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Being attracted to men does not mean you think like a woman. It also does not preclude being attracted to women as well.
For the bi guys/girls amongst us, how much attraction do you feel to either gender? Do you find it oscillates depending on your mood, or who you fancy at the moment? Do you see yourself in a long term relationship with both genders? How do you think about children?
The last question is really hard for me to answer.
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On September 15 2011 11:09 BarbieHsu wrote:Show nested quote +On September 15 2011 06:16 diverzee wrote:On September 14 2011 21:02 ayaz2810 wrote:On September 14 2011 12:32 drshdwpuppet wrote:On September 14 2011 10:58 ayaz2810 wrote: I have a difficult question for you folks. Let me see if I can make my point without this coming out wrong.
I am a very logical and science oriented individual. I have always been interested in physics, chemistry, and other sciences. I was a pre-med student until lack of funds ended that dream. Because of this, and the fact that our species contains both males and females for reproduction, it would seem to me that homosexuality is something of a... this is where it gets tricky... a genetic mental defect. I don't mean that to sound as if one person is less than another because of their attraction to one sex over the other. I think of it in terms of something like a birth defect. Like being born with webbed toes or something. I say this because we are obviously designed to reproduce sexually, and that takes a member of both sexes. For that to be altered in a human brain would seem to go against our evolution.
Please keep in mind that I am trying to approach this from an unbiased, biological point of view. I have no problem with homosexuals at all personally.
So now my question: If there were an "antidote" for people who were currently gay, and perhaps a test for pregnant women that would reveal homosexuality in utero, and then be "treated", what would the gay community think? Obviously you can really speak only for yourselves, but you can probably speculate based on people that you know. I'll refrain from inserting my own thoughts, because I'm fairly sure someone will say exactly what I'm thinking. yaaaayyyy~~~~!!!!! HERE WE GO AGAIN (I never get tired of this ride) basically, what we have here is a classic argument ad ignorantiam. You hide it well, and seem really thoughtful, so no insult is intended, but basically, you say that "because I cannot fathom a reason how homosexuality can be benificial to reproduction, it isnt and therefore must be a defect". This is also a major unstated false premise in that the assumption is that anything that doesn't directly contribute to penis inserted into vagina and semen being injected into uterus to provide seed for life is not evolutionarily advantageous. The second unstated false premise is that something that anything that negatively affects reproduction is a defect. We will explore both realms shortly. First, it has been posted many, many, many times (more latin: ad nauseum, or literally, so much so that I am sick of typing it) that it is not excluded from the realm of scientific probability and EXISTING EVOLUTIONARY THEORY that homosexuality can benifit the species or "herd" if you will. Basically, read back and try and find it, sift through the rainbows, glitter and tight leather pants. Its in there, I assure you. The tl;dr version is that, grandmother theory (excess men incapable of reproduction increases the number of people capable of taking care of young and thereby increases their chance of survival) and "gay boyfriend" theory (excess men allow for the strongest men to have multiple children in multiple women, increasing their virulence and giving the women the ability to still raise young with a partner). There are lots more theories, some better than others. Basically, none of them are able to be proven, but there are plenty of ways in which we can imagine homosexuality being a positive force in a society, if not in an individual's chance of reproduction. Part two. Is homosexuality a defect. I think I answered that pretty well. No. Homosexuality is a part of the normal spectrum of human sexuality. I think modern medicinal science is too quick to label defects and at any rate, there are no signs of defective genetic markers or anything related in homosexuality. As for your anditode questions. For the reasons mentioned above, no. Besides, who would make your clothes?  It is a great question and brings up the ethics of this sort of questioning. If we can cure congenital defects, should we? Cerebral Palsy? Sure. Down's or other related syndroms? Why not end suffering? What if it isnt afforable and easly accessable to anyone other than the rich? What if we select against things that make us unique, like homosexuality, like variations in natural intelligence, like variations in skin, eye, hair colors? This is all heresay but are questions that need to be answered. I don't want a "cure" because I am not sick. I am individual, I am brownish hair, hazel eyes, need glasses because of nearsightedness, I like men. This is what makes me different from you, or the person who posts below me. These things are important and I would never want to give them up, merely because I don't fit someone else's idea of perfect. I am perfect the way I am, the way I was born and anyone who doesn't agree with that honestly needs to reasses what they value and find