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Skilledblob
Germany3392 Posts
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FFGenerations
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ive been miserable my whole life, which comes with a range of social ineptitude and anxiety issues im working on building myself up now so that i can be attractive to a decent girl but its scary to think that if i get caught in depression again at some point in my life that the girl will just leave me girls seem to treat you very differently if you dont exhibit attractive behaviour working with girls is like a rollercoaster for me, one day i might go to work feeling okay about myself, and in response the girl/s treat me nice and with respect; another day i feel miserable and cant smile and be entertaining & energetic, and seemingly girls become mildly disgusted and start talking to you like you're a dog or dirt (which makes you feel even worse and more disabled) the truth is, girls are just animals, nomatter how much you love them or think they are trustworthy, if you cant push their buttons then they will leave you for someone who can. its not their fault, it just works a little differently compared to how it works for men. a man can be loyal to his girl when she is miserable because she still looks the same, sexually attractive. infact a lot of guys will fall over themselves to try to help out a miserable-looking pretty girl. but in my experience, if you are a depressed, tired man surrounded by females then you might aswell cut your own neck to save them the trouble of doing it. girls want men to exhibit certain qualities, if you fail at this then you can forget about keeping a girlfriend. she will feel totally justified in leaving you, because what girl wants to be with a miserable, unsuccessful guy? that isnt boyfriend material. hell, most people wouldnt wanna be friends with a depressed person, wheres the fun in that? same with my coworkers, if they're used to guys being entertaining, energetic, happy people who smile and make them giggle, and i come along just trying to get by with my ugly mug, of course they're gonna be a bit ticked off. with respect to boyfriends - sexual partners - girls dont care about your inner suffering, your kind heart, your powerful imagination. they care about 1 thing only: are you sexually attractive? if the answer to that is no then sorry but you are no longer boyfriend material, please make your way to the back of the line and try again when you are | ||
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sam!zdat
United States5559 Posts
You need to unfacebookify her pronto, stat, immediately, and so forth. Seriously, that is a crucial move. It'll be okay. If she wasn't gonna stick with you through those hard times well, you know what, fuck her. you're better off without her | ||
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meteorskunk
Canada546 Posts
On November 15 2012 09:40 FFGenerations wrote: it scary ive been miserable my whole life, which comes with a range of social ineptitude and anxiety issues im working on building myself up now so that i can be attractive to a decent girl but its scary to think that if i get caught in depression again at some point in my life that the girl will just leave me girls seem to treat you very differently if you dont exhibit attractive behaviour working with girls is like a rollercoaster for me, one day i might go to work feeling okay about myself, and in response the girl/s treat me nice and with respect; another day i feel miserable and cant smile and be entertaining & energetic, and seemingly girls become mildly disgusted and start talking to you like you're a dog or dirt (which makes you feel even worse and more disabled) the truth is, girls are just animals, nomatter how much you love them or think they are trustworthy, if you cant push their buttons then they will leave you for someone who can. its not their fault, it just works a little differently compared to how it works for men. a man can be loyal to his girl when she is miserable because she still looks the same, sexually attractive. infact a lot of guys will fall over themselves to try to help out a miserable-looking pretty girl. but in my experience, if you are a depressed, tired man surrounded by females then you might aswell cut your own neck to save them the trouble of doing it. girls want men to exhibit certain qualities, if you fail at this then you can forget about keeping a girlfriend. she will feel totally justified in leaving you, because what girl wants to be with a miserable, unsuccessful guy? that isnt boyfriend material. hell, most people wouldnt wanna be friends with a depressed person, wheres the fun in that? same with my coworkers, if they're used to guys being entertaining, energetic, happy people who smile and make them giggle, and i come along just trying to get by with my ugly mug, of course they're gonna be a bit ticked off. with respect to boyfriends - sexual partners - girls dont care about your inner suffering, your kind heart, your powerful imagination. they care about 1 thing only: are you sexually attractive? if the answer to that is no then sorry but you are no longer boyfriend material, please make your way to the back of the line and try again when you are well maybe, most girls don't care about your precious heart and your imagination. One girl might. you will feel very happy. Don't blow it worrying she does not like you man! LIghten up!!! Also, you need a bit of confidence!!! you're intelligent. If they're being bitches tell them to fuck the fuck off! reassure yourself! once you have the confidence the ladies actually do dig a bit of eccentric and a bit of colour and a bit of whimsy... In my experience, she just might.. express her appreciation -after- she likes you | ||
