I am in my final year of High School, and at lunch I usually play Hearts, or Spades, or Euchre with my friends at lunch. Since they are my card's and I hate deciding on who will play. Since all the games listed are 4 player games and I have more then 4 friends at any given time, I use the first come first serve technique.
Now there is this one person who's name will remain unsaid, but he seriously looks and acts like hes about 7 years old, he must have some sort of weird disease or something, seeing as how he is actually 17. To give you some idea of his personality here's a nice list.. -Teachers pet suck up -Hermione Granger like hand quickness when answering questions, TO BAD he's almost ALWAYS wrong. -Always volenteer's for in class things. -Dreams of going to Nipissing University, but does not to be to far from home, even tho it is really only about 3 hours from his house. -One of my friends asked him if he has ever masturbated, he said he has not, and he has never been on porn.
This problem started last year when randomly he just started sitting with us, I am fairly certain he does not know any of our names, and yet he considers us friends. So last year we assumed after about a week or so he would just leave us alone and stop sitting with us. Which he didn't, but we weren't to concerned since the year was basically over.
This year however he still sits with us, and since his class before lunch is close to the cafeteria he always get's there first. So according to my own rule I need to let him play, where as I would way rather play with my actual friends.
How do I get him to go away, keep in mind I don't want to be too mean to him?
On October 28 2008 08:52 Nitrogen23 wrote: why would you ask a kid who looks like he's 7 if he's jacked off?
I didn't one of my friends did, and also it was very very very funny.
He seems to be gravitating to your infantile sense of humor. Change that and he will go away.
that wasn't the answer i was hoping for, and this is coming from someone on a forum which has many threads about jacking off, and funny perverted moments in school. A little hypocritical to call my sense of humor childish. P.S I like you.
if he's sitting with relative strangers so much you guys are probably the closest he has to actual friends. don't be a self-centered prick - while you have no obligation to entertain him, it certainly doesn't hurt to let him hang about.
also, not to be a grammar nazi... well to be a grammar nazi can you please learn how to use apostrophes, how the fuck do you even arrive at "sit's" "who's" "volunteer's" and "get's"
On October 28 2008 08:52 Nitrogen23 wrote: why would you ask a kid who looks like he's 7 if he's jacked off?
I didn't one of my friends did, and also it was very very very funny.
He seems to be gravitating to your infantile sense of humor. Change that and he will go away.
that wasn't the answer i was hoping for, and this is coming from someone on a forum which has many threads about jacking off, and funny perverted moments in school. A little hypocritical to call my sense of humor childish. P.S I like you.
Because people make perverted jokes on this website, I have to subscribe to that sense of humor even if I stay out of those threads/conversations? I don't get it.
On October 28 2008 09:01 intrigue wrote: also, not to be a grammar nazi... well to be a grammar nazi can you please learn how to use apostrophes, how the fuck do you even arrive at "sit's" "who's" "volunteer's" and "get's"
I actually went out of my way not to correct him lol... I guess someone can be proud of me for this.
On October 28 2008 09:01 intrigue wrote: if he's sitting with relative strangers so much you guys are probably the closest he has to actual friends. don't be a self-centered prick - while you have no obligation to entertain him, it certainly doesn't hurt to let him hang about.
also, not to be a grammar nazi... well to be a grammar nazi can you please learn how to use apostrophes, how the fuck do you even arrive at "sit's" "who's" "volunteer's" and "get's"
I also can't use commas my english teachers usually go through 1 or 2 red pens when marking my essay('?)s.
I am not a self-centered prick, I have sat with and talked with some who I don't like for about 6 months during one of my favourite times at school, and it's not like i am asking people to help me find a cruel way to get him to go away...
On October 28 2008 08:52 Nitrogen23 wrote: why would you ask a kid who looks like he's 7 if he's jacked off?
I didn't one of my friends did, and also it was very very very funny.
