningful talk with her. im good friends with her ex-"best-friend" and the reason they stopped being friends was because the exbff couldnt handle how unresponsive she was on the deep personal level. she would just plain not talk whenever their talks got deep and pretty much ignored her for a while when she continued to try. idk, i dont even understand that situation and why the girl is like that. That could easily be a tell. If she isn't that responsive about it, then maybe its not going anywhere. But if she does open up a bit then you've made an impact. Either way, I personally don't think that simply asking if you did something wrong will be too deep of a question, and you can always slip in the "Oh ok, I just thought I messed up somehow, and you were a bit distant because I hadn't said sorry" She might open up there. If not, The reason will come out soon enough. Patience and communication! seems like pretty solid advice to me! if she acts weird again this coming school year i'll bring it up. hopefully it turns out well? been super confused lately as she just went anti-social mode. none of us (her school friends) can get in contact with her this summer even though we all made plans to meet up together which was ironically started because of her suggestion. Tbh, she sounds kind of psychotic. Then again, that's dating in high school. If I could do high school over again I would have just hung out with the sluts and had a lot of fun. You'll get to deal with all the "good girls" coming out of their shell and wanting to sleep with everything that moves in college. And after college is typically where you find a girl who knows what she wants. Maybe. This is women after all. well that sucks. i just want a girl who knows she wants. although i guess thats kinda asking for too much in highschool. i dont want sluts or good girls gone bad no more.
Yeah, that's tough dude. It's the very rare individual who knows what they want at that age. I'm not sure it even is possible with the limited breadth of experience and freedom a teenager has. If you're 18, it's probably best to just date casually and not take anything too seriously. Then again, at that age, people tend to take everything so seriously lol. God I shake my head when I think back on my high school years.
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On July 28 2011 23:36 krndandaman wrote:Show nested quote +On July 28 2011 23:25 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 23:17 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:58 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:52 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:44 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:38 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:29 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:25 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:14 StorkHwaiting wrote:
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How old is she? Are you still in high school? Are her parents strict? Need more deets. both 18. both seniors now. probably? dont rly know them but we both go to a boarding school atm. Someone probably tipped her parents off to the budding romance and they strictly forbade her not to do anything. That or she herself got cold feet because she's worried about the consequences. You should really give more deets though. Boarding school is a pretty huge factor, what kind of school, how she usually dresses, how she usually is with other guys, etc. Don't boil it all down to just the question you have. Details matter! hm... i think the only people who caught hint of the 'budding romance' was our group of friends. she really doesn't have a "best" friend persay (shes not the gossipy type of girl and doesnt spill out her secrets to anyone). its a small christian boarding school. the school itself doesnt care whether students date and there are a decent number of couples in our small school. the dorm however is pretty anal about it. shes very religious herself but i heard from my best friend that she seemed open about dating. he asked her (before i even came to the school) whether she had a boyfriend or wanted one and she basically said no to both but also said if the right guy comes shes not off-limits to dating. she dresses well. not slutty, but well. kind of the casual yet fashionable type of girl. something simple like skinny jeans, flats, cardigan. she's pretty good with guys. she kinda treats them like her girl friends though... very comfortable with them. hence why i felt something off when she suddenly became awkward around me. From the sounds of it, she's become a bit awkward because something HAS changed between you. maybe she realised that a relationship was developing and she felt uncomfortable because of what she said beforehand; are you the right guy that would mean she's happy to get in a a relationship? I've always felt that talking is the best way to handle it. Maybe not straight away, but when you feel its right, just ask her if you did anything wrong? You never know, maybe it was something you didn't pick up and a simple apology would be fine. However, at least you can then have a real talk about where you both are and if you can see anything happening between the two of you On July 28 2011 16:24 katzby wrote:
HALP. I have a guy problem! Can I pm you with it or must be out in the open? ^_^ Post! I think ILK is asleep, maybe one of us who only mildly like kittens can help hmm seems like a good assessment of the situation. dunno how I would approach her about this though. i have yet to meet a single person who have had a deep meaningful talk with her. im good friends with her ex-"best-friend" and the reason they stopped being friends was because the exbff couldnt handle how unresponsive she was on the deep personal level. she would just plain not talk whenever their talks got deep and pretty much ignored her for a while when she continued to try. idk, i dont even understand that situation and why the girl is like that. That could easily be a tell. If she isn't that responsive about it, then maybe its not going anywhere. But if she does open up a bit then you've made an impact. Either way, I personally don't think that simply asking if you did something wrong will be too deep of a question, and you can always slip in the "Oh ok, I just thought I messed up somehow, and you were a bit distant because I hadn't said sorry" She might open up there. If not, The reason will come out soon enough. Patience and communication! seems like pretty solid advice to me! if she acts weird again this coming school year i'll bring it up. hopefully it turns out well? been super confused lately as she just went anti-social mode. none of us (her school friends) can get in contact with her this summer even though we all made plans to meet up together which was ironically started because of her suggestion. Tbh, she sounds kind of psychotic. Then again, that's dating in high school. If I could do high school over again I would have just hung out with the sluts and had a lot of fun. You'll get to deal with all the "good girls" coming out of their shell and wanting to sleep with everything that moves in college. And after college is typically where you find a girl who knows what she wants. Maybe. This is women after all. well that sucks. i just want a girl who knows she wants. although i guess thats kinda asking for too much in highschool. i dont want sluts or good girls gone bad no more.
