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Cainam
United States421 Posts
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10344 Posts
Puhhhhhleeeeeeez Tap that shit. | ||
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farvacola
United States18840 Posts
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
farvacola: Apologies for my brevity. It's 2:30 in the morning and I've consumed copious amounts of the reefer. | ||
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
On February 06 2013 16:31 Cainam wrote: MDJ: Doesn't matter. He's my best friend. She is off limits period I would never do that. Therein lies the problem... You're saying just because that guy has no shot with her you shouldn't either? | ||
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
On February 06 2013 16:25 Cainam wrote: and he has had a thing for her for years. Yeah this doesn't usually turn out as well as the respective dude would hope, and even if it does it doesn't tend to last long. Life isn't a manga nor a romance flick, sadly. Obviously you're gonna do what you want, but you gotta realize that sometimes you need to look after *your own* best interests. I mean it's not like by passing up this opportunity you're giving it to your friends, let's face it, "He has had a thing for her for years" that ship's pretty much long sailed. Unless we're missing some crucial information here, but even so... years? | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10344 Posts
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
Sucks for you though. | ||
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run.at.me
Australia550 Posts
Your loyalty is a good thing, but in the real world chemistry between two people should not be intervened by jealousy or insecurities. Pursuing a relationship behind his back would be a dog move, however if the chips landed on you and the girl developing something, you need to address him and express how much you like the girl and how much she likes you. Then it's just up to him from there, and a best friend would get over it. | ||
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XDJuicebox
United States593 Posts
"The worst thing that can happen is you'll have a funny story later." DO IT. NO REGRETS BRO. | ||
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synapse
China13814 Posts
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
I know it sucks man. Been in this position before myself, but there will ALWAYS come another girl that you will feel for. Reading all these answers... None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand" What if his friend has an altar of her with candles and voodoo dolls and big posters and pictures of her with different outfits and postures and facial expressions... OP: Ultimately you have to ask yourself this: Is it worth risking a lifelong friendship with your best pal for a relationship with a girl that might not even last a year? The first step is to tell you friend how you feel. After that you have to feel what to do. | ||
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Iplaythings
Denmark9110 Posts
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand" It's not like he gave us much information to work with, other than that the dude is clearly doing something wrong in trying to approach her. On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: What if his friend has an altar of her with candles and voodoo dolls and big posters and pictures of her with different outfits and postures and facial expressions... Then he doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell of getting with that girl or any other girl for that matter unless he changes his attitude. Roflmfao that's just creepy. On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: OP: Ultimately you have to ask yourself this: Is it worth risking a lifelong friendship with your best pal for a relationship with a girl that might not even last a year? "None of you knows how his friend is as a person" right back at you bro. How do you know it's a lifelong friendship just because he said best friend? You know friendships change over time right? It's pointless to speculate this kind of thing because it can go either way anyway. Same goes for the chick, who are you to say she won't be a great fit for OP and might have a great longlasting relationship? You're just making shit up as warped by your own views and perception. On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: The first step is to tell you friend how you feel. After that you have to feel what to do. I can agree with this though. | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On February 06 2013 18:47 MasterOfPuppets wrote: It's not like he gave us much information to work with, other than that the dude is clearly doing something wrong in trying to approach her. Then he doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell of getting with that girl or any other girl for that matter unless he changes his attitude. Roflmfao that's just creepy. "None of you knows how his friend is as a person" right back at you bro. How do you know it's a lifelong friendship just because he said best friend? You know friendships change over time right? It's pointless to speculate this kind of thing because it can go either way anyway. Same goes for the chick, who are you to say she won't be a great fit for OP and might have a great longlasting relationship? You're just making shit up as warped by your own views and perception. I can agree with this though. Well we are all just speculating so we can drop this shit right now then. | ||
