EPTSometimes it's shitty, but the good parts of it outweigh any good that you have in your life without them. That's how it is for me. There is simply no comparison.
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
Sometimes it's shitty, but the good parts of it outweigh any good that you have in your life without them. That's how it is for me. There is simply no comparison. | ||
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ForVengeance
United States111 Posts
I have known at least 15 or so couples that were "soulmates" until the 3 year mark then split up, so it really solidifies that research in my mind. I always have to remind myself when i think about chicks, do they like ME, or do they see in me something they can use for their own benefit? Then i think about all the things i like/find interesting... does she like/understand those things? Hell no she doesnt even know the basics of the things i do. She lacks the ability to see what is brilliant in the things i find interesting. So how could she possibly truly respect my taste? She cant. All she can do is fake interest so that i "like" her. So basically i cant trust her because shes a faker. Further into this point, women cant tell what is brilliant art. They really cant tell one level of execution from the next. A masterpiece is no different than the work of some hack. All they know is what you can "do" with that art/creation. They cant tell a complex pattern from a simple one. All they can do is think "this is worth something to the world" or "you could sell this". Basically a woman respects men who shove themselves into the race of life more than ones who are skilled and highly intelligent but who dont throw themselves into the race. In short; they will never read into the meaning of your skilled writing, they will say "wow you should become a famous writer". They will never say "wow, you really made the bridge of that song you wrote contrast well with the choruses", she will say "are you going to play shows or put out a cd to sell?" etc etc. They dont respect WHAT you do as far as content or quality, it HOW you use that skill to make money and impress the world that matters to her. Nothing has made me more disappointed and jumpstarted my loss of innocence than the realization that intelligent and highly creative men have no chance of finding a woman who truly, TRULY understands what he is really about and what he has really done with his mind. Sometimes i wish i was just some dumb armchair quarterback average joe so that i didnt need my girl to have a brain, but i do. | ||
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SlickR12345
Macedonia408 Posts
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pyogenes
Brazil1401 Posts
On January 09 2009 15:24 ForVengeance wrote: I dont want to tell people what to think/feel, but keep in mind that scientists have shown that the first 1-3 years are the times when the human brain releases high amounts of the endorphin associated with the feeling of being in love. After that time its natural that those levels of endorphins start to decline. This happens so that the partners have to form a stronger bond, proving that they can stay together and give their offspring a greater chance of survival. So all of you out there with under 3 years with a girl consider this fact as to why it isnt a bitch yet. I have known at least 15 or so couples that were "soulmates" until the 3 year mark then split up, so it really solidifies that research in my mind. I always have to remind myself when i think about chicks, do they like ME, or do they see in me something they can use for their own benefit? Then i think about all the things i like/find interesting... does she like/understand those things? Hell no she doesnt even know the basics of the things i do. She lacks the ability to see what is brilliant in the things i find interesting. So how could she possibly truly respect my taste? She cant. All she can do is fake interest so that i "like" her. So basically i cant trust her because shes a faker. Further into this point, women cant tell what is brilliant art. They really cant tell one level of execution from the next. A masterpiece is no different than the work of some hack. All they know is what you can "do" with that art/creation. They cant tell a complex pattern from a simple one. All they can do is think "this is worth something to the world" or "you could sell this". Basically a woman respects men who shove themselves into the race of life more than ones who are skilled and highly intelligent but who dont throw themselves into the race. In short; they will never read into the meaning of your skilled writing, they will say "wow you should become a famous writer". They will never say "wow, you really made the bridge of that song you wrote contrast well with the choruses", she will say "are you going to play shows or put out a cd to sell?" etc etc. They dont respect WHAT you do as far as content or quality, it HOW you use that skill to make money and impress the world that matters to her. Nothing has made me more disappointed and jumpstarted my loss of innocence than the realization that intelligent and highly creative men have no chance of finding a woman who truly, TRULY understands what he is really about and what he has really done with his mind. Sometimes i wish i was just some dumb armchair quarterback average joe so that i didnt need my girl to have a brain, but i do. wow amazing ! those are my thoughts but you have expressed them perfectly ! | ||