beautiful about life. This was the kind of reaction I was trying to avoid. I never claimed to be a geneticist, physician, or biology guru. I was only stating how it looked to me (and probably a whole lot of other people). To be clear, I don't regard the homosexuality "defect" (still not a huge fan of that terminology) as anything that needs to be "cured" or wiped out. You are somewhat correct when you state that because I cannot fathom how homosexuality is beneficial to reproduction, that my assumption was that is was an abnormality. On the other hand, your assertion that I was trying to engage in some kind of argument.... not so much. I was just stating how it looked to me. On a more positive note, I appreciate the education you provided in more of your post. And to others that have replied, thanks for the information. Some of these posts are very thoughtful and an interesting read. Myself, as someone who actually finished med school and doesn't just brag about being interested in science despite being a dropout, I would think twice before calling homosexuality a defect (education makes you doubtful, while bigotry makes you certain). We don't know what causes homosexuality, and it presents with no physical defects - it is thus much more complex than easily genetically identifiable birth defects. Just as we don't know the cause, we don't know the purpose - and in today's civilized society possible purposes might be impossible to identify. The only thing a physician or scientist could say with certainty is that homosexuality isn't considered an illness, and doesn't meet the criteria of being pathological. I think it's a defect, in a sense that you're a woman in a man's body or vice versa. For gay's their attitude is normal for women and their body is normal for men. But the two normals together is still not considered normal. I sometimes ask my gay friends what they would be if they had a choice and some say straight girl, some say straight guy. No one says they'd like to stay gay. Congratulations, you don't know the difference between homosexuals and transgenders.
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Mancrush on LzGamer confirmed
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On September 15 2011 11:09 BarbieHsu wrote:Show nested quote +On September 15 2011 06:16 diverzee wrote:On September 14 2011 21:02 ayaz2810 wrote:On September 14 2011 12:32 drshdwpuppet wrote:On September 14 2011 10:58 ayaz2810 wrote: I have a difficult question for you folks. Let me see if I can make my point without this coming out wrong.
I am a very logical and science oriented individual. I have always been interested in physics, chemistry, and other sciences. I was a pre-med student until lack of funds ended that dream. Because of this, and the fact that our species contains both males and females for reproduction, it would seem to me that homosexuality is something of a... this is where it gets tricky... a genetic mental defect. I don't mean that to sound as if one person is less than another because of their attraction to one sex over the other. I think of it in terms of something like a birth defect. Like being born with webbed toes or something. I say this because we are obviously designed to reproduce sexually, and that takes a member of both sexes. For that to be altered in a human brain would seem to go against our evolution.
Please keep in mind that I am trying to approach this from an unbiased, biological point of view. I have no problem with homosexuals at all personally.
So now my question: If there were an "antidote" for people who were currently gay, and perhaps a test for pregnant women that would reveal homosexuality in utero, and then be "treated", what would the gay community think? Obviously you can really speak only for yourselves, but you can probably speculate based on people that you know. I'll refrain from inserting my own thoughts, because I'm fairly sure someone will say exactly what I'm thinking. yaaaayyyy~~~~!!!!! HERE WE GO AGAIN (I never get tired of this ride) basically, what we have here is a classic argument ad ignorantiam. You hide it well, and seem really thoughtful, so no insult is intended, but basically, you say that "because I cannot fathom a reason how homosexuality can be benificial to reproduction, it isnt and therefore must be a defect". This is also a major unstated false premise in that the assumption is that anything that doesn't directly contribute to penis inserted into vagina and semen being injected into uterus to provide seed for life is not evolutionarily advantageous. The second unstated false premise is that something that anything that negatively affects reproduction is a defect. We will explore both realms shortly. First, it has been posted many, many, many times (more latin: ad nauseum, or literally, so much so that I am sick of typing it) that it is not excluded from the realm of scientific probability and EXISTING EVOLUTIONARY THEORY that homosexuality can benifit the species or "herd" if you will. Basically, read back and try and find it, sift through the rainbows, glitter and tight leather pants. Its in there, I assure you. The tl;dr version is that, grandmother theory (excess men incapable of reproduction increases the number of people capable of taking care of young and thereby increases their chance of survival) and "gay boyfriend" theory (excess men allow for the strongest men to have multiple children in multiple women, increasing their virulence and giving the women the ability to still raise young with a partner). There are lots more theories, some better than others. Basically, none of them are able to be proven, but there are plenty of ways in which we can imagine homosexuality being a positive force in a society, if not in an individual's chance of reproduction. Part two. Is homosexuality a defect. I think I answered that pretty well. No. Homosexuality is a part of the normal spectrum of human sexuality. I think modern medicinal science is too quick to label defects and at any rate, there are no signs of defective genetic markers or anything related in homosexuality. As for your anditode questions. For the reasons mentioned above, no. Besides, who would make your clothes?  