Alright, this is kinda personal but whatever, I just need to let off some steam.
About a few months ago, I have been working at Pizza Hut and made some new friends and we have hung out a lot lately. We see movies, hang out after school, etc... The main person I hang out with is named Joey. Joey has introduced me to Jack and Jill (its obvious these aren't the real names).
My mom has noticed me staying out late (until 11:30 almost every night) as opposed to me coming home at 9. So she has come to the conclusion that I am doing drugs, robbing stores, and drinking so much that I pass out.
I am 17 and I have always had a good relationship with my mother. She's made me edible (not tastey) food, and I have always told her what I'm doing when I'm doing what and so on.
When me and Jack, Joey, and Jill are hanging out, I call my mom so she doesn't worry so much (she worries like hell, she is a mother) and say we hang out.
My mom seems to assume that hanging out revolves around the negative side. I mean, my sister started to become an alcoholic.
I don't know what to say to make my parents realize that I don't do drugs, I don't drink ever, I don't go robbing stores, etc...
In fact just a few minutes ago (after I started writing this) she assumed that I wasn't hungry because I'm high. I looked at her in the eye and told her in a very aggressive attitude (Why the hell would I get high, especially if it was at home? I'm obviously not hungry because I already ate at work (free pizza FTW!)."
There's nothing that seems to make her understand that I am a normal decent kid (hell, I have decent grades).
I guess I'm just wondering how the hell did she lose her trust in me and start to assume that I am a drug user/alcoholic etc...? What can I do to prove to her I am still a good kid.
TL.net HELP!
EDIT:I've told her to give me drug tests, but she refuses to do so. What the fuck!?
My parent is the same. My mom drew the conclusion that my grades in school arent so high and I dont like going to church because I spent ALL of my time on the computer hoping to be pro at SC.
this is what I get for even showing her about progaming and stuff since I thought it was cool. She assumes that anytime I spend on the computer I must be gaming. I also supposively never done any work at school thats why I dont have straight A. I told it to her face that, "If I never done any work at school, wouldn't I be failing all my classes? As oppose to not getting all As?"
w/e dont want to steal the thread. Gotta wait for the rest of TL net to help you there, I'm no good at these things, lol.
Just sit down and talk to her. To the extreme. Don't raise your voice, she'll probably just think you're having a smack attack. Just talk smoothly and intelligently, like Light. ;D
My mom thought this as well, and I just sat down with her and talked to her calmly and now she doesn't assume that many bad things. She use to jump to conclusions a lot, but these jumps would have won her gold medals.
This isn't really a problem with you, it's a problem with her. There's not really a lot you can do that you aren't already doing without making some unreasonable sacrifices in your personal life.
If it gets to be too much, you should have a serious talk with her and let her know that although you appreciate her care and concern, she's out of line and she needs to learn to trust you a little bit more. If you haven't really done anything to warrant a loss of trust, then she really shouldn't be so paranoid. From what you say, you seem like a pretty good kid though so she should be a little more reasonable.
well i assume you were really close together? maybe she is afraid like every parent out there, I mean, you are growing up and you are starting to hang out more and stuff, parents tend to react and to think ilogically when they see their little kids start becoming men.
I agree with the drug test, go with her and show her with strong evidence you tell the truth, also talk to her in a strong tone that you arent doing anything wrong, to back off a little and give you some space, show her with facts you tell the truth
i have been on drugs and my mother never knew:X irony.
tell her being high only makes you hungrier.. or so you hear. tell her to do some research on the affects of pot, thatway she can see that your eyes arent ever glazed and surprise, not being hungry is definitely not on the list either.
or next time she accuses you just flip out and be sarcastic and yell at her "YEAH MOM, IM HIGH. IM ABOUT TO BLOW A LINE OF COKE TOO. NOW IF YOU COULD STOP INTERRUPTING ME.."