He seems to be gravitating to your infantile sense of humor. Change that and he will go away.
that wasn't the answer i was hoping for, and this is coming from someone on a forum which has many threads about jacking off, and funny perverted moments in school. A little hypocritical to call my sense of humor childish. P.S I like you.
Because people make perverted jokes on this website, I have to subscribe to that sense of humor even if I stay out of those threads/conversations? I don't get it.
Think what ever you want, you just come on here to rip people apart no matter what they write.
lol how do you get into this position? If the kid isnt liked he should of gotten the hint long ago. Its your fault for being to friendly. If you dont let a loser know you think he is a loser, he will think you are his friend.
Back in high school my group had a guy like that, in the way that he randomly joined our group without our consent. He was utterly crude and stupid even by high school standards, and used fuck in every sentence. We got some laughs out of that though and eventually ended up hanging out at his house a lot because it was close to school and had a pool table.
So yeah, maybe you can benefit from this guy. Try going to his house and eating his food/using his pool table/playing his consoles.
Edit: Mastermind is right, you probably will have to be mean to actually get him to go away. Or you could be subtle and just start speaking only chinese during lunch...supposing everyone at your table knows chinese/some other language.
I have nothing to add except that it's TOO not TO. TOO bad. TOO concerned.
To do. To be or not to be [a grammar nazi].
;p
I guess you could try finding a cardgame for 5?
On October 28 2008 09:11 Fontong wrote: ^^lol at grammAr
Back in high school my group had a guy like that, in the way that he randomly joined our group without our consent. He was utterly crude and stupid even by high school standards, and used fuck in every sentence. We got some laughs out of that though and eventually ended up hanging out at his house a lot because it was close to school and had a pool table.
So yeah, maybe you can benefit from this guy. Try going to his house and eating his food/using his pool table/playing his consoles.
Edit: Mastermind is right, you probably will have to be mean to actually get him to go away. Or you could be subtle and just start speaking only chinese during lunch...supposing everyone at your table knows chinese/some other language.
On October 28 2008 09:11 Fontong wrote: ^^lol at grammAr
Back in high school my group had a guy like that, in the way that he randomly joined our group without our consent. He was utterly crude and stupid even by high school standards, and used fuck in every sentence. We got some laughs out of that though and eventually ended up hanging out at his house a lot because it was close to school and had a pool table.
So yeah, maybe you can benefit from this guy. Try going to his house and eating his food/using his pool table/playing his consoles.
On October 28 2008 09:11 Fontong wrote: ^^lol at grammAr
Back in high school my group had a guy like that, in the way that he randomly joined our group without our consent. He was utterly crude and stupid even by high school standards, and used fuck in every sentence. We got some laughs out of that though and eventually ended up hanging out at his house a lot because it was close to school and had a pool table.
So yeah, maybe you can benefit from this guy. Try going to his house and eating his food/using his pool table/playing his consoles.
while you are at it, how about exploiting his sister...
Back at secondary, there was this annoying guy with a bulldog face. He was a weirdo, mainly because he was an arse to everyone, because he didn't know how to make friends. It was a bit harsh, but basically everyone ignored him, and when he tried to butt in he'd get about 5 simultaneous "Fuck Off"s. He would spend most lunch times talking to the cashier in the dining hall. Until she got sick of his bullshit and told him to "Go away and talk to his friends." I'm not a psychologist, but I'm fully expecting him to become a psychopathic killer when he's older.
At least he's not as bad as this crazy guy my sister knows (she goes to private school, but crazy kids can have rich parents). This guy is seriously messed up, sometimes it's just stuff like: - *sniffs hair* "Your hair smells nice, can I touch it?" - "DON'T TOUCH ME!"
Other times, people will tease him (in the usual way school kids do) and his responses will be simply frightening: - "Star Wars and Star Trek are not THE FUCKING SAME THING." - "I'm going to get a knife. And I'm going to fucking stab you. And then you. And then you..."
