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On January 18 2012 07:34 ziggurat wrote:
Your response should have been, "too bad, I was planning to get you a really nice present!"
Then tell her that since she's busy that day you made plans to get together with your ex "to catch up".
I believe the preferred nomenclature for this is being a little bitch.
@OP who cares, just see her the next day. This just sounds like your mom/friends got you insecure about it.
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I wouldn't be pissed. I most likely wouldn't know about the anniversary in the first place. Then again, we're all different and if something pisses you off it's not right or wrong, it's just the way it is.
Either way I wouldn't make a big deal out of it and try to be more understanding, even more so since it's just your first year, which means your relationship shouldn't be serious enough for it to interfere with her family issues.
Honestly I don't see what you could gain in this situation by complaining. If you do complain, you probably won't get to spend the day with her anyway and even if you do, she'll be pissed off the whole time and could ruin it. You can probably gain more "relationship dominance" if you pretend like you don't care at all, so expressing yourself in this case doesn't seem reasonable to me.
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anniverseries are overrated especially if its only one year
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Fuck that, it's a year. If the relationship is legit in any manner, you'll have plenty more in the future. I've never been sentimental about doing special things on specific dates, it should be enough that you can both acknowledge it in the first place.
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On January 18 2012 05:52 Kleinmuuhg wrote:
...Stop asking for advice on how to talk to/interact with your gf on the internet, period....
I'm not. I was curious about how others would view it. Anyway, I understand your point.
On January 18 2012 06:38 jjun212 wrote:
mm; naw dont be mad
i was waiting for a kicker like.. then she cheated on you.. but nothing like that.
anyway; month or not; its family first.
if i was her shoes, and my gf or bf got mad at me for something like that.. i was kinda be like.. wtf? thats a red flag. if youre gonna get mad at something like that.. who knows what other small stuff will tick you off..
Please read things, then respond. A cookie for effort I guess?
On January 18 2012 07:01 Vulture174 wrote:
Whether you like it or not you are her bf and have been together a year. Really nothing that special. If you were married it would probably be a deal on some lvl. What you need to understand is that any sister that has a good relationship would still be closer than you, you have been around for a year she has been there forever. If she actually favored you over her sister I would say she was doing something wrong. People put too much importance on there gf or bf as a general rule these days. Until you are married take it easy and understand that family will probably take first in line of importance. Btw I have been married for 4 years now and have a great relationship with both my wife and her family so I am not some high-school scrub.
Yeah, I agree with that. Like someone else said after you, I think my fam/friends' reaction threw me.
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definitly no big deal. you can always celebrate weekend/day after/before
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Honestly I'd be a bit annoyed she didnt bring it up sooner but not overly upset about anything else other than the timing that she told you. As you said you spend a lot of time with her the week after. Not a huge deal I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
Enjoy your weekend with her  I know this happened with me for my 2 year anniversary with my ex and all you need to be is understanding and it all works out wonderfully lol
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On January 18 2012 05:37 Brett wrote:Show nested quote +On January 17 2012 23:55 Barrin wrote:
This means next to nothing, and not letting it affect you (honestly simply talking about it with other people than her is a sign that it does affect you).
The best thing to do here is the masculine thing: not give a shit. How do you even reason to your conclusion? There was a discussion -> He must have brought it up ? The only reason I brought it up here is that I was surprised that my fam/friends were more agitated than I was. So I came here for further opinion. Turns out, most people are similar to me in that they didn't think it was a big deal. Despite this, some people decide to jump on my words like 'surprise' and 'a bit annoyed' and go all Dr Phil on me to say that I'm being emotional, a girl, or whatever. If I need to simplify the thought process, it was "Not doing something? Oh ok, hmm, would have been nice to have been asked whether we were doing something first. Oh well, back to HIMYM". Done. Then it comes up in conversation and everyone is like "Oh really? WTH, her sister has only been gone a month. Did she ask you to go with them at least? blah blah" My thought process was not that of my fam/friends, nor that assumed by many people in this blog. I don't know how I can make it more simple than that.
