|
Recently i spent some time thinking about my current social condition . I mean i definitely stopped being the nice guy, and started acting a bit more badass. In fact i was still nice, but i boosted up my confidence and didnt let anyone to crush my pride. The results started coming and i was happy with them, as i finally started saying what i really meant without any excuses, nor fears, ....
But somehow that started attracting the girls around me, which wasnt planned at all, and im really confused. See among all that girls there is that one girl that is trying to show me in every possible way that she likes me. She was constantly flirting, confessing, and somehow she was acting like drunk in front of me (dunno why, coz of hapiness? or maybe she was so much in love me).
All of that started somehow affecting me and i realized that there is in my heart a bit of love for her. I guess she wants a relationship or whatever, but i dont really feel like so ... weve enver spoken openly about it, but she would say things like: The prof said that you may start loving me after this (when she got an A in physics, just like i did the previous day), all of her friends and actually some professors too teas me that i have a baby with her (wtf!?!), she would search me at school just to say me that she is bored with her class and that she wants to move where there is more fun (around me i guess), she would send me SMS where there would always be or the word ''kiss' or the word ''fiancee'' (dont tell me she wants a MARRIAGE!!!, she has never done it before) and so on...
Because her best friend goes with me in class, once when i was exiting the class i heard that she asked him:'' Did you ask him?'', and i told her that a few days later, but she said taht she doesnt remember that at all, duh ...
The breaking thing is that i had feelings for her few months ago, and now im not that much into her, not to mention that she was in love with 2 of her/my friends before.
So she is in love with me, and i have too some little feelings for her left in my heart, but im not willing to start any relationship, nor officially be her boyfriend, dunno really what to do, so confused,... And dont fucking mention any marriage xD,...any suggestions?
 
|
After this post unfortunatly you are not acting a bit more badass
|
Belgium8305 Posts
minors are the funniest creatures
|
On September 26 2009 22:57 YPang wrote:
After this post unfortunatly you are not acting a bit more badass
i guess so, girls are complicated creatures, and ya im 18 
|
If she "was in love" with 2 other guys before, "being in love" with you isn't going to last that much either. Just enjoy what she has to offer if you want, there's no need for an official relationship.
|
hey, by any chance are you from the Philippines?
|
On September 26 2009 23:17 iLoveKT wrote:
hey, by any chance are you from the Philippines?
ahahahahaha I see what you did there
|
konadora
Singapore66161 Posts
On September 26 2009 23:17 iLoveKT wrote:
hey, by any chance are you from the Philippines?
oh no don't drive another guy to suicide
|
bring her to some noisy Chinese restaurant..... that would get rid of her
|
On September 26 2009 23:19 konadora wrote:Show nested quote +On September 26 2009 23:17 iLoveKT wrote:
hey, by any chance are you from the Philippines? oh no don't drive another guy to suicide
yeah im really worried for my countrymen. someone asks if he should commit suicide, someone announces hes gonna start smoking weed, etc.
|
Nope, Im sorry but marriage is inevitable. gg already.
|
Snet
United States3573 Posts
You don't want a relationship? Don't go out with her.
She "loves" you? Don't lead her on by flirting back or giving her false signs.
Don't do anything else unless she actually asks you out, then you find a nice way to tell her you can't be any more than friends with her. You might as well not even use the word "love" it's over dramatic, she simply has a crush on you.
Don't get pressured into dating someone you don't actually like, you will regret it.
|
im not from philippines lol, and i dont understand that joke XD
well, the problem is that im not sure what i want, and the fact of her having crush/being in love with 2 of my friends is a big alarm in my head, i would probably get hurt ... see i like her and i dont like her
|
Snet
United States3573 Posts
She sounds like any other girl in middle school having a new crush every week. I wouldn't let that worry you unless she was actually sleeping with a bunch of people.
