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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
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Jisall
United States2054 Posts
On April 15 2013 02:45 Existential wrote: Just got rejected today. Sigh life. Shit happens, I get rejected every day. Just have to not let that get you down. Was it a random chick or a "Friendzone situation"? On April 15 2013 03:27 Shotcoder wrote: I have no idea how to start a conversation out of no where so I can eventually lead to getting her number or something. =/ It really doesn't matter. Could say, shit this line is long, or what are you drinking (If you are at a bar). For teh bar example I've also asked what my next drink should be. Most woman are open to have a conversation as long as they feel you are being genuine. Best advice is to go with your instinct. You have that pull that you want to go talk to a chick, then get up and walk over, you will figure out something along the way to say. You could prolly even say, you look very pretty tonight so I had to come say hello.. | ||
RQShatter
United States459 Posts
Just started dating a girl after convincing her her ex was a scumbag (he was). I have been seeing this girl off and on for the past year, usually casual for a month at a time (she was cheating on her boyfriend). So we start dating, 5 days later she takes a pregnancy test and shes pregnant. (Not mine ![]() Long story short I tell a girl were over because girl is pregnant and against abortion. | ||
farvacola
United States18818 Posts
On April 15 2013 03:34 RQShatter wrote: My luck is terrible. I have the worst timing. Just started dating a girl after convincing her her ex was a scumbag (he was). I have been seeing this girl off and on for the past year, usually casual for a month at a time (she was cheating on her boyfriend). So we start dating, 5 days later she takes a pregnancy test and shes pregnant. (Not mine ![]() Long story short I tell a girl were over because girl is pregnant and against abortion. How certain are you that the child is not yours? | ||
Spykiller
Norway87 Posts
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Jisall
United States2054 Posts
On April 15 2013 03:39 Spykiller wrote: In 2 days I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years.... Time for engagement? She ruined my chances at ever beeing a top tier player in any game, so i hate her a little, but mostly i love her ![]() Follow your heart bro, if you do propose the best of luck to you. 10 years is a feat! | ||
Witten
United States2094 Posts
I guess to wrap this up, be patient. If you're a legit good person then you will find someone, it just may not be the person you expect it to be. | ||
aksfjh
United States4853 Posts
Out of the past 4 relationships I've been in during the past year, I think I have found the perfect girl, but she was broken up into 4 different women. It's both comforting and depressing to think about. | ||
KOFgokuon
United States14892 Posts
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On April 15 2013 04:33 KOFgokuon wrote: Been dating my gf for 2 years now. She......was one of the students in the class that I ta'd lol. I did not give her a good grade but she ended up liking me anyways lol more proof that girls like a guy with a spine | ||
farvacola
United States18818 Posts
On April 15 2013 04:43 Shady Sands wrote: more proof that girls like a guy with a spine More like more proof that girls like guys who are or have been in a place of power over them ![]() | ||
Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On April 15 2013 04:47 farvacola wrote: More like more proof that girls like guys who are or have been in a place of power over them ![]() Don't remind me | ||
TotalNightmare
Germany139 Posts
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RQShatter
United States459 Posts
On April 15 2013 03:38 farvacola wrote: How certain are you that the child is not yours? 100%. She wasnt on birth control and didnt want to use a condom. Im not desperate enough to risk that unless im drunk ![]() | ||
iAmWaKai
Canada33 Posts
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Existential
Australia2107 Posts
On April 15 2013 03:29 Jisall wrote: Shit happens, I get rejected every day. Just have to not let that get you down. Was it a random chick or a "Friendzone situation"? Yeah friendzone situation. One of my top 'friends' too. Just unfortunate. | ||
Jisall
United States2054 Posts
On April 15 2013 09:44 Existential wrote: Yeah friendzone situation. One of my top 'friends' too. Just unfortunate. Well if it is any comfort, stick it out, be like "If we are being friends we are going to be the best of friends" and actually become her best friend. I had that exact situation, and at a party a month later, she actually came on to me and we hooked up, and ended up going out for a while. Edit: A lot of the times I got friend zoned was when I tried to talk to her about a relationship before we hooked up. Most of the time if you play it cool and hook up a few times a chick will bring up the subject in which case you have 0% to be friendzoned. | ||
aBnarf
Bangladesh314 Posts
