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On February 07 2013 02:08 Cainam wrote:To those who are saying fuck the friendship go after the girl all I have to say is I am glad none of you are my friends. I suppose I could ask him for his permission, but there is the chance that he could give it without actually being okay with it and I do not want to risk that. Been friends with this kid for 20 of my 26 years no chick is worth risking that. There are plenty of other girls out there. Show nested quote +On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote:+ Show Spoiler +Yeah don't follow MDJ's advice. Better to not pursue the girl and keep your friendship. Better yet, talk to your friend and explain to him that you like her. Make it clear, though, that you won't do anything if he feels its not ok.
I know it sucks man. Been in this position before myself, but there will ALWAYS come another girl that you will feel for.
Reading all these answers...
None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand"
What if his friend has an altar of her with candles and voodoo dolls and big posters and pictures of her with different outfits and postures and facial expressions...
OP: Ultimately you have to ask yourself this: Is it worth risking a lifelong friendship with your best pal for a relationship with a girl that might not even last a year?
The first step is to tell you friend how you feel. After that you have to feel what to do.
You know what's up sir. I honestly expected more responses like this and less of the "go fuck over your friend" variety. Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 01:29 SamsungStar wrote:
...Why on earth would you want to be with a girl who could outargue you? o_0 Because intelligence is a huge turn on for me. Dumb girls bore the hell out of me. Literally have never had a girl come back at me the way she did. I was blown away.
Yo bro, If I were your bro, I'd be pretty sure I were friendzoned and be totally fine with you going for it. But in case I weren't sure of being friendzoned for whatever reason, all you gotta do is just ask me to let you know whenever I am done chasing her. Then I may or may not stop sitting on my ass and find out already, and then let you have your go once I miserably fail at it.
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Or maybe you guys could...share her. o_0 Depending on what you all are into.
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On February 07 2013 06:05 obesechicken13 wrote:
Or maybe you guys could...share her. o_0 Depending on what you all are into.
Sharing is caring. What else would show your bro that you love him, other than sharing the honey?
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Tell your friend: "If you're not gonna try to get her, I will."
Two possibilities:
1) He goes for it. Ok, so you may have lost the girl, but you did your friend a good favor by pushing him to man up.
2) He ignores it. Either he doesn't have the balls and would never have acted on his crush, or he never really wanted it in the first place.
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On February 07 2013 04:54 Cainam wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 04:00 QuanticHawk wrote:On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote:
None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand"
because the op's friend's logic is retarded. if anything was gonna happen it already would have. then again, the op seems like a putz and is using this as an excuse to grow some balls and do something about it so whatever So testy. A large part of the reason nothing has happened already is that they have lived a few hours away from each other for the last couple years. Based on what I saw last night I'd say he has somewhat of a shot. I don't really know though. Either way I know my friendship with him is more important than some girl, no matter how awesome she is. Don't talk to me about growing some balls. I'm not one of the desperate nerds that populate internet forums such as this (although 4 or 5 years ago I was.) I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do. I just know this one is off limits to me and it sucks because she is fuckin' awesome.
Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL!
On February 07 2013 05:24 TOCHMY wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 04:00 QuanticHawk wrote:On February 06 2013 17:54 TOCHMY wrote:
None of you knows how his friend is as a person, how can you give such advice? "He should understand"
because the op's friend's logic is retarded. if anything was gonna happen it already would have. then again, the op seems like a putz and is using this as an excuse to grow some balls and do something about it so whatever Everyone is not as confident and forward as you are son. One of my friends been in love with a girl for yeeeeeaaars. Nothing happens tho cuz he doesn't have it in him to take the step. And thankfully, not everyone are as douchy as u are 
That's your friend's problem and not your own, and anyone who'd get mad at their buddy for stepping in after their fumbled away an opportunity for years is a shitty friend
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On February 07 2013 07:21 QuanticHawk wrote:
Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL!
Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning?
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On February 06 2013 21:06 Arcanefrost wrote:
Just ask your bro if he'd be cool with it. Tbh if he could get her he would have her by now...
Yea if you want her i'd do that. Depends how tight you are with your best friend though. i dont think mine would give a fuck unless hes seeing the girl already, but everyone is different ofc. If you feel she's offlimits I can respect that, and im sorry =(
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On February 07 2013 08:32 Cainam wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 07:21 QuanticHawk wrote:
Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL!
Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning?
I gotta say I agree with Quantic. This seems like a really juvenile problem and not the kind of dilemma a pimp would have any trouble with.