To me, it seems that you and her had a very good relationship, and the trust is broken because of the suspicion. The best approach is to restore this trust, instead of challenging her to get you a drug test, take her to a coffee house or make her some coffee, sit her down and tell her how you feel. Conclude with that you are getting older and need to socialize more with people your age.
I'm certain that it's a very difficult time for her as well, because she feels neglected and is losing her grip on you. She might have even said it so that you could spend more time with her.
On May 09 2007 19:50 lil.sis wrote: lol not hungry because you're high
lolololol
also tell your mother there's nothing wrong with alcoholism
Could you explain that to my dad who is dying of liver failure because of being an alcoholic for 9 years? I wonder how he would respond... I know you are trying to joke but sometimes its not funny
Also to the op - if you really have a good relationship with your mom, just tell her you want to talk and explain to her that she should have a little more faith in the job she has done raising you and that you are not your sister.
Edit: Moms are always going to worry. My mom always feels that she never provided well for us because she was a single mom raising three kids. As you said, you are growing up and now you can have the more intellectual conversations with your parents. If you keep your cool and tell her how things really are, I don't see things going bad
On May 09 2007 19:48 CaucasianAsian wrote: My mom has noticed me staying out late (until 11:30 almost every night) as opposed to me coming home at 9. So she has come to the conclusion that I am doing drugs, robbing stores, and drinking so much that I pass out.
she assumed that I wasn't hungry because I'm high.
"No mom sorry I can't run to the store right now cause I'm wicked tweaked on coke", or just "so the other day I was smoking pot and....." etc. Act goofy, it'll work fine.
On May 09 2007 20:12 Haemonculus wrote: Sarcasm is the way to go in these situations.
"No mom sorry I can't run to the store right now cause I'm wicked tweaked on coke", or just "so the other day I was smoking pot and....." etc. Act goofy, it'll work fine.
In all honesty I think sarcasm could actually hinder the situation. If the mom is really this worried already, then I don't think sarcasm would help.
When I was in college, my mother was convinced that I was an alcoholic.
After I graduated, I just stopped drinking cause I had other shit to do. Now she's convinced that I'm a compulisive gambler because I play some poker now and then, which I actually MAKE money doing.
Whenever my mom asks me where im going, i say im going to do some drugs. When she asks me if im gonna drink i tell here that im getting hammered. When she asks me hopw late im gonna be, i say that ill be out all night.
Just be sarcastic and she might stop asking you. I have been doing this for 3 years but and she still asks me.
try telling her that the reason she's paranoid about you and suspecting you of doing drugs and robbing stores which is odd, without any evidence whatsoever is because a) your sister, and b) maybe she watches too much biased news media shows about how kids are so far out of control these days. what she's accusing you of, if it truly is as you say only because you hang out late in a not too suspicious fashion in particular, is a regular example of an ageist stereotype. she thinks this is what teenagers do when they're out at night. and yeah just tell her how you feel.
yea i know how that feels, my parents thought I was out drinking with friends because I came home late on weekends (past 12) but all they said was " if you're drinking just stay over at your friend's for the night and don't drive" edit: im 16
Her accusations of your "drug use and store robbing" are based entirely on the fact that she's afraid of change and doesn't like her little boy going out at night.
She doesn't actually think you're on drugs, she's just resisting your changing (and maturing) life style choices and expressing it by ragging on you about what you're "probably" doing.
Communicate with her that's all I can really say. My mom suspected the same thing but we never talked about it and let's just say the situation got a whole lot worse :/
On May 09 2007 20:53 MYM.Testie wrote: Are your friends remotely hoodlumish / suspiciously ugly / bad manner? Does she know what type of people they are?
I would most likely inform her that if she wants to assume you are lying that is her problem and not yours, and that if she doesn't start being reasonable you *will* stop being honest with her.
On May 09 2007 20:53 MYM.Testie wrote: Are your friends remotely hoodlumish / suspiciously ugly / bad manner? Does she know what type of people they are?
lol what do you mean "suspiciously ugly"?
