Pretending to be a girl? - Page 5

On September 19 2008 00:54 Quint wrote:
It's pathetic.

I met several guys pretending to be girls online and they all had some very serious issues. As already mentioned in the thread, you don't have to act much differently at all, a female character/nick will be already enough because a lot of nerds dream of having an sexy and confident online gf they will meet eventually one day.Thus, they want to believe it the truth and will always repress the thought of actually asking "Are you really a girl?" because they know that it could shatter their dreamworld.

Even when confronted with hard evidence like a recorded phone call or compromising chatlogs, some really poor guys will always try to find a flaw and won't open their eyes because they either told "her" extremely private things or don't want their constructed reality to come to an end. One time a guy told me that he knows that "she" isn't real but he wants to believe in "her" online persona, fully knowing that "she" is only pretending to be a girl.

Most of those people faking to be a girl online are as lonely as the guys they manipulate. It often starts off as a prank, but really quickly they spend more time with their new account when they begin to realize how nice people are to them all of sudden - the same way as you were a famous Starcraft player, for example. When I asked some of those guys why they did it, almost everyone said "It's like an addiction". I think it's similiar to hacking - few can stop when they realize how much better they can play with a hack. As some of those fakers I met are on the border of being social outcasts, they desperately craved the attention and could hardly stop. A new IM and E-mail together with an account like "Zia" and sweet talking is enough to fool a community like tl.net over the course of several years. Of course everyone knew beforehand, but I am afraid that if "Zia" would have been a little bit more cautious, the account would still receive as much attention as it had from the beginning.

As a side note, almost every faker I met had problems with his father. I won't interpret anything into it as it might be a coincidence, but the number was very high.

People impersonating girls often aren't even very intelligent (due to their ego-boosts they often think it though) and yet even though they actually get people to send them games, gifts and money. One guy I knew would send "her" WC3 TFT where "she" would continue to get into clans and meet new people...

The more serious people like Zia are about this, the more refined their ways of interacting with people become - for instance, they would never state their gender as to have a final excuse ("I never told you I were a girl you just assumed it") despite obviously girlish chat or indications. They also will always wait for you to start the dialogue until it's a habit and then ignore you to test your reaction (like real girls sometimes do). If they are at any time not pleased with you, they will ignore you and talk to other people of your guild/clan (again, like a real girl would to make you jealous). Unfortunately, there are a lot of weak minded (or just lonely) people to fall for those kind of tactics, even if it's only online.

When they have been made, they either quietly disappear, try to show themselves as some kind of genius mastermind ("YOU ALL FELL FOR IT") or deny everything and threaten to leave and join another guild, what will always call up some people to defend "her". In either way, most of them fix why they had been found out and start anew some weeks later. Though in some extreme cases, they suffer from a total breakdown, when they already have identified themselves too much with their fake persona who no longer is acknowledged.

I dare say that if you have an average looking friend/sister (for pics/phone calls/rl meetings), a somewhat believeable background in google and no outrageous claims like being a supermodel or millionaire (hello Zia) one will never find out what gender you actually are.

I think it is very easy to fool people over the internet and seriously causes damage when tinkering with their emotions. Just don't do it.

On October 30 2010 21:53 Kraznaya wrote:


Dude, this has to be a post that was borne out of tons of personal experience. Care to share?

On October 30 2010 14:41 BottleAbuser wrote:
It's actually evidence that the algorithm is actually pretty good, if he had to go through a bunch of posts to find one that is analyzed as male.

On October 31 2010 05:19 rezoacken wrote:
Even if that is an old thread:

Come on I can't even believe some guys are actually really considering it on starcraft 2. I know it exists on WoW (and other mmorpg) and i just took it as a collateral effect of some guys having no honor and truth about themselves; but really on starcarft 2 ?

On October 31 2010 11:36 rezoacken wrote:
Lol i think real girls that play fps games must try to avoid being discovered at all costs when you know how the average boy that plays these game behave. If I see someone publicly state "I am a girl" in a public fps game, 90% chance he is a guy.