Go for it, you're too young to be worrying about this small shit. It will most likely be a good experience regardless if you end up breaking up.
|
On September 26 2009 23:44 Snet wrote:
She sounds like any other girl in middle school having a new crush every week. I wouldn't let that worry you unless she was actually sleeping with a bunch of people.
Go for it, you're too young to be worrying about this small shit. It will most likely be a good experience regardless if you end up breaking up.
You think so? I'll think about it, thx
|
United States42689 Posts
Go for it. Worst that can happen is it goes badly and then whatever, you're like 12, you've got plenty of life left in you.
|
Do it, crazy ones are the best
|
On September 27 2009 00:07 Kwark wrote:
Go for it. Worst that can happen is it goes badly and then whatever, you're like 12, you've got plenty of life left in you.
damnit, i feel insulted :D, im 18 i say, am i acting so childish or what ?
|
if you want to get laid for the first time in your life go ahead with it, theres a lot more to relationships then getting your carrot wet( Kennelie sup) If you wanna wait for another few years while masturbating profusely - sure thing. But until you really man up and make some steps towards getting to know ladies a little better youre no "badass". And dont talk aboout "love" until then.
|
On September 27 2009 00:53 Art.FeeL wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2009 00:07 Kwark wrote:
Go for it. Worst that can happen is it goes badly and then whatever, you're like 12, you've got plenty of life left in you. damnit, i feel insulted :D, im 18 i say, am i acting so childish or what ?
Yes very. I assumed you were a lot younger because you use the word "love" like a middle schooler.
It's really simple, if you think there is a possibility of a decent relationship, go for it. If not then don't bother.
|
|
|
well, i probably didnt explain myself well ...but whatever Just Do It (Nike)
|
Yeah, if you're taking advice on how to appear more mature, don't act like your audience is stupid by adding the reference to a pun at the end of the pun.
|
On September 27 2009 01:23 PanN wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2009 00:53 Art.FeeL wrote:On September 27 2009 00:07 Kwark wrote:
Go for it. Worst that can happen is it goes badly and then whatever, you're like 12, you've got plenty of life left in you. damnit, i feel insulted :D, im 18 i say, am i acting so childish or what ? Yes very. I assumed you were a lot younger because you use the word "love" like a middle schooler. It's really simple, if you think there is a possibility of a decent relationship, go for it. If not then don't bother.
Yeah, I thought he was either young or foreign, now I guess hes foreign and the word love is lost in translation.
Whats your Native Language OP? and if your 18 just hit it and do whatever, who cares. Shes acting really really fucking childish for an 18 year old though.
|
Kinda reminds me of myself  i also got completely confused when chicks suddently started digging me or actually doing stuff for me, and not the other way around. But seriously, if youve only just started being with girls id say go for it. Just to see what its like, no matter what its good to have the experience even if she ends up hurting you. I know how shitty it can be when you break up with someone, or just dont get it started right. But when you have tried it a couple of times you will have become better at handling these situations, and you can actually talk with experience when your being a bit more badass lol.
|
On September 26 2009 22:57 vGl-CoW wrote:
minors are the funniest creatures
hahaha agree
|
Yeah I feel you man. Being badass and all can be tough specially if you attracted some psycho chick. There's 2 ways you can go here. Screw here once when you're drunk then say you don't want a relationship because you didn't know what you were doing because you were drunk. Wearing a rubber is key here. This scenario can finally make her see that you're just doing what a badass does and gets over you. Either that or she'll turn into an even crasier psycho, possibly becomes a stalker.
The other side is don't screw here, but just start ignoring her. Eventually she'll either get some nonbadass that'll make her happy, which is where you come in and give her some of that badass attitude. Be in a relationship for 2months and then leave her for some brainless bimbo that'll really know what a badass like you is all about.
Keep being badass man!