It's those suspiciously ugly people you gotta watch out for. Ugly + suspicious. You know 'em when you see them.
On May 09 2007 20:54 travis wrote: How old are you?
I would most likely inform her that if she wants to assume you are lying that is her problem and not yours, and that if she doesn't start being reasonable you *will* stop being honest with her.
i say just do your best to keep your mother happy. at some point in life you gotta start being the adult and gotta start understanding your parents like they understood you when you were just a kid and acted like a retard 24/7.
1. Don't over react to her suspicions. They are unjustified and may feel like she's accusing you but having outbursts just reminds her of that Oprah she saw on how drugs make your behavior erratic.
2. Treat her kindly. The hell is this, "she makes edible, not tastey meals". The fuck is that? She makes you meals, you're only allowed to have one opinion on that. Thankful. The hell was the point of this, eh?
3. Just be a good kid and stop being a dumbass. Don't get mad, just talk to her calmly. Say it's disturbing you why she'd think this, and why there isn't any trust there?
4. Do you do anything at all to warrant this? 11:30 is kinda late to stay out on a school night, regardless of being 17 or not. Especially if you live in a city. So she just wonders, "the hell is going on?" While your out working, or hanging out with your friends she's prolly watching Oprah, Dr. Phil, and occasionally Tyra if something is really interesting seeing how messed up some kids are and what kinda sex crazed drug induced parties they are throwing.
5. Nothing new. Summary. Honest, direct, manner, cool head, straight up, talk it out and better your relationship with her.
Angsty teenage mother fucker, tell me my meals are edible.
(I know you didn't tell her, it's not really a rant, I just got nothin' to do).
On May 09 2007 20:20 Kingkosi wrote: I remeber when my mom thought i was on drugs because i never slept, she was right i was on drugs but it hurts to see the wrongly excused...
Just call in regularly when you are out so she can ease her mind, after a few times and she sees that you don't come back: in a body bag, with cops, high, drunk, etc. Your mom will begin to trust you more and more.
Unless your mom is one paranoid bitch in which case tell her to get off your nuts.
On May 09 2007 19:48 CaucasianAsian wrote: EDIT:I've told her to give me drug tests, but she refuses to do so. What the fuck!?
EDIT: 2000th post
Fuck yeah, 2000th post. Congrats! ^_^
Anyways, you should really find like the town drug addict and bring him over to your mom and put your arm over his shoulder and say to your mom, "See, if I was on drugs, I'd look like this!" and point at him. Then run immediately if he's capable of kicking your ass. -_-
I have no idea, you can also try to just come home at the right time; you can maybe TELL her beforehand the days that you're going to be out with friends. I'm not sure how this'll satisfy the innate motherly ability to worry like hell, but maybe it'll help a little bit.
There is a do-it-yourself at home test. Obviously not 100% accurate but should be enough to prove to her what's going on even if she doesn't want to hear it.
dont worry, all mothers can go crazy about these kind of things. Some goes crazy to the extreme like yours.
Excuse me that I ask, but do you live with your father or is he alive (sorry but Im just trying to help). In case he is, you should convince him first and then you have another front to attack from.
However, you must push her. Push her to go and take the drugs tests. If she doesnt want to OR if she doesnt agree, then tell her she's losing her mind and that you want that both of you to go to a psychologist. Inmediately she will assume something is wrong. "What? My children wants to go to a psychologist with me?". It is very odd and strange that the son decides to use professional help.
Ive never been in a psychologist and Ive never needed one to aid family issues. Still, if i had this situation, after some fights and discussions (lets say she still the same after those) I would use a psychologist right away.
Mother's eyes can be very blind when looking at their creature. So fucking blind that it will never see his creature for real.
Why Im talking so much about involving a third person? Its not my style, but your mother is different than mine. Yours too blind to see the truth. Some people even need to create artificial problems in their lives to believe that they have a reason to be in this world (resolve that problem). However its just a random thought and I dont know if it applies to your mom.
