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So a couple of weeks ago me and my gf of two years decided to break up. We were in a rut, some things happened between us and she really felt guilty and basically thought she was a bad girlfriend for me etc etc. So weeks passed on and we kinda stop texting eachother. I still think about her everyday and I still love her but it's just... Our history together...
And a couple of days ago, I found out she already has another  and I am fucking devasted and depressed I still love her badly and I regret not contacting her anymore during those few weeks. Basically, we were broke up for 8-9 weeks, and in the 3-4 week she met someone new, all happy and in love
And here I am : being depressed, missing her, thinking about her, having regrets ...
Anyway just wanted to vent here. Perhaps hope someone has good advice for me or can cheer me up.
Also, for the people who have found someone they love, never forget what you have, because once you lose that someone ...
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Hong Kong20321 Posts
fuck it if shes got another already
go have some waffles or w/e u belgians eat
CHOCOLATE :D:D:DD
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If she's already got another guy then shows her character really and to be fair mate sounds like you are better off with out her. Just keep yourself busy, go see friends, go play some SC or as alffla said go eat some goddamn waffles. You'll be fine mate don't worry about it. =3
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love does suck... time will heal all though. While you wait, eat some chocolate and ogle some nice Belgium women.
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What is up with all the chocolate-eating advice? :o Tbh, I prefer fries to chocolate and if I eat those for 3 weeks I'll be a frigging fatass and my hopes of finding someone new will go dramatically down
And prolly even more depressed lol ...
anyway
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Sorry for your pain. It's been my experience though that when a woman finds someone that quickly after a long relationship she doesn't have "another". She's in a lot of pain too. She is probably just following the advice of her friends to get out there and have some fun. She's just going out to get out of the house. Nothing serious.
It sounds like she loved you but was not "in love" with you. She did you a favor. Even though it hurts right now you will meet someone else and that person could be the best person on the planet for you.
Try to get all this grief out by talking to friends and family. Get it all out. Then go out with your friends. Don't mope around and don't talk about her all the time after that. Let her go. Remember who you were before. Then ask someone out just for fun. You are going get through this and you will be a better person for having had the experience.
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Well don't eat chocolate, waffles or fries or whatever just do something that will help you take your mind off of her mate anything at all. It'll take time and it's not going to be an instantaneous (sp?) heal but you'll get there sonny jim chin up and all that. Also judging from your profile you're still a young lad so you're gonna have plenty more oppurtunities in the future so just try and put it behind you as best you can.
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On November 23 2009 00:58 mangomango wrote:
Sorry for your pain. It's been my experience though that when a woman finds someone that quickly after a long relationship she doesn't have "another". She's in a lot of pain too. She is probably just following the advice of her friends to get out there and have some fun. She's just going out to get out of the house. Nothing serious.
It sounds like she loved you but was not "in love" with you. She did you a favor. Even though it hurts right now you will meet someone else and that person could be the best person on the planet for you.
Try to get all this grief out by talking to friends and family. Get it all out. Then go out with your friends. Don't mope around and don't talk about her all the time after that. Let her go. Remember who you were before. Then ask someone out just for fun. You are going get through this and you will be a better person for having had the experience.
I'm positive she loved me deeply, too many stuff points that out. And I do think she's already serious with that guy, he already met her family through circumstances etc... And they are a couple of weeks together...
Aaaarrgh I just fucking hate this feeling
It's horrifying how you get so attached to someone
but thanks for the post, it made me feel a little bit better
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When shes saying she feels guilty and like a bad girlfriend, she thinking about being with someone else or just not wanting to be with you. These things happen and will keep happening until you find the absolute perfect someone. You'll never know who they are though until the end so just keep your chin up and life will go on. Hit on chicks when your up for it, you got the last girl you loved so you can get a new one.
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On November 23 2009 01:04 Elvin_vn wrote:
I like Belgium chocolate
I like it too but I prefer fries
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Korea (South)11601 Posts
This new guy might be a "rebound" from your relationship. who knows.
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As long as you don't purposely hang onto your feelings for her, they will completely disappear no matter how close you were to the person. Just try not to be so romantic and pick up an old hobby now that you have more time.
Also apple juice. You need your vitamin C, tiger.
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fuck. i know how you feel dude. it happens though-- it's just easier for girls to bounce back (in general) since girls don't really have to do much in the dating process. so even if she was sad or depressed, guys approaching her wouldn't necessarily know that. you, on the other hand, would have to make an actual effort to move on by talking to other girls. if you haven't been talking to other girls because of her, don't feel bad-- you can hop back into it when you're ready!
feel better!
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On November 23 2009 01:26 Chef wrote:
As long as you don't purposely hang onto your feelings for her, they will completely disappear no matter how close you were to the person.
I disagree. I believe its best to try to remember the ups and downs even if it didn't last. Love is a warmth and if you forget the sunny days then you will regret what you turn into years down the road.
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On November 23 2009 02:02 Zanric wrote:Show nested quote +On November 23 2009 01:26 Chef wrote:
As long as you don't purposely hang onto your feelings for her, they will completely disappear no matter how close you were to the person. I disagree. I believe its best to try to remember the ups and downs even if it didn't last. Love is a warmth and if you forget the sunny days then you will regret what you turn into years down the road.
true... although it's hard to think about those sunny moments Tears come to my eyes thinking about those...
sigh, still ...I wish I could forget her
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There's a difference between remembering something, and living in the past. People who live in the past for too long are creepy and/or not living their present. For some people it's normal to have regrets for months, but the people who hold onto it for years become very bitter and dysfunctional.
What exactly are you suggesting someone turns into? A normal, functioning human being who enjoys making new memories? I think if you're serious I'd accuse you of being too busy thinking of something flowery to say, and too ignorant of what day-to-day life is.
You will, foefen. Not immediately, but you will.
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I am a working man and as such I am very aware of this "day-to-day" life. Do you think it means forgetting your past for the sake of living in the present? There is nothing wrong about remembering good or bad experiences. That is where people tend to grow into better people if they can keep life in perspective. Also, I think if you're serious I would accuse you of being an asshole.
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Look if she found a new guy that fast she probably doesnt love you back. Don't vent: thatll give you problems the next time you're angry. My advice is to move on, and don't dwell on the past
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moving on and having fun is the best thing you can do. I know exactly how you feel. but man I can promise you there are better women in every capacity out there. go have fun, party. workout. starcraft. do whatever. but man you are single. SINGLE do you realize the freedoms you have now?!! go use them before you get another chain
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