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On August 03 2011 01:31 Nytefish wrote:
There's someone I really like a lot, even though all our interaction is online. Bedtime curfews and a massive timezone difference would normally make it hard for us to talk but I get around that by being nocturnal.
Even though I'm practically courting a baby all the signs say this is heading towards a serious relationship.
So far we're married in a mmorpg and have each other added on facebook. What's the next logical step?
Make plans to meet each other in rl, call on the phone, webcam, or Skype if you guys are comfortable with each other.
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So my question is about my situation with my new girlfriend. We have been friends for over a year and met at work (no longer work together) and I had eventually worked up the courage to ask her out after awhile since we had been hanging out a lot. She said she did not want to date me and ruin our friendship at the time which was fine by me I stopped pursuing her we still hung out and everything was fine.
But then one day we are sitting together in a pub and she says "do you want to start dating?" I was initially shocked and asked her why now because I thought she didn't want to date before. She just shrugged and I said sure.
So we have now been dating for a little over a week and I can't understand her at all. We will go out on the weekends usually and have a great time. But during the week if I text her and see if she wants to do something that night or the next night she just doesn't respond; at all. It is really irritating me because she says she had a great time but never replies to any of my texts unless it is to go out right then and there usually. ILK what is going on?
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Calgary25995 Posts
On August 01 2011 22:33 Discretionary Duck wrote:
What the heck does Chill have against girl blogs. Are they any different to blogs about movies we have seen recently, or music we like. If this was a female dominated forum every single blog would be about boys and fashion.
Calm down, I didn't actually send that PM. My blog on girl blogs is saying to go out and do something rather than writing about it on TL.
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Kentor
United States5784 Posts
On July 28 2011 23:17 krndandaman wrote:Show nested quote +On July 28 2011 22:58 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:52 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:44 Hassybaby wrote:On July 28 2011 22:38 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:29 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:25 krndandaman wrote:On July 28 2011 22:14 StorkHwaiting wrote:On July 28 2011 22:11 krndandaman wrote:
hmm ill give a shot at this.
girl who never had boyfriend. cute and pretty. generally was/is never interested in boys.
got all positive signals from her for the first month and was pretty damn confident that she liked me.
all of a sudden the way she treats me and looks at me changed. she no longer approached me and only rarely would i get a good reaction when i approached her. idk what happened cause I definitely did not do something that would make her act like that. we were super close and mass texting for a few days then all of a sudden i got cold, curt responses to texts and felt like she was trying to avoid me whenever we saw each other. i dont get the feeling that she hates me but something is definitely up.
any idea on wtf happened?
i was friggin 99.9999% sure she liked me as we hit it off like fireworks and at the peak it just dropped to a pithole which makes no sense.
this year we're gonna see even more and more of each other since we're basically in the same classes, same clubs, student government, same everything (did not do this on purpose we just happen to have the same interests/coincidence). dunno how i should approach this situation this year. just go along with the flow as regular friends until she makes a move or not, confess, or give it up? How old is she? Are you still in high school? Are her parents strict? Need more deets. both 18. both seniors now. probably? dont rly know them but we both go to a boarding school atm. Someone probably tipped her parents off to the budding romance and they strictly forbade her not to do anything. That or she herself got cold feet because she's worried about the consequences. You should really give more deets though. Boarding school is a pretty huge factor, what kind of school, how she usually dresses, how she usually is with other guys, etc. Don't boil it all down to just the question you have. Details matter! hm... i think the only people who caught hint of the 'budding romance' was our group of friends. she really doesn't have a "best" friend persay (shes not the gossipy type of girl and doesnt spill out her secrets to anyone). its a small christian boarding school. the school itself doesnt care whether students date and there are a decent number of couples in our small school. the dorm however is pretty anal about it. shes very religious herself but i heard from my best friend that she seemed open about dating. he asked her (before i even came to the school) whether she had a boyfriend or wanted one and she basically said no to both but also said if the right guy comes shes not off-limits to dating. she dresses well. not slutty, but well. kind of the casual yet fashionable type of girl. something simple like skinny jeans, flats, cardigan. she's pretty good with guys. she kinda treats them like her girl friends though... very comfortable with them. hence why i felt something off when she suddenly became awkward around me. From the sounds of it, she's become a bit awkward because something HAS changed between you. maybe she realised that a relationship was developing and she felt uncomfortable because of what she said beforehand; are you the right guy that would mean she's happy to get in a a relationship? I've always felt that talking is the best way to handle it. Maybe not straight away, but when you feel its right, just ask her if you did anything wrong? You never know, maybe it was something you didn't pick up and a simple apology would be fine. However, at least you can then have a real talk about where you both are and if you can see anything happening between the two of you On July 28 2011 16:24 katzby wrote:
HALP. I have a guy problem! Can I pm you with it or must be out in the open? ^_^ Post! I think ILK is asleep, maybe one of us who only mildly like kittens can help hmm seems like a good assessment of the situation. dunno how I would approach her about this though. i have yet to meet a single person who have had a deep meaningful talk with her. im good friends with her ex-"best-friend" and the reason they stopped being friends was because the exbff couldnt handle how unresponsive she was on the deep personal level. she would just plain not talk whenever their talks got deep and pretty much ignored her for a while when she continued to try. idk, i dont even understand that situation and why the girl is like that. That could easily be a tell. If she isn't that responsive about it, then maybe its not going anywhere. But if she does open up a bit then you've made an impact. Either way, I personally don't think that simply asking if you did something wrong will be too deep of a question, and you can always slip in the "Oh ok, I just thought I messed up somehow, and you were a bit distant because I hadn't said sorry" She might open up there. If not, The reason will come out soon enough. Patience and communication! seems like pretty solid advice to me! if she acts weird again this coming school year i'll bring it up. hopefully it turns out well? been super confused lately as she just went anti-social mode. none of us (her school friends) can get in contact with her this summer even though we all made plans to meet up together which was ironically started because of her suggestion.
she obviously had a vision from God that made her change her attitude towards you
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On August 03 2011 05:44 omgCRAZY wrote:
So my question is about my situation with my new girlfriend. We have been friends for over a year and met at work (no longer work together) and I had eventually worked up the courage to ask her out after awhile since we had been hanging out a lot. She said she did not want to date me and ruin our friendship at the time which was fine by me I stopped pursuing her we still hung out and everything was fine.
But then one day we are sitting together in a pub and she says "do you want to start dating?" I was initially shocked and asked her why now because I thought she didn't want to date before. She just shrugged and I said sure.
So we have now been dating for a little over a week and I can't understand her at all. We will go out on the weekends usually and have a great time. But during the week if I text her and see if she wants to do something that night or the next night she just doesn't respond; at all. It is really irritating me because she says she had a great time but never replies to any of my texts unless it is to go out right then and there usually. ILK what is going on?
If u dont mind me asking, how intimate are u guys when u date? Does it feel any different to hanging out before? Is she experienced with dating? At a first glance i would think she is someone who hasnt dated much and doesnt really know how to commit... I may be wrong though!
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Kentor
United States5784 Posts
On August 03 2011 05:44 omgCRAZY wrote:
So my question is about my situation with my new girlfriend. We have been friends for over a year and met at work (no longer work together) and I had eventually worked up the courage to ask her out after awhile since we had been hanging out a lot. She said she did not want to date me and ruin our friendship at the time which was fine by me I stopped pursuing her we still hung out and everything was fine.
But then one day we are sitting together in a pub and she says "do you want to start dating?" I was initially shocked and asked her why now because I thought she didn't want to date before. She just shrugged and I said sure.
So we have now been dating for a little over a week and I can't understand her at all. We will go out on the weekends usually and have a great time. But during the week if I text her and see if she wants to do something that night or the next night she just doesn't respond; at all. It is really irritating me because she says she had a great time but never replies to any of my texts unless it is to go out right then and there usually. ILK what is going on?
was she drunk when she asked you
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She was not drunk when she asked me. We have only kissed so far nothing serious and she was in a 3 year long relationship about 2 years ago.
EDIT: It is just odd since we would usually talk and text casually a lot but now it seems to only be when she feels like hanging out.
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hmm well tbh if its only been a week give her some time to ...adjust? theres every chance that it may be something in her life causing her to be more busy or less responsive, its a bit too early to tell...be natural, smooth transition yo.
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On August 03 2011 01:31 Nytefish wrote:
There's someone I really like a lot, even though all our interaction is online. Bedtime curfews and a massive timezone difference would normally make it hard for us to talk but I get around that by being nocturnal.
Even though I'm practically courting a baby all the signs say this is heading towards a serious relationship.
So far we're married in a mmorpg and have each other added on facebook. What's the next logical step?
Seems fishy... but then, you two already have each other on facebook. Check if she has lots of "normal" activity on facebook (you can never be too sure).