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sob3k
United States7572 Posts
 ). There is no getting mad at other guys, they didn't do anything wrong. | ||
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Monsen
Germany2548 Posts
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ZenithM
France15952 Posts
On February 06 2013 16:27 farvacola wrote: Sounds like she certainly inspired a verbose and dramatic retelling of your encounter. Made me chuckle. | ||
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Arcanefrost
Belgium1257 Posts
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docvoc
United States5491 Posts
She is clearly the most concise muse to have ever been laid eyes upon. | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
On February 06 2013 19:29 Monsen wrote: This is not acceptable. Go do it again, 500 words minimum. In case of too little drama make sth. up. We here on TL have high standards for blogs, especially if you dare use the [Girl Blog] tag in the title. More details, more drama, make up a fake dream you had of her or write a fiction. | ||
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Suc
Australia1569 Posts
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mordk
Chile8385 Posts
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mizU
United States12125 Posts
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: Yeah don't follow MDJ's advice. Better to not pursue the girl and keep your friendship. Better yet, talk to your friend and explain to him that you like her. Make it clear, though, that you won't do anything if he feels its not ok. I know it sucks man. Been in this position before myself, but there will ALWAYS come another girl that you will feel for. Reading all these answers... None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand" What if his friend has an altar of her with candles and voodoo dolls and big posters and pictures of her with different outfits and postures and facial expressions... OP: Ultimately you have to ask yourself this: Is it worth risking a lifelong friendship with your best pal for a relationship with a girl that might not even last a year? The first step is to tell you friend how you feel. After that you have to feel what to do. I like this answer. Edit: careful not to let him say he's ok with it if he really isn't. | ||
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SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
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GhandiEAGLE
United States20754 Posts
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: + Show Spoiler + Yeah don't follow MDJ's advice. Better to not pursue the girl and keep your friendship. Better yet, talk to your friend and explain to him that you like her. Make it clear, though, that you won't do anything if he feels its not ok. I know it sucks man. Been in this position before myself, but there will ALWAYS come another girl that you will feel for. Reading all these answers... None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand" What if his friend has an altar of her with candles and voodoo dolls and big posters and pictures of her with different outfits and postures and facial expressions... OP: Ultimately you have to ask yourself this: Is it worth risking a lifelong friendship with your best pal for a relationship with a girl that might not even last a year? The first step is to tell you friend how you feel. After that you have to feel what to do. You know what's up sir. I honestly expected more responses like this and less of the "go fuck over your friend" variety. On February 07 2013 01:29 SamsungStar wrote: ...Why on earth would you want to be with a girl who could outargue you? o_0 Because intelligence is a huge turn on for me. Dumb girls bore the hell out of me. Literally have never had a girl come back at me the way she did. I was blown away. | ||
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Wintex
Norway16838 Posts
If you are wondering about what I'm doing (for some reason): + Show Spoiler + I'm all inning tomorrow. A girl blog might also pop up tomorrow. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On February 07 2013 02:08 Cainam wrote: Because intelligence is a huge turn on for me. Dumb girls bore the hell out of me. Literally have never had a girl come back at me the way she did. I was blown away. Smart girls rock. I once met a philosophy of science major. She asked why I was an agnostic. I said because there was no way to prove whether there was a god. She repeated my answer to confirm she understood it. It took me 6 months to realize she was patronizing me. Religious people can use the same argument technically to believe in religion. I wasn't downtalking religion though so maybe I was ok... In fact talking to smart people in general is exciting. Sometimes scary or depressing, but always different. Dunno how I'd feel marrying a genius tho D: | ||
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Kuni
Austria765 Posts
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SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