We reached this particular conclusion not because of you blogging it but rather because you saw fit to bitch and whine bring up the issue with friends and family. Whom also realising that you are upset because why else would you even talk to them about it decided to support you and trash talk the heartless bitch.
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On January 18 2012 10:58 ShadeR wrote:Show nested quote +On January 18 2012 05:37 Brett wrote:On January 17 2012 23:55 Barrin wrote:
This means next to nothing, and not letting it affect you (honestly simply talking about it with other people than her is a sign that it does affect you).
The best thing to do here is the masculine thing: not give a shit. How do you even reason to your conclusion? There was a discussion -> He must have brought it up ? The only reason I brought it up here is that I was surprised that my fam/friends were more agitated than I was. So I came here for further opinion. Turns out, most people are similar to me in that they didn't think it was a big deal. Despite this, some people decide to jump on my words like 'surprise' and 'a bit annoyed' and go all Dr Phil on me to say that I'm being emotional, a girl, or whatever. If I need to simplify the thought process, it was "Not doing something? Oh ok, hmm, would have been nice to have been asked whether we were doing something first. Oh well, back to HIMYM". Done. Then it comes up in conversation and everyone is like "Oh really? WTH, her sister has only been gone a month. Did she ask you to go with them at least? blah blah" My thought process was not that of my fam/friends, nor that assumed by many people in this blog. I don't know how I can make it more simple than that. We reached this particular conclusion not because of you blogging it but rather because you saw fit to bitch and whine bring up the issue with friends and family. Whom also realising that you are upset because why else would you even talk to them about it decided to support you and trash talk the heartless bitch.
You're making assumptions. The same as the person I quoted in that excerpt. I didn't bring it up with them. Do I have to put that in big font, italics? You don't have friends and family ask you what you're doing for a birthday? You've never asked your friends what they're doing for valentines day? People ask others about what is going on in your life assuming you have a life when you step away from the computer (oh look what I did there). This is not a difficult concept, buddy . I'm happy to have input, but please understand what has already been discussed in the past 5 pages before teeing off with the heroism.
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if she's that special some one then you'd be spending plenty of anniversary together anyway ...
if she's not, then you just dodged the bullet buddy
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On January 18 2012 11:09 Brett wrote:Show nested quote +On January 18 2012 10:58 ShadeR wrote:On January 18 2012 05:37 Brett wrote:On January 17 2012 23:55 Barrin wrote:
This means next to nothing, and not letting it affect you (honestly simply talking about it with other people than her is a sign that it does affect you).
The best thing to do here is the masculine thing: not give a shit. How do you even reason to your conclusion? There was a discussion -> He must have brought it up ? The only reason I brought it up here is that I was surprised that my fam/friends were more agitated than I was. So I came here for further opinion. Turns out, most people are similar to me in that they didn't think it was a big deal. Despite this, some people decide to jump on my words like 'surprise' and 'a bit annoyed' and go all Dr Phil on me to say that I'm being emotional, a girl, or whatever. If I need to simplify the thought process, it was "Not doing something? Oh ok, hmm, would have been nice to have been asked whether we were doing something first. Oh well, back to HIMYM". Done. Then it comes up in conversation and everyone is like "Oh really? WTH, her sister has only been gone a month. Did she ask you to go with them at least? blah blah" My thought process was not that of my fam/friends, nor that assumed by many people in this blog. I don't know how I can make it more simple than that. We reached this particular conclusion not because of you blogging it but rather because you saw fit to bitch and whine bring up the issue with friends and family. Whom also realising that you are upset because why else would you even talk to them about it decided to support you and trash talk the heartless bitch. You're making assumptions. The same as the person I quoted in that excerpt. I didn't bring it up with them. Do I have to put that in big font, italics? You don't have friends and family ask you what you're doing for a birthday? You've never asked your friends what they're doing for valentines day? People ask others about what is going on in your life assuming you have a life when you step away from the computer (oh look what I did there). This is not a difficult concept, buddy . I'm happy to have input, but please understand what has already been discussed in the past 5 pages before teeing off with the heroism.