So glad guns are pretty much impossible to get in this city. This kid would definitely go on a rampage given the chance.
y du u guys critisise my speling it could b much wors, it's not ill egible is it? i mean it could be worse. And i a'm typing this and doing a chemistry assignment at same time, so im not rly proof readint it
On October 28 2008 08:48 nAi.PrOtOsS wrote: Now there is this one person who's name will remain unsaid, but he seriously looks and acts like hes about 7 years old, he must have some sort of weird disease or something, seeing as how he is actually 17. To give you some idea of his personality here's a nice list.. -Teachers pet suck up -Hermione Granger like hand quickness when answering questions, TO BAD he's almost ALWAYS wrong. -Always volenteer's for in class things. -Dreams of going to Nipissing University, but does not to be to far from home, even tho it is really only about 3 hours from his house. -One of my friends asked him if he has ever masturbated, he said he has not, and he has never been on porn.
Sounds like someone I knew last year, everyone hated him and threw shit at him and teased him and shit in automotive last year(even the girls, yes there were 4-5 chicks in auto class lol). I didn't do anything to him personally, TBH he was really really stupid, he failed the class, and it's an automotive class... Everyone else had A's/B's. Eventually he just dropped out and realized no one liked him. Not that you should do that but that's just what happened in my situation. I would try hanging out at a different location in school, that's worked before with people I didn't like to hang out with much. Of course everyone else in the group thought the same thing so when the kid went to the usual place at lunch nobody was there lol. + Show Spoiler +
Personally I don't see how avoiding him as being an asshole. If anyone started hanging out with me and my friends that we didn't know whether they have some mental disorder or disability or not I wouldn't treat them any differently. If you don't want to hang out with someone then don't, there is no point in doing it just pity then having them find out that all along you never really liked him and have him to commit suicide or some shit. It's happened, there's no point in letting him think something is real when it isn't. It is just going to hurt his feelings in the end and eventually he is going to find out. Of course don't go about it mean and tell him off and bully him but eventually he will get the impression that you guys just don't consider him a friend the way he considers you one.
On October 28 2008 09:20 Nytefish wrote: Well if you want people to listen, you talk intelligibly. A similar concept applies to online forums, it's just a bit more lax.
Was that not understandable enough tho? I mean just tell me if it was not and next time I will proof read it a few times, and maybe do a second draft if needed before I post it.
On October 28 2008 09:11 Fontong wrote: ^^lol at grammAr
Back in high school my group had a guy like that, in the way that he randomly joined our group without our consent. He was utterly crude and stupid even by high school standards, and used fuck in every sentence. We got some laughs out of that though and eventually ended up hanging out at his house a lot because it was close to school and had a pool table.
So yeah, maybe you can benefit from this guy. Try going to his house and eating his food/using his pool table/playing his consoles.
It's like hanging out with your mom.
Zomg...must not make joke regarding that response...which is SOO asking for it. ahh...
Yeah you made my day right there. It's to bad you are sitting at a table, otherwise you should try the trick where you close the circle. Usually we only did it as a joke tho.
In this case, it kind of sucks for you since you are in a situation where you don't like having him there, but don't want to tell him off. Despite the fact you guys might be the only 'friends' he has, do you really think it is healthy for someone to hang out with people that despise him? IMO, you shouldn't let this go on for longer than it has too, the fact that you don't like him obviously comes out in the way you relate to him. It'll hurt him to be kicked out of your group, for sure, but I think it would be better in the long run if he found friends that actually liked him. That's my 2 cents.
On October 28 2008 09:20 Nytefish wrote: Well if you want people to listen, you talk intelligibly. A similar concept applies to online forums, it's just a bit more lax.
seriously. you don't have to capitalize shit or even use apostrophes at all, just for the love of god don't randomly add them in. if you don't know how to use them correctly, just don't use them at all.
How many people do you have total? Maybe just get a second game going with another 4, doesn't really solve the main problem, but gets everybody involved nonetheless.
Man OP that sounds a bit like me :O! Except for the question your friend asked him I would have to say yes (It's impossible to go into this community and not get corrupted.) except I get everything right and I basically feel like I bother all my friends.