Gonna stick with my Starcraft analogies, because they're frankly awesome. say you're a Zerg and you come up against a walled off terran. now, you clearly wanna just pump drones so you're set for the long term, but you also know that an attack will come eventually. You HAVE to sacrifice something to get some information, so you can prepare. It could be something mall like a pair of zerglings, or something bigger like an attack on the base. Either way, you need info
There's a link there, I promise. End of the day, you need to ask the girls to see who's the macro player, so you can make drones.
Or something
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This is awesome. Sounds like really pro advice TBH, though in some cases it could be a bit more forward and blunt ...
I guess unlike LarJarsee ILOVEKITTENS doesn't need to prove himself beforehand - an awesome, clean post-history does it for you!
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hey so
how do you get to know someone whom you only briefly met and didnt get to ask for a phone number etc. but know who she is on an online website so you can pm her?
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On August 01 2011 15:36 tube wrote:
hey so
how do you get to know someone whom you only briefly met and didnt get to ask for a phone number etc. but know who she is on an online website so you can pm her?
^ The bold above ^^;
Sorry to fall behind on these (if you guys were expecting me... or something... <<) I'll be free starting Tuesday, I will try to catch up then. Thanks to everyone who gave advice in the meantime!
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yeah well isnt that kinda creepy or something
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On August 01 2011 15:46 tube wrote:
yeah well isnt that kinda creepy or something
When did talking to people become creepy? Regardless of what medium it is based upon, if you carry yourself with confidence (admittedly a little harder online), you will avoid the creep factor. If she thinks you're a creep just because you messaged her and said hello, then she's the one with the issues, not you.
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yeah ok ill just pm her tomorrow
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What the heck does Chill have against girl blogs. Are they any different to blogs about movies we have seen recently, or music we like. If this was a female dominated forum every single blog would be about boys and fashion.
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I don't feel comfortable posting because it involves a certain person, and I trust that the deduction skills of TLers will instantly find out who it is. Maybe later though, I do want to get more opinions on the matter 
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On August 02 2011 15:21 katzby wrote:I don't feel comfortable posting because it involves a certain person, and I trust that the deduction skills of TLers will instantly find out who it is. Maybe later though, I do want to get more opinions on the matter
Weren't u a girl katzby? Or am I mistaken?
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On August 02 2011 15:30 StorkHwaiting wrote:Show nested quote +On August 02 2011 15:21 katzby wrote:I don't feel comfortable posting because it involves a certain person, and I trust that the deduction skills of TLers will instantly find out who it is. Maybe later though, I do want to get more opinions on the matter Weren't u a girl katzby? Or am I mistaken?
Yeah I'm the one with the guy problem haha.
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On August 02 2011 15:30 StorkHwaiting wrote:Show nested quote +On August 02 2011 15:21 katzby wrote:I don't feel comfortable posting because it involves a certain person, and I trust that the deduction skills of TLers will instantly find out who it is. Maybe later though, I do want to get more opinions on the matter Weren't u a girl katzby? Or am I mistaken?
I love the past tense of that question
POST IT! Curious now
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On August 02 2011 15:21 katzby wrote:I don't feel comfortable posting because it involves a certain person, and I trust that the deduction skills of TLers will instantly find out who it is. Maybe later though, I do want to get more opinions on the matter
You're totally teasing us now~ TL Deduction Police is ready.
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There's someone I really like a lot, even though all our interaction is online. Bedtime curfews and a massive timezone difference would normally make it hard for us to talk but I get around that by being nocturnal.
Even though I'm practically courting a baby all the signs say this is heading towards a serious relationship.
So far we're married in a mmorpg and have each other added on facebook. What's the next logical step?
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