So, to resume, my advice is that you must get a third person involved that wont blind her eyes and mind.
No, you just need to make her know that you're still trusting her with information about your life.
Tell her "listen, I'm not drinking. if anybody does drink, that person doesn't drive. we aren't doing drugs." Tell her where you're going, when and with who. She's genuinely worried, and messing with her is only going to make it worse for her.
Whenever my mom asks me where im going, i say im going to do some drugs. When she asks me if im gonna drink i tell here that im getting hammered. When she asks me hopw late im gonna be, i say that ill be out all night..
I told my parents I've tried and sometimes smoke marijuana. I told them it was irregular and they bleieved me (which it is).
My father then proceeded to tell me that my life is my own, that no good can come of the drug and that I'm fucking up my own life (and will be responsible for it). He also said that if I wish to keep using the drug that he can't stop me, but he'll support me in every way possible to stop using it.
.... and that's point at which smokin weed stop bein an adventure and started being a path towards fucking up my life. Soon after realising that I stopped.
So... tell your mother that, one day, her son will grow up. Will have his own decisions to make and will use drugs if he wants to. There's nothing she can do about it. All she can do is give you perspective on the situation and hope you make the right decision.
Oh and to answer the question WHY your mother does this. Coz HER MOTHER did that to her. The most important thing is to NOT blame your mother or make her a focal point of any discussion. You will never change her. However, discuss the situation and try to come to a resolution. If your mother starts saying "oh but you're acting this, you're acting that" try to re-focus the attention on the actual acts she's accusing you of, rather than trying to justify yourself and how you are and what you are. Again, no one can prove they're an honest person. However, you can prove that you didnt commit certain acts. If she still doesn't listen, then ask her what the real problem is.
So your line of argument is:
- tell her what you do when you're with your friends - tell her what the consequences would be if you were doing what she thinks you are (i.e. a high person WANTS to eat.. not the opposite) - tell her you'll take any test to prove your innocence - finally, once all of this fails (which it will I'm assuming), ask her what the REAL reason behind her acting this way is. Because, obviously, it's not the drug use.
just like what the majority have said, you gotta have that serious talk with your mom...you can't blame your mom for worrying, hell my mother's mom still worries about her kids....
i tell my parents everything mostly (minus smoking buds because they are super against it and think ill be a drug addict / drop out of school etc etc), and I have to say I am very surprised at how they do not appreciate honesty. Whenever I tell them the truth, I usually have to listen to my mom talking up a storm about something even though my dad doesnt care about drinking at all. There is nothing you can do if your mom is like mine (which she is except more anal), because my mom worries about EVERYTHING, but she wouldnt make assumptions that I'm doing drugs thats just lame.
i have a solution: Tell your sister to tell your mother that she surfed the internet and found this post on this "site he allways visits". Arrange it so your mother reads it, but dont tell her nothing about it. gg
EDIT: Of course then the admin would have to delete my post in case she decides to read the comments.
My parents got worried when I didnt stay up late and went to parties with my friends. I guess they were worried that I didnt have any friends or just lame ones. Oh and most of my friends did drink and some used amphetamine. Others made break ins, but I didnt and they belived me.
I remember when I got drunk as fuck on Cinco de Mayo last year and I went back to my house, went into my parent's room (they were still awake and watching TV), crawled into their bed, rolled over, threw up all over my arm, and then accidently kicked the drapes and yanked them off the window. And they didn't say a word to me about it.
No offense but you're moms pretty stupid, I don't know how someone can draw up such illogical conclusions.
However, the same thing did happen to me once when I was 14 and I went to a friend's birthday party. I was up all night, didn't get any sleep and was drinking Pepsi all night so I got one massive sugar high. When I got home the next day it seemed i was trashed so my parents assumed I must behaving a hangover, it was pretty stupid though because my friends mother was at the house (my parents knew this) so there's no way we could have gone that wild. Either way, I just learned to live with it.