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[UoN]Sentinel
United States11320 Posts
On November 15 2012 09:40 FFGenerations wrote: it scary ive been miserable my whole life, which comes with a range of social ineptitude and anxiety issues im working on building myself up now so that i can be attractive to a decent girl but its scary to think that if i get caught in depression again at some point in my life that the girl will just leave me girls seem to treat you very differently if you dont exhibit attractive behaviour working with girls is like a rollercoaster for me, one day i might go to work feeling okay about myself, and in response the girl/s treat me nice and with respect; another day i feel miserable and cant smile and be entertaining & energetic, and seemingly girls become mildly disgusted and start talking to you like you're a dog or dirt (which makes you feel even worse and more disabled) the truth is, girls are just animals, nomatter how much you love them or think they are trustworthy, if you cant push their buttons then they will leave you for someone who can. its not their fault, it just works a little differently compared to how it works for men. a man can be loyal to his girl when she is miserable because she still looks the same, sexually attractive. infact a lot of guys will fall over themselves to try to help out a miserable-looking pretty girl. but in my experience, if you are a depressed, tired man surrounded by females then you might aswell cut your own neck to save them the trouble of doing it. girls want men to exhibit certain qualities, if you fail at this then you can forget about keeping a girlfriend. she will feel totally justified in leaving you, because what girl wants to be with a miserable, unsuccessful guy? that isnt boyfriend material. hell, most people wouldnt wanna be friends with a depressed person, wheres the fun in that? same with my coworkers, if they're used to guys being entertaining, energetic, happy people who smile and make them giggle, and i come along just trying to get by with my ugly mug, of course they're gonna be a bit ticked off. with respect to boyfriends - sexual partners - girls dont care about your inner suffering, your kind heart, your powerful imagination. they care about 1 thing only: are you sexually attractive? if the answer to that is no then sorry but you are no longer boyfriend material, please make your way to the back of the line and try again when you are Far overgeneralized. I've been through a long depression in a relationship before. I'm bipolar, and all of my friends will agree that I'm some degree of insane. Doesn't stop my love life at all. Playing it off right I'll even be more interesting. I think if anything, these kinds of thoughts you posted will stop you from going after girls that are at least somewhat attracted to you. If it's as you say "in my experience, if you are a depressed, tired man surrounded by females" maybe it's not them - it's you that isn't initiating anything and expecting them to key in to the fact that you want a relationship. That paragrahp seems kinda vitriolic to me and I don't mean to sound like an asshole, I just can't phrase it any differently. | ||
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NukeTheStars
United States277 Posts
THEN, my desperation led me to start a project that basically turned into a 4-year self-improvement program, attracting thousands of fans and making me a more confident speaker, which helped me land the perfect job. So, really, the worst time in my life was the best thing that ever happened to me. And I bet it could be the same for you. My advice would be to sever ties completely with the girl (block her facebook, too, so you won't ever see it). Then, go out there and do something creative. It's all you, man. There's no one else running your life, even though it might feel like she is sometimes. You're the captain of this crazy ship we call life! Don't let the mofo hit an iceberg! | ||
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DrTJEckleburg
United States1080 Posts
Apparently I wasn't the only one; one day you'll be past it, that day probably isn't soon but everyone has problems and horrible things they have to go through. You'll either be better person once you get there or you'll be dead, I have no doubt you'll be one of the former. Respect yourself and learn everything you can about everything, rejection from a woman or a grad school is not the worst thing that can happen. Embrace knowledge and develop your personality and everything will feel like it's falling into place. | ||
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Rudiment
United States174 Posts
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10341 Posts
Most horrible story ever  And yeah, I'd bet $50 that she was cheating. Ditching you to hang out with new friends? Nono, ditching you to hang out with new man. Been there. It's actually worse when they drag out your misery like this. It's 1000 times better if they just rip out your heart instead of pushing you to your slow death with indifference, frustration, dishonesty, and passive-aggressiveness. I'm certain every waking moment was hell during this fiasco, and obviously even after it hurts like hell. Some people really don't care at all how they are hurting you or how much. As long as they get theirs. *sigh* PS I think your brother is useless | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
