EPTIt isn't bad by any stretch of the imagination, but is simply unexpectedly (and in my opinion unnecessarily) brash about the subject. I would liken it to saying, "We're here, we're introverted, get used to it." To be fair Rufus goes to certain lengths to differentiate between a Loner and an Introvert; I would say great lengths but the qualitative distinction is blurry at best. I have enjoyed both, and am looking over the rest of the books mentioned in the OP.
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ThomasjServo
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It isn't bad by any stretch of the imagination, but is simply unexpectedly (and in my opinion unnecessarily) brash about the subject. I would liken it to saying, "We're here, we're introverted, get used to it." To be fair Rufus goes to certain lengths to differentiate between a Loner and an Introvert; I would say great lengths but the qualitative distinction is blurry at best. I have enjoyed both, and am looking over the rest of the books mentioned in the OP. | ||
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anatase
France532 Posts
Still, being introvert and staying into the silence is pure goldness. Now i fear that with all these media exposition introvertion might become something "cool" and the word gets ripped out by marketers, as they did with geek. | ||
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mierin
United States4943 Posts
 So you introverts don't have it all bad  EDIT: Sometimes I find myself going crazy having to watch the above things by myself. I was trying to empathize with you all, but from the other side. | ||
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KiF1rE
United States964 Posts
On January 03 2013 13:42 mierin wrote: It's very weird being extroverted and such a fan of esports, because I love watching SPL/GSL/etc but I can only ever really get friends to come to an MLG So you introverts don't have it all bad EDIT: Sometimes I find myself going crazy having to watch the above things by myself. I was trying to empathize with you all, but from the other side. uhh what.... Most starcraft introverts would actually probably love going out and watching SC2 lol... | ||
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jdseemoreglass
United States3773 Posts
On January 03 2013 14:21 KiF1rE wrote: uhh what.... Most starcraft introverts would actually probably love going out and watching SC2 lol... I used to want to do that quite a bit... But after seeing enough tournaments pan over the crowd, I lost all desire. Most of the time they seem a little depressing lol. | ||
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AirbladeOrange
United States2573 Posts
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Thrill
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I dated this introvert girl. She was initially drawn to my extrovert 'aura', how i commanded a room/table and made everyone feel comfortable. I had my eyes set on her from the moment we met and we were both happy to learn that the wish to spend time together was mutual. So we did. I tried to take her to various social settings but she was reluctant, went to a festival which i loved and she hated. I treasured her company more than that of more superficial acquaintances and therefor chose to spend more time with her and her alone. She had a small circle of friends, all of whom i found uninteresting, i had a large circle towards which she felt the same way. We spent time together very intensively, so much so that we shared everything yet it was always just the two of us. It wasn't necessarily 'us against the world' but the world certainly seemed unimportant without her. I still went to various parties and gatherings that she preferred to stay out of but the fun in those was tainted - pretty much all my time there was spent thinking how awesome it would be to share those experiences with her (this song, that dance, these jokes). Obviously i was fooling myself, her coming along only resulted in her putting on a facade and me sensing her actual misery. Things were getting more and more intense and our relationship started becoming an addiction of which we would both constantly overdose. I'll leave what happens next to some blog or something but basically what i'm getting at here - how do we enjoy things together without only actually enjoying each other? Like whatever it is, scenic walk, cinema, crazy acts of spontaneous urban exploring - in effect we'd probably enjoy a windowless prison cell just as much as long as we were together and i'm not sure this is entirely healthy. | ||
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CecilSunkure
United States2829 Posts
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Ghostcom
Denmark4782 Posts
On January 03 2013 14:58 Thrill wrote: So... I need some help here. I dated this introvert girl. She was initially drawn to my extrovert 'aura', how i commanded a room/table and made everyone feel comfortable. I had my eyes set on her from the moment we met and we were both happy to learn that the wish to spend time together was mutual. So we did. I tried to take her to various social settings but she was reluctant, went to a festival which i loved and she hated. I treasured her company more than that of more superficial acquaintances and therefor chose to spend more time with her and her alone. She had a small circle of friends, all of whom i found uninteresting, i had a large circle towards which she felt the same way. We spent time together very intensively, so much so that we shared everything yet it was always just the two of us. It wasn't necessarily 'us against the world' but the world certainly seemed unimportant without her. I still went to various parties and gatherings that she preferred to stay out of but the fun in those was tainted - pretty much all my time there was spent thinking how awesome it would be to share those experiences with her (this song, that dance, these jokes). Obviously i was fooling myself, her coming along only resulted in her putting on a facade and me sensing her actual misery. Things were getting more and more intense and our relationship started becoming an addiction of which we would both constantly overdose. I'll leave what happens next to some blog or something but basically what i'm getting at here - how do we enjoy things together without only actually enjoying each other? Like whatever it is, scenic walk, cinema, crazy acts of spontaneous urban exploring - in effect we'd probably enjoy a windowless prison cell just as much as long as we were together and i'm not sure this is entirely healthy. Girlblog material - although a bit light on the doom and gloom. | ||
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Steel
Japan2283 Posts
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Asmodeusx
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xM(Z
Romania5296 Posts