The best thing you can do is just except that your mother is not able to understand the changes in your life and you should also just learn to live with it.
Tell her you don't do drugs and you will live long lively thx to shield battery.
But yeah seriously, you have a good relationship with your mom, and you've moved a bit from the mama's boy stage to the social stage. You never want to lose your relationship with her, so I'd say you should just be honest with her.
i think your mum is just generally worried bout you and does not know what exactly what you are doing out there. i assume you only started to stay out late after you hang out with these friends. staying out late usually gives mum a "bad boy" image. she's just worried bout this sudden change after you started hanging out with these friends. saying that you take drug or drink until you pass out are just harsh words, it just shows that she has no idea of what you are doing out there. she doesn't trust you even when you tell her you're not doing any bad things because there's a "sudden" change to your lifestyle.
i think the best way is still to talk nicely to your mum, and maybe invite your friends over to your place for a meal or something. let your mum see that your friends aren't "bad" people.
Just have a talk with her and explain the whole situation. Try to be calm and DO NOT raise your voice or act like crazy. And come home a little early for 1-2 weeks. Then gradually be late until u reach 11:30.
lmao. If she's acting like that then theres basically not much you can do.
I'm actually amazed that you aren't out drinking with your friends if you are 17. I had some minor problems with this, but I was younger, like 14? I did sort of a combination from what Nitram said and Judicator said. Every now and then I'd joke answering "Im going out to get smashed" and she was like "..? oh ha hah!" But I also always made my self available through my cell and I didn't come home drunk or high and eventually she started trusting me.
These days I do drink from time to time when theres a party or such. But then ill just reply honestly saying Yes I will be drinking, but you can reach me on the cell whenever you want and I'm with friends who take good care of me. So far its worked out very good, I mean she isnt satisfied with the fact that I drink, but never the less I've never gotten into trouble for drinking and I always answer her calls.
On May 10 2007 00:16 jkillashark wrote: Tell her, "Mom I love you. To love is to also trust. I would never betray your trust in that way so please trust me because I love you."
haha, this is gold. It would probably be embarrassing or awkward to say though.
On May 10 2007 04:30 pubbanana wrote: I remember when I got drunk as fuck on Cinco de Mayo last year and I went back to my house, went into my parent's room (they were still awake and watching TV), crawled into their bed, rolled over, threw up all over my arm, and then accidently kicked the drapes and yanked them off the window. And they didn't say a word to me about it.
My parents are awesome, I guess.
Hey lets go you, me and your parents, all to get wasted @ cinco de mayo! :D what do you say?
On May 10 2007 04:30 pubbanana wrote: I remember when I got drunk as fuck on Cinco de Mayo last year and I went back to my house, went into my parent's room (they were still awake and watching TV), crawled into their bed, rolled over, threw up all over my arm, and then accidently kicked the drapes and yanked them off the window. And they didn't say a word to me about it.
My parents are awesome, I guess.
Hey lets go you, me and your parents, all to get wasted @ cinco de mayo! :D what do you say?
On May 10 2007 00:16 jkillashark wrote: Tell her, "Mom I love you. To love is to also trust. I would never betray your trust in that way so please trust me because I love you."
Hahahhahaha, Jkeezy, you speak to your mums like that? That's so fuckn cute shit.
I remember these days at the end of my high school, exactly the same situation where she questions me everything and worry without reason and she is pretty good at making up story. Then I got so pissed one day that I told my mum that I think she is on drugs because she talks so much and get suspicious over everything I do (i.e. I am going to drink if my friend come pick me up instead of driving myself. I am going out for a gang meeting if I wear a hoodie at night and other stupid shit.)
edit: there is nothing you can really do about it. I don't remember when it stopped, probably during uni where she had zero control and practically gave up.