Manifesto7
Osaka27172 Posts
On January 09 2009 15:24 ForVengeance wrote: I dont want to tell people what to think/feel, but keep in mind that scientists have shown that the first 1-3 years are the times when the human brain releases high amounts of the endorphin associated with the feeling of being in love. After that time its natural that those levels of endorphins start to decline. This happens so that the partners have to form a stronger bond, proving that they can stay together and give their offspring a greater chance of survival. So all of you out there with under 3 years with a girl consider this fact as to why it isnt a bitch yet. It should be obvious to all that, without a shared history, initial attraction has to come from somewhere. After your time period, the shared experiences you have together help maintain a relationship. I have known at least 15 or so couples that were "soulmates" until the 3 year mark then split up, so it really solidifies that research in my mind. Personal experiences are not research. Ever. I always have to remind myself when i think about chicks, do they like ME, or do they see in me something they can use for their own benefit? Then i think about all the things i like/find interesting... does she like/understand those things? Hell no she doesnt even know the basics of the things i do. She lacks the ability to see what is brilliant in the things i find interesting. So how could she possibly truly respect my taste? She cant. All she can do is fake interest so that i "like" her. So basically i cant trust her because shes a faker. Further into this point, women cant tell what is brilliant art. They really cant tell one level of execution from the next. A masterpiece is no different than the work of some hack. All they know is what you can "do" with that art/creation. They cant tell a complex pattern from a simple one. All they can do is think "this is worth something to the world" or "you could sell this". Basically a woman respects men who shove themselves into the race of life more than ones who are skilled and highly intelligent but who dont throw themselves into the race. In short; they will never read into the meaning of your skilled writing, they will say "wow you should become a famous writer". They will never say "wow, you really made the bridge of that song you wrote contrast well with the choruses", she will say "are you going to play shows or put out a cd to sell?" etc etc. They dont respect WHAT you do as far as content or quality, it HOW you use that skill to make money and impress the world that matters to her. Are you saying that the female gender lacks the ability to recognize patterns and appreciate art? Nothing has made me more disappointed and jumpstarted my loss of innocence than the realization that intelligent and highly creative men have no chance of finding a woman who truly, TRULY understands what he is really about and what he has really done with his mind. Sometimes i wish i was just some dumb armchair quarterback average joe so that i didnt need my girl to have a brain, but i do. Well I am sure you are JUST THAT SMART and super awesome, but perhaps you have just put yourself in a position to meet the wrong type of women. You seem to be citing your limited world experience as evidence that 3 billion people aren't good enough for you. I would say you need to start looking inward before you start looking outward. | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
On January 09 2009 15:24 ForVengeance wrote: I dont want to tell people what to think/feel, but keep in mind that scientists have shown that the first 1-3 years are the times when the human brain releases high amounts of the endorphin associated with the feeling of being in love. After that time its natural that those levels of endorphins start to decline. This happens so that the partners have to form a stronger bond, proving that they can stay together and give their offspring a greater chance of survival. So all of you out there with under 3 years with a girl consider this fact as to why it isnt a bitch yet. I have known at least 15 or so couples that were "soulmates" until the 3 year mark then split up, so it really solidifies that research in my mind. I always have to remind myself when i think about chicks, do they like ME, or do they see in me something they can use for their own benefit? Then i think about all the things i like/find interesting... does she like/understand those things? Hell no she doesnt even know the basics of the things i do. She lacks the ability to see what is brilliant in the things i find interesting. So how could she possibly truly respect my taste? She cant. All she can do is fake interest so that i "like" her. So basically i cant trust her because shes a faker. Further into this point, women cant tell what is brilliant art. They really cant tell one level of execution from the next. A masterpiece is no different than the work of some