On April 13 2013 14:08 Zooper31 wrote: So just got done with 2nd date with this girl I met. First date was ok, planned to go to mall and walk around outside and just talk and go to different shops. Ended up raining but I think she had a good time lol. Says yes to 2nd date, we go to movies and then hangout at my place for like 2hours afterwards. She's laughing constantly and we are talking smoothly about random things for the entire time until she has to go before it gets too late. Little bit of silence as we get closer to her house but that's it. Pull up to her place, I'm going to drop her off and not walk her to the door because her aunt doesn't like strangers coming to the house (we did just meet afterall I can understand it, doesn't really matter). So the first date I just gave her a hug no kiss or anything but we both smiled and looked at each other, just didn't happen. Tell myself I'm gonna go for the kiss, she obviously is interested and we had a great time together. Stop truck lean over console, give a small slow smile and look into her eyes. She immediately looks down as shes grabbing her purse and I barely made any eye contact and she starts opening the door and then shes out of reach to do anything. Before closing the door she looks back in and smiles and says goodnight. No clue what happened. Did she deny me? Was she just oblivious? Was she really nervous and panicked? Why would you accept coming back to my place at 9pm at night to hangout on a 2nd date if you are going to deny a simple kiss goodnight. It's not some sort of commitment, she's alrdy told me she finds me attractive and vice versa. I know she said she was really shy and nervous but she starts to become herself and talk more and be more open when she gets more comfortable. I definitely noticed she was better on the 2nd date than the first and we had a better time def, not raining and all lol. Halp. I basically just had the "ok" face and sang my fuckity fuck song driving home thinking about everything I could've done better lol. zooper you are killing me bro lets talk some theory what is your goal with this girl? i assume the goal is to have sex with her right? where do most people usually have sex for the first time with each other? i'll answer this one - in beds. so like you said, she was willing to come to your place. since most people usually have sex in their homes and she agreed to come to your home, why not kiss her then? kissing is fun/high point right? it would probably be more fun than anything you guys have done together so far yes? so, why would you want to save that for the end of the night - when she is about to leave. wouldn't you want to kiss her more and touch her boobies and stuff? how can that happen in front of her house with her awesome aunt watching. i have been on a bunch of dates. i have never ever asked myself the question "did she deny me?" the answer to this question is very obvious. she either kissed/had sex with me or she didnt because i went for it! looking at her in the eyes does not count as going for it. | ||
Zooper31
United States5710 Posts
On April 15 2013 12:07 aBnarf wrote: zooper you are killing me bro lets talk some theory what is your goal with this girl? i assume the goal is to have sex with her right? where do most people usually have sex for the first time with each other? i'll answer this one - in beds. so like you said, she was willing to come to your place. since most people usually have sex in their homes and she agreed to come to your home, why not kiss her then? kissing is fun/high point right? it would probably be more fun than anything you guys have done together so far yes? so, why would you want to save that for the end of the night - when she is about to leave. wouldn't you want to kiss her more and touch her boobies and stuff? how can that happen in front of her house with her awesome aunt watching. i have been on a bunch of dates. i have never ever asked myself the question "did she deny me?" the answer to this question is very obvious. she either kissed/had sex with me or she didnt because i went for it! looking at her in the eyes does not count as going for it. Yes I want to have sex with her but I'd rather have a relationship and not just bone her. This was literally my 2nd time ever meeting her. We met online, banging her on the 2nd date, 2nd time I ever saw her, doesn't bode too well. We have been talking alot everyday though but tbh I'm still kind of a stranger/ new person to her. I should've made a move or something when she was with me yes I agree, I have almost no experience with dating so meh, still learning. I'm not looking for chicks just to have sex with so I don't follow any of that pua crap that's so popular now. Having sex would be great, but I'd rather have feelings for the chick. I haven't even spent like 8hours total time with her, I'm not gonna have sex with her like some drunk guy hitting on chicks at the bar. | ||
The Pale King
33 Posts
Met a 17 year old girl, I'm 22, wanted to sleep with me on the first date and I said we should wait and see what happens. We met every Saturday for the next 3 weeks, and had a lot of sex. I enjoyed looking out for her and listening to her talk about her life. She asked me if I could ever love her, I said I'm not sure. 2 weeks later, we don't talk much. She asks me to hang out today, and I ask her what we're doing. She says she's back with her ex-boyfriend and she wants to be friends. I told her I wouldn't do that, and she kept apologizing and I said it's fine, then waved to her Mom and drove home. My reaction to this girl is about as bland as the paragraph I just wrote. Is this how insecure girls make friends? WTF just happened, what a major disconnect between physical and emotional dynamics (I think?). TL;DR: relived tight, inexperienced sex with an extremely socially inept 17 year old, will now never hear from her again | ||
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