I'm currently living - and have lived for half a year - in a student's home.
This means that you get affordable rent in a city in which it would otherwise nigh impossible to live, but it also means that you don't get to chose your flat-mates. Mine are fine, thank god, but herein lies the issue: one of them isn't fine, she's damn fine. She's insanely smart, spends all of her time reading and studying, is simply breathtaking, and her laugh is as cute as a kitten-puppy-kitten-sandwich. Obviously I can't get her out of my fucking head and the past six months have been pretty jarring as a result of that.
You know how they say you're into a girl if you still think about her after having a wank? Well, I do. I even think about her when I just had sex with someone else, so I know it's not just the fellow downstairs who fancies her. I had sex with four other ladies since I've known her, so it isn't just a case of being into the only girl around.
So here's what I'm thinking about: moving sucks, but I could always ask the students' administration whether or not there is a place in another home. Places are scarce, however, and usually they don't just let you move villi-nillyly. Also, the one I live in now is about a hundred yards from my main lecture hall, so wherever I move, it's a step down.
I only ask this because it's becoming a real problem, I can't quite focus on anything while she's two meters away, I alter my conduct, I avoid going into the kitchen when she's in there, for fear of annoying her and when I even so much as hear her talk to my male flatmate, my tummy feels all sorts of weird.
The dick move would be simply telling her, but for her this place in the home is just as much a blessing at it is for me, so it would be highly inconsiderate making things awkward for her. Besides, it would only make me feel better and not lead to anything, as in half a year there's no indication she is anything other than politely neutral towards me.
I'm currently living - and have lived for half a year - in a student's home.
This means that you get affordable rent in a city in which it would otherwise nigh impossible to live, but it also means that you don't get to chose your flat-mates. Mine are fine, thank god, but herein lies the issue: one of them isn't fine, she's damn fine. She's insanely smart, spends all of her time reading and studying, is simply breathtaking, and her laugh is as cute as a kitten-puppy-kitten-sandwich. Obviously I can't get her out of my fucking hand and the past six months have been pretty jarring as a result of that.
You know how they say you're into a girl if you still think about her after having a wank? Well, I do. I even think about her when I just had sex with someone else, so I know it's not just fellow downstairs who fancies her. I had sex with four other ladies since I've known her, so it isn't just a case of being into the only girl around.
So here's what I'm thinking about: moving sucks, but I could always ask the students' administration whether or not there is a place in another home. Places are scarce, however, and usually they don't just let you move villi-nillyly. Also, the one I live in now is about a hundred yards from my main lecture hall, so wherever I move, it's a step down.
I only ask this because it's becoming a real problem, I can't quite focus on anything while she's two meters away, I alter my conduct, I avoid going into the kitchen when she's in there, for fear of annoying her and when I even so much as hear her talk to my male flatmate, my tummy feels all sorts of weird.
The dick move would be simply telling her, but for her this place in the home is just as much a blessing at it is for me, so it would be highly inconsiderate making things awkward for her. Besides, it would only make me feel better and not lead to anything, as in half a year there's no indication she is anything other than politely neutral towards me.
On October 29 2013 08:34 jrkirby wrote: Ooooh. I love the disguised girlblogs.
Maybe try flirting a bit to see if shes a bit interested in you? Nothing over the top, just give her compliments out of the blue.
No chance of her being that. As I said, she hasn't given any indication of that, and believe you me, had there been any sign, I would have pounced onto that.
We're not even on the same fucking planet, she's way hotter than I am, she's way smarter than I am, and when I'm going to be a lowly chemist (and not of the kick-ass Walter White variety) she'll be an MD. So yeah, slim chance of that. Also, I'm socially weird and she's rather secluded, so I would seriously freak her out being more than politely distanced.
Keeping that in mind, I spend an entire night drinking, smoking and writing an honest to god letter, and when I had written the perfect piece of prose on a single page of my best paper, I used that fucker to roll another joint.
How well do you know her? I'm only asking this because if you try to get to know her better you might feel less nervous. Also, we tend to idolize people based off of our initial perception of that person, if you get to know her better, the idolization will dispel. Then you'll be fine, no?
