Another blog about girls

On April 06 2010 14:29 Person514cs wrote:
Don't sweat it. Girls come and goes. Actually even wife comes and goes these days. Just don't pressure her too hard the relation ship might last longer. And always protect your self, if you know what I mean.

On April 06 2010 14:23 echo_O wrote:
Why would she want to stay with somebody that was a total dick to her?

On April 06 2010 15:05 Grobyc wrote:
ETT always has the best replies in these types of blogs =]

On April 06 2010 15:05 TommyGG wrote:
In response to your questions I would just say, love isn't rational. Just because things seem like they should work out doesn't mean anything. Nobody can control their feelings so that they can love the person they seem most compatible with on paper.

On April 06 2010 15:05 TommyGG wrote:
I think you should secretly videotape an interaction between you two and post it on TL, so we can analyze the footage and give you accurate advice.

On April 06 2010 15:05 TommyGG wrote:
I think you should secretly videotape an interaction between you two and post it on TL, so we can analyze the footage and give you accurate advice.

Why would she want to stay with somebody that was a total dick to her?

Why would she give up the possibility of us being in a committed relationship, even though we have a lot of potential?

On April 06 2010 15:25 petered wrote:
also, I should point out that ETT and other's posts were written while I was writing mine. Didn't mean to say they were giving you bad advice necessarily.

There are seeds of truth in ETT's advice, but be careful how you interpret it. Being a dominant male doesn't mean busting down the door and "making her your bitch" or any stupid shit like that.

Guys do have to be the catalyst in a relationship, though.

You really should be very clear about your intentions. Tell her that you are interested and that you think she needs to get over her dick boyfriend. Be straight up about it. Don't, however, force the issue on her too much. A girl is turned on when she feels "safe" with a guy. A girl will feel safe with a more dominant man (since he can protect her) but not one that forces her into bad situations(like giving her a deadline or something like that)

On April 06 2010 15:46 echo_O wrote:
well normally I don't care and hook up with chicks (not trying to brag, dont be a dick and post stuff about it) but i feel different around her. I never have this mentality. EVER. so maybe there is something? I dunno just kind of lost atm

ETT I have a lot to learn from you =p

and I'm 17 btw

On April 06 2010 16:01 echo_O wrote:
Well if things don't go well with this chick. Me and you in my bed, yeah?

On April 06 2010 16:04 Koiru wrote:
How old exactly ARE you ETT?

On April 06 2010 15:18 petered wrote:
If you notice, a guy's stimulii is almost immediate whereas a girl's is something that takes time.

On April 06 2010 15:01 EvilTeletubby wrote:
Pretty much sums it up right there. It is 100% a mentality of weakness, of being a follower. This is an absolute turn-off and deal breaker for women. THEY like being the followers, they want a strong-willed man to take charge of the situation, something you didn't do.

You need to be more assertive. You need to take more control. You need to be the driving force. Instead of wallowing in self-pity tossing around lame ass cliched ideas ("Why do women want to be with assholes???"), you should try to change yourself. Be more dominant.

On April 06 2010 15:01 EvilTeletubby wrote:
Until I changed myself (hey, it started with liquid courage for me, but whatever works for you), and now I'm happily married. I'm willing to bet most guys have been in your shoes at some point.

On April 06 2010 16:44 Jaime Raine wrote:


Oh boy.

Much to learn you have.

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/29/the-lie-of-locking-her-in/

On April 06 2010 15:01 EvilTeletubby wrote:


Oh boy.

Much to learn you have.

Trying to put it as bluntly as I can... sure, he is probably an asshole, but he's also probably something you're not; an alpha male. You, on the other hand, are a pussy.

Not very PC with the wording I know, but I'm hoping you get my point.

Her telling you that she wanted to be with her ex was a test, and your reaction of 'it saddened me' is you flunking the test. Crashing and burning.

I mean, even the fact that you post:

"Is it greedy of me to feel this way? I want her to be happy but i don't understand her reasoning!"

Pretty much sums it up right there. It is 100% a mentality of weakness, of being a follower. This is an absolute turn-off and deal breaker for women. THEY like being the followers, they want a strong-willed man to take charge of the situation, something you didn't do.

You need to be more assertive. You need to take more control. You need to be the driving force. Instead of wallowing in self-pity tossing around lame ass cliched ideas ("Why do women want to be with assholes???"), you should try to change yourself. Be more dominant.

I don't want you to feel like I'm sitting here bashing you by the way. I myself was in your shoes. I was fucking wallowing in it all through highschool. I was the goddamn pussy, and I fucking loathed everyone who wasn't. Until I changed myself (hey, it started with liquid courage for me, but whatever works for you), and now I'm happily married. I'm willing to bet most guys have been in your shoes at some point.

