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On May 09 2007 19:48 CaucasianAsian wrote:
EDIT:I've told her to give me drug tests, but she refuses to do so. What the fuck!?
EDIT: 2000th post
Fuck yeah, 2000th post. Congrats! ^_^
Anyways, you should really find like the town drug addict and bring him over to your mom and put your arm over his shoulder and say to your mom, "See, if I was on drugs, I'd look like this!" and point at him. Then run immediately if he's capable of kicking your ass. -_-
I have no idea, you can also try to just come home at the right time; you can maybe TELL her beforehand the days that you're going to be out with friends. I'm not sure how this'll satisfy the innate motherly ability to worry like hell, but maybe it'll help a little bit.
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There is a do-it-yourself at home test. Obviously not 100% accurate but should be enough to prove to her what's going on even if she doesn't want to hear it.
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LOL man
dont worry, all mothers can go crazy about these kind of things. Some goes crazy to the extreme like yours.
Excuse me that I ask, but do you live with your father or is he alive (sorry but Im just trying to help). In case he is, you should convince him first and then you have another front to attack from.
However, you must push her. Push her to go and take the drugs tests. If she doesnt want to OR if she doesnt agree, then tell her she's losing her mind and that you want that both of you to go to a psychologist. Inmediately she will assume something is wrong. "What? My children wants to go to a psychologist with me?". It is very odd and strange that the son decides to use professional help.
Ive never been in a psychologist and Ive never needed one to aid family issues. Still, if i had this situation, after some fights and discussions (lets say she still the same after those) I would use a psychologist right away.
Mother's eyes can be very blind when looking at their creature. So fucking blind that it will never see his creature for real.
Why Im talking so much about involving a third person? Its not my style, but your mother is different than mine. Yours too blind to see the truth. Some people even need to create artificial problems in their lives to believe that they have a reason to be in this world (resolve that problem). However its just a random thought and I dont know if it applies to your mom.
So, to resume, my advice is that you must get a third person involved that wont blind her eyes and mind.
Sorry for my english.
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No, you just need to make her know that you're still trusting her with information about your life.
Tell her "listen, I'm not drinking. if anybody does drink, that person doesn't drive. we aren't doing drugs." Tell her where you're going, when and with who. She's genuinely worried, and messing with her is only going to make it worse for her.
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Be a man. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone.
Drugs aren't bad, it's only bad if you abuse it and become addicted to it. Feel free to try some.
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Whenever my mom asks me where im going, i say im going to do some drugs.
When she asks me if im gonna drink i tell here that im getting hammered.
When she asks me hopw late im gonna be, i say that ill be out all night..
best advice !
i am doing this almost 10 years
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mothers are precious creatures
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yeah, but once u hit teens, they're useless pieces of _____(fill in urself=))
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Tell her to read this thread; she'll know after reading this that you're being honest.
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You... you dont want to make your mom a liar now, do you?
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I told my parents I've tried and sometimes smoke marijuana. I told them it was irregular and they bleieved me (which it is).
My father then proceeded to tell me that my life is my own, that no good can come of the drug and that I'm fucking up my own life (and will be responsible for it). He also said that if I wish to keep using the drug that he can't stop me, but he'll support me in every way possible to stop using it.
.... and that's point at which smokin weed stop bein an adventure and started being a path towards fucking up my life. Soon after realising that I stopped.
So... tell your mother that, one day, her son will grow up. Will have his own decisions to make and will use drugs if he wants to. There's nothing she can do about it. All she can do is give you perspective on the situation and hope you make the right decision.
Oh and to answer the question WHY your mother does this. Coz HER MOTHER did that to her. The most important thing is to NOT blame your mother or make her a focal point of any discussion. You will never change her. However, discuss the situation and try to come to a resolution. If your mother starts saying "oh but you're acting this, you're acting that" try to re-focus the attention on the actual acts she's accusing you of, rather than trying to justify yourself and how you are and what you are. Again, no one can prove they're an honest person. However, you can prove that you didnt commit certain acts. If she still doesn't listen, then ask her what the real problem is.
So your line of argument is:
- tell her what you do when you're with your friends
- tell her what the consequences would be if you were doing what she thinks you are (i.e. a high person WANTS to eat.. not the opposite)
- tell her you'll take any test to prove your innocence
- finally, once all of this fails (which it will I'm assuming), ask her what the REAL reason behind her acting this way is. Because, obviously, it's not the drug use.
Good Luck.
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just like what the majority have said, you gotta have that serious talk with your mom...you can't blame your mom for worrying, hell my mother's mom still worries about her kids....
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Just start smoking weed, at least she'll have something real to worry about :p
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get her something nice on mothers day!
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I used to just be really sarcastic with my mom about that type of stuff. She never worried much
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i tell my parents everything mostly (minus smoking buds because they are super against it and think ill be a drug addict / drop out of school etc etc), and I have to say I am very surprised at how they do not appreciate honesty. Whenever I tell them the truth, I usually have to listen to my mom talking up a storm about something even though my dad doesnt care about drinking at all. There is nothing you can do if your mom is like mine (which she is except more anal), because my mom worries about EVERYTHING, but she wouldnt make assumptions that I'm doing drugs thats just lame.
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On May 09 2007 23:50 PissedOffEmo wrote:
get her something nice on mothers day!
sounds like a sweet idea
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Tell her, "Mom I love you. To love is to also trust. I would never betray your trust in that way so please trust me because I love you."
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tell her to stop watching dr phil.
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