Lol. "I think I love X," is a bad sign when that person hasn't even dated X yet (and given that you just wrote that he wants a gf ... sounds like he hasn't). Move on, find someone better.

docvoc

United States5491 Posts

August 06 2012 02:18 GMT

#25

This is getting good haha, a very simple way of getting around this is not Suprise SEX11!!!111, but maybe a showing that your are into him. Most girls are fucking stupid about flirting, I'm gonna be honest with you here, my gf tried endlessly to flirt with me, and I'm fucking stupid about that stuff so though I noticed I never got the balls to ask her. Until I did, of course because she is my gf. One thing that I have to say is a big deal with girls is this EWW, he likes a chick with like No brain and all boobs and ass, but she like, duckfaces n shit!!111!!. Well yeah ofc we do, lol, have you seen her butt?? The thing about guys is that we are attracted to physical things, we are attracted to youth first and foremost and then features that provide us with the sense of health, big boobs and big butts are a sign of that, it shows that they are not starving and that they are health

, in the right places. This is chauvenistic, yeah its shallow, but girls do it too. I doubt you have ever heard girls not talk about how they want a dude with a large penis, or even more popular, height and fitness, its pretty similar, its not like that will make or break a relationship, but its something some girls look for also.

IF you look at it from that superficial way, you will pretty much get as many hook ups as you want, and you will pretty much understand how most relationships work. Now if you want a "mature" relationship, that requires personality as well, and that is kind a more difficult thing to pin point, opposites attract for flings but birds of a feather fly together for long term things. IF you like this guy, just go and kiss him and tell him you do, don't make your life and his life hard, by telling him on fb and not talking to him unless he says yes.

In my post I'm assuming you are about 13 since you said young, if you are about 17-20 I'm sure you get my post a bit more since most of it comes with time.

Sinensis

United States2513 Posts

August 06 2012 02:25 GMT

#26

I've never read a boy blog I don't even know how to respond. Most girl blogs can be resolved simply by "manning up." Do I tell you to man up? Does "manning up" even apply here?

Cowpieguy

United States97 Posts

August 06 2012 02:35 GMT

#27

Maybe him telling you he wants a girlfriend like you was his lame attempt to tell you he likes you? But now since you didn't pick up on it he assumes you don't like him so he's looking elsewhere. I feel like that's something I might have done back in high school. Could be wrong. But I agree with everyone else that you should tell him how you feel. Ask him on a date and I would bet he won't say no. A girl asked me on a date in high school and I immediately said yes without thinking even though I wasn't emotionally attracted to her.

Thanks for writing this blog! It's always nice to hear from the female population here on tl.

AnachronisticAnarchy

United States2957 Posts

August 06 2012 03:07 GMT

#28

Not sure if it's possible to be friendzoned by a guy. Sounds kind of hard.
Disregard the surprise sex people. Unless you're butt ugly, you should basically just tell him that you like him. Of course, you would need to do this after he gets over Chloe, as he will be too distracted by his attraction towards her to care about other options that much.
You could also play the waiting game, and wait for him to ask you out. Your choice.
Also, your english is pretty good for a non-native speaker.

Chriscras

Korea (South)2812 Posts

August 06 2012 03:22 GMT

#29

Guys only date girls they are sexually attracted to...

FFGenerations

7088 Posts

August 06 2012 03:49 GMT

#30

if you are overweight (fat) then that is the number 1 problem

hkf

Australia354 Posts

August 06 2012 04:11 GMT

#31

On August 06 2012 11:25 Sinensis wrote:
I've never read a boy blog I don't even know how to respond. Most girl blogs can be resolved simply by "manning up." Do I tell you to man up? Does "manning up" even apply here?

womaning up
grow some ovaries
etc

Scarecrow

Korea (South)9174 Posts

August 06 2012 04:12 GMT

#32

Guys heavily value looks over compatibility/personality/intelligence, especially early when they're single, horny and looking. Later in relationships it becomes a lot more balanced. If you can somehow get him to see you in a sexual way then the rest should be cake cause he already likes you for everything else.