On October 28 2008 09:16 nAi.PrOtOsS wrote: y du u guys critisise my speling it could b much wors, it's not ill egible is it? i mean it could be worse. And i a'm typing this and doing a chemistry assignment at same time, so im not rly proof readint it
Its been years since i was in high school but there was a similar guy that hung around us.I ended up peeing all over his car door he walked out while i was doing it.I finished up smiled at him and we left the school grounds he stopped hanging with us after that.
Just go eat somewhere else. Granted High School lets you eat somewhere other than the cafeteria, just tell him that they're going to eat somehwere else (possibly furthest away from his class) and Bam! Problem solved, he can still hang, you keep your rules, and everyone is happy.
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On October 28 2008 11:40 Leath wrote: Your adorning cuneiform is staunchly awe-inspiring. The perplexing epic saga esoterically shrouded and travail painstakingly put into each confab are, prima facie, veraciously staggering.
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I agree with Travis to an extent, but would it really hurt to play cards with the guy? I mean, as intrigue already pointed out, he has been sitting with you guys (apparently "uninvited") for some time now, so it sounds like the guy may just want some friends.
Well, here's the thing. You've had friends before but maybe he hasn't and you wouldn't know how lonely he can feel at times. They're weird because they are but they don't mean any harm. Wouldn't hurt to just let him sit around and talk to him.
Its a hard thing to not be nasty, same with a kid from my old school, he just kinda followed us around, i mean EVERYWHERE, even to the toilet -_-, no homo.
Whatever you do or say to make him go away, will make him and you both feel like shit afterwards.
On October 28 2008 09:01 intrigue wrote: if he's sitting with relative strangers so much you guys are probably the closest he has to actual friends. don't be a self-centered prick - while you have no obligation to entertain him, it certainly doesn't hurt to let him hang about.
This seems true enough. I've had ppl like this all up on my jock at university. They are hard to shake free. What's wrong with these people is, basically, their upbringing. Maybe they lack a parent of have a psycho mom/grandmother/aunt raising them, a horrible divorce, etc. Not that MOST people end up this way from those things. But it's something like that, in these freak cases where people end up really "underdeveloped."
What's worse about them is how hypocritical they usually are. The minute they start feeling like they aren't a loser they will try to make up for lost time doing their retarded impersonations of what cool people do/did in high school/middle school whatever previous life they failed in.
They will call you/IM you/follow you. Your best bet is to talk to them and insist that they understand what YOU are saying and not let them babble on with their own shit and ignore what you're saying, because that's probably what they tend to do and why they learn nothing. Let them stay if you will be the boss, but also don't be their parent--don't give them any advice, any answers, any opinions. Just make them understand whatever you are doing and why. If you don't reward any of their needy behaviors they'll go to other people more and more. So just be very conscious of what you're doing and whether it's rewarding them or not.
They have already inappropriately barged in, so make it a little tough for them. It's Pavlovian.
On October 28 2008 08:48 nAi.PrOtOsS wrote: I am in my final year of High School, and at lunch I usually play Hearts, or Spades, or Euchre with my friends at lunch.
lol! I see highschool in Canada hasn't changed much, haha. Three hours from North Bay, though... and the kid is dreaming of going there for University - you wouldn't happen to be three hours *north* of North Bay, would you? That's where I grew up and it seems that Euchre can't be that popular with the kids everywhere.
I'd be really uncomfortable with a guy around me who doesn't know my name but still hangs around. I'd just ask him what he wants from me/us. In your case he will most probably say he wants to play cards with you. Or just leave ashamed because he seems introvert.
Anyway I can't imagine myself playing cards or whatever with a total stranger. I'd definitely ask him and be clear with the whole situation.
When you play you can start a conversation like "Hey dude, you've playing with us for a year now. Even more. I mean... Why?" and so on...