On May 09 2007 20:20 nitram wrote: This is what i do:
Whenever my mom asks me where im going, i say im going to do some drugs. When she asks me if im gonna drink i tell here that im getting hammered. When she asks me hopw late im gonna be, i say that ill be out all night.
Just be sarcastic and she might stop asking you. I have been doing this for 3 years but and she still asks me.
hahahah my friend does this all the time to his mother. She asks totally innocently "Where are you guys going?" And he responds "What the hell you think! WE GOING TO SMOKE SOME DOPE". And she just sighs and walks away.
On May 09 2007 20:20 nitram wrote: This is what i do:
Whenever my mom asks me where im going, i say im going to do some drugs. When she asks me if im gonna drink i tell here that im getting hammered. When she asks me hopw late im gonna be, i say that ill be out all night.
Just be sarcastic and she might stop asking you. I have been doing this for 3 years but and she still asks me.
hahahah my friend does this all the time to his mother. She asks totally innocently "Where are you guys going?" And he responds "What the hell you think! WE GOING TO SMOKE SOME DOPE". And she just sighs and walks away.
This is actually a good idea. When I first got a PC when I was in 6th grade, I would turn out the lights so I could see the screen better and it completely scared my mom for some reason. I guess she thought I was in there doing witchcraft or some shit.
So, one day at around 9 PM, she walked in and said "Uh ... do you want me to turn on a light?" and without even looking away from the monitor I just said "No, no, I'm not done worshipping Satan." and she quit being so anxious about it after that.
this one time, my mom asked me where I was going and with who ... so I pulled my erect penis and told her "Do you rather want him to stay here with you in your mouth ass and vagina ?"
... and that was it ... no more vigilant questions.
On May 10 2007 14:11 zobeide wrote: this one time, my mom asked me where I was going and with who ... so I pulled my erect penis and told her "Do you rather want him to stay here with you in your mouth ass and vagina ?"
... and that was it ... no more vigilant questions.
On May 10 2007 14:11 zobeide wrote: this one time, my mom asked me where I was going and with who ... so I pulled my erect penis and told her "Do you rather want him to stay here with you in your mouth ass and vagina ?"
... and that was it ... no more vigilant questions.
On May 09 2007 20:20 nitram wrote: This is what i do:
Whenever my mom asks me where im going, i say im going to do some drugs. When she asks me if im gonna drink i tell here that im getting hammered. When she asks me hopw late im gonna be, i say that ill be out all night.
Just be sarcastic and she might stop asking you. I have been doing this for 3 years but and she still asks me.
hahahah my friend does this all the time to his mother. She asks totally innocently "Where are you guys going?" And he responds "What the hell you think! WE GOING TO SMOKE SOME DOPE". And she just sighs and walks away.
This is actually a good idea. When I first got a PC when I was in 6th grade, I would turn out the lights so I could see the screen better and it completely scared my mom for some reason. I guess she thought I was in there doing witchcraft or some shit.
So, one day at around 9 PM, she walked in and said "Uh ... do you want me to turn on a light?" and without even looking away from the monitor I just said "No, no, I'm not done worshipping Satan." and she quit being so anxious about it after that.
Nice. Another one from the same friend: We chill in his basement a lot, and usually have like all these pillows out. So his mom like comes down there obsessively when we are chilling to like pretend she is doing laundry but actually spy on us. So one day he is like "Mom we aren't having butt sex when we are down here if thats what you think". She didn't sigh, but instead turned a bright shade of....anger. I forced a laugh to break the awkwardness. This had the opposite of desired effect, now she comes down to the basement even more obsessively than before and my friend has to forcibly kick her out.
On May 09 2007 20:00 Cambium wrote: Here's some proper advice:
To me, it seems that you and her had a very good relationship, and the trust is broken because of the suspicion. The best approach is to restore this trust, instead of challenging her to get you a drug test, take her to a coffee house or make her some coffee, sit her down and tell her how you feel. Conclude with that you are getting older and need to socialize more with people your age.