On February 07 2013 02:34 obesechicken13 wrote: Smart girls rock. I once met a philosophy of science major. She asked why I was an agnostic. I said because there was no way to prove whether there was a god. She repeated my answer to confirm she understood it. It took me 6 months to realize she was patronizing me. Religious people can use the same argument technically to believe in religion. I wasn't downtalking religion though so maybe I was ok... In fact talking to smart people in general is exciting. Sometimes scary or depressing, but always different. Dunno how I'd feel marrying a genius tho D: Talking to them is one thing. Living with them is quite another. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32097 Posts
On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote: None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand" because the op's friend's logic is retarded. if anything was gonna happen it already would have. then again, the op seems like a putz and is using this as an excuse to grow some balls and do something about it so whatever | ||
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
On February 07 2013 04:00 QuanticHawk wrote: because the op's friend's logic is retarded. if anything was gonna happen it already would have. then again, the op seems like a putz and is using this as an excuse to grow some balls and do something about it so whatever So testy. A large part of the reason nothing has happened already is that they have lived a few hours away from each other for the last couple years. Based on what I saw last night I'd say he has somewhat of a shot. I don't really know though. Either way I know my friendship with him is more important than some girl, no matter how awesome she is. Don't talk to me about growing some balls. I'm not one of the desperate nerds that populate internet forums such as this (although 4 or 5 years ago I was.) I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do. I just know this one is off limits to me and it sucks because she is fuckin' awesome. | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On February 07 2013 04:00 QuanticHawk wrote: because the op's friend's logic is retarded. if anything was gonna happen it already would have. then again, the op seems like a putz and is using this as an excuse to grow some balls and do something about it so whatever Everyone is not as confident and forward as you are son. One of my friends been in love with a girl for yeeeeeaaars. Nothing happens tho cuz he doesn't have it in him to take the step. And thankfully, not everyone are as douchy as u are  | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
TOCHMY -- bros before hos Iplaythings, Arcanefrost -- sensible advice farvacola -- your blog is too short ZenithM -- agree with farva MasterofPuppets -- TOCHMY is an idiot XDJuiceBox -- YOLOOOOO I love TL | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
pics or she's not real | ||
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 07 2013 05:26 MasterOfPuppets wrote: I love you too Shady. How've you been mate? Feeling pretty awesome. Just closed my first ever deal. (Our fund has closed other deals before, but I was never directly involved). | ||
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EtherealDeath
United States8366 Posts
On February 07 2013 02:08 Cainam wrote: To those who are saying fuck the friendship go after the girl all I have to say is I am glad none of you are my friends. I suppose I could ask him for his permission, but there is the chance that he could give it without actually being okay with it and I do not want to risk that. Been friends with this kid for 20 of my 26 years no chick is worth risking that. There are plenty of other girls out there. You know what's up sir. I honestly expected more responses like this and less of the "go fuck over your friend" variety. Because intelligence is a huge turn on for me. Dumb girls bore the hell out of me. Literally have never had a girl come back at me the way she did. I was blown away. Yo bro, If I were your bro, I'd be pretty sure I were friendzoned and be totally fine with you going for it. But in case I weren't sure of being friendzoned for whatever reason, all you gotta do is just ask me to let you know whenever I am done chasing her. Then I may or may not stop sitting on my ass and find out already, and then let you have your go once I miserably fail at it. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On February 07 2013 06:05 obesechicken13 wrote: Or maybe you guys could...share her. o_0 Depending on what you all are into. Sharing is caring. What else would show your bro that you love him, other than sharing the honey? | ||
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jrkirby
United States1510 Posts
Two possibilities: 1) He goes for it. Ok, so you may have lost the girl, but you did your friend a good favor by pushing him to man up. 2) He ignores it. Either he doesn't have the balls and would never have acted on his crush, or he never really wanted it in the first place. | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32097 Posts
On February 07 2013 04:54 Cainam wrote: So testy. A large part of the reason nothing has happened already is that they have lived a few hours away from each other for the last couple years. Based on what I saw last night I'd say he has somewhat of a shot. I don't really know though. Either way I know my friendship with him is more important than some girl, no matter how awesome she is. Don't talk to me about growing some balls. I'm not one of the desperate nerds that populate internet forums such as this (although 4 or 5 years ago I was.) I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do. I just know this one is off limits to me and it sucks because she is fuckin' awesome. Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL! On February 07 2013 05:24 TOCHMY wrote: Everyone is not as confident and forward as you are son. One of my friends been in love with a girl for yeeeeeaaars. Nothing happens tho cuz he doesn't have it in him to take the step. And thankfully, not everyone are as douchy as u are That's your friend's problem and not your own, and anyone who'd get mad at their buddy for stepping in after their fumbled away an opportunity for years is a shitty friend | ||
