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On November 07 2011 23:23 VitaLetum wrote:
Personally im not gay; but i think this is a cool thread and hope you guys find some peace without too many trolls. its nice to know sc is making farther reaches out there! Ive been trying to get my gay friend to play for some time and maybe with the gay community out there i can at least get him to try it out now!
You should point out how fabulous Kerrigan and Nova are and how hot Matt Horner is. Seriously, if I was ever to cosplay in drag or do gay halloween, I would be Nova.
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I have a really dumb question, how do you meet other gay ppl IRL?
I just recently moved back home from college so all my friends from the past 4 years are spread out over the country. I don't have the balls to just go to a gay bar by myself and start talking to people. Is there a better way to meet people or do I just need to strap on my glitter covered balls, guzzle some whiskey, and talk to random strangers?
Oh, and all my highschool/local friends are straight and they refuse to go to gay bars with me. One of the consequences of coming from an extremely conservative culture and being deep in the closet for most of your life is that you end up with extremely conservative friends who ignore the fact that you're gay and absolutely refuse to help you be gay at all.
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On November 08 2011 06:38 Klondikebar wrote:
I have a really dumb question, how do you meet other gay ppl IRL?
I just recently moved back home from college so all my friends from the past 4 years are spread out over the country. I don't have the balls to just go to a gay bar by myself and start talking to people. Is there a better way to meet people or do I just need to strap on my glitter covered balls, guzzle some whiskey, and talk to random strangers?
Oh, and all my highschool/local friends are straight and they refuse to go to gay bars with me. One of the consequences of coming from an extremely conservative culture and being deep in the closet for most of your life is that you end up with extremely conservative friends who ignore the fact that you're gay and absolutely refuse to help you be gay at all.
just go to a gay bar and start talking to people imo. do the exact thing you're so nervous about and it'll help you break on through to the other side
i'm sure the people there expect a lot of new comers and there's probably some kind of culture that goes with that
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On November 08 2011 06:43 Roe wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 06:38 Klondikebar wrote:
I have a really dumb question, how do you meet other gay ppl IRL?
I just recently moved back home from college so all my friends from the past 4 years are spread out over the country. I don't have the balls to just go to a gay bar by myself and start talking to people. Is there a better way to meet people or do I just need to strap on my glitter covered balls, guzzle some whiskey, and talk to random strangers?
Oh, and all my highschool/local friends are straight and they refuse to go to gay bars with me. One of the consequences of coming from an extremely conservative culture and being deep in the closet for most of your life is that you end up with extremely conservative friends who ignore the fact that you're gay and absolutely refuse to help you be gay at all. just go to a gay bar and start talking to people imo. do the exact thing you're so nervous about and it'll help you break on through to the other side i'm sure the people there expect a lot of new comers and there's probably some kind of culture that goes with that
Well one of the reasons I'm so nervous about it is that gays (especially in club settings) tend to be REALLY clique-ish. They come with their friends and they don't really wanna talk to anyone else.
I've also had the experience of trying to talk to people only to have them laugh at me. Although I suppose that could have been a one time thing.
GRR!!! I'm going to need SO MUCH WHISKEY!
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On November 08 2011 06:52 Klondikebar wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 06:43 Roe wrote:On November 08 2011 06:38 Klondikebar wrote:
I have a really dumb question, how do you meet other gay ppl IRL?
I just recently moved back home from college so all my friends from the past 4 years are spread out over the country. I don't have the balls to just go to a gay bar by myself and start talking to people. Is there a better way to meet people or do I just need to strap on my glitter covered balls, guzzle some whiskey, and talk to random strangers?
Oh, and all my highschool/local friends are straight and they refuse to go to gay bars with me. One of the consequences of coming from an extremely conservative culture and being deep in the closet for most of your life is that you end up with extremely conservative friends who ignore the fact that you're gay and absolutely refuse to help you be gay at all. just go to a gay bar and start talking to people imo. do the exact thing you're so nervous about and it'll help you break on through to the other side i'm sure the people there expect a lot of new comers and there's probably some kind of culture that goes with that Well one of the reasons I'm so nervous about it is that gays (especially in club settings) tend to be REALLY clique-ish. They come with their friends and they don't really wanna talk to anyone else. I've also had the experience of trying to talk to people only to have them laugh at me. Although I suppose that could have been a one time thing. GRR!!! I'm going to need SO MUCH WHISKEY!
oh, didnt know that  screw them and let's just hang out together and play sc2 
wait why did they just laugh at you? wtf??? I guess we've got some complete bitches on our team as well
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Terran is HARD.
