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Drekkonis
Canada286 Posts
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mono_regio
Germany77 Posts
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inanotherlifetime
Sweden233 Posts
On November 23 2012 04:16 mono_regio wrote: some pros actually commented but cant remember who it was. use search or browse through all 320 pages I think at least Mr.Bitter or/and RotterdaM posted in here at some point. The last few post here are very interesting. I actually have always thought this would be the case, even though never knowing such a scale actually existed. Not sure where I would fit in, but probably a 1 or 2. | ||
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marvellosity
United Kingdom36161 Posts
On November 22 2012 10:59 Silverfoxx wrote: I'm sure i'm not the best to talk about this, because I can't say even what the name of it is, but there is a theory out there that sexuality is a bit of a scale, that you can have people who are 99% of the way to straight or 99% of the way towards gay but have that one awkward night, and that everyone is a LITTLE straight, or a LITTLE gay. I'll just leave that until someone who remembers the theory talks about it here instead. X3 naw, i'm totes not even a little straight | ||
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EnterpriseE1701E
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AnachronisticAnarchy
United States2957 Posts
On November 22 2012 11:51 Shiragaku wrote: Here is a scale by Kinsey which may answer your question. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale Sadly, this seems more subjective rather than objective. I am gay, but I rank myself four since I find girls like Leo from Tekken attractive. ![[image loading]](http://images2.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20110901161856/tekken/en/images/thumb/9/9b/800px-Leo_-_Tekken_6_-_Wallpaper.jpg/640px-800px-Leo_-_Tekken_6_-_Wallpaper.jpg) She does look like one of those "girly guys" you see in Asian media, in my opinion. I actually thought she was a guy until I read your post. | ||
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Silverfoxx
United States184 Posts
On November 28 2012 06:49 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: She does look like one of those "girly guys" you see in Asian media, in my opinion. I actually thought she was a guy until I read your post. I actually am not even 100% sure. I thought tekken's intent was to make Leo as gender ambiguous as possible. That being said, I also never read the manual for the game (though I think they describe Leo by name each time a pronoun would be used) and I know Leo's not as up there in video game history as Poison and Birdo are for gender WTF!?'s. | ||
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Zer atai
United States691 Posts
On November 28 2012 06:49 AnachronisticAnarchy wrote: She does look like one of those "girly guys" you see in Asian media, in my opinion. I actually thought she was a guy until I read your post. I agree. I thought she was male | ||
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SHOOG
United States1639 Posts
One of my very good friends for about 4 years just came out and admitted to being gay. This was about a week ago and since then he has made very little contact with me or any of his other close friends. I'm worried about him because I feel like he's taking on the idea that we no longer want to hang out with him because of it. That's not the case at all. We are completely accepting of his decision and support him, but he hasn't even given us a chance to talk to him. He won't answer any of his calls or texts. I don't know if this at all common for someone to do. I just want to know how to go about talking to him. Should I just go over to his house and try talking to him? | ||
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neoghaleon55
United States7435 Posts
On November 28 2012 11:51 SHOOG wrote: Hey everyone. I have a problem right now with one of my friends and I just need some advice on how to go about it. It's really worrying me. One of my very good friends for about 4 years just came out and admitted to being gay. This was about a week ago and since then he has made very little contact with me or any of his other close friends. I'm worried about him because I feel like he's taking on the idea that we no longer want to hang out with him because of it. That's not the case at all. We are completely accepting of his decision and support him, but he hasn't even given us a chance to talk to him. He won't answer any of his calls or texts. I don't know if this at all common for someone to do. I just want to know how to go about talking to him. Should I just go over to his house and try talking to him? sounds like a reasonable idea. go for it. | ||
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Actionfigurejesus
United States38 Posts
Hey everyone. I have a problem right now with one of my friends and I just need some advice on how to go about it. It's really worrying me. One of my very good friends for about 4 years just came out and admitted to being gay. This was about a week ago and since then he has made very little contact with me or any of his other close friends. I'm worried about him because I feel like he's taking on the idea that we no longer want to hang out with him because of it. That's not the case at all. We are completely accepting of his decision and support him, but he hasn't even given us a chance to talk to him. He won't answer any of his calls or texts. I don't know if this at all common for someone to do. I just want to know how to go about talking to him. Should I just go over to his house and try talking to him? yeah, I'd try that I think. If he won't answer calls or texts, you'll have to just go knock on his door. The problem could be that even after telling you, he still feels somewhat uncomfortable. When I told my friends, there was a long period of time where I was glad that they knew and they said they were all completely comfortable with it, but I felt really vulnerable around them and it was somewhat uncomfortable for me. Even after your friends know there is still a lot of built up shame and embarrassment surrounding the topic for some people. I don't know you or your friend so I can't say what is actually going through his mind, but I think going and knocking on his door would be a good idea if you can't talk to him via phone or text. | ||
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Drekkonis
Canada286 Posts