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
On February 07 2013 07:21 QuanticHawk wrote: Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL! Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning? | ||
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Doomblaze
United States1292 Posts
On February 06 2013 21:06 Arcanefrost wrote: Just ask your bro if he'd be cool with it. Tbh if he could get her he would have her by now... Yea if you want her i'd do that. Depends how tight you are with your best friend though. i dont think mine would give a fuck unless hes seeing the girl already, but everyone is different ofc. If you feel she's offlimits I can respect that, and im sorry =( | ||
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SamsungStar
United States912 Posts
On February 07 2013 08:32 Cainam wrote: Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning? I gotta say I agree with Quantic. This seems like a really juvenile problem and not the kind of dilemma a pimp would have any trouble with. | ||
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
On February 07 2013 08:45 SamsungStar wrote: I gotta say I agree with Quantic. This seems like a really juvenile problem and not the kind of dilemma a pimp would have any trouble with. Pimp was his word. Not mine. I consider myself a pretty average dude. | ||
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babylon
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10344 Posts
On February 07 2013 08:55 babylon wrote: Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy. haha probably She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing? | ||
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Cainam
United States421 Posts
On February 07 2013 09:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote: haha probably She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing? I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that. | ||
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Shady Sands
United States4021 Posts
On February 07 2013 09:26 Cainam wrote: I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that. Fuck dude, this isn't a Univision telenovela or something, stop pussyfooting around and just take the plunge | ||
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Inzek
Chile802 Posts
On February 06 2013 16:32 MasterOfPuppets wrote: Therein lies the problem... You're saying just because that guy has no shot with her you shouldn't either? ask him | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
On February 07 2013 09:26 Cainam wrote: I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that. Lol you can't even be sure if your so called best friend is truly honest with you. Says alot about your friendship. Sure you aren't just making excuses? We all do, better to just admit it than to be all like 'yeah man i can pickup girls ez pz' + Show Spoiler + In the case of an edit : On February 07 2013 04:54 Cainam wrote: I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do. | ||
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
On February 07 2013 08:32 Cainam wrote: Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning? Reality did. And not the Khan pro either, actual reality. I don't usually agree with Hawk but when it comes to girl blogs his reads and advice are absolutely spot on (when he's being serious). If you legitimately want to have a chance at succeeding (which given your attitude so far I don't think you have either way) then listen to what Hawk and MDJ said. Otherwise do whatever you want but don't come bawling when it fails miserably or she says "let's just be friends instead". On February 07 2013 12:27 FractalsOnFire wrote: Lol you can't even be sure if your so called best friend is truly honest with you. Says alot about your friendship. Sure you aren't just making excuses? We all do, better to just admit it than to be all like 'yeah man i can pickup girls ez pz' + Show Spoiler + In the case of an edit : On February 07 2013 04:54 Cainam wrote: I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do. Let's be honest bro, making excuses and justifying things to yourself/others is infinitely easier than actually taking responsibility. | ||
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Aerisky
United States12129 Posts
On February 07 2013 05:24 Shady Sands wrote: Summary of 1st page posts:
TOCHMY -- bros before hos Iplaythings, Arcanefrost -- sensible advice farvacola -- your blog is too short ZenithM -- agree with farva MasterofPuppets -- TOCHMY is an idiot XDJuiceBox -- YOLOOOOO I love TL Shady Sands -- has to be a deconstructionist and summarize what has transpired Congratulations on closing your first deal! I think go ahead and talk to him about it, then definitely go for it if you can do it without messing up your friendship or what have you. But be careful. If she can outargue you NOW, there's no telling what will happen in the future. rofl | ||
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Tobberoth
Sweden6375 Posts
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