Lol, you cant be serious. Wanting to move out while your priviliged to live in a great location because you have the kind of lady roommate everyone would dream to have.. its just kinda absurd. You obv have been smoking too much to even consider this. Your in college/uni. All you need to do is get your papers and fuck around while you have the chance.
Sure, the situation is somewhat complicated because you could potentially screw up both living environment if you'd make an awkward move, but saying your scared to approach her because she's way hotter/smarter than you? That's just dumb as fuck.
I obviosly dont know much about you. At some point you seem like a normal guy (makes some rational comments, fucks around with girls, smokes weed) but at the same time your saying your socially weird (which is strange thing to say in regards of the former).
Again: I dont know you, but if your the average kind of guy that likes to go out, drink, party, smoke weed and fuck girls then it's hard to say your socially awkward. And if she's the type of smartass cute AND hot bookworm girl that's "out of your reach" because you are socially different, then yeah, she might not immediately dig you. But saying she's out of reach is kinda BS.
Ugh i dont feel like writing anymore. Ill just end this with a tip. If your looking to invest time to get more from her then casual sex. Try to spend doing activities together. This is easy as fuck because your livinf together. She likes to study? Grab your books and study with her. Doesnt need to be the same subjects. Being in same room will eventuelly lead to conversations. Not working? Try cooking together. W/e there are thousands of opportunities because you potentially see her on daily basis.
On October 29 2013 10:40 Steins;Gate wrote: How well do you know her? I'm only asking this because if you try to get to know her better you might feel less nervous. Also, we tend to idolize people based off of our initial perception of that person, if you get to know her better, the idolization will dispel. Then you'll be fine, no?
I had hoped that would happen, but it seems like that anything new I learn about her and every little chat we have adds to the initial image. Meh.
Why don't you just accept the fact that you're in love with her? Clearly, you're trying to make up excuses not to confront her. Just do it, get it over with, chances are she's into you aswell.
I read this thread and I'm pretty sure that the OP just wanted to share something with us and the question is just a placeholder so that people won't believe that this is a short autobiography.
On October 29 2013 21:54 Sponkz wrote: Why don't you just accept the fact that you're in love with her? Clearly, you're trying to make up excuses not to confront her. Just do it, get it over with, chances are she's into you aswell.
Because out here in the real world, actions have consequences and one not only has to consider ones own but also others' feelings.
Jesus christ, just hit on her. Ask her out, or if you're too cheap for that ask her if she'd be willing to eat some food you cooked with you while getting to know you better.
Besides, it would only make me feel better and not lead to anything, as in half a year there's no indication she is anything other than politely neutral towards me.
"If she doesn't show obvious interest in me I have no chance." I just remembered again why I don't read girlblogs.
On October 30 2013 04:52 SixStrings wrote: Too bad I have to make due without being a handsome architect with my own laughter track.
On October 29 2013 08:55 SixStrings wrote: No chance of her being that. As I said, she hasn't given any indication of that, and believe you me, had there been any sign, I would have pounced onto that.
We're not even on the same fucking planet, blah blah blah I need the sand scooped out of my vag*na
Guy, stop with the attitude. Allow me to quote one of the best scenes ever in one of the worst movies ever:
See, kid, an ugly broad, you might as well take her out behind the shed and put one behind the ear. That dog won't hunt. But any dude with a johnson, he's got a shot.... because cool comes from the inside
Fact of the matter is guys spend way too much time worrying about others then they do about themselves. How do you expect someone else to be attracted to you, when you aren't even confident in yourself?
TBH as far as this blog goes, sounds like its' been way too long and you probably blew any chance of being with her. You basically have two options, either alpha up and try again with her (slowly obviously, getting to know her, talking more, flirting, etc) or just forget about her and move on one way or another. Don't be depressed cuz you can't get one girl. I was in a similar situation as you, was extremely into just one girl for the longest time and couldn't see anyone but her as an object of desire, eventually I just had to snap out of it and forget her. It's silly to let one person control you this much.
Don't be stuck in limbo like you are now and DEFINITELY DONT move out lol That's such a cop out thing to do.
On October 30 2013 04:52 SixStrings wrote: Too bad I have to make due without being a handsome architect with my own laughter track.
Usually I wouldn't write this in a girlblog, because there are always numerous reasons why things are the way they are and people are very different. But you seriously need to man the fuck up here.
EDIT: And did you really just call Ted Mosby handsome?