I'm pretty much at a Gold level now. The cries of imbalance crack me up. Excuse me, you have 18 probes at 15 min... what could you possibly know about balance! (So it's basically the same as playing Diamond players xD)
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On November 08 2011 06:55 Roe wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 06:52 Klondikebar wrote:On November 08 2011 06:43 Roe wrote:On November 08 2011 06:38 Klondikebar wrote:
I have a really dumb question, how do you meet other gay ppl IRL?
I just recently moved back home from college so all my friends from the past 4 years are spread out over the country. I don't have the balls to just go to a gay bar by myself and start talking to people. Is there a better way to meet people or do I just need to strap on my glitter covered balls, guzzle some whiskey, and talk to random strangers?
Oh, and all my highschool/local friends are straight and they refuse to go to gay bars with me. One of the consequences of coming from an extremely conservative culture and being deep in the closet for most of your life is that you end up with extremely conservative friends who ignore the fact that you're gay and absolutely refuse to help you be gay at all. just go to a gay bar and start talking to people imo. do the exact thing you're so nervous about and it'll help you break on through to the other side i'm sure the people there expect a lot of new comers and there's probably some kind of culture that goes with that Well one of the reasons I'm so nervous about it is that gays (especially in club settings) tend to be REALLY clique-ish. They come with their friends and they don't really wanna talk to anyone else. I've also had the experience of trying to talk to people only to have them laugh at me. Although I suppose that could have been a one time thing. GRR!!! I'm going to need SO MUCH WHISKEY! oh, didnt know that let's just hang out together and play sc2 wait why did they just laugh at you? wtf??? I guess we've got some complete bitches on our team as well
I found a bad bunch of gays. Especially us young ones can be super elitist and bitchy. Even I haven't really mellowed out as much as I ought to (of which I'm actually pretty embarrassed).
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On November 04 2011 23:24 Iyerbeth wrote:Show nested quote +On November 04 2011 06:16 kellymilkies wrote:
Are they considered gay still after they change sex?
Kelly. Basically no, and they're not gay before a sex change either. To be gay you have to be a man attracted to men and trans women pre op or post op are not men. There are still plenty of lesbian trans women though, again both pre and post op.
What about when they have the urge to be dominant and are on the giving end? I would say that's their gay side.
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Love seeing you guys at the number 1# thread spot, all day everyday. (:
Glad to see gay pride being so represented in gaming.
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On November 08 2011 07:15 matiK23 wrote:Show nested quote +On November 04 2011 23:24 Iyerbeth wrote:On November 04 2011 06:16 kellymilkies wrote:
Are they considered gay still after they change sex?
Kelly. Basically no, and they're not gay before a sex change either. To be gay you have to be a man attracted to men and trans women pre op or post op are not men. There are still plenty of lesbian trans women though, again both pre and post op. What about when they have the urge to be dominant and are on the giving end? I would say that's their gay side.
Edit: Call it self censorship if you like but I know some people visitting this thread in the past have expresed the view that they're uncomfortable with some chat in here so I'm going to spoiler my reply even though I don't think it really crosses any line.
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(In refering exclusively to a male partner) A woman who does the same with a strap on isn't gay - by virtue of being a woman. A trans woman is a woman. Therefore, no, still not gay.
Edit: You're also unlikely to find many trans women who'd want to do that in my experience, though I admitedly am not exactly an expert on the feelings of every trans woman ever. That kinda stuff tends to be perpetuated by the porn industry.
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On November 08 2011 06:52 Klondikebar wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 06:43 Roe wrote:On November 08 2011 06:38 Klondikebar wrote:
I have a really dumb question, how do you meet other gay ppl IRL?
I just recently moved back home from college so all my friends from the past 4 years are spread out over the country. I don't have the balls to just go to a gay bar by myself and start talking to people. Is there a better way to meet people or do I just need to strap on my glitter covered balls, guzzle some whiskey, and talk to random strangers?