Stop hoping/waiting for something to happen. Make it happen.


EDIT - Oh, important disclaimer. Being an alphamale doesn't mean you can't also be a nice guy. The problem is, when talking about relationships, most of the time "nice guy" is synonymous with "total pussy".

The "nice guys finish last" line is one of the most delusional, self-commiserating statements I've ever heard. And it's always uttered by the same people.



EDIT2 - How old are you btw?

On April 06 2010 16:07 EvilTeletubby wrote: However, I'm married... that automatically adds on 15 years to my life.

On April 06 2010 17:22 Turbovolver wrote:
Only ugly guys have to be catalysts.

On April 07 2010 00:55 The_Australian wrote:


Looks on a guy mean shit. literally nothing.

On April 06 2010 16:44 Jaime Raine wrote:


Oh boy.

Much to learn you have.

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2009/10/29/the-lie-of-locking-her-in/

On April 06 2010 17:05 {88}iNcontroL wrote:
btw she made out with you while thinking about "him"

On April 07 2010 00:55 The_Australian wrote:


Looks on a guy mean shit. literally nothing.

On April 07 2010 04:40 KurtistheTurtle wrote:

looks do mean shit as long as you aren't an outlier on the handsomeness spectrum. hygiene, the way you dress and self-grooming will make or break you

On April 07 2010 09:49 KurtistheTurtle wrote:
i mean unless you're 500 pound or annorexic or you have some horrible scarring that makes you look like a dinosaur, as long as you groom right you'll be fine.

but yeah, from what I've seen of your posting you're fucked.

lol im jk :D

On April 07 2010 10:19 3FFA wrote:

YOU BETTER BE! I feel glad and annoyed at the same time that I am going into 8th grade now(will be there next year) and today I just started becoming both 1. more assertive and 2. Like all the other 8th grade JErKS! I prided myself for not being a jerk like them. Now I am quite sad and yet I'm glad that I'm becoming more assertive, is this normal?

On April 07 2010 10:27 Rekrul wrote:


do not change who you are to be 'cool'

you definitely should pride yourself in not being a jerk

the best way to deal with (and get the better of) all the assholes and jerks in school is to show them you really don't give a fuck by ignoring them and/or looking at them like they don't exist in your world

only be assertive to the point where no one can fuck with u and ur shit, but never to the point where ur fucking on someone else

keep it real and the ladies will come. have faith.

On April 07 2010 10:52 Rekrul wrote:
the whole cocksucker thing is an act to make people love me even more when they find out their preconceived notions were all wrong

duh

On April 07 2010 10:56 Hypnosis wrote:


so you are actually a low self esteemed newb at life?

On April 07 2010 11:02 Rekrul wrote:


i am selfless

i do not have any type of esteem for myself, high or low

i am fully aware of exactly who and what I am, my weaknesses and strengths

i empathize with everyone, i am aware of exactly who they are and how they feel, no matter how they act

people with overly high self esteem fear me because they know i know

people with low self esteem look up to me because they can feel that i don't pity them, and it inspires awe in them

I AM THE WIND.

On April 07 2010 11:09 Hypnosis wrote:


I see.. See I think that is what living in the moment is. You just.. Are..

On April 07 2010 11:18 Rekrul wrote:


totally

i mean

you could accidentally fart out loud in class

you could get all embarrassed red face and have ur day and social high school status ruined

or you could just live the moment and say happily 'sorry guys didnt mean to do that, definitely wont let it happen again' and be totally back in business

On April 07 2010 11:13 Yammiez wrote:
You're 17?! Omg I'm 22 and have worst problems than you.
Some of the advice here I've heard for more than 4 years.

On April 07 2010 11:28 EvilTeletubby wrote:


So...

1) You can't be bothered/don't care enough to make the necessary changes, or

2) You don't know how to make the necessary changes?

And yeah for what it's worth Rek is actually an über stand-up guy, probably one of the best guys to have on your side IRL but his image won't make you think that right away. Like I said earlier it's possible to still be a 'nice guy' but an alpha male. Just gotta know when to be assertive and when to let things roll. It's a learning process like everything else.

On April 07 2010 10:44 Hypnosis wrote:


Damn this kid is lucky he's gettin advice from rek lolol

Let me explain something: The "jerks" and "assholes" seem like jerks and assholes to you because you are probably a nerd with no self confidence. When they look at people like that they think "lol look at this douche he doesn't have shit on me, im a higher status then him so i dont give a fuck about what he thinks". Thus they seem like dicks even though they are just more confident/good looking/whatever to attract girls and friends. Be dominant in your own way, it has nothing to do with being an asshole or a jerk. My point is that just because they seem a certain way to you doesn't mean anything about their true personality and attitude towards girls, they are just on a different level than you, have different influences and are probably "cooler".