I'm certain that it's a very difficult time for her as well, because she feels neglected and is losing her grip on you. She might have even said it so that you could spend more time with her.
On May 10 2007 14:11 zobeide wrote: this one time, my mom asked me where I was going and with who ... so I pulled my erect penis and told her "Do you rather want him to stay here with you in your mouth ass and vagina ?"
... and that was it ... no more vigilant questions.
On May 10 2007 14:11 zobeide wrote: this one time, my mom asked me where I was going and with who ... so I pulled my erect penis and told her "Do you rather want him to stay here with you in your mouth ass and vagina ?"
... and that was it ... no more vigilant questions.
I can not honestly tell you anything that I don't feel down in my heart. Ever since I have gotten a job at Pizza Hut and hanging out with other people, you have accused me of doing things such as drugs, alcohol, robbing stores, etc... Are you not aware about how outrages and hysterical this sounds? My entire life, I have been fed tales about how drugs are bad, don't drink alcohol, and obviously don't do anything illegal.
I have done nothing that would change the alteration of your consciousness to such a degree that you think so horrifically about me. I have never done drugs, I never wish to, I never have tasted Alcohol, and I don't want to until I am 21. I never have stolen anything more than a penny for lunch money.
Do you want to know what I think about the situation? In my own perception of the attitudes that you have given me, you assume that I am like my sister. I am not under any circumstance following my sister's footsteps to become involved in illegal activities such as consuming illegal substances. The people I hang out with are good people, and have done nothing bad.
I am aware about the personal mistakes that my sister has preformed that would cause you to lose respect in her. But when have I ever come across as a person who would want to say, “Screw everything I've learned, I want to die 10 years earlier!”?
Honestly, nothing is a fabrication in what I am saying right now. Just because I am growing up and trying to figure out my life outside of a Christian engulfed home, you assume that I am a bad kid, a satanic worshiper (in order to believe in satan, you need to believe in God, I believe in neither). You have known me for 17 years and you have taught me since day 1 how to grow up and become a better person for society, all while becoming an individual based on individual, personal morals. If you do not trust in what you have taught me yourself, then I don't know what to say.
I apologize that you are losing grip on me, we used to have a decent relationship. I mean, we talked about a lot of things, but lately, all of our conversations have been nothing but arguments. I am regretful that I somehow appear to be a drug using, alcoholic, retarded criminal, but I am none of these. If you can just please give me space to understand what I enjoy in life and not have you tell me what I do or do not enjoy through your own personal experiences then I would be grateful. Every person is different, some may enjoy being a Christian and conforming to believe in something that has no literal evidence besides a book that was written about a man who can walk on water (makes real sense!). Some may believe that none of that makes sense and just needs to get away for a while from people like the first. I myself believe in the latter, so why do you insist on making me something that I am not? I do not want to live a lie.
I am never sleeping by 9:00 and neither are my friends. If we are not hurting anyone what is a reason as to why we cant? Because its your rule? Well what is the basis for a rule like that? What are you trying to shield me from? What makes it so unbearable to see your own son hanging out, laughing, seeing movies, making money, understanding himself?
If you are to think about my school participation and grades. I obviously care enough to pass school since I have not a single grade below a B on my report card. I am passing all of my classes and will continue to do so for quite a while.
Please if you have read this thoroughly then understand that I do not intend you to feel hurt by anything that I have said. I just want to show you my side of what has been going on, and I really want you to understand me, and allow me to continue to figure out what I wish to pursue in life.
I'm not going to read the 5 pages of comments people have left but tell your mom that she's a fucking noob for thinking that you're not hungry when you're high.
That shit is common fucking knowledge. Unforgivable.