hack. All they know is what you can "do" with that art/creation. They cant tell a complex pattern from a simple one. All they can do is think "this is worth something to the world" or "you could sell this". Basically a woman respects men who shove themselves into the race of life more than ones who are skilled and highly intelligent but who dont throw themselves into the race. In short; they will never read into the meaning of your skilled writing, they will say "wow you should become a famous writer". They will never say "wow, you really made the bridge of that song you wrote contrast well with the choruses", she will say "are you going to play shows or put out a cd to sell?" etc etc. They dont respect WHAT you do as far as content or quality, it HOW you use that skill to make money and impress the world that matters to her. Nothing has made me more disappointed and jumpstarted my loss of innocence than the realization that intelligent and highly creative men have no chance of finding a woman who truly, TRULY understands what he is really about and what he has really done with his mind. Sometimes i wish i was just some dumb armchair quarterback average joe so that i didnt need my girl to have a brain, but i do. That's ridiculous, you think men are so much more complicated and are far more intelligent than women, so that is why they won't "figure" us out? Are you serious? You sound like you have had/read about/heard about some bad experiences, as social standards and mass media would readily supply. You just haven't experienced mutual love yet if you think that all the superficial materialistic crap about women is a golden rule that is never broken. | ||
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fanatacist
10319 Posts
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GGQ
Canada2653 Posts
perhaps you have just put yourself in a position to meet the wrong type of women This seems like exactly it. Stop going for dumb girls. | ||
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ForVengeance
United States111 Posts
HAHA these internetz... dude i never said that, watch it now. I said in the paragraph above that scientists have done the research, then in that sentence i stated that from personal experience i have come to really agree that their findings must be true. Come on now, i know bold statements can bring out argumentative nature, but im confident youll find NO trace of me saying what you are implying. Shame on you. "Are you saying that the female gender lacks the ability to recognize patterns and appreciate art?" Not at all, some brilliant artists/musicians are women, but a rare few. And no, i dont think women are good at judging art from the perspective of composition. They know what they like, but opinions are like assholes, everyones got one, and i dont reward people for possessing an opinion. I reward them for being able to back it up with something other than playing the "taste" card. The average girl dont know shit about composition. Ha, most average people dont know shit about composition. These are facts. "That's ridiculous, you think men are so much more complicated and are far more intelligent than women, so that is why they won't "figure" us out? Are you serious? You sound like you have had/read about/heard about some bad experiences, as social standards and mass media would readily supply. You just haven't experienced mutual love yet if you think that all the superficial materialistic crap about women is a golden rule that is never broken." Ah, see this response is like when you say black culture is sometimes different than white culture and then someone calls you a racist. I never said directly any of those things. But if you want, i will. Most people are retards. I see it every day. Skinny white guys acting like tough gangstaz at the mall, housewives bleaching their hair and over tanning and trying to look half their age, young chicks digging talentless crap music just cause the singer is cute, the list goes ON AND ON. People are mostly idiots, yes. That is why the entertainment and product industries are 99 percent identity based consumerism. Dont try to deny. The reason you are thinking i believe men to be smarter is because i didnt take the time to mock mens stupidity in my original post, just women. So try rereading before you get all mad buddy. | ||
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GGQ
Canada2653 Posts
Further into this point, women cant tell what is brilliant art. Not 'some women', not 'the majority of women', and not even 'all the women I know'.Also, intelligent and highly creative men have no chance of finding a woman who truly, TRULY understands what he is really about and what he has really done with his mind. Not 'a low chance', not 'a tiny chance', not even 'virtually no chance'.Don't make absolute statements if you don't mean them. | ||
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Manifesto7
Osaka27172 Posts