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Aerisky
United States12129 Posts
Collective Internet brohug, man. Hope you get through this alright and stay strong. | ||
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fredd
Estonia256 Posts
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
Also get your money back from her. Bitch doesn't deserve a free pass. EDIT: Man re-reading that bit about your brother's advice makes me want to grab and shake him for giving such piss poor advice. Really irks the shit out of me. Meet new women, don't even hope for one second she'll get back with you. If she seemingly comes crawling back, be in a position of strength, not the current state you are now so you can evaluate your prospects as objectively as possible. Look back on the good times fondly but remember that all good things come to an end and that its time to make new ones. | ||
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Vega Obscura
Canada24 Posts
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dakalro
Romania525 Posts
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Mythal
Spain108 Posts
On November 15 2012 23:48 FractalsOnFire wrote: Your brother gives horrible advice for break ups, listen to TL not him. Cut off all contact with her until you completely get over her. Do other things, pick up hobbies, job searching, hanging out with friends or if you've lost them over the past few years, start reconnecting and rebuilding your social circle. Start diversifying your identity. So that when you find the next girl (and you will), you won't be completely down in the dumps because you have other things to do and which you are good at. Also get your money back from her. Bitch doesn't deserve a free pass. EDIT: Man re-reading that bit about your brother's advice makes me want to grab and shake him for giving such piss poor advice. Really irks the shit out of me. Meet new women, don't even hope for one second she'll get back with you. If she seemingly comes crawling back, be in a position of strength, not the current state you are now so you can evaluate your prospects as objectively as possible. Look back on the good times fondly but remember that all good things come to an end and that its time to make new ones. THIS, THIS and THIS. On May I broke up with my girlfriend. It was a 5 year relationship as well, although the broke up didn't hurt as much as it seems it did to you (she was the one that broke up). Things weren't working out between the two of us anymore, so the best thing we could do was to stop it, and we both knew it. This problably helped me to get over it faster, just because I knew I wanted to move on. First and most important, you have to realize that you want to get over that girl. I know, you love her and you have shared so many things with her, but she is not the only one that will make you feel special, there are a lot of girls out there that are awesome and interesting, but you have to have the will to meet them and get to know them. The best thing you can do to move on is to stop seeing her, stop calling/texting/speaking to her and stop checking her facebook (unfriend her, block her.. whatever). And don't hope on you two coming back. Please, please, please... DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR BROTHER. That was the shittiest advice I've ever seen. Running, working out helps a lot and you are doing it, so that's great! Pick up hobbies, meeting friends etc.. Keeping yourself occuped will help you. Sometimes you will feel alone with nothing to do... and you will feel helpless and empty, because she isn't there to fill that gap. But coping with it it's part of moving on. You need to remember that being alone is not bad, and that you are awesome by yourself! One thing helped me was to think about the things I didn't completely like about my exgirlfriend, and that now, as a single I could try to find on a new person (and I'm sure you can find things you didn't exactly like about your gf, but you just got over them because you loved her). So try to meet new people, njoy the thrill discovering girls different from your ex. Of course they will have something you don't like, nobody is perfect! And your ex isn't perfect neither! Once you feel better and think you have moved on, speak with her if you feel confident enough. She has been an important person of your life, so it would be a shame loosing all contact with her. But only do this when you are happy about how you are (be it single or with another girl...). Who knows if you will ever get back together (must probably not), but if it happens, be sure that you do it because you want to, not because you feel dragged by some old forgotten feelings. I hope this can help you a little bit. With some time you will get over it, I know you will  | ||
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GermanWarHero
6 Posts
On November 15 2012 05:39 123Viril69 wrote: 5/5, this is fantastic I disagree, it was pretty mundane and whiny. Where can I read a more manly blog ? | ||
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FractalsOnFire
Australia1756 Posts
![[image loading]](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m24ysl1rzr1qgkt7co1_500.jpg) and Relevant to your situation At the end of the day, its ultimately up to you to make yourself happy. So stop moping and pick yourself up. | ||
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