I don't think you've made enough posts about how it doesn't bother you yet. If I were you I'd post that it doesn't bother you a couple more times right away.
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On January 18 2012 13:54 ziggurat wrote:Show nested quote +On January 18 2012 11:09 Brett wrote:On January 18 2012 10:58 ShadeR wrote:On January 18 2012 05:37 Brett wrote:On January 17 2012 23:55 Barrin wrote:
This means next to nothing, and not letting it affect you (honestly simply talking about it with other people than her is a sign that it does affect you).
The best thing to do here is the masculine thing: not give a shit. How do you even reason to your conclusion? There was a discussion -> He must have brought it up ? The only reason I brought it up here is that I was surprised that my fam/friends were more agitated than I was. So I came here for further opinion. Turns out, most people are similar to me in that they didn't think it was a big deal. Despite this, some people decide to jump on my words like 'surprise' and 'a bit annoyed' and go all Dr Phil on me to say that I'm being emotional, a girl, or whatever. If I need to simplify the thought process, it was "Not doing something? Oh ok, hmm, would have been nice to have been asked whether we were doing something first. Oh well, back to HIMYM". Done. Then it comes up in conversation and everyone is like "Oh really? WTH, her sister has only been gone a month. Did she ask you to go with them at least? blah blah" My thought process was not that of my fam/friends, nor that assumed by many people in this blog. I don't know how I can make it more simple than that. We reached this particular conclusion not because of you blogging it but rather because you saw fit to bitch and whine bring up the issue with friends and family. Whom also realising that you are upset because why else would you even talk to them about it decided to support you and trash talk the heartless bitch. You're making assumptions. The same as the person I quoted in that excerpt. I didn't bring it up with them. Do I have to put that in big font, italics? You don't have friends and family ask you what you're doing for a birthday? You've never asked your friends what they're doing for valentines day? People ask others about what is going on in your life assuming you have a life when you step away from the computer (oh look what I did there). This is not a difficult concept, buddy . I'm happy to have input, but please understand what has already been discussed in the past 5 pages before teeing off with the heroism. I don't think you've made enough posts about how it doesn't bother you yet. If I were you I'd post that it doesn't bother you a couple more times right away.
Hahaha, amazing contribution, kid. Thanks.
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Is this really such a big deal ?
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Why is a day special because it's one year after you started dating? That seems kinda dumb in the first place... and the kinda thing girls usually care about, not guys /sexism. I think you're way overreacting.
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On January 18 2012 16:45 Jonoman92 wrote:
Why is a day special because it's one year after you started dating? That seems kinda dumb in the first place... and the kinda thing girls usually care about, not guys /sexism. I think you're way overreacting.
If overreacting is simply posting a thread about it asking for complete randoms to voice their opinion, then, uhhh, guilty. If you think it's something more than that, you didn't read it properly.
On January 18 2012 16:40 SarR wrote:
Is this really such a big deal ?
No, I was just curious about how everyone else would react. End of story really.
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really OP grow up.
I just dont know what more to say here. Your girlfriend is not going to leave you. So be a man and say that you can understand that she wants to spend some time with her sister who she didnt see for a month while she did see your face probably every day
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On January 18 2012 17:08 Skilledblob wrote:
really OP grow up.
I just dont know what more to say here. Your girlfriend is not going to leave you. So be a man and say that you can understand that she wants to spend some time with her sister who she didnt see for a month while she did see your face probably every day
Useless. Your second sentence should have tipped you off to the fact that you really had nothing to add here. Then you go off on some tangent. Frankly I don't know how you reach the conclusion you do. But whatever.
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if this bothers you enough to make a blog post about it, and say it doesn't bother you, you need to re evaluate your life.
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lol and I'm the dramatic one? riiiight
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Sometimes the answers make the full blog so much more entertaining.
Sorry Brett(That name is so funny for me as a German >.< lol), I know what you wanted to say and all that, but you gotta admit that its kinda funny how people respond. xD
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