On November 28 2012 11:51 SHOOG wrote: Hey everyone. I have a problem right now with one of my friends and I just need some advice on how to go about it. It's really worrying me. One of my very good friends for about 4 years just came out and admitted to being gay. This was about a week ago and since then he has made very little contact with me or any of his other close friends. I'm worried about him because I feel like he's taking on the idea that we no longer want to hang out with him because of it. That's not the case at all. We are completely accepting of his decision and support him, but he hasn't even given us a chance to talk to him. He won't answer any of his calls or texts. I don't know if this at all common for someone to do. I just want to know how to go about talking to him. Should I just go over to his house and try talking to him? He might be in a state where he is assuming the worse. Being ostracised by friends, family and peers is one of the toughest hurdles with coming out because you create scenarios of how you THINK it might turn out. So he could be trapped in his own mind right now afraid that what he thinks might actually be reality. Do a gesture of kindness and unconditional support towards him, and he'll put down his guard. Depending on your friendship I recommend writing a letter and leaving it at his door, nothing is more personal than a hand written letter and include some sort of sentiment of a memory you share (hanging out , doing crazy stuff, some crazy adventure) something you did before he came out to you and show him that nothing is and won't change. Right now he might be trying to figure out things on his own and just wants to process it, so you don't want to corner him , just let him know that the door is open and he can come to you (and your friends if you can speak for them) when he is ready. | ||
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RoMGraViTy
United States314 Posts
I joined this thread 1 year and four months ago. I was shy, confused, and had never had a gay friend in my life. In the time that I’ve been here, I have made many good friends, learned a great deal about myself, and more importantly, gained a great deal of confidence. The snowball effect that began when I first noticed this thread led to something this past week which I never imagined actually happening – I came out to my mom. I need to credit the amazing people ive met here, without whose support and friendship, Id have no idea where I’d be today. Among the many people here, I formed a close friendship with three people in particular at different periods of time that helped me more than anything – GDR, Sprouter, and my incredible friend Nick. It is primarily through my friendships with each of them that I gained confidence in myself and comfort in my own skin. I am incredibly grateful to have met each of them. . . . Tuesday night did not go as planned. It was a simple trip with my mom to take the dog to the vet. Having been troubled deeply over the past few weeks by the incredible desire to come out to my parents and the unrelenting fear it was giving me, I designed a plan to appear (more than I already was anyway), depressed, extremely quiet, disinterested in things, all in order to grab attention and and make them question me directly. This plan had shown signs of working, and it culminated Tuesday (for my mom) on the drive with a barrage of questions and guesses as to what was bothering me. By exhausting every other possibility she could think of come up with, my hope was that it would open the door to “other” possibilities. It was a gut wrenching ride. My chest was pounding, and I could only answer “no” again and again to her inquiries. Nearly there, I made the decision to tell her before the drive home. While there, I was mentally freaking out. There were occasions were occasions when my eyes watered as I rehearsed a speech in my head, and she noticed. I’m glad I had by chance not taken my meds that day, as the amphetamines would probably have given me a heart attack. When finished, I took the dog back to the car and waited for her, trying to muster up every ounce of courage among the fear. She came, and as she started the car, I raised my hand and signaled her to stop. A shorter paraphrase of the speech id been preparing began – “There has been something torturing me for a long time…. I may not seem like it, I may not act like it, but… ….Im…Im gay” And I started tearing up. I don’t know if she did, I only could look forward for several minutes. Then started the expected questions: Are you certain about this? How long have you known? I did my best to answer. This was quickly followed up with, as every person doing this hopes to hear, “its ok, I still love you” This went on for a few more minutes. She said I never should have held that in for so long and never to do that again, to which I said I couldn't imagine anything equating to it. On the way home, she agreed to keep it secret from my dad until im ready, and I told her that she should ask any questions she wanted, which she did. Overall the ride with very somber, but far more relax than it had been. We spoke for the for short ride home, the dog on my lap the entire time. When we got home, we hugged, said a few things, and went inside where my dad was already home from work, and we spoke nothing else of it that night. There was only another long hug shortly before I went to bed following watching the back half of the Two Towers with her and my brother, continuing my campaign to make her watch The Lord of the Rings for the first time. In summary- Im not sure how I feel. On one hand, I’m still incredibly nervous about telling my dad, and beyond that, the rest of my family and friends. But on the other, a huge burden has been lifted, and confidence renewed. There is another topic which id like to quickly chime in on here and now because of its relevance. For the entirety of the time that I have been part of this thread, there have been periodic posts asking why such a thread needs to exist. For my part, I can honestly say that without this thread, I never would have met so many wonderful people, who share similar interests and stories, without whom I never would have gained the confidence necessary to accept myself, let alone tell others. StarCraft was only a pylon, a common interest, by which this group of people met and became friends, a group which I wouldn't be the same without. Its true that my experience was only just another step on a long road, but after months of secrecy and severe anxiety, I can begin to speak and act a little more freely. While my next big step is to tell my dad, I am far less worried about it now than I’ve ever been. It would appear that I have crossed the Rubicon. | ||
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Troxle
United States486 Posts
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Klondikebar
United States2227 Posts
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neoghaleon55
United States7435 Posts
very happy for you. <3 | ||
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Sprouter
United States1724 Posts
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Lynda
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Agent-
United States1 Post
Keep it up, you have us all here behind you, rootin' you all the way. | ||
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KiF1rE
United States964 Posts
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