It is a great question and brings up the ethics of this sort of questioning. If we can cure congenital defects, should we? Cerebral Palsy? Sure. Down's or other related syndroms? Why not end suffering? What if it isnt afforable and easly accessable to anyone other than the rich? What if we select against things that make us unique, like homosexuality, like variations in natural intelligence, like variations in skin, eye, hair colors? This is all heresay but are questions that need to be answered. I don't want a "cure" because I am not sick. I am individual, I am brownish hair, hazel eyes, need glasses because of nearsightedness, I like men. This is what makes me different from you, or the person who posts below me. These things are important and I would never want to give them up, merely because I don't fit someone else's idea of perfect. I am perfect the way I am, the way I was born and anyone who doesn't agree with that honestly needs to reasses what they value and find beautiful about life. This was the kind of reaction I was trying to avoid. I never claimed to be a geneticist, physician, or biology guru. I was only stating how it looked to me (and probably a whole lot of other people). To be clear, I don't regard the homosexuality "defect" (still not a huge fan of that terminology) as anything that needs to be "cured" or wiped out. You are somewhat correct when you state that because I cannot fathom how homosexuality is beneficial to reproduction, that my assumption was that is was an abnormality. On the other hand, your assertion that I was trying to engage in some kind of argument.... not so much. I was just stating how it looked to me. On a more positive note, I appreciate the education you provided in more of your post. And to others that have replied, thanks for the information. Some of these posts are very thoughtful and an interesting read. Myself, as someone who actually finished med school and doesn't just brag about being interested in science despite being a dropout, I would think twice before calling homosexuality a defect (education makes you doubtful, while bigotry makes you certain). We don't know what causes homosexuality, and it presents with no physical defects - it is thus much more complex than easily genetically identifiable birth defects. Just as we don't know the cause, we don't know the purpose - and in today's civilized society possible purposes might be impossible to identify. The only thing a physician or scientist could say with certainty is that homosexuality isn't considered an illness, and doesn't meet the criteria of being pathological. I think it's a defect, in a sense that you're a woman in a man's body or vice versa. For gay's their attitude is normal for women and their body is normal for men. But the two normals together is still not considered normal. I sometimes ask my gay friends what they would be if they had a choice and some say straight girl, some say straight guy. No one says they'd like to stay gay. I think your logic is defective
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On September 15 2011 11:09 BarbieHsu wrote: I think it's a defect, in a sense that you're a woman in a man's body or vice versa.
For gay's their attitude is normal for women and their body is normal for men. But the two normals together is still not considered normal.
I sometimes ask my gay friends what they would be if they had a choice and some say straight girl, some say straight guy. No one says they'd like to stay gay.
Also just wanted to quickly add, transsexuals don't transition based on their sexual orientation, but on their core identity. Some trans women may have earlier in life identified as gay men but that's not actually who they are, nor does it cover all of them. Further, many trans people would be biologically straight but then after transitioning will be gay/lesbian (For instance, a straight 'man' who transitions may become a lesian woman).
Finally, there are plenty of people who claim their attractions altered during/after transitioning so that's another thing to consider.
I ramble well, I guess I'll transition in to a conclusion - Sexual orientation has very littler if anything to do with gender identity. A gay man generally would certainly not want to be a woman. The issues are completely different.
Also I feel I should transition in to one final line in this post covering transition issues and the overuse of the word transition in my post owing to the fact I need to transition out of being awake shortly lest I transition in to a brain dead zombie.
+ Show Spoiler + I should stop "just checking TL" before going to sleep...
I'll provide sources or something tomorrow if they end up being needed but I think most of what I said, whilst incoherent maybe, should be obvious.
*whispers* Transition - the new fragrance from Iyerbeth.