P.S.: Side effects include but are not limited to: emotional scarring, commitment issues, no peace-of-mind, anal Diarrhea, verbal Diarrhea, extreme Badassary and an increased chance to interrupt someone receiving an award during a televised award show.
|
On September 27 2009 02:01 RebirthOfLeGenD wrote:Show nested quote +On September 27 2009 01:23 PanN wrote:On September 27 2009 00:53 Art.FeeL wrote:On September 27 2009 00:07 Kwark wrote:
Go for it. Worst that can happen is it goes badly and then whatever, you're like 12, you've got plenty of life left in you. damnit, i feel insulted :D, im 18 i say, am i acting so childish or what ? Yes very. I assumed you were a lot younger because you use the word "love" like a middle schooler. It's really simple, if you think there is a possibility of a decent relationship, go for it. If not then don't bother. Yeah, I thought he was either young or foreign, now I guess hes foreign and the word love is lost in translation. Whats your Native Language OP? and if your 18 just hit it and do whatever, who cares. Shes acting really really fucking childish for an 18 year old though.
Yes, english isnt my mother language, its croatian, and as i said i probably didnt explain myself well, thx all, ill see what i can do. lol at the previous post
|
|
|
On September 27 2009 04:29 the_enborfser wrote:
Hit it and quit it
This post deserves more attention.
|
On September 27 2009 04:29 the_enborfser wrote:
Hit it and quit it
i agree 100%
|
On September 27 2009 01:12 food wrote:
if you want to get laid for the first time in your life go ahead with it, theres a lot more to relationships then getting your carrot wet( Kennelie sup) If you wanna wait for another few years while masturbating profusely - sure thing. But until you really man up and make some steps towards getting to know ladies a little better youre no "badass". And dont talk aboout "love" until then.
nothings wrong with masturbating ur wet carrot. Its safe sex!
|
i thought of boygirl[sharp] when i saw the thread title.
edit - where did he even go?
|
On September 27 2009 04:29 the_enborfser wrote:
Hit it and quit it
hit and run imo
|
Maybe it's okay for you guys but I don't date my friend's ex. That's a no-no for me. Because the reason for a girl to become an ex of my friend would probably be:
1. She's a bitch. I don't wanna date a bitch anyway.
2. They got some problem and it's likely that he still has feeling for her. It's not cool to tell your friend things like "lol you know, last night i just screwed that chick who you were deeply in love with".
BROS BEFORE HOES.
But in all seriousness, marriage is your only solution mate just take your time, there is no point rushing a relationship. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Just be nice to her, maybe sometimes ask her out for lunch, just so you will get to know her better. Maybe you'll fall for her then, hehe.
|
On September 26 2009 23:22 iLoveKT wrote:Show nested quote +On September 26 2009 23:19 konadora wrote:On September 26 2009 23:17 iLoveKT wrote:
hey, by any chance are you from the Philippines? oh no don't drive another guy to suicide yeah im really worried for my countrymen. someone asks if he should commit suicide, someone announces hes gonna start smoking weed, etc.
hahaha who the fuck are you? 
The Philippines is fucking awesome yo!
|
If you mean what you say about not wanting to be her boyfriend, and not wanting to go out with her, then politely but firmly tell her so.Being firm or polite can both be hard to do. Being both at the same time, that would (or at least should) qualify as truly 'badass'.
That said, I sense a lot of doubt in your post. If you like her, you could give it a shot. And as stated above, you are only 18, so if the relationship/romance ends after a short period of time, it's not the end of the world, though tears might be shed on one or both sides.
Which brings me to the hard part about such things; only you can truly know and decide. But I'd do it after having thought it through with a clear head. No need to rush things, just be ready to strike when the iron is hot, assuming you'd want to strike this particular iron of course.
Regarding the part about her having been in love with two of your friends in the past, if it is really in the past, then I wouldn't worry about it. But I can't judge your situation from the other side of a forum, at least not with just this bit of information.
|
On September 27 2009 04:29 the_enborfser wrote:
Hit it and quit it
lol nice reference
|
|
|
|
|
|
EPT