Well of course I been out of high school for about 5 years but in 9th and 10th grade we had some guy do the exact same thing. He was slow and stupid and just do stupid things, but I had friends that weren't so nice to him and actually told him to go somewhere else with his lurking persona. Anyways as the years went by I just continued to be nice to the guy and whatever outcast were at school I always just tried to be cool with them so they could have some type of self-esteem.
My best bet on getting this guy away from your group is just telling your friends to move to a whole new spot making sure this outcast doesn't spot any one of your friends or you to the new "spot". I know in middle school there was some cool science teacher that would let us use her class to play card games during lunch, which you might want to see if you can do this with one of your teachers. Otherwise try not to be too cruel and just put yourself into his shoes. I mean the guy is just playing cards with you guys during lunch its not like your hanging with him on the weekends. If anything he'll be that friend that will invite all of you to his grandpa's property full of 4-wheelers with a big boat on an open lake....It could happen.
i see several solutions to this: 1) get to know him and let him join in your group, from the sound of it he seems pretty lonely and if your group is the closest thing he has to friends he probably is. just get to know him, you may find that he is pretty cool, and everyone is happy
2) let him sit at the table (you probably cant really do anything about that), but don't engage him, if his presence doesn't actually bother you then just ignore him, as for your rule of the first to come is the first to play, you can interpret it so that it only applies to your group of friends, i mean you wouldn't let the school bully(if you have a school bully) play just because they got there first would you?
3) if you have the possibility, move elsewhere to a location that he cannot join you, at my school we had an outside area where only Seniors could go and eat, if you have something similar just go there, or move to a different location where he wont be able to find and follow you to easily, if he does find and follow you, move again one or two more times, if he continues you will have to find another solution
4) you can confront him, let him know that you don't really know him, don't consider him as a member of your group of friends and would like him to go elsewhere during lunch, you can tell him this in one of two ways: give it to him easy so as not to hurt his feelings as much, or be blunt telling him to fuck off
if it were me i would probably go with number 2, as its easy and doesn't require any confrontation or effort, and if he isn't bothering you then just leave him be, but one of these options should work, its just a matter of picking the one that fits the specific situation (if you want to let him join or not, how much he bothers you, how bad you will feel for telling him to fuck off, etc)
LOL. Theres a guy like that at our school. The last time he tried to come up to me and my friends, all of us took out our phones and pretended to be talking. He just walked away casually and went on to join someone else who wasnt busy. My friends and I think that was quite mean if he noticed that is... I suggested that we greet him normally next time we see him. That would bring us back to square one though XD
um, I was one of these weird ones last semester my senior year lol. I can tell you psychologically that guy that is sitting with you
a) does not have many friends, if any b) may have had a lot of friends in the past, but has forgotten how to make new ones c) may just not know how to make friends, and is doing the best he can d) he has aspergers syndrome, and probably doesn't even know it e) he has few close friends that are on a different lunch shift or whatever, and sits with you guys for security, did he know you in the past at all, even your names? or is it really a complete "stranger"
he's not causing you any harm, maybe get to know him some, or just continue to ignore him, though that is already what you've been doing it seems (not saying it's good or bad). I'd go with the "nice positive option," as this guy won't come back as some school shooter 3 yrs later or some shit. Hell, maybe you'll change his life.
I used to have a "friend" like that. We called him Tag-Along... We used to just beat him up all the time. Then he'd come back a few days later and pretend nothing happened. Ugh it was annoying but funny. (This was in grades 5-7) You're much older than that, so simply beating some one up isn't an option.
He just sounds like he doesn't know how to make new friends, I'd really say talk to him and get to know him. Then if you actually get to know him, and you still don't like him. Just tell him to go away or something.
I don't think people seem to get what I am saying about this guy. He acts like he is literally 7 years old, he always wears the same blue splash pants every day. In the morning when there is music playing on the PA he dances randomly in the middle of the cafe... I literally mean he acts like a 7 year old kid. Like while playing cards, and he beats you, where as a normal person would say "haha you fucking suck" or somthing he pulls a fucking savior vs FBH dance.
Which may seem pretty cool to you guys, but it really is not.
