EPTsome things happened between us and she really felt guilty and basically thought she was a bad girlfriend for me etc etc.
man i think she said this to really break up with u so that he can have a full time with his newly found guy!love sucks... - Page 2
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imweakless
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RaGe
Belgium9947 Posts
On November 23 2009 00:57 DwmC_Foefen wrote: What is up with all the chocolate-eating advice? :o Tbh, I prefer fries to chocolate and if I eat those for 3 weeks I'll be a frigging fatass and my hopes of finding someone new will go dramatically down  And prolly even more depressed lol ... anyway Free fries in Leuven today at the Grote Markt | ||
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redneck_mike
United States124 Posts
then they pay you less than married workers so no sweat | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
On November 23 2009 02:47 Zanric wrote: I am a working man and as such I am very aware of this "day-to-day" life. Do you think it means forgetting your past for the sake of living in the present? There is nothing wrong about remembering good or bad experiences. That is where people tend to grow into better people if they can keep life in perspective. Also, I think if you're serious I would accuse you of being an asshole. I meant at the time of writing, obviously. You wouldn't be human if you didn't live a day-to-day life. I think you misunderstood my meaning. The OP is talking about feeling bad and missing her. Those feelings WILL disappear after awhile, and it's normal and healthy to let someone go from your conscious. Of course he won't forget what she meant to him, but she won't mean that to him anymore. It's absurdly unprofound to remark people have memories, which is why I presumed you meant feelings (especially since you quoted what I said about feelings and said "NO"). | ||
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DwmC_Foefen
Belgium2186 Posts
On November 23 2009 03:24 RaGe wrote: Free fries in Leuven today at the Grote Markt Kzit in gent :p So that's no option lol... Yea that's another thing, everytime I bike to my school, I have to pass her house (kot) ... Friggin depressing | ||
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Zanric
United States66 Posts
Chef: I only said I disagreed with your words not saying no entirely. I am not attacking you just stating my perspective. Perhaps I should say "I lightly disagree" from now on ^^. | ||
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DwmC_Foefen
Belgium2186 Posts
And everybody says: It'll pass over time but boy... At the moment... I never felt like this over a girl :s | ||
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Hypnosis
United States2061 Posts
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DwmC_Foefen
Belgium2186 Posts
On November 23 2009 04:45 Hypnosis wrote: Just because she has another boyfriend does not mean that she doesn't love you anymore. She could be going to someone else for comfort before coming back to you. Just stay positive and try to contact her later to see how she feels about you, she most likely still has feelings for you man. I hope so... Only now I know what I had And I threw it away, didn't do anything to stop it and suddenly it was too late...Seriously, if any of you guys have feelings for a girl you like, DON'T HESITATE TO TELL HER because before you know it, you'll lose her... | ||
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tonight
United States11130 Posts
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Person514cs
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On November 23 2009 04:48 DwmC_Foefen wrote: I hope so... Only now I know what I had And I threw it away, didn't do anything to stop it and suddenly it was too late...Seriously, if any of you guys have feelings for a girl you like, DON'T HESITATE TO TELL HER because before you know it, you'll lose her... But it would be kind of creepy to just say,"I like you." But it is a good advise for the guys that are too shy. It is better to at least try it then to lose her for ever. | ||
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zOula...
United States898 Posts
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DwmC_Foefen
Belgium2186 Posts
On November 23 2009 04:54 Person514cs wrote: But it would be kind of creepy to just say,"I like you." But it is a good advise for the guys that are too shy. It is better to at least try it then to lose her for ever. I mean really go for it with the girl you like... Don't just go up there and say I like you lol, get to know her and stuff... AND THEN SAY I LIKE YOU lol ... god I'm getting cynical | ||
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Masamune
Canada3401 Posts
On November 23 2009 04:56 zOula... wrote: Pretty much the same exact thing happened to me... i would have to walk by her house, see her around town with the new guy and everything... I say just try to forget her, honestly. I wouldnt contact her at all. All that stuff is just going to prolong the bad feelings and complicate everything. Anyway, just give it some time...it's gonna take a long time, but you will eventually start thinking about her less and less everyday, and finding yourself more interested in someone else. Just dont mope around or feel sorry for yourself in the meantime. These things happen. try to stay busy and social and have alot of fun with your friends This. Also, because I have no time to analyze this, I will leave you with the following: 1) She's on the rebound and needed someone to fill your void. 2) She was already falling for someone else while you two were in a relationship, and decided to let you off so she could be with this person. A woman whose been in a long relationship doesn't find someone so soon after unless they are #1. In either case, fuck her. You can do better, don't worry about it. You're going to feel down and everything but I guess it's a part of being in love and that's the risk you take. Here's the cliche line; it's better to have loved than to not have loved at all (or something). In either case, you live and you learn. Use your experience to find yourself someone who isn't a little slut because god know's what goes through the mind of whores who can find replacements for people they "love" so quickly. Seriously man, don't waste too many tears on her, she's probably not even bothered as much with you as you are with her. | ||
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Arnic
81 Posts
Not right now and maybe not for a while but pretty soon you'll be able to distance yourself from what you're feeling at the moment and look back at what happened with clarity rather than through a bleak haze of sadness and regret. It doesn't sound like you threw anything away although it might feel like it to you. If you break up with someone and it's not 100% mutual then one person is going to be tearing themselves to pieces trying to figure out what went wrong and how they could have seen it coming, prevented it or fixed it and it makes things a lot worse if you're going through that whilst the other person is visibly moving on with their life. It doesn't mean that you can't appreciate what you had with her or that it wasn't real in any way, just that sometimes things don't work out and they end. I'm not going to tell you to cheer up and face the world with a smile, in a strange way I think it's right to be depressed and sad if you lose something you value but only for a while. It shows that you cared deeply for her and it's natural but there comes a point where you need to move away from that and make the changes in your life that allow you to do so. Keep yourself occupied both physically and mentally, tire yourself out with work and anything that challenges you. Break any routines you have which you shared with her and limit anything that reminds you of her like music, films, books or shared activities. Try very hard not to dwell on what she's doing and what's going on in her life at the moment. You are what's important and you matter so concentrate on sorting out the emotional clutter, taking a moment to sit in it and think "aww fuck" is fine as long as you tidy it away when you're done so you can make a start on finding things to do and enjoy. | ||
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fig_newbie
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DwmC_Foefen
Belgium2186 Posts
On November 23 2009 05:26 fig_newbie wrote: Hire a prostitute (Strafe?), hang out with the boys, get drunk, but for god's sake don't spend time alone blogging about it. Every minute spent alone is going to be spent in misery. I did all that this weekend. And god you are so right about minutes spent alone = misery lol... Luckily I'm in ghent now with my fellow students ( but they still have to arrive ) | ||
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hahaimhenry
Canada368 Posts
The only real solution is just waiting it out, you'll slowly lose interest in her, I'm sure of it. | ||
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XDawn
Canada4040 Posts
Try to keep yourself busy | ||
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Chef
10810 Posts
On November 23 2009 08:07 hahaimhenry wrote: There really is no solution to this. Even if you go and have a good time, chances are you may not have a good time because you're too busy thinking about your ex. And even if you do, at the end of the day, you'll feel miserable because it's still bugging you. The only real solution is just waiting it out, you'll slowly lose interest in her, I'm sure of it. Doing new things will help prevent that. If an activity is old hat and routine, it might not be fun, but something new can really force you to put your energy into the activity and not have time to think about anything else. Doing something new in general is a good way to improve quality of life  | ||
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