On January 09 2009 15:55 ForVengeance wrote: "Personal experiences are not research. Ever." HAHA these internetz... dude i never said that, watch it now. I said in the paragraph above that scientists have done the research, then in that sentence i stated that from personal experience i have come to really agree that their findings must be true. Come on now, i know bold statements can bring out argumentative nature, but im confident youll find NO trace of me saying what you are implying. Shame on you. You're saying that a corralation between research and personal experience makes the research true. You cannot do that (I mean you can say it, but it doesn't hold any weight). I know 15 couples that remained soulmates after 3 years. I have "come to really agree that their findings must be" false. See how that works? Not at all, some brilliant artists/musicians are women, but a rare few. And no, i dont think women are good at judging art from the perspective of composition. They know what they like, but opinions are like assholes, everyones got one, and i dont reward people for possessing an opinion. I reward them for being able to back it up with something other than playing the "taste" card. The average girl dont know shit about composition. Ha, most average people dont know shit about composition. These are facts. If they are facts, prove it. But anyway, if the average person (female or not) doesn't know anything about composition, then it isn't a gender issue. It is a general knowledge issue. You are looking for someone who has specific knowledge that you require in a relationship. There isn't anything wrong with that, but don't make it a gender thing. ...Most people are retards. I see it every day. Skinny white guys acting like tough gangstaz at the mall, housewives bleaching their hair and over tanning and trying to look half their age, young chicks digging talentless crap music just cause the singer is cute, the list goes ON AND ON. People are mostly idiots, yes. That is why the entertainment and product industries are 99 percent identity based consumerism. Dont try to deny. The reason you are thinking i believe men to be smarter is because i didnt take the time to mock mens stupidity in my original post, just women. So try rereading before you get all mad buddy. It is up to all of us to decide how we view the world. You choose to dwell on the negative stereotypes you see to give yourself a feeling of superiority. Perhaps this attitude is what is causing you to miss exactly what you are looking for. Finally, don't ever "ahh the internetz" when you decide to post in absolutes. Nothing makes you look like more of a jerk. | ||
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ForVengeance
United States111 Posts
If there is one thing ive learned about internet forums is you better not even spell one word wrong or misuse a comma because if you do people will blow that up and not even think about what youre saying (if they dont want to agree with you). Look, i dont want to wreck this thread. I PERSONALLY THINK CHICKS ARE 99 PERCENT IDIOTS. Ok? Am i allowed to say that? I also think that of that 1 percent that arent, most of them are lesbians. There is much, MUCH evidence to support everything i have said. Go cruise myspace for 15 minutes and tell me that chicks arent tards. Just look at their profiles man, crap taste, crap friends, crap ability to discern brilliance from hackdom... the list goes on and on. Look people, i didnt start out feeling this way about chicks. It was forced upon me after years of living and observing. Sometimes in life you have to admit things are true when you really really dont want to. Co-dependence is not love. Love doesnt even exist its just two creatures high on the fact that they think theyve found someone to fuck "forever". Did you know genes arent even human? They arent even alive theyre like a parasite that uses human body to replicate. All your urges to meet a girl are fueled by the genes will to replicate itself. The whole reason you have instincts at all to do so are because of it. Yay for genes | ||
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Manifesto7
Osaka27172 Posts
So, when you write, you should carefully choose your words. If you expect people to understand you based on what is in your head, other than on the page, you are being foolish. MySpace isn't evidence. MySpace is a particular segment of the population more inclined to have certain traits than others. I'll just repeat what I have already said: It is up to all of us to decide how we view the world. You choose to dwell on the negative stereotypes you see to give yourself a feeling of superiority. Perhaps this attitude is what is causing you to miss exactly what you are looking for. I think it is time you go outside and get a breath of fresh air. | ||
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ForVengeance
United States111 Posts
Besides, there is no shame in suggesting that women and men are different. Women are on average better than men at some things and vice versa. Women have vastly greater spatial cognition, yet they lack the ability to track moving objects well, like a song. These arent ahrd and fast rules, but they are pretty well defined in scientific research. Why be ashamed of that? Science never says, girls cant write a song, or boys cant be interior decorator, it jsut says that through studies men and women are predisposed to certain traits. There is no shame in that. | ||
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Manifesto7