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On September 16 2011 09:33 SnowK wrote: Mancrush on LzGamer confirmed
glad we agree
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Wonderful, because of you guys, I suddenly got the urge to check out all the sc2 progamers to pick the hottest ones. I know Im such a vapid whore for doing this but I cant control it 
Out of the picks; HappyZerg, Jinro, DieStar, Slush and Idra.
Slush is just freaking cute! HappyZerg, Jinro and DieStar are more on the "hot" side of things. Idra, at first, I didnt find him that particularly interesting but now that he removed them glasses and somehow done something with his facial hair... Dat face... its just... undescribably beautiful, mostly because thats not the run-of-the-mill hoy-guy face but its still somehow far more. I feel sorta creeped out that I just did what I did though.
On a completely different note, I wanted to ask some fellow fags about this: Do you think that the masculine trait in a gay guy is good or bad? Are there any real advantage/disadvantage? If so, does one outweigh the other?
I was just wondering because of how some guys seem totally straight because of that masculine trait yet they are still gay. I myself am particularly attracted to those kinds of guys but they are so hot yet, they are SO frustratingly difficult to find in an every-day environment. Even I seem very straight (other than very tiny mannerism details) and most dont ever realise. Because I dont know how homophobic the people around me are, this trait in me helps at times. But then again, because the word gay isnt stamped onto my head by the way I act, I almost always have the impression that many gay guys miss out on me because they dont know. The same goes for me towards them; they act so straight so I never dare ask or do anything to know for sure, yet its only those kind of men I actually want. btw, you dont really need to be "masculine" to answer because Im probably sure you were already in the situation when you meet this straight-acting gay guy and sometimes wonder.
But what do others have to say about this? (The question)
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On September 16 2011 05:27 Evangelist wrote: Being attracted to men does not mean you think like a woman. It also does not preclude being attracted to women as well.
For the bi guys/girls amongst us, how much attraction do you feel to either gender? Do you find it oscillates depending on your mood, or who you fancy at the moment? Do you see yourself in a long term relationship with both genders? How do you think about children?
The last question is really hard for me to answer.
I think it depends per person. My attraction to either gender changes based on my mood and such but for the most part I would say I am more attracted to women but then it changes from time to time I would say.
Also yes I could easily see my self in a long term relationship with either although I have yet to be in one with a guy.
I decided a long time ago that if I am going to have children I would adopt. It wouldn't matter if I was with a woman or a man. I feel that it is better to help a child already in need of a home and parents.
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Although it doesn't much matter generally, in these contexts we should use the correct word between 'gender' and 'sex'. Sex being man/woman and gender being identity/attributes etc.
Also, Nuxar, I think you do not have good taste in men
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On September 16 2011 16:58 Kirazaki wrote: I decided a long time ago that if I am going to have children I would adopt. It wouldn't matter if I was with a woman or a man. I feel that it is better to help a child already in need of a home and parents. In the western world there is a huge surplus of couples looking for a child to adopt. So you would not be doing something very charitable there.
edit: Although that depends alot on age and other factors ofc.
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On September 16 2011 22:36 marvellosity wrote:Although it doesn't much matter generally, in these contexts we should use the correct word between 'gender' and 'sex'. Sex being man/woman and gender being identity/attributes etc. Also, Nuxar, I think you do not have good taste in men 
I should post a picture. I'm wondering if I'm considered to be in good taste.
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On September 16 2011 22:44 Redox wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2011 16:58 Kirazaki wrote: I decided a long time ago that if I am going to have children I would adopt. It wouldn't matter if I was with a woman or a man. I feel that it is better to help a child already in need of a home and parents. In the western world there is a huge surplus of couples looking for a child to adopt. So you would not be doing something very charitable there. edit: Although that depends alot on age and other factors ofc.
It in fact matters so much on these factors that it is pretty much only true for white babies. A couple willing to take an older child or practically any minority should have no problem barring anti gay adoption legislation/policies. At least this is the impression i got from a couple my mom knew.
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On September 17 2011 03:21 GDR wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2011 22:36 marvellosity wrote:Although it doesn't much matter generally, in these contexts we should use the correct word between 'gender' and 'sex'. Sex being man/woman and gender being identity/attributes etc. Also, Nuxar, I think you do not have good taste in men  I should post a picture. I'm wondering if I'm considered to be in good taste.  We'll be the judge of that
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On September 17 2011 03:21 GDR wrote:Show nested quote +On September 16 2011 22:36 marvellosity wrote:Although it doesn't much matter generally, in these contexts we should use the correct word between 'gender' and 'sex'. Sex being man/woman and gender being identity/attributes etc. Also, Nuxar, I think you do not have good taste in men  I should post a picture. I'm wondering if I'm considered to be in good taste. 