Oh, and all my highschool/local friends are straight and they refuse to go to gay bars with me. One of the consequences of coming from an extremely conservative culture and being deep in the closet for most of your life is that you end up with extremely conservative friends who ignore the fact that you're gay and absolutely refuse to help you be gay at all. just go to a gay bar and start talking to people imo. do the exact thing you're so nervous about and it'll help you break on through to the other side i'm sure the people there expect a lot of new comers and there's probably some kind of culture that goes with that Well one of the reasons I'm so nervous about it is that gays (especially in club settings) tend to be REALLY clique-ish. They come with their friends and they don't really wanna talk to anyone else. I've also had the experience of trying to talk to people only to have them laugh at me. Although I suppose that could have been a one time thing. GRR!!! I'm going to need SO MUCH WHISKEY!
I had that same problem too when I moved to New York. I had zero friends and I had zero experience with gay clubs. And in NY, people are intimidating for the uninitiated, or for the recent migrant. But dude, my lower regions wanted some loving. So I go out and just check out gay club and see what's up.
It's amazing how small the gay community is that everyone knows who everyone is sleeping with (a bit of an exaggeration, but I know a guy who knows 80% of the people in all of the clubs and bars in NYC). Once you meet someone you will meet everyone else. Some are bitches. Some are asses. Some are really chill and cool.
Throw yourself out there and don't be afraid to talk to someone who's throwing glances at you. Glances are the queue that he wants to jump your bone or drill your hole. But a caveat, be careful and always protect yourself. Tell someone you really trust that you're going out to a club/bar just in case you do hook-up.
Finally, have fun! If no one wants to talk to you or throws glances at you, enjoy that whiskey and shake your ass.
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Hellooooooo my sweeties! Lol. Not sure if you remember me. I helped with our SC2 channel (glad to see that it's still up :D), and we had fun for a few KOTH matches.
So how are you guys? Where GDR btw? I wont forget that cute pic of you  lol
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So I live in a town where gays really aren't open about it because of how religious it is. I'm not really sure how to meet another guy, should I find someone on the internet (something I really don't to do, just because it doesn't feel the same as in-person) or what?
Help me fellow homos~
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On November 08 2011 08:15 Derpussss wrote:
So I live in a town where gays really aren't open about it because of how religious it is. I'm not really sure how to meet another guy, should I find someone on the internet (something I really don't to do, just because it doesn't feel the same as in-person) or what?
Help me fellow homos~
Unless its online-dating, there isnt really much to do to meet other fags. Although, pretty much anywhere, you dont find magically "find" gay people in plain sight. Most of the times, its at a small gay community where theres clubs and bars and stuff. If your town is religion (and I get where your coming from), then it would kind of be wasted energy to try and scavenge every other boy to see if they are gay, because they probably wont open up. You will probably have to go to the nearest gay-zone to try and find someone but you need to be of legal age to do so.
However, there are other ways of meeting people online without necessarily signing up to a dating site (which even I dont fully trust). You would be surprised how you could find a lot of good people by simply hanging out in places like this thread or other forums or chats where you know there are gay guys.
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On November 08 2011 08:37 Nuxar wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 08:15 Derpussss wrote:
So I live in a town where gays really aren't open about it because of how religious it is. I'm not really sure how to meet another guy, should I find someone on the internet (something I really don't to do, just because it doesn't feel the same as in-person) or what?
Help me fellow homos~ Unless its online-dating, there isnt really much to do to meet other fags. Although, pretty much anywhere, you dont find magically "find" gay people in plain sight. Most of the times, its at a small gay community where theres clubs and bars and stuff. If your town is religion (and I get where your coming from), then it would kind of be wasted energy to try and scavenge every other boy to see if they are gay, because they probably wont open up. You will probably have to go to the nearest gay-zone to try and find someone but you need to be of legal age to do so. However, there are other ways of meeting people online without necessarily signing up to a dating site (which even I dont fully trust). You would be surprised how you could find a lot of good people by simply hanging out in places like this thread or other forums or chats where you know there are gay guys.
I'd never do a dating site, those are stupid. Guess I'll just have to get lucky.
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On November 08 2011 08:39 Derpussss wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 08:37 Nuxar wrote:On November 08 2011 08:15 Derpussss wrote:
So I live in a town where gays really aren't open about it because of how religious it is. I'm not really sure how to meet another guy, should I find someone on the internet (something I really don't to do, just because it doesn't feel the same as in-person) or what?