Osaka27172 Posts
Just so there is no misunderstanding, know that it was your writing in absolutes and overall smugness that discredited any points you were trying to make. | ||
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ForVengeance
United States111 Posts
On January 09 2009 16:23 Manifesto7 wrote: On the internet, the only meaning you have are the words you decide to use. You cannot glean information from appearance, voice, body language, or previous knowledge of the user. It is very difficult to infer things online. So, when you write, you should carefully choose your words. If you expect people to understand you based on what is in your head, other than on the page, you are being foolish. MySpace isn't evidence. MySpace is a particular segment of the population more inclined to have certain traits than others. I'll just repeat what I have already said: I think it is time you go outside and get a breath of fresh air. Id think that since most of the human population is on myspace that its a decent cross section. And besides, i get out all the time, and i meet girls, and they are beautiful, but they are dumb and fake. I have tossed out more cute vag than i can even count on both hands, and im not even a good looking guy. I was at this party the other night and this chick really dug me but she kept saying "like" all the time... "i was like blah blah" over and over. And she was cute as hell but i am not going to tolerate shit like that. Then i saw her myspace and she had some stupid movies on her favorites. Movies that are famous because of gimmicks rather than great skill/concept. I cant tolerate stupid crap like that. So i made her cry and ignored her. Who cares man. It sounds cruel until you realize that if i was 300 pounds she wouldnt be talking to me at all. Its because i have long hair and a guitar that she wants something from me. Shes only nice cause she gets something from it. I do this for the 300 pound guys out there who have been shunned. haha | ||
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GGQ
Canada2653 Posts
Id think that since most of the human population is on myspace that its a decent cross section. is untrue, any high school student could tell you that myspace is for the 'emos' and facebook is for the 'preps'. Anyways, this is where you dismiss my post because my understanding is obviously not as transcendent as yours; after all, how could some guy on the internet understand the thought patterns of someone as intelligent and creative as you clearly are? Looks like you'll just have to suffer a little longer on your lonely pinnacle of human greatness.edit- When you open up your eyes, you'll realise that there is no pinnacle, and there are actually people all around you. | ||
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MyLostTemple
United States2921 Posts
On January 09 2009 11:24 damenmofa wrote: I feel sorry for people who think that way, and I dont mean that in a flaming manner at all. Once you have experienced true love its hard to fathom one can live without it. When you found the woman you love you would give everything you have to be with her. Not having sex with other women suddenly is a very small sacrifice compared to what you would be willing to sacrifice for her. no way dude sex sex and more sex | ||
intrigue
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
ps - bragging about being able to make a drunk girl cry is pretty rofl | ||
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StarSlay3r
United States50 Posts
On January 09 2009 16:52 GGQ wrote: Right, so you are a conceited, self-absorbed, narrow-minded douchebag. Got it. I agree. I've met guys that are uber hot but dumb and just move on but I don't brag about that stuff. Yeah it's hard to find someone good looking + brains and that you can relate to but damn dude... seriously? Anyways... I'm not the best person to offer advise but I'll try. On a side note... any single guys on here wanna hang out? lol jk jk But seriously though? ... ok jk jk Or am I? In all seriousness... if you want to find a girl you have something in common with meet up with girls at the places you like to be. hmmm like don't look for girls in bars obviously, but if you're a comic nerd look for a girl that's cute at ComicCon or if you're a hardcore gamer look for a girl at a gaming tournament or convention, at least you know you have one thing in common right off the bat that way. You know? Don't hook up with a girl just because she's hot just because once the looks are gone then what? You'll probably honestly just get driven crazy after a while of being with her Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson style. (Don't ask how I know about them -_-*) Make sure you have some sort of idea of what you're looking for in someone and go for that... don't settle. Settling for whatever reason just ends up to you being unhappy later because the things that you can ignore at first due to puppy love later turn into annoying habits that make you want to smack them upside the head. Hmmm I need to watch more Dr.Phil so I can state the obvious more but seem uber smart and like an all knowing relationship queen or something. | ||
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