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On February 07 2013 08:45 SamsungStar wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 08:32 Cainam wrote:On February 07 2013 07:21 QuanticHawk wrote:
Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL!
Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning? I gotta say I agree with Quantic. This seems like a really juvenile problem and not the kind of dilemma a pimp would have any trouble with.
Pimp was his word. Not mine. I consider myself a pretty average dude.
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Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy.
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On February 07 2013 08:55 babylon wrote:
Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy.
haha probably
She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing?
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On February 07 2013 09:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 08:55 babylon wrote:
Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy. haha probably She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing?
I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that.
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On February 07 2013 09:26 Cainam wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 09:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On February 07 2013 08:55 babylon wrote:
Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy. haha probably She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing? I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that.
Fuck dude, this isn't a Univision telenovela or something, stop pussyfooting around and just take the plunge
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On February 06 2013 16:32 MasterOfPuppets wrote:Show nested quote +On February 06 2013 16:31 Cainam wrote:
MDJ: Doesn't matter. He's my best friend. She is off limits period I would never do that. Therein lies the problem... You're saying just because that guy has no shot with her you shouldn't either?
ask him
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On February 07 2013 09:26 Cainam wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 09:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On February 07 2013 08:55 babylon wrote:
Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy. haha probably She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing? I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that.
Lol you can't even be sure if your so called best friend is truly honest with you.
Says alot about your friendship.
Sure you aren't just making excuses? We all do, better to just admit it than to be all like 'yeah man i can pickup girls ez pz'
+ Show Spoiler +In the case of an edit : On February 07 2013 04:54 Cainam wrote:
I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do.
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On February 07 2013 08:32 Cainam wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 07:21 QuanticHawk wrote:
Cool, so you're a random nerd who decided to post on a website for desperate nerds about how he's actually allowing his spineless friend, who lives miles away from his crush of many years, to dicate whom he pursues. Nothing says pussy wreckin' pimp like having a girl blog on TL!
Damn dude who shit in your coffee this morning?
Reality did. And not the Khan pro either, actual reality. I don't usually agree with Hawk but when it comes to girl blogs his reads and advice are absolutely spot on (when he's being serious). If you legitimately want to have a chance at succeeding (which given your attitude so far I don't think you have either way) then listen to what Hawk and MDJ said. Otherwise do whatever you want but don't come bawling when it fails miserably or she says "let's just be friends instead".
On February 07 2013 12:27 FractalsOnFire wrote:Show nested quote +On February 07 2013 09:26 Cainam wrote:On February 07 2013 09:22 MountainDewJunkie wrote:On February 07 2013 08:55 babylon wrote:
Well, we all know how this'll end. She'll probably get together with a third guy. haha probably She's not really going to wait around for one of you two guys to actually go for it. Especially your friend who has had a thing for her "for years." How many more years is he allowed to pine and do nothing? I just talked to him and he said the exact same thing. He basically said he's had his shot and I'm more than welcome to take a shot if I want to. He seemed pretty sincere so maybe I'll go for it. Gotta feel it out a little more first though make sure he's not just saying that. Lol you can't even be sure if your so called best friend is truly honest with you. Says alot about your friendship. Sure you aren't just making excuses? We all do, better to just admit it than to be all like 'yeah man i can pickup girls ez pz' + Show Spoiler +In the case of an edit : On February 07 2013 04:54 Cainam wrote:
I have no problem going out and picking a girl up if that is what I want to do.
Let's be honest bro, making excuses and justifying things to yourself/others is infinitely easier than actually taking responsibility.
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On February 07 2013 05:24 Shady Sands wrote:Summary of 1st page posts: MDJ, Synapse, sob3k, run.at.me, mysterymeat -- hos before bros, all the way
TOCHMY -- bros before hos
Iplaythings, Arcanefrost -- sensible advice
farvacola -- your blog is too short
ZenithM -- agree with farva
MasterofPuppets -- TOCHMY is an idiot
XDJuiceBox -- YOLOOOOO I love TL
Shady Sands -- has to be a deconstructionist and summarize what has transpired
Congratulations on closing your first deal!
I think go ahead and talk to him about it, then definitely go for it if you can do it without messing up your friendship or what have you. But be careful. If she can outargue you NOW, there's no telling what will happen in the future. rofl
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Such a teen problem. Just tell him that if he doesn't make a move, you will. He liked her first, so give him a fair chance. If he fails, go for it. If he gets mad about that... well, I assume you're more than 12 years old, so why are you hanging out with a little baby?
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