On January 03 2013 16:18 Asmodeusx wrote: defending a set of behaviors pinned to a stereotype is just using the same stereotype with changed meaning, it only strenghtens the stereotype, the proper way to present it, is abandoning false generalization that there is such thing as an introvert or extrovert if you look at the moon and say it's round, did you made it round?(just by saying it). shit is what it is whether you cathegorize it or not. note: were both half wrong here anyway. | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
On January 03 2013 14:58 Thrill wrote: + Show Spoiler + So... I need some help here. I dated this introvert girl. She was initially drawn to my extrovert 'aura', how i commanded a room/table and made everyone feel comfortable. I had my eyes set on her from the moment we met and we were both happy to learn that the wish to spend time together was mutual. So we did. I tried to take her to various social settings but she was reluctant, went to a festival which i loved and she hated. I treasured her company more than that of more superficial acquaintances and therefor chose to spend more time with her and her alone. She had a small circle of friends, all of whom i found uninteresting, i had a large circle towards which she felt the same way. We spent time together very intensively, so much so that we shared everything yet it was always just the two of us. It wasn't necessarily 'us against the world' but the world certainly seemed unimportant without her. I still went to various parties and gatherings that she preferred to stay out of but the fun in those was tainted - pretty much all my time there was spent thinking how awesome it would be to share those experiences with her (this song, that dance, these jokes). Obviously i was fooling myself, her coming along only resulted in her putting on a facade and me sensing her actual misery. Things were getting more and more intense and our relationship started becoming an addiction of which we would both constantly overdose. I'll leave what happens next to some blog or something but basically what i'm getting at here - how do we enjoy things together without only actually enjoying each other? Like whatever it is, scenic walk, cinema, crazy acts of spontaneous urban exploring - in effect we'd probably enjoy a windowless prison cell just as much as long as we were together and i'm not sure this is entirely healthy. I don't see why she should not be comfortable with you at parties. You have the fabled extrovert aura, your very presence animates the room and sets everyone at ease. But to be honest, this is how things go: you make a friend, then they meet a 'soulmate' and downgrade you to superficial acquaintance. Many couples are like this and aren't necessarily miserable, even though they separate themselves from the world. It might just be a question of finding hobbies and activities the two of you could do together. Reproducing, for instance. It's the perfect way to introduce a new person into your circle, one that is guaranteed to be adored by both you and your girlfriend. And it gives you something to do, and you could tell yourself that your relationship now has transcended into a new level or so. | ||
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Holdenintherye
Canada1441 Posts
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Fencar
United States2694 Posts
On January 04 2013 12:35 Holdenintherye wrote: Three questions:Just reactivated Facebook to help me overcome my anxiety. Maybe it'll help me connect more easily with other people 1) Are you ever going to meet anyone you meet in Facebook in real life? 2) How many friends are you comfortable with in real life? 3) Do you really need to let them know about stuff all the time with 'status updates' and whatnot? Why not just send E-mails, talk on the phone, or use skype? Edit: I don't expect an answer to these questions, but think on them. | ||
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JOJOsc2news
3000 Posts
On January 03 2013 16:02 Steel wrote: Hey add a extrovert / introvert pool I'm curious! A poll like that would be interesting. Not sure if everyone is happy with a categorization like that but those who are would be represented in that poll. That's one of the most well-made threads I've seen. Go Barrin! | ||
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Kenpachi
United States9908 Posts
On January 05 2013 00:27 JOJOsc2news wrote: A poll like that would be interesting. Not sure if everyone is happy with a categorization like that but those who are would be represented in that poll. That's one of the most well-made threads I've seen. Go Barrin! dont forget the ambiverts | ||
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Danglars
United States12133 Posts
Now, I listen to the Susan Cain videos, and I find one eloquent speaker that affirms some of those puzzling things growing up and into modern adult society. Why the hell can't I go with my own suitcase of books to read them with others for a time, punctuated by conversation or discussion at the end of a time? Why is having a group that is more likely to contain a few genuine socially awkward people (totally disconnected with extroverted thought processes) so looked down upon in comparison with an opposite group more likely to contain a few genuinely clueless people when it comes to self reflection (totally disconnected with introverted thought processes). To say either camp is preferable is akin to the lunacy described by Cain in her TED lecture: The fully committed brain in one or the other is the brain of a lunatic. Good questions were brought up by Susan Cain and the rest of the body of work found in the thread. What if schools are killing the seeds of imagination with too much of a focus on teamwork and it's lack of I's? Is the modern educational consensus pushing square pegs into round holes along with the round ones, by shaving off the edges of the square? The round pegs keep their original character and the square pegs lose some of their essentiality to pass the hurdle. I harken back to Orwell's Politics and the English Language, where no examination of language results in a parade of meaningless phrases. Maybe now we are also in danger of letting only outward parties and frequent communication dominate our thought development process. Perhaps more time needs to be stolen back by quiet examination of our own actions, thoughts, and personality traits. | ||
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ETisME
12498 Posts
My dad especially constantly reminding me that speaking out my thoughts is extremely important, so that it may help others to understand me However the truth is that I prefer to listen to others and share my opinion if only necessary. I think it's important to not lose track of who you really are, but also you have to remember that the world will reject you if you are contained by yourself | ||
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Randomaccount#77123
United States5003 Posts
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