Lol your description completely matches up with a kid at my school. Over the years I've had math classes with him a few times and he always shouts something out, often times incoherent and mumbled, even if he's wrong and has no clue...
On October 29 2008 06:29 Jonoman92 wrote: Lol your description completely matches up with a kid at my school. Over the years I've had math classes with him a few times and he always shouts something out, often times incoherent and mumbled, even if he's wrong and has no clue...
Yea like he is such a teachers pet that he doesn't even think when he answers questions, he just imedietly puts up his hand and then pulls shit out of his ass.
I suggest you get to know him a bit better and then politely tell him not to do embarrassing things, when he's around you and your friends. Just tell him you don't think it's cool to dance around and stuff. To cut somebody dead who seems to be rather harmless isn't very nice imo, just give him a chance.
hearts is without doubt one of my favored card game. I remember playing that for a whole winter with 3 other dudes at school, shooting the moon resulted in people wooping and shouting, tonnes of emotion :>
On October 29 2008 08:25 kefkalives wrote: hearts is without doubt one of my favored card game. I remember playing that for a whole winter with 3 other dudes at school, shooting the moon resulted in people wooping and shouting, tonnes of emotion :>
yea Lol, It's always funny when someone shoots the moon first hand and then loses the game, OR gets stopped in shooting the moon and takes 25 points HAHA.
Have you ever seen someone shoot the sun? (Take ALL tricks)
On October 29 2008 08:25 kefkalives wrote: hearts is without doubt one of my favored card game. I remember playing that for a whole winter with 3 other dudes at school, shooting the moon resulted in people wooping and shouting, tonnes of emotion :>
yea Lol, It's always funny when someone shoots the moon first hand and then loses the game, OR gets stopped in shooting the moon and takes 25 points HAHA.
Have you ever seen someone shoot the sun? (Take ALL tricks)
The game is really boring once you're all masters at it. Play bridge.
On October 29 2008 06:29 Jonoman92 wrote: Lol your description completely matches up with a kid at my school. Over the years I've had math classes with him a few times and he always shouts something out, often times incoherent and mumbled, even if he's wrong and has no clue...
Yea like he is such a teachers pet that he doesn't even think when he answers questions, he just imedietly puts up his hand and then pulls shit out of his ass.
Well, you could try doing something more exciting during your lunch break then playing cards. lol. I would have gone crazy if thats how I spent my lunch hour in high school. Just tell all of your friends wha you will be doing instead and when he shows up to play cards no one will be there.
On October 30 2008 03:40 Mastermind wrote: Well, you could try doing something more exciting during your lunch break then playing cards. lol. I would have gone crazy if thats how I spent my lunch hour in high school. Just tell all of your friends wha you will be doing instead and when he shows up to play cards no one will be there.
Somtimes we Study OO also we have competitions such as who can memorize all the elements on the periodic table, their order, there symbol, and there atomic mass Also sometimes we make up challenging questions related to either chemistry or physics and ask each other them
On October 28 2008 22:39 G.s)NarutO wrote: Punch him in his face-_-
KICK HIM IN THE NUTS !!!
No seriously, depends... If he talks shit to you or your friends tell him to fuck off, if he's a nice open fellow that's chatting everyone up keep him If you just want to get rid of him, tell him :o
Start playing Magic: The Gathering. Its what all the cool kids are doing, trust me. Joking aside maybe you should pick up a new game he doesn't know so you can keep playing with your friends.
Alternatively you can just avoid this whole situation by not letting the opportunity for him to join present itself. You could always move, or close the group off. This kinda happened to me at graduation breakfast, where this kid no one really liked (cause he pissed his pants in like year 8 and is just a retard in general) randomly sat down with us. When we got up to get our breakfast we got someone to take his spot so he couldn't sit with us, thus he attached himself to another group, like a parasite. I know its pretty mean but at least you don't have to crush him by telling him to fuck off.
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my english teachers usually go through 1 or 2 red pens when marking my essay('?)s.