Turbovolver

Australia2419 Posts

August 06 2012 04:19 GMT

#33

On August 06 2012 13:12 Scarecrow wrote:
Guys heavily value looks over compatibility/personality/intelligence, especially early when they're single, horny and looking. Later in relationships it becomes a lot more balanced. If you can somehow get him to see you in a sexual way then the rest should be cake cause he already likes you for everything else.

Yeah, which is why people were suggesting the surprise sex.

Shame all the weird white knights had to come and try to show how understanding of women they are and ruined it.

Guys are generally way less picky than girls, as evolution dictates they should be. They respond very highly to demonstrations of interest from girls, especially nerdier, shyer guys.

ampson

United States2355 Posts

August 06 2012 04:39 GMT

#34

You want the man? Use your femininity. That will get him to you incredibly quick, especially if he's shy. Seeing as you are so compatible, it should be good. This obviously fails if you are somehow unattractive to him (as FFgenerations said, being overweight almost always is a major turn off). Unfair I suppose but such is the reality of life, and looks matter a lot to teenage guys. You could also always make the first move, which might work if he is very very shy, however if he is really into this other woman you would have no chance and would be better off waiting it out. Anyways, your best bet is flirting (slightly physically), as if he's not into you he could chalk it up to you being weird and you wouldn't get a straight up rejection. On the other hand, if he is receptive to it, it is an almost surefire sign that he's into you. Bottom line, with teenagers SEX SELLS.

Shock710

Australia6097 Posts

August 06 2012 06:55 GMT

#35

around how old is the op, cause some people are saying like 12-13, but she lives in a flat by herself so maybe hes like 18-20 young, if shes like 12-13...the sex thing is WAY OUT OF BOUNDS, and even if shes 18-20 its not our business to worry about the "sex" part, i'm pretty sure non-"suprise sex" advice is what the op is looking for

FFGenerations

7088 Posts

August 06 2012 07:25 GMT

#36

party pooper

Intr3pid

Switzerland336 Posts

August 06 2012 07:49 GMT

#37

You got it all wrong girl. He was clearly sending out the signs that he likes YOU (although in a stupid way, but he is young and I did similar stuff way back). This is what probably happened:

- Describing the girl of his dreams that is like you means he really likes you. He doesn't have the balls to tell it straight out so he is trying to get some positive reaction when he says that. Something that might give him a hint that he is the boy of your dreams too. He is desperately trying to get information that you like him too, so that he can eventually muster up the courage to tell you how he feels.

The best thing to go about such remarks in my experience is humour. 'So the girl of your dreams is me with big breasts'. That might kick the conversation in the right direction.

- Now the second sign he is sending is the fact he is telling you that he is in love with another girl. He is very likely not, he is just trying to make you jealous (well succeeded).

So my advice is this: Just try to tilt the conversation to this subject when you are together by asking questions:
- Do you think I should dress/behave differently to be more attractive to guys?
- Would you like a girl to ask you out on a date?
- Do you think good friends can make a good couple?
- If you have the balls, you can just tell him that you like him, and that you were wondering what it would be like to be more than friends.

Good luck girl!

zatic

Zurich15366 Posts

August 06 2012 08:21 GMT

#38

So you are German? He is never going to make the first move then.

Your turn.

Arcanefrost

Belgium1257 Posts

August 06 2012 08:51 GMT

#39

Like always, you're in the friendzone because you were just being his friend. Getting out of it is as simple as gradually increasing touching/flirting/hugs/...

slam

United States923 Posts

August 06 2012 10:05 GMT

#40

So why don't you make the first move?

Are you afraid if it doesn't work out then being friends will be awkward afterwards and the friendship will no longer be the same?

Maybe he feels the same?

That is the friend zone. :\
It's not a bad thing, just treasure your friendship and be happy with that relationship.