EPT[Boys Blog] Friendzoning - Page 4
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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Kukaracha
France1954 Posts
On August 06 2012 23:32 zatic wrote: Assuming he is around your age we can say with certainty: He is entirely too stupid to get it. Evidence: Every girl blog on TL. I am sorry you'll just have to grow some ovaries and start flirting / escalating the relationship. It's not going to solve itself, and again, men are generally stupid so don't hope he'll eventually get it. Maybe he doesn't really care. When I was 14/15, there was this girl who really, really liked me. She would ring at my appartment to hang out everyday after school. She hinted at some kinky things, and she wasn't ugly at all. But I don't know, I was just happy with my life the way it was, and I was too concerned with my social image to start dating an average chick. A mix of cowardice/self-consciousness/lack of active interest. I believe that if she had initiated anything, I would've gone with it, but she waited for me to make a move, which obviously never happened. | ||
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fire_brand
Canada1123 Posts
On August 08 2012 00:06 Kukaracha wrote: Maybe he doesn't really care. When I was 14/15, there was this girl who really, really liked me. She would ring at my appartment to hang out everyday after school. She hinted at some kinky things, and she wasn't ugly at all. But I don't know, I was just happy with my life the way it was, and I was too concerned with my social image to start dating an average chick. A mix of cowardice/self-consciousness/lack of active interest. I believe that if she had initiated anything, I would've gone with it, but she waited for me to make a move, which obviously never happened. Yeah I remember when I was in high school I had something similar. There was a girl who liked me and she was very clingy and obvious. And she was all right, I didn't hate hanging with her, but.... her breath stank. So that's why I decided I didn't want to date her. That and their was a better looking girl that liked me. In high school you're too young to be worried about looking for a soulmate and for all those other qualities you look for when you're older. When you're young you just want to date a hot girl, do some physical stuff, or have fun. All those kids that say their in love, chances are they're not, and it's silly to be all serious in high school. You should jut forget about him and date some other boys, you're too young to know what you want. Better to sample what the world has to offer while you still can. | ||
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Yanami
Germany49 Posts
Girls are ranting about being rejected for <insert random body attribute here>, did they ever think of the cause? Society's to blame, hooray! Who cares, it's not to be stopped.  Tell him what to you think of his choice. And be straight with him. Boys tend to get confused by the thoughts of girls, as simple as they might seem. Or just do it as I do.. Look for a team to play in SCII, casually tell them that you have boobs and watch them dig on you for your boobs. I do that when feel sad. It seems evil and twisted, but it's fun. No offense guys.  Gets you off your mind for a few minutes.Another more serious thought: Maybe he wanted to make you jealous and see your reaction. Who the fuck knows? He does, that's why you should talk to him even more! (Sorry for semi-ranting! In a bad mood, teehee~!) | ||
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Snuggles
United States1865 Posts
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Daeny
18 Posts
I'm really afraid of that he just does not care and then I'm this totally naive girl. But I think I'll tell him about my feelings, as you all said. Maybe I'm lucky. | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10347 Posts
Juuuust do it (no, I don't mean it as in sex, necessarily). Try to use game theory in your approach. You have two choices and two results from this little dance: ask, don't ask; he says yes, he says no. Well, it's not a Nash game because it's turn based, but you know, it is a game of payoffs nonetheless (please don't attack me for butchering game theory concepts too much, it's been years since I took that course ).Scenarios are as follows You ask --> he says yes : YOU WIN You ask --> he says no : REJECTION You don't ask --> forever friendzoned and butthurt!! So I guess the real question is what's worse: pining eternally or rejection (which may or may not end the "friendship," which may only exist because of your pining anyway)? As a man who has been rejected and pined on fourty thousand occasions, let me tell you, looking back, I'll take rejection every time. At least you've done all you can do and pick yourself up and move on to the next "special person." Oh, and at least once someone will say yes, and it's awesome when they do. | ||
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Shock710
Australia6097 Posts
On August 08 2012 12:38 MountainDewJunkie wrote: Pretty much the same thing I would tell a man: Juuuust do it (no, I don't mean it as in sex, necessarily). Try to use game theory in your approach. You have two choices and two results from this little dance: ask, don't ask; he says yes, he says no. Well, it's not a Nash game because it's turn based, but you know, it is a game of payoffs nonetheless (please don't attack me for butchering game theory concepts too much, it's been years since I took that course ).Scenarios are as follows You ask --> he says yes : YOU WIN You ask --> he says no : REJECTION You don't ask --> forever friendzoned and butthurt!! So I guess the real question is what's worse: pining eternally or rejection (which may or may not end the "friendship," which may only exist because of your pining anyway)? As a man who has been rejected and pined on fourty thousand occasions, let me tell you, looking back, I'll take rejection every time. At least you've done all you can do and pick yourself up and move on to the next "special person." Oh, and at least once someone will say yes, and it's awesome when they do. well would you rather take 40000 pins than 40000 rejections lol after that many rejections u probably be wondering if it was better not asking, but OP u havnt reached 40000 yet so ask away! and report back ur success! which is the more likey outcome people on TL tend to be right lol goodluck! | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10347 Posts
On August 08 2012 12:52 Shock710 wrote: well would you rather take 40000 pins than 40000 rejections lol after that many rejections u probably be wondering if it was better not asking, but OP u havnt reached 40000 yet so ask away! and report back ur success! which is the more likey outcome people on TL tend to be right lol goodluck! 40000 rejections is probably an underestimation on my part. I am not a highly desirable male | ||
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Nymphaceae
United States350 Posts
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