EPT[Girl Blog] In the end, she left me. - Page 2
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CecilSunkure
United States2829 Posts
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HanFuzi
Israel80 Posts
I think what you need to do is take a break until you have a chance to think things through clearly, when you have a clear head. Then, you can figure out what went wrong and whether or not that is worth fixing. | ||
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Fumanchu
Canada669 Posts
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Aerisky
United States12129 Posts
It's partly a matter of personal philosophy I think. There are certain things we value more than others in a partner. Some of you may not particularly care at all. But OP does apparently harbor a Jay Gatsby-esque sadness that the girl wasn't pure etc. You guys can judge him all you want but it's a matter of differing personal opinions and weights on certain qualities. There must be things that would set you guys off in a girl for sure...you guys would call those opinions defensible, but it's honestly a different view on life. Just whoa, so harsh. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45434 Posts
On December 30 2012 15:20 Aerisky wrote: Wow you guys are very harsh/judgmental lol. It's partly a matter of personal philosophy I think. There are certain things we value more than others in a partner. Some of you may not particularly care at all. But OP does apparently harbor a Jay Gatsby-esque sadness that the girl wasn't pure etc. You guys can judge him all you want but it's a matter of differing personal opinions and weights on certain qualities. There must be things that would set you guys off in a girl for sure...you guys would call those opinions defensible, but it's honestly a different view on life. Just whoa, so harsh. Welcome to the Wonderful World of Girl Blogs!  People vent, and other people give their advice  If you can't take the heat... | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10346 Posts
Nice bro. She said she didn't like the "way you behave with people," a point you called "ridiculous." So basically, you called her a slut, and dismissed her feelings and criticisms of you because you don't feel you're doing anything wrong. It's just SHOCKING she doesn't want to date you anymore! | ||
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Aerisky
United States12129 Posts
On December 30 2012 16:37 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Welcome to the Wonderful World of Girl Blogs! People vent, and other people give their advice If you can't take the heat... I dunno. Sure, he pulled a lot of stupid shit, but this isn't so much advice as people telling him he's a douche. I just went back and saw your post, and that wasn't addressed at you (you actually took the time out to write something and give him some advice). I just think it's lamentable when a guy is clearly drunk, kind of sad, writes a girl blog, and others just stone him. A 1-3 line post essentially saying "you're a douche, should have just bore it" doesn't come across to me as advice, just my 2 cents. That was sort of an overreaction on my part though for sure--people weren't THAT mean. Just felt bad for the guy I suppose >.< | ||
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
 About the 'I don't like your slutty past' part, I know that I've made a mistake: I never tried to defend that position when we argued. The only thing that I cared about was our present. She is using some double standards here... you call a big offense a line like 'I don't like you slutty past'? What about the things she told me when we argued, stuff like 'I don't trust you because you have not been with enough girls, if you'd had been with more you would be less inclined to cheat me' which is the absolute OPPOSITE of how men reason. Is this nice? It's simple to me...when you fight you say stupid things you regret. I always regretted mine, asked for forgiveness and tried to move on while ignoring her offenses. She did not, her pride makes her always want to stand on top of everything. Her view of a relationship is sad, destroyed by her parents divorce and by the fact that her mother never found another man. I just wish I could help here  | ||
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AkalineMess
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QuanticHawk
United States32130 Posts
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32130 Posts
On January 03 2013 00:38 OpticalShot wrote: Yeah I remember your previous blog, and I see now that it didn't help much... shame. Hope you find someone else (I mean it, find someone else!!) who you can accept as a whole. Holy shit. Dreaming about killing ex boyfriends, judging her because she wasn't a virgin like your other ex's, loads of hypocritical, misogynistic statements go get therapy—not even joking | ||
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CecilSunkure
United States2829 Posts
On January 03 2013 01:02 QuanticHawk wrote: Holy shit. Dreaming about killing ex boyfriends, judging her because she wasn't a virgin like your other ex's, loads of hypocritical, misogynistic statements go get therapy—not even joking Oh yeah just read it. To the OP: people make mistakes, and you do too. Her mistakes are no worse than yours; you aren't perfect. Don't her hold her up to unrealistic hypocritical expectations. You have to mature before you find another girl. | ||
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
I got this advice late in my twenties, and I wish I would have gotten it (and believed it) in my early twenties. Hope that helps, even though it probably won't right now. Just have fun in your early and mid twenties, you really don't want to be playing for keeps at that stage, trust me. | ||
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milllo
2 Posts
She is not. You can't force someone to be who they don't want to be. Little problems such as you described will only get worse. If you manipulated things to make a couple that suffered misery for a few years before divorcing, how is that good? Move on. Remember the good times you had, contemplate what could have been, and actively search for a better future. | ||
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