Help me fellow homos~ Unless its online-dating, there isnt really much to do to meet other fags. Although, pretty much anywhere, you dont find magically "find" gay people in plain sight. Most of the times, its at a small gay community where theres clubs and bars and stuff. If your town is religion (and I get where your coming from), then it would kind of be wasted energy to try and scavenge every other boy to see if they are gay, because they probably wont open up. You will probably have to go to the nearest gay-zone to try and find someone but you need to be of legal age to do so. However, there are other ways of meeting people online without necessarily signing up to a dating site (which even I dont fully trust). You would be surprised how you could find a lot of good people by simply hanging out in places like this thread or other forums or chats where you know there are gay guys. I'd never do a dating site, those are stupid. Guess I'll just have to get lucky.
Why are they stupid? It can be difficult to find other gay people; especially ones who share common interests with you. I personally have met some nice people through dating sites (I use Okcupid) and I doubt I'm alone in this.
I mean sure if you don't want to do it, that's ok, it's up to you. But it's not as simple finding other gay people for a relationship as it is for straight people, so I wouldn't just toss it aside without considering it.
In much more important news, I just hit rank 1 diamond!!
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On November 08 2011 08:59 Barburas wrote:Show nested quote +On November 08 2011 08:39 Derpussss wrote:On November 08 2011 08:37 Nuxar wrote:On November 08 2011 08:15 Derpussss wrote:
So I live in a town where gays really aren't open about it because of how religious it is. I'm not really sure how to meet another guy, should I find someone on the internet (something I really don't to do, just because it doesn't feel the same as in-person) or what?
Help me fellow homos~ Unless its online-dating, there isnt really much to do to meet other fags. Although, pretty much anywhere, you dont find magically "find" gay people in plain sight. Most of the times, its at a small gay community where theres clubs and bars and stuff. If your town is religion (and I get where your coming from), then it would kind of be wasted energy to try and scavenge every other boy to see if they are gay, because they probably wont open up. You will probably have to go to the nearest gay-zone to try and find someone but you need to be of legal age to do so. However, there are other ways of meeting people online without necessarily signing up to a dating site (which even I dont fully trust). You would be surprised how you could find a lot of good people by simply hanging out in places like this thread or other forums or chats where you know there are gay guys. I'd never do a dating site, those are stupid. Guess I'll just have to get lucky. Why are they stupid? It can be difficult to find other gay people; especially ones who share common interests with you. I personally have met some nice people through dating sites (I use Okcupid) and I doubt I'm alone in this. I mean sure if you don't want to do it, that's ok, it's up to you. But it's not as simple finding other gay people for a relationship as it is for straight people, so I wouldn't just toss it aside without considering it. In much more important news, I just hit rank 1 diamond!!
I personally tried match.com. I've taken it seriously and done everything the site suggested but it's been a complete bust. It's been 3 months now and I don't think I've sustained a single convo longer than 3 emails.
Grats on diamond! I expect you to be masters by the time you come back to this thread!!
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On November 08 2011 08:03 Nuxar wrote:Hellooooooo my sweeties! Lol. Not sure if you remember me. I helped with our SC2 channel (glad to see that it's still up :D), and we had fun for a few KOTH matches. So how are you guys? Where GDR btw? I wont forget that cute pic of you lol
I'm here. 
Haha, I saw this thread had been bumped at my friends house, but I didn't want to click on it - so I rushed home to see whats up. You guys are active!
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Seriously, do not rush into finding a boyfriend. Don't worry about it either. Go out, meet people, go to social events, go to LANs (yes, I have met gay guys at LAN parties) etc. The sexual pressure at gay bars can be horrible, so instead, just be yourself, be social and connect with other people. It will take longer, but eventually you will meet someone and I think your chances of success will be much, much higher. All that bullshit about "hang out here, hang out there, earring on the left in this country, right on the other" is not true at all. Just be yourself, be open, smile a lot and be social, the men will come in time.
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I'm bi, but have never done anything sexual or even dated another man yet. Recently I've been thinking I really should give it a shot. I want to get more in touch with the local LGBT community in my area for starters. Although of course I want to get laid again, I'm uncomfortable with the idea of meeting strangers in a gay bar (and it would be my first time having sex with a man as well at that). I have some close family members and friends who I know I can count on for support through this.
It's really late here now, so that's all I'll say now. I'm really happy this thread is still doing well on TL though!
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