"Courting a baby" in what way? Is she going to be financially dependent on you?
All in all though, as long as you've been reading the signs right and one of you can financially support the other, I don't see why not - meet each other IRL!
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On August 03 2011 05:44 omgCRAZY wrote:
So my question is about my situation with my new girlfriend. We have been friends for over a year and met at work (no longer work together) and I had eventually worked up the courage to ask her out after awhile since we had been hanging out a lot. She said she did not want to date me and ruin our friendship at the time which was fine by me I stopped pursuing her we still hung out and everything was fine.
But then one day we are sitting together in a pub and she says "do you want to start dating?" I was initially shocked and asked her why now because I thought she didn't want to date before. She just shrugged and I said sure.
So we have now been dating for a little over a week and I can't understand her at all. We will go out on the weekends usually and have a great time. But during the week if I text her and see if she wants to do something that night or the next night she just doesn't respond; at all. It is really irritating me because she says she had a great time but never replies to any of my texts unless it is to go out right then and there usually. ILK what is going on?
So the way I see it, I see 3 situations:
1. She's not totally comfortable in the fact that you guys are now dating. You say you've been friends for a year now, maybe the transition is a bit unnerving for her at the start? Give it time
2. She's really busy during the week, so doesn't have time to respond. Patience!
3. She's the most forgetful person in the world, she always responds but always forgets to press send. Again, patience
Think I'm saying to relax and just go with it. The relationship will develop in its own way, and soon enough you can hang during the week as well.
Meanwhile, go ladder!
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On August 03 2011 18:32 Hassybaby wrote:Show nested quote +On August 03 2011 05:44 omgCRAZY wrote:
So my question is about my situation with my new girlfriend. We have been friends for over a year and met at work (no longer work together) and I had eventually worked up the courage to ask her out after awhile since we had been hanging out a lot. She said she did not want to date me and ruin our friendship at the time which was fine by me I stopped pursuing her we still hung out and everything was fine.
But then one day we are sitting together in a pub and she says "do you want to start dating?" I was initially shocked and asked her why now because I thought she didn't want to date before. She just shrugged and I said sure.
So we have now been dating for a little over a week and I can't understand her at all. We will go out on the weekends usually and have a great time. But during the week if I text her and see if she wants to do something that night or the next night she just doesn't respond; at all. It is really irritating me because she says she had a great time but never replies to any of my texts unless it is to go out right then and there usually. ILK what is going on? So the way I see it, I see 3 situations: 1. She's not totally comfortable in the fact that you guys are now dating. You say you've been friends for a year now, maybe the transition is a bit unnerving for her at the start? Give it time 2. She's really busy during the week, so doesn't have time to respond. Patience! 3. She's the most forgetful person in the world, she always responds but always forgets to press send. Again, patience Think I'm saying to relax and just go with it. The relationship will develop in its own way, and soon enough you can hang during the week as well. Meanwhile, go ladder!
Thanks for the advice everyone. Ya I will just continue to be patient. Meanwhile I will take your advice and go ladder. ;p
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Why isn't ILK in his own thread anymore? 
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On August 04 2011 06:12 StorkHwaiting wrote:Why isn't ILK in his own thread anymore?
Very busy week, sorry! I will try to catch up asap... But this is great because I wanted others to give advice too ^^
EDIT: I have been reading all just no time to respond (:
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On August 04 2011 07:09 ILOVEKITTENS wrote:Show nested quote +On August 04 2011 06:12 StorkHwaiting wrote:Why isn't ILK in his own thread anymore? Very busy week, sorry! I will try to catch up asap... But this is great because I wanted others to give advice too ^^ EDIT: I have been reading all just no time to respond (:
GL with your week!
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United Kingdom10823 Posts
On August 04 2011 07:09 ILOVEKITTENS wrote:Show nested quote +On August 04 2011 06:12 StorkHwaiting wrote:Why isn't ILK in his own thread anymore? Very busy week, sorry! I will try to catch up asap... But this is great because I wanted others to give advice too ^^ EDIT: I have been reading all just no time to respond (:
Replays please. Casting a day in the life of ILK would be like TLO vs Stalife vs Day9 trying to do a monobattle
My brain would explode with the awesome and the weird
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Wait, what did Hassy just wrote?
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United Kingdom10823 Posts
On August 04 2011 19:08 Primadog wrote:
Wait, what did Hassy just wrote?
I don't even know any more
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Hmm who was ilovekittens?
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A "GIRL". That alone qualifies her to offer relationship advice.
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