Sociality Sucks (Compared to Staying in Your Room) - Page 3
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meguca
United States78 Posts
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Shamrock_
South Africa276 Posts
On August 29 2011 10:59 StarStruck wrote: From your story, you don't sound like an alcoholic. Sound more like a clubber, for the short time you did it. There's a very big difference. I'll leave the alcoholic chapter for a different blog. This didn't really address it. I find it interesting to note that it sounds like a lot of gamers have gone through this. Initially you play video games like there's no tomorrow, then avoid them like a plague, then find a balance. | ||
igotmyown
United States4291 Posts
To comment on it neutrally, the dark side of gaming is more like the absence of good. You don't do anything really bad, but with the exception of tournaments and meetup type social events, you don't do anything really good either. You may not meet a lot of new people, and a lot of those that you meet share very few common interests outside of the game (though you could be lucky). The downside of clubbing/partying, other than alcoholism, getting into a rut, and possible depression, there's a point where you're not really getting much more going out n+1 times a month than n times. And it can cost money, you kind of meet the same type of people, like anything you else you might become kind of one dimensional and uninteresting. The upside of going out, well, you never know what's going to happen, and you might meet some interesting people, and you'll have better stories. Pretty valuable things from a humanistic point of view. And parties are fun, but some clubs can be antisocial, and bars too if people get too into it. | ||
TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
My main problem is that I don't really have a "wingman" type friend right now. Going out and picking up is just not in the cards for me, since no one I know really wants to do that sort of thing. So, when the prospect of "hanging out" at someone's house for the 1000th time comes up on a weekend, and I don't feel like doing it, I don't go out. I get very little out of it for myself other than some decent friendship time, but since I get so much of that already I don't need to do it again and again. When I'm home though I'm simply not in the mood to play Starcraft or anything else. I haven't played a serious video game in about 2 months. I just watch TV on my computer or look up music on YouTube. I've found a shitload of great music in the past 8 months, but I still feel like I'm wasting time. This actually led to a positive last night. Out of boredom I decided to see if I was eligible for a government-issued no-interest student loan for the fall. Turns out they're giving me $10,000. Now I can actually afford to go to school. | ||
StarStruck
25339 Posts
On August 29 2011 19:36 Shamrock_ wrote: I'll leave the alcoholic chapter for a different blog. This didn't really address it. I find it interesting to note that it sounds like a lot of gamers have gone through this. Initially you play video games like there's no tomorrow, then avoid them like a plague, then find a balance. Fair enough. Waiting to hear those tales. O: I used to drink a stupid amount myself every night, but I still would never consider myself an alcoholic. | ||
TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
On August 29 2011 22:57 StarStruck wrote: I used to drink a stupid amount myself every night, but I still would never consider myself an alcoholic. The true mark of an alcoholic is if they drink a lot alone. My friend will have a beer to relax when he gets home from work. That's fine. I know another guy though who will down 10-20 beers by himself without eating in a night. That is not. | ||
PetitCrabe
Canada410 Posts
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DoctorHelvetica
United States15034 Posts
On August 29 2011 23:00 TheGiz wrote: The true mark of an alcoholic is if they drink a lot alone. My friend will have a beer to relax when he gets home from work. That's fine. I know another guy though who will down 10-20 beers by himself without eating in a night. That is not. This is absolutely true. When drinking heavily with friends I never felt like my life was really in a bad place but once I started binge drinking alone nearly every night my life got pretty dark. | ||
Shamrock_
South Africa276 Posts
On August 30 2011 01:28 PetitCrabe wrote: I could definitly be wrong about this, but I figured a while back that everybody does their thing. Some game a lot, some go clubbing a lot, some play sports a lot etc etc. The only difference is that the clubbing/bar/drinking bunch, although not majority, is more visible, vocal and more represented as being 'normal'. I thought I was anti-social because I don't like to go to clubs and stuff like that, but I figured I was just hanging out with the wrong persons. It wasn't really hard after figuring that out to find some people who liked to game, hang out inside, play board games and from time to time go out in bars. Of course. We're gamers. We game. Clubbers club, partiers party. I don't really wanna judge them for it. The lifestyle itself isn't really all that great from my observation, but of course that's left up to them. People are different and enjoy different things. | ||
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