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Hey guys, what's up? I'm sitting alone in a huge flat in Germany ('cause I'm on vacation), it's almost midnight, I've read too much "Girl Blogs" and I am totally bored, That's why I'm writing my first blog entry. My name is Daeny, I am a young gamer girl from a very strange country and I love nerdy stuff. 'Nuff said.
But... Why am I writing a Boys Blog? Because you need to explain something to me. Just about friendzoning.
There's a "new" guy in my school (okay, for almost a year). We're good friends and I really like him. Probably in another way he likes me. But yeah. He always tells me that he wants a girlfriend, who understands him, who's playing videogames and who loves Batman. It's really funny when I'm sitting there and he tells me, that he wants to have a girlfriend who's like me.
A few days ago he said to me: "Hey, I need to tell you something" I was really excited and said: "yeah, what's up?". "I think I love Cloe" I was totally shoked. He loves a girl who's listening to Justin Bieber, making duckface and who's stupid like shit. Obviously she doesn't like him because he's too nerdy.
So tell me, why are some guys so stupid like shit?
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80% of our judgement is physical attractiveness. 20% is the other stuff. Likewise a guy can have the same complaint about a girl and of course, there are explanations for that too.
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awesome first blog. we need more gamer girls at tl welcome aboard.
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On August 06 2012 06:56 Elegance wrote: 80% of our judgement is physical attractiveness. True that. Sometimes Boys just care about what you're look like. It's totally annyoing if u're asking me.
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On August 06 2012 07:00 Xhiwi wrote:Show nested quote +On August 06 2012 06:56 Elegance wrote: 80% of our judgement is physical attractiveness. True that. Sometimes Boys just care about what you're look like. It's totally annyoing if u're asking me. It also backfires because guys think girls judge guys based on looks too which is total non-sense
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Be explicit. That is what I always tell my girl friends that ask me for relationship advice.
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Love wise
Opposites attract
Similars contract
+ Show Spoiler + Exceptions exist of course
TL:DR
You got friendzoned
Resolve it with surprise sex (I am not kidding)
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On August 06 2012 07:00 Xhiwi wrote:Show nested quote +On August 06 2012 06:56 Elegance wrote: 80% of our judgement is physical attractiveness. True that. Sometimes Boys just care about what you're look like. It's totally annyoing if u're asking me.
And sometimes girls do the same thing. Some people are way too superficial- both sexes have plenty of these people.
Anyways, OP: Did you ask him why he likes her? What are his priorities when finding a girl (maybe duckfaces trump video games)? Does she like him back? Are you going to tell him about your feelings?
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Just out of interest, why don't you make the first move if you think you're both very compatible?
gl!
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I think the idea that a boy should ask a girl is stupid. If you really like him, why don't you take matters into your own hand?
Most of the boys are really stupid too when it comes to women.
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you got friendzoned, it happens to both genders.
its possible to break out, try surprise sex as a first step.
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You say young gamer girl, dunno how old that is, but I'm thinking (based solely on that) you are like 12 or 13 lol
If you are more like a senior in High School or something (god I have no idea what international people have instead of HS) then that changes things.
Lastly are the people saying surprise sex serious or trolling, I honestly can't tell.
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he's probably more attracted to the other girl than you. it's kind of sad guys will do this especially if you are pretty as well but don't have the breasts or ass a guy is looking for, though any guy will "settle" for any girl if the girl is open enough to them.
now this sounds super mean i don't mean it to be. Guys are dicks though. women are bitches, work around it and you get love.
it could be opposite and trying to make you jealous, just be open with him and find out
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You guys suggesting surprise sex are weird. As for the OP, you have to be way more explicit wih the dude. If you do then be prepared to move on with your life if he isn't interested; a boy is ganna do what he wants so you best move on.
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On August 06 2012 07:04 The_LiNk wrote: Be explicit. That is what I always tell my girl friends that ask me for relationship advice.
hyep. Girls are often too clever for their own good with their subtle hints and vague, ambiguous statements. Sometimes you just need to grab his face and kiss him. Or don't. But at least be straightforward. Not in text or IM, but in person, tell him how you feel. Either he'll reciprocate or he won't. Such is life.
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You're saying you're exactly what he's into and you like him... If you're not extremely ugly just go for it and ask him for a date or something like that, 98% of the guys would never refuse an offer like that.
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Yeah I think every girl I've ever liked I've found really attractive too. Being explicit is good though. He'll probably start getting attracted to you. But if I'm any benchmark, he may be a douche for just following his dick. Even in high school there were boys who liked girls for other qualities.
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On August 06 2012 08:12 Antimatterz wrote: Lastly are the people saying surprise sex serious or trolling, I honestly can't tell.
Not trolling, fully serious. obviously you don't need (nor should, if you're not comfortable with it) to go all the way to full coitus, but seriously, most if not all guys appreciate girls being straight up and honest with what they want.
it's how I broke my friendzone -_-
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personally being a nerd/gamer i much rather a girl ask me out, i would love if a girl asked me out, ofc theres like no chance of that cause im ugly but if ur his friend u should know if hes a shy guy or not, and what are the chances of him asking cloe. if theyre pretty low and u could probaby tell him how u feel, and than he'll consider that ur both alike and maybe he likes ur looks and "yay" he tells u he would love to be ur boyfriend.
that surpise sex...is retarded and seems like something out a hentai movie, and i doubt u would want to do that. its more a guys fantasy than reality.
the reason why he likes cloe, is probaby because he doesnt know her well and the first thing about her is her looks, and guys go for looks first and than after a while they get to know the girl (personalitywise) and decided whether to keep or not, because hes ur friend than he knows ur good personailty so u gotta show him ur beautiful as well and im sure u are now goodluck and go get him girl!!
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You basically have the option of telling him you like him and see how it goes, or pretend guys are all mind readers and he'll eventually realize how awesome you are in comparison to the other girl. Your choice.
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