DO IT
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Awww yeah MarineKing to MLG Orlando <3
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On September 16 2011 10:25 RoMGraViTy wrote:glad we agree Indeed he is hot....
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On September 16 2011 15:43 Nuxar wrote:Wonderful, because of you guys, I suddenly got the urge to check out all the sc2 progamers to pick the hottest ones. I know Im such a vapid whore for doing this but I cant control it  Out of the picks; HappyZerg, Jinro, DieStar, Slush and Idra. Slush is just freaking cute! HappyZerg, Jinro and DieStar are more on the "hot" side of things. Idra, at first, I didnt find him that particularly interesting but now that he removed them glasses and somehow done something with his facial hair... Dat face... its just... undescribably beautiful, mostly because thats not the run-of-the-mill hoy-guy face but its still somehow far more. I feel sorta creeped out that I just did what I did though. On a completely different note, I wanted to ask some fellow fags about this: Do you think that the masculine trait in a gay guy is good or bad? Are there any real advantage/disadvantage? If so, does one outweigh the other? I was just wondering because of how some guys seem totally straight because of that masculine trait yet they are still gay. I myself am particularly attracted to those kinds of guys but they are so hot yet, they are SO frustratingly difficult to find in an every-day environment. Even I seem very straight (other than very tiny mannerism details) and most dont ever realise. Because I dont know how homophobic the people around me are, this trait in me helps at times. But then again, because the word gay isnt stamped onto my head by the way I act, I almost always have the impression that many gay guys miss out on me because they dont know. The same goes for me towards them; they act so straight so I never dare ask or do anything to know for sure, yet its only those kind of men I actually want.  btw, you dont really need to be "masculine" to answer because Im probably sure you were already in the situation when you meet this straight-acting gay guy and sometimes wonder. But what do others have to say about this? (The question)
OH MY GOODNESS, ARE YOU ME!?!?
Whilst I disagree wholehreatedly with your choice of hot SC2 players, the rest of your comment is as if it was taken directly out of my own brain. I am very attracted to masculine guys, and could never see myself being in a long-term relationship with a particularly efemminite guy. This is obviously not by choice, it's just who I'm attracted too. For this reason, I often find myself hopelessly attracted to men who are almost definitely straight and spend the vast majority of my time in their company searching for the slightest gay mannerism or comment in order to continue to fuel my fantasy that maybe, one day, I'll find out that they're gay and that they're interested in me. Alas, I fear this will never happen. Also, like you, I don't act gay (at all). I think this is because of my many years in the closet when every time I noticed myself do something slightly gay I would hate myself and vow to never do it again. Even though this was obviously a bad thing to do to myself I feel like it's made me happier with who I am now I'm 'out' as it is (from my experience) very attractive to many other gay guys. But, as you say, I do feel that sometimes people just don't know that I'm gay. At university and work everyone simply assumes I'm straight and there is never a reason to correct this assumption except with very close friends. Sometimes I feel like I'm just making life harder for myself 
Anyway, on your question: I think the masculine trait is a good thing but very frustrating at times for obvious reasons. I want a man, I want a strong guy. I'm attracted to men for a reason and that's because I like men, not men who act like girls (no offence intended to anyone). The advantages of a masculine guy for me definitely outweigh the disadvantages. In fact I can't really think of any disadvantages unless of course he acted like a total jerk because of it, but that is of course an unfair stereotype of all straight/masculine guys I think that's about it, I guess it's a shame we live on opposite sides of the planet 
TL;DR I feel your pain man :D
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made an account just to post here (long time lurker)
thanks for making me feel alot less alone
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On September 18 2011 22:57 jahmes wrote:made an account just to post here (long time lurker) thanks for making me feel alot less alone 
Welcome to TL and its a pleasure to have you here with us! Feel free to discuss anything related here!
And @GDR, totally to it man!]
@Poster Below: I sorta gave that up a few months ago :S. Waiting for DotA 2 now :D
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So who's up for some League of Legends for the fun of it?
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