Today's society is fucked up, you have to be super dominant to get what you want. Who wants a pushover in any aspect? People that say "be yourself" are right and wrong. You have to be careful towards what you define "self" as. Chances are high that you don;t know your true self yet considering you are in 8th grade and haven't experienced shit..

The best advice you are gonna get is: 1) Live life IN THE MOMENT and 2) LIVE LIFE FOR YOURSELF.

1) In the moment: This means that you need to learn how to appreciate every goddamn moment of your existence. Make it a priority to CONSTANTLY remind yourself to live in the present. Try your hardest in everything you do. What you do RIGHT now is all that matters because it builds your entire life every moment. there is no past or future, only NOW. This does NOT mean you don't refer to the past it just means you need to mostly think about RIGHT NOW... Write lists to remind yourself of things you gotta do if you have to. Do not dwell on things and don't dream too much, just live life!

2) Live for yourself: Do everything for yourself, be selfish but let people you like or love into your life. OWN life. People are LUCKY to know you, they are fortunate that you let them into your fucking awesome life. You are sick! Everything you do is awesome and heartfelt, you try hard at everything to improve your life. Girls LOVE this shit. They are attracted to self-centered guys that let them into their lives. What this means is that you should be fuckin awesome, confident in everything you do and really nice and sweet to the people you truly have feelings for, fuck everyone else. If you are a total asshole to everyone but a certain girl she sees that and thinks "wow he likes me! omg im gonna do everything I can to keep that up". That is where girls come to you and you just live your awesome fuckin life. Im pretty sure Rekrul understands this because he seems like a real cocksucker but i bet if he's your friends he's a great person.

you are all faggots and pussies.

edit: ITS A JOKE HOLY SHIT

On April 07 2010 00:55 The_Australian wrote:


Looks on a guy mean shit. literally nothing.

On April 07 2010 04:39 KurtistheTurtle wrote:

lol! are you telling me that every time a guy marries a gal she'll become fat and you'll become unhappy with the sex? rofl no! life can be better! you just gotta set it up for yourself

in all that guys stuff he finds little nuggets of social truth and coats them in BULLSHIT! he sounds like he sits around thinking about the few times he did things instead of doing it and most of his life revolves around "what ifs". I find myself thinking "no it doesn't have to be like that!" every sentence I read of his. he says some good stuff but then coats it in unhelpful judgement and assertions he is in no place to make.

On April 08 2010 00:28 Jaime Raine wrote:


Pfft, haters gonna hate. Getting any pussy lately Kurtis?

They are true jerks and assholes cause I have surrounded myself with friends that are girls and everyone says that they are jerks and every time I meet a new girl/ a girl asks what grade I'm in they answer that they are surprised I'm so nice since most 8th grade boys they know are total jerks.

I don't really care about people that are "cool" and I am a bit of a nerd but I'm both taller and stronger than most boys I know(except for some who's muscles look like they have had surgery done on them which ends up getting girls to stay away from them). 1 guy I know has no guy friends just girls and for some reason he seems to be every girls' best friend.

I understand what some other guys are already doing now. They are doing exactly what u gave me for advice. Thx for the great advice! Now, how do I ask a girl out in Middle school? I can't seem to wrap my brain around this.

Also, the reason I'm getting advice from Rek is because I'm just that awesome ;D.

On April 08 2010 01:56 Hypnosis wrote:





Don't ask people out in middle school.. Let girls come after you man the harder you try the less it works. Plus middle school AND highschool relationships mean NOTHINGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

True jerks and assholes? Girls that say stuff like that probably don;t mean it or can't handle the guys like that. Deep down they like it.. To a certain extent.

On April 08 2010 01:20 Ghardo wrote:
sometimes i wonder, if tl were no more.. would rekrul simply cease to exist?

On April 08 2010 04:39 3FFA wrote:

Your 1st paragraph reminds me of that "what would I say to my HS self" thread. So, your saying don't date till college?

On April 06 2010 14:55 29 fps wrote:
why did she make out with you if she still liked the other guy?

