EPTWould you be pissed off at her? - Page 7
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BadgKat
United States156 Posts
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SeraKuDA
Canada343 Posts
She's handling this properly, let it go. | ||
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Brett
Australia3820 Posts
On January 21 2012 11:08 SeraKuDA wrote: Dude, really? Not to be rude but you sound like the smothering type. She's handling this properly, let it go. Dude, really? Not to be rude but you sound like the poor reading comprehension type. It's in the thread, let it go. xoxo | ||
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SeraKuDA
Canada343 Posts
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KeksX
Germany3634 Posts
wasn't annoyed or bothered with it at all he was just asking for our opinion. This is getting really, really silly. | ||
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neoghaleon55
United States7434 Posts
If I were in your shoes, I would tell her that it's ok that you guys won't have time on that day, but for future reference, you would appreciate a heads up, or be allowed to have a discussion about it before a decision is reached. There's not much you can do about the current circumstance, and making a big deal out of it would most likely end up horribly... so just let her know "I'm fine with the current plans, but I would appreciate it if next time you discuss plans with me in matters involving our relationship before reaching a decision." I feel that this is the most diplomatic approach. Good luck. | ||
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StarStruck
25339 Posts
Get over it. You can always celebrate it tomorrow. ._. P.S. The fact that you decided to write a blog based on it sends me the message that it does more than bother you. If it's trivial I don't see why you would write about it. To me, it sounds like you are trying to find a way around it when the dinner table conversation wasn't enough. | ||
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ExceeD_DreaM
Canada500 Posts
Of course there are times when we are too busy or caught up and have to meet the day after. But we try. I understand that in your case, your gf DOESN'T have to spend time that night with the fam. but you gotta know family always comes first. before marriage that is. If my sister came back from a long vacation, then on the first day I think I would spend the day with my fam, and next day with gf. Actually, I'd like to spend the day with gf and day after with fam, but either way is fine. I don't think you should be too bothered with it. | ||
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Classysaurus
United States78 Posts
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kierpanda
United States757 Posts
I would just celebrate the anniversary on a separate day this year. The date really isn't that important. | ||
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Bub
United States3518 Posts
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Swede
New Zealand853 Posts
On January 22 2012 00:56 KeksX wrote: He wasn't annoyed or bothered with it at all he was just asking for our opinion. This is getting really, really silly. I know. Sometimes I feel like an asshole for hating people... But this thread makes it too easy. He's explained it so clearly so many times and most people still misunderstand. This is my understanding: The OP posted this not because he felt 'angry' (he has specified that at most he felt fleeting disappointment/annoyance), but because he was surprised by how his family reacted when it came up in conversation (he didn't bring it up). He then became curious if this was a normal reaction since his family/friends were so "unanimous in their surprise" (ie should he actually be angry? etc) and so decided to ask the TL population about the situation. Stupidly, a lot of the people berating him actually suggested the exact course of action he took. My opinion: Your family/friends are overreacting. You made the right choice in not making something of it. Other posters have mentioned that celebrating your anniversary on that specific date might be more important if the relationship had been going on longer/was very serious (ie living together, considering engagement etc), which I can get behind. \ | ||
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MrBitter
United States2939 Posts
On January 22 2012 00:56 KeksX wrote: He wasn't annoyed or bothered with it at all he was just asking for our opinion. This is getting really, really silly. On January 17 2012 21:00 Brett wrote: So in about a week my gf and I will have been together for a year. The relationship has been amazing, we're crazy about each other, and see it as a serious thing. By coincedence, her little sister, who is about 3 years younger than her, gets back from a solo jaunt around Europe on the same day (she was gone for a month, and it was her first time overseas). Anyway, the other night I was at my gf's place and she mentions that our anniversary falls on the same day that her sister gets back, and that that means we won't get to do anything for our anniversary, on the actual day. I was a bit surprised, as I was already aware that my gf was going to the airport with her parents to pick her sister up before she went to work that day, and kind of assumed we'd go out that night. In the interests of full disclosure, I should also state that we are spending the following weekend