Ya my parents did shit like that sometimes. Its mainly a way of reassuring themselves. I used to do the sarcasm thing too. It does work. I would just say no sorry mom I'm gonna be wayyyy too hopped up on crack to be good tonight. And she would just laugh and not worry about it. But on the other hand your mom kinda sounds like a huge tool...so who knows. Obviously shes never even tried weed in her life
On May 10 2007 17:35 MiLktoast wrote: I'm not going to read the 5 pages of comments people have left but tell your mom that she's a fucking noob for thinking that you're not hungry when you're high.
That shit is common fucking knowledge. Unforgivable.
I can not honestly tell you anything that I don't feel down in my heart. Ever since I have gotten a job at Pizza Hut and hanging out with other people, you have accused me of doing things such as drugs, alcohol, robbing stores, etc... Are you not aware about how outrages and hysterical this sounds? My entire life, I have been fed tales about how drugs are bad, don't drink alcohol, and obviously don't do anything illegal.
I have done nothing that would change the alteration of your consciousness to such a degree that you think so horrifically about me. I have never done drugs, I never wish to, I never have tasted Alcohol, and I don't want to until I am 21. I never have stolen anything more than a penny for lunch money.
Do you want to know what I think about the situation? In my own perception of the attitudes that you have given me, you assume that I am like my sister. I am not under any circumstance following my sister's footsteps to become involved in illegal activities such as consuming illegal substances. The people I hang out with are good people, and have done nothing bad.
I am aware about the personal mistakes that my sister has preformed that would cause you to lose respect in her. But when have I ever come across as a person who would want to say, “Screw everything I've learned, I want to die 10 years earlier!”?
Honestly, nothing is a fabrication in what I am saying right now. Just because I am growing up and trying to figure out my life outside of a Christian engulfed home, you assume that I am a bad kid, a satanic worshiper (in order to believe in satan, you need to believe in God, I believe in neither). You have known me for 17 years and you have taught me since day 1 how to grow up and become a better person for society, all while becoming an individual based on individual, personal morals. If you do not trust in what you have taught me yourself, then I don't know what to say.
I apologize that you are losing grip on me, we used to have a decent relationship. I mean, we talked about a lot of things, but lately, all of our conversations have been nothing but arguments. I am regretful that I somehow appear to be a drug using, alcoholic, retarded criminal, but I am none of these. If you can just please give me space to understand what I enjoy in life and not have you tell me what I do or do not enjoy through your own personal experiences then I would be grateful. Every person is different, some may enjoy being a Christian and conforming to believe in something that has no literal evidence besides a book that was written about a man who can walk on water (makes real sense!). Some may believe that none of that makes sense and just needs to get away for a while from people like the first. I myself believe in the latter, so why do you insist on making me something that I am not? I do not want to live a lie.
I am never sleeping by 9:00 and neither are my friends. If we are not hurting anyone what is a reason as to why we cant? Because its your rule? Well what is the basis for a rule like that? What are you trying to shield me from? What makes it so unbearable to see your own son hanging out, laughing, seeing movies, making money, understanding himself?
If you are to think about my school participation and grades. I obviously care enough to pass school since I have not a single grade below a B on my report card. I am passing all of my classes and will continue to do so for quite a while.
Please if you have read this thoroughly then understand that I do not intend you to feel hurt by anything that I have said. I just want to show you my side of what has been going on, and I really want you to understand me, and allow me to continue to figure out what I wish to pursue in life.
I sort of skimmed your note to your mom. It's good that you explained the situation, but in my personal opinion, yhou should've talked to her face to face. Writing just lacks the human interaction factor when it comes to taking care of personal problems. What you've written, you should tell her when she gets home.
And honestly, your mother is a very precious person in your life. As people have mentioned, she cooks for you, cleans for you, raised you, fed you, bred you, done everything that you need to grow up. It sounds hypocritical coming from me since I've never had such a great relatinoship with my mother, but I do realize how important moms are. That being said, I feel absolutely shitty just thinking about how much garbage kids including myself give to their parents. I suppose it's an endless cycle once you get married and have kids yourself.
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