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echo_O
United States115 Posts
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EvilTeletubby
Baltimore, USA22258 Posts
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echo_O
United States115 Posts
Well if things don't go well with this chick. Me and you in my bed, yeah? | ||
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EvilTeletubby
Baltimore, USA22258 Posts
On April 06 2010 16:01 echo_O wrote: Well if things don't go well with this chick. Me and you in my bed, yeah? LOL. That's so creepy random I actually laughed out loud. Highschool for the win. Fuck, I'm old. Ugh. | ||
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Koiru
United States116 Posts
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EvilTeletubby
Baltimore, USA22258 Posts
On April 06 2010 16:04 Koiru wrote: How old exactly ARE you ETT? In exactly 10 more days I'll be 26. However, I'm married... that automatically adds on 15 years to my life. My wife claims she has spotted gray hairs already. I affectionately call them Krissy hairs (her name, obv), as every single time she does something that defies all logic/reason and drives me insane; a new hair crops up. This is pretty much a daily occurrence btw.  | ||
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Grobyc
Canada18410 Posts
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KurtistheTurtle
United States1966 Posts
On April 06 2010 15:18 petered wrote: If you notice, a guy's stimulii is almost immediate whereas a girl's is something that takes time. What? No. Most of it is right away! You don't gotta wait man. On April 06 2010 15:01 EvilTeletubby wrote: Pretty much sums it up right there. It is 100% a mentality of weakness, of being a follower. This is an absolute turn-off and deal breaker for women. THEY like being the followers, they want a strong-willed man to take charge of the situation, something you didn't do. You need to be more assertive. You need to take more control. You need to be the driving force. Instead of wallowing in self-pity tossing around lame ass cliched ideas ("Why do women want to be with assholes???"), you should try to change yourself. Be more dominant. Yeah. Take what you want. If you go balls out and show this girl who you are and who you want to be, not who you think you should be or anything else that comes from outside, you will be successful. Remember: -There are always more women -You don't need this girl but you like having her around and think she'll add to your life -Whenever sex comes up, say something bold and funny. If she ever brings it up and seems embarrassed or anything let her know that you won't judge her, but you will make fun of her If you have any thoughts or barriers you're putting up for yourself like "I'm not that type of guy" get rid of them. You can be that guy. It seems ridiculous, and it is, but you'll have a moment where you'll honestly realize for the first time its just a change in perspective. You'll be like "wait, thats it? it was that easy?" just keep truckin' till you get there now with this gal, be blunt and honest with yourself: You want to take her. And you want it to be consistent. now remember, she's a girl. she wants a guy to take her, and she wants him to be consistent. when ETT says be dominant, yadi-yadda, its easy to read but hard to translate into actions if you don't get it -when she brings up her ex, don't bash him. ignore her, don't acknowledge him. don't let her know you think about him, or better yet forget he exists. bring the focus back to you and her. just because she asks you a question or brings up a topic doesnt mean you have to answer or acknowledge it -do shit with her that you enjoy because its who you are. nerdy as hell but I've had girls over to watch me play sc. since I have a genuine interest in it and i just blab happily along the whole time, they get into it too. they love it, and i do too. I'm sharing my life with them so they feel much closer to me. the fact that I'm willing to do it with something like sc, and that it was a good time, only speaks volumes about how comfortable I am with myself. im not saying you need to play sc, but that you need to share what you love with her. she'll reciprocate -when you're kissing her or whatever you're doing, crank it up. go further. if she stops you, stop. stay where you are then try again in a little bit -being dominant truly means that she's the one reacting to you. if she says "gosh I'm so stupid" you want to tell her that she's not. thats fine, but do it in the right way. you say "you just noticed?" then when she gets offended or insecure or better yet just looks at you like "what?" smirk at her and go "I'm just kidding. you're the only girl I know who can [some mistake she made earlier]" you're implying that shes not but making fun of her cuz she's being insecure -unless you both agree to be exclusive, see other girls too. If you think I'm kidding, I'm not. I'm serious. this turned into a lot. do work | ||
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Protocon
United States255 Posts