away together interstate. I felt disappointed, maybe slightly annoyed, but not in a rage of jealousy. To get to the point of this, I mentioned the above to my mates, and again to my mother at family dinner last night, and everyone was unanimous in their, well... surprise... at her apparent decision to cut me from that day. So, to those in, or those who have been in, serious relationships, would that bother you given the significance of your first year together? Or, given that we've made plans for the weekend, see each other often, and the circumstances of her sister's return, do you think it's no big deal if we don't celebrate on the day? Personally, I'm not too bothered by her spending the night with her sister instead of me, but was a bit annoyed that she just made the choice without even discussing it with me. My friends/mother have a different view... Anyway, sound off below! Couple things: 1.) Brett, you sound like a dick. Not from your OP, but from how you're responding to people who you seem to disagree with. 2.) I'm of the opinion that stuff like this is no big deal. One year is exciting, but so is seeing your sister for the first time after she's just traveled around the world. You'll see her the next day, you should be cool with that. In other words, it's not worth getting upset over. In the spirit of full disclosure and honesty, tell her how you feel, but also tell her that you don't expect her to change her plans, and you can't wait to have your anniversary dinner. Even if it's a day or two late. | ||
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Subversive
Australia2229 Posts
On January 24 2012 11:58 MrBitter wrote: Couple things: 1.) Brett, you sound like a dick. Not from your OP, but from how you're responding to people who you seem to disagree with. 2.) I'm of the opinion that stuff like this is no big deal. One year is exciting, but so is seeing your sister for the first time after she's just traveled around the world. You'll see her the next day, you should be cool with that. In other words, it's not worth getting upset over. In the spirit of full disclosure and honesty, tell her how you feel, but also tell her that you don't expect her to change her plans, and you can't wait to have your anniversary dinner. Even if it's a day or two late. It's a funny thread. Brett on the one hand is getting pretty angry with people who are disagreeing with him. However they are the ones who are usually being pretty insulting as well. It never looks good to ask for advice or opinion and then criticise, however to be really fair, if Brett is being a dick to some posters here it's because they are being dicks to him first. You can disagree with him without being rude. | ||
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Salv
Canada3083 Posts
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MutantGenepool
Australia115 Posts
Edit; I really don't think you should be mad at her. It's family and you will be the outsider until you marry her. That's real life. Rule 1; Never, ever get between family members, even if thay hate each other. You will come out singed or badly burned. Remember. Your GF has known her little sister a lot longer than she has known you, and she's blood. Be cool, be happy. | ||
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Inzek
Chile802 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
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Najda
United States3765 Posts
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KeksX
Germany3634 Posts
On January 24 2012 11:58 MrBitter wrote: Couple things: 1.) Brett, you sound like a dick. Not from your OP, but from how you're responding to people who you seem to disagree with. 2.) I'm of the opinion that stuff like this is no big deal. One year is exciting, but so is seeing your sister for the first time after she's just traveled around the world. You'll see her the next day, you should be cool with that. In other words, it's not worth getting upset over. In the spirit of full disclosure and honesty, tell her how you feel, but also tell her that you don't expect her to change her plans, and you can't wait to have your anniversary dinner. Even if it's a day or two late. Okay you're right, my post wasn't correct. But if I'm telling you that your post annoys me a bit you'd think that there's an issue we have to talk about and it's something important or of greater relevance? No, it just means that I have the urge to respond. And nothing else. If it wasn't for this bit off annoyance there wouldn't be a blog about it. However, this doesn't mean it's an issue at all. And you have to give him the "benefit of the doubt" that if he's saying there's no real issue. there's none. You can't just say "Well you're saying something else but you did write "bit annoyed" so I think you're a major dick"(Refering to other posts, not yours). You can say anything about the way he responds, but that doesn't mean you can just tell him what he's thinking when he's saying something different. He didnt' say anything to her and he wanted to find other opinions to get a better view of it, but the only thing people did was judge his initial thoughts on it and base their posts around that. And this is, what I think, just silly. He's asking "Would you be pissed off at her?" And says that he's a bit annoyed by it and doesn't do anything about it, yet people act like he threw a tantrum or something. | ||
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