On April 08 2010 11:23 Clamev wrote:
This might sound a bit ehm rude i gues but the only advise i can give you is get the fuck away from her! Tell her that you two shouldn´t meet until she is over her boyfriend.
That is if you don´t want to ride on a emotional rollercaster wich rips you´re heart out every couple of months. Because i am on this rollercoaster since 2 and a half year now.And it has been 2 and a half years of three people continuingsly hurting each others to the point point where it´s gotten realy bad and i´m still not out of it.
Well thinking back i don´t think i would have chossen not to get on this ride so yeah go ahead but be preapared to get hurt.

sorry for the rant but it´s 4:30am where i live and i still can´t sleep

On April 08 2010 10:11 lilsusie wrote:
You are attracted to who you are attracted to, you can't really force it.

On April 08 2010 11:53 MourningWould wrote:
Dude, nothing is more fun than being on an emotional roller coaster ride. Would you rather be happy all the time or alternate happiness and pain so the happiness is more intense than anything you've ever felt?

On April 07 2010 22:30 TabyLing wrote:


not true at all.

On April 14 2010 16:34 The_Australian wrote:



Sorry to bump, but i want to hear your reasoning for this. If it's girls saying they do then lol.

a certain level of looks will generally put you into a category capable of getting girls in a certain range

game dictates just how high up on the range you can peg

and of course money can overtake both, if u think that counts lol

On April 15 2010 08:48 CharlieMurphy wrote:
Whatever you do, don't be her confidant for boyfriend related bullshit. Don't listen to her sob story, just console her that it is in the past and there are plenty of better people blah blah. Every time she brings him up just look annoyed and give her some generic shit like that. Make your motives clear. You are on the verge of being friend zoned if not already. Good Luck to you

On April 15 2010 04:08 Rekrul wrote:
to say looks don't matter at all is nonsense

if look at every 10/10 girl in the world, the vast majority of them will have good looking boyfriends, or really rich boyfriends, and usually both. not often will they be dating a mediocre guy with a mediocre life style but an 'amazing' personality.

On April 15 2010 11:19 The_Australian wrote:

I I've seen more hot girls date the guy with the amazing personality and life style then the lawyer or someone with looks.

Are these guys actually completely ugly? An average looking guy with a great personality and awesome lifestyle is more attractive than hot guy with a terrible personality.

Although a guy that a girl doesn't find at all physically attractive is worse off than a guy that isn't at all mentally attractive, at least you could sleep with the latter if nothing else (although if his personality was that bad you probably wouldn't), where you would just be friends with the former.

If a guy is good looking or hot you want to get to know him just based off that.

if he asks you out and you don't know anything else about him you will say yes because you want to get to know him, you will clear your schedule and want to make a good impression. If [he] ends up having nothing but good looks then you wont be interested. Yet you will be more forgiving of bad traits than you would if he was just average looking.

...If [he] ends up having nothing but good looks then you wont be interested. Yet you will be more forgiving of bad traits than you would if he was just average looking

Of course you want someone who is both physically and mentally attractive, the mental attraction usually carries more weight and cant be 0, but the physical attraction can't be 0 either, you do usually want to sleep with the guy to want to be in a relationship.

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I'd say slightly less then average to average. I agree with your second sentence.

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A girl that doesnt find a guy physically attractive will be because he did something or had a demeanor that she didnt find attractive, rather then his raw looks, girls really aren't that visual. A girl would never sleep with a guy based entirely on looks with zero interaction. Btw to further clarify by looks i mean raw genetics, i do think grooming/etc does make a difference.

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I'm totally happy to admit i'm wrong to anything, so long as the other argument coincides with what i've seen personally in my own experience, but i just havn't seen a girl wanting to know a guy solely based on how hot he is.

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Even if a girl does clear her schedule and is on best behavior for a "hot dude", if he has zero game he wont be able to get her into the sack, whats the point? If you threw 100 women at brad pitt (this example assumes he has no game) then he'll get laid 0 times. if you threw 100 women at Artosis, the result will still be 0. (i dont mean it Artosis! ILY!!!! baller terran ^___^) so neither has an advantage. i can see that people will disagree with this example, so perhaps we'll have to agree to disagree eventually. Onwards!

The hot guy probably carries himself with more confidence, or is more assertive in his behavior. i've seen situations where the mediocre guy gets tons more interest from girls based just on that. i'm not accusing you of this, but be careful about applying your own standards to women, they value different things.

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agree with first sentance, disagree with second. Its very hard to compare two situations, as they will never be the same. So we can't get a "hot" guy and a mediocre one and test what either one of us are saying, also, it depends on what you mean by "bad traits". If it's him being a prick, it wont matter to the girl on a sexual level, if its him being submissive or weak, then that's behavior she wont forgive regardless of genetic looks. Again, be carefull of applying your own standards to women.

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not sure how to respond to the first part of this because i dont really know what having 0 mental or physical attractiveness actually looks like, so sorry i cant adress that >.<.
I agree with the last sentence, sex be important yo.