I will add that since she is not interested in committing with you, she made out with you likely because she is insecure of herself. Perhaps everything she has done/said was a test like ETT suggests. Maybe she wants to see if you will pursue her. Maybe she is just messing around. Who knows for sure; chicks mindfuck guys all the time because they like control. But as it stands, she is keeping the ball in her court and possibly setting you up to string you along. If you find yourself being called out by her at her convenience (and paying for shit), but she is never able to make the time when you try to set something up, then you are being strung/whipped/led around like a dog. You could very well end up being just a backup/rebound kind of guy. I'm sorry but I don't agree with the above poster petered advising to be patient. It shouldn't be up to her to ultimately decide whether a relationship is a go. It should be about you. You need to tell her straight up that you are interested in a serious relationship. Since we know that she isn't b/c she isn't over her old boyfriend, then move on. Don't waste your time/effort and push for something that might not bear any fruit. Seriously, she spends a lot of time with you/shares her feelings/makes out with you then tells you she can't get over her boyfriend? What a lame excuse. She is placing you in her friend zone if you ask me. At the same time, you are PUTTING YOURSELF in there too. Get out. There are plenty of reasons why chicks like assholes and not "nice guys." They are unpredictable/hard to figure out, they are exciting, they attract a lot of other girls' attention. Just google it and learn. Visit Askmen.com, lots of info there. You need to have that alpha male aura about you. Be confident. Don't spill your emotions to her like a goddamn chick. Sorry for babbling, this topic just gets me going. Also OP, you say this "Is it greedy of me to feel this way? I want her to be happy but i don't understand her reasoning!" You need to think of your own happiness, not hers. I don't mean to be offensive about anything I've written. Take it how you please. I'm just trying to keeps it reals and genuinely want help you. I didn't write out this crap for nothing! | ||
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JaimeR
148 Posts
On April 06 2010 15:01 EvilTeletubby wrote: Until I changed myself (hey, it started with liquid courage for me, but whatever works for you), and now I'm happily married. I'm willing to bet most guys have been in your shoes at some point. Oh boy. Much to learn you have. http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/29/the-lie-of-locking-her-in/ | ||
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EvilTeletubby
Baltimore, USA22258 Posts
On April 06 2010 16:44 Jaime Raine wrote: Oh boy. Much to learn you have. http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/29/the-lie-of-locking-her-in/ LOL - That has absolutely nothing to do with my point, or even my reason for mentioning it.  | ||
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
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Turbovolver
Australia2396 Posts
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celious
United States195 Posts
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Zurles
United Kingdom1659 Posts
On April 06 2010 15:01 EvilTeletubby wrote: Oh boy. Much to learn you have. Trying to put it as bluntly as I can... sure, he is probably an asshole, but he's also probably something you're not; an alpha male. You, on the other hand, are a pussy. Not very PC with the wording I know, but I'm hoping you get my point. Her telling you that she wanted to be with her ex was a test, and your reaction of 'it saddened me' is you flunking the test. Crashing and burning. I mean, even the fact that you post: "Is it greedy of me to feel this way? I want her to be happy but i don't understand her reasoning!" Pretty much sums it up right there. It is 100% a mentality of weakness, of being a follower. This is an absolute turn-off and deal breaker for women. THEY like being the followers, they want a strong-willed man to take charge of the situation, something you didn't do. You need to be more assertive. You need to take more control. You need to be the driving force. Instead of wallowing in self-pity tossing around lame ass cliched ideas ("Why do women want to be with assholes???"), you should try to change yourself. Be more dominant. I don't want you to feel like I'm sitting here bashing you by the way. I myself was in your shoes. I was fucking wallowing in it all through highschool. I was the goddamn pussy, and I fucking loathed everyone who wasn't. Until I changed myself (hey, it started with liquid courage for me, but whatever works for you), and now I'm happily married. I'm willing to bet most guys have been in your shoes at some point. Stop hoping/waiting for something to happen. Make it happen. EDIT - Oh, important disclaimer. Being an alphamale doesn't mean you can't also be a nice guy. The problem is, when talking about relationships, most of the time "nice guy" is synonymous with "total pussy". The "nice guys finish last" line is one of the most delusional, self-commiserating statements I've ever heard. And it's always uttered by the same people. EDIT2 - How old are you btw? you stole my response | ||
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WaveMotion
United States147 Posts
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Pawsom
United States928 Posts
On April 06 2010 16:07 EvilTeletubby wrote: However, I'm married... that automatically adds on 15 years to my life. It may add 15 years to your age, but it's definiately not adding it to your life  More like removing ^^ | ||
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exeexe
Denmark937 Posts
On April 06 2010 15:25 petered wrote: So i guess the bottomline is where does the limit go? Well, i have decided that girls are just too stupid for me and therefore i leave them alone. | ||
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The_Australian
Australia458 Posts
On April 06 2010 17:22 Turbovolver wrote: Only ugly guys have to be catalysts. Looks on a guy mean shit. literally nothing. | ||
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Pawsom
United States928 Posts
On April 07 2010 00:55 The_Australian wrote: Looks on a guy mean shit. literally nothing. Well, looks can help some if you don't have game; there will be some women who are intrigued enough to at least approach you, you still have to take over from there though. But for the most part, yeah, being good looking isn't going to make it any difference unless its giving you more confidence. | ||
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