On October 30 2013 04:52 SixStrings wrote: Too bad I have to make due without being a handsome architect with my own laughter track.
Usually I wouldn't write this in a girlblog, because there are always numerous reasons why things are the way they are and people are very different. But you seriously need to man the fuck up here.
EDIT: And did you really just call Ted Mosby handsome?
Isn't he? I thought he's supposed to be super hot, look at the ladies he's getting. I thought Hollywood matched up actors via hotness.
On October 30 2013 04:52 SixStrings wrote: Too bad I have to make due without being a handsome architect with my own laughter track.
Usually I wouldn't write this in a girlblog, because there are always numerous reasons why things are the way they are and people are very different. But you seriously need to man the fuck up here.
EDIT: And did you really just call Ted Mosby handsome?
Isn't he? I thought he's supposed to be super hot, look at the ladies he's getting. I thought Hollywood matched up actors via hotness.
What the hell? I mean, I know I'm bad at judging how attractive my fellow men are, but I would have never put him above average. I mean, look at his face! And he isn't very tall either. EDIT: And he gets the ladies because the show isn't based on reality.
On October 30 2013 05:33 SixStrings wrote: I just re-read the stuff I wrote and Jesus bukkake-addict Christ do I sound like a pussy...
I think the real problem here is what got you into this situation in the first place. You've created this entire fantasy world with this girl completely without her consent or knowledge. You gotta recognize when this is happening and stop it. No wanking over best friend's sisters, flat mates etc.
That said, I wouldn't underestimate your chances. If you're within 1-2 points on the 10 point hotness scale, go for it. I would move out first though and explain to the girl that the feelings are new so you don't sound like a creep.
i would just keep on whacking off, thinking of her when she's getting some in the other room. all of the fun without the commitment. plus, you dont have to hear her complain, or find out what her farts smell like. consider yourself lucky!
On October 30 2013 13:33 QuanticHawk wrote: i would just keep on whacking off, thinking of her when she's getting some in the other room. all of the fun without the commitment. plus, you dont have to hear her complain, or find out what her farts smell like. consider yourself lucky!
On October 30 2013 13:33 QuanticHawk wrote: i would just keep on whacking off, thinking of her when she's getting some in the other room. all of the fun without the commitment. plus, you dont have to hear her complain, or find out what her farts smell like. consider yourself lucky!
On October 30 2013 13:33 QuanticHawk wrote: i would just keep on whacking off, thinking of her when she's getting some in the other room. all of the fun without the commitment. plus, you dont have to hear her complain, or find out what her farts smell like. consider yourself lucky!
I see what you did there.
You suggest sitting on the sideline, making room for better men while playing with myself. First I thought this was supposed to be insulting, no I realise it's a metaphor for your pro-gaming career.
try to get with her in a very awkward way, preferably via email
if she rejects you, continue to make advances on her via email
in person either refuse to acknowledge her, or refuse to acknowledge her in the context of you having had tried to get with her via email
create a twitter account in which you live-tweet every in person encounter (and non-encounter) you have with her. get as many followers as you can (even if it means resorting to purchasing followers) and favorite ~95% of her tweets and retweet anything that you feel could be considered a non-sequitor in context of what you are trying to do. consider live-tweeting reading her twitter, but later decide against it.
eventually she will either come to think of you in an endearing way and you will communicate primarily through long emails (ie dating) and "non-verbal communication" or she will feel as if she needs to, despite having an ideal living situation, move away- in which case you get the best of both worlds: not only do you get to continue living in this ideal situation ie low rent/convenience etc., you will have the ability to continue your existing relationship (ie communicating through email)
if she doesnt respond to your emails, at any point, you can think, "choosing not to communicate via email is a form of communication," and then buy a toy poodle to which you can constantly refer to as if having distinctly human emotions/traits.
On October 31 2013 04:27 SixStrings wrote: This would be a lame joke but the thought of her using twitter is so preposterous that it makes it rather funny.
Does she wear too big hipsterglasses for no good reason and study philosophy and women's studies as well?
On October 31 2013 05:10 SixStrings wrote: Naturally.
talk to her. a lot. after maybe a month you will get bored and you see that half of what she says isn't as sound as you assumed. Had a girl like that. Moved on.
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