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On June 25 2012 11:24 Elegance wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2012 11:20 NuKedUFirst wrote:On June 25 2012 11:09 bibilisk wrote:
and just get a girl as shy as you , you will be fine. Its actually her that is more shy then myself I would say. Then again this is personal bias. I'll see how things go in a couple of weeks and go from there. On June 25 2012 11:12 Elegance wrote:On June 25 2012 11:07 bibilisk wrote:
the "grow some balls" message just tell us that girl was out of ur league. just relax, be yourself and dont try hard, you will know for next girl cuz with this one its over There is no girl EVER that is out of a guy's league (extremely common assumption guys make). However, it is possible that a guy can be out of a girl's league. I personally don't think she is, She is good looking but shes so shy and only really talks to her close close friends and has only dated "hicks" as our school would label them and she definitely didn't sit at the popular bench haha.. Hopefully no one I know IRL finds this blog haha.. I would love to move on but im going to atleast try and put up a fight and see if she comes to my party or whatever. Thanks everyone for all the comments and advice so far - really lightened my mood from what it was a few hours ago! And where do you think you stand in terms of how valuable you are compared to her.
Do you mean in terms of popularity or self evaluation ? Well, for popluarity, she doesn't party at all, she isn't very social.. alot of people don't know her.. I think would consider myself atleast equal to her. Shes really nice and friendly but keeps to herself alot. I don't really like judging people or "rating" people.
On June 25 2012 12:10 PrinceXizor wrote:
Don't invite her to your party. just have a party and not invite her, invite some of her friends that you enjoyed their company more. if she wants to come, she'll come with one of them when she hears about it, or text you or something. inviting her seems a bit desperate for a teenage girl and she'll likely not come or care.
18 year old girls are pretty bad at relationships.
Yeah, since we're kinda not talking .. I'm going to invite all of her friends and see if she tags along was the plan  im just going to try and stay positive lol
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On June 25 2012 12:10 NuKedUFirst wrote:Show nested quote +On June 25 2012 12:10 PrinceXizor wrote:
Don't invite her to your party. just have a party and not invite her, invite some of her friends that you enjoyed their company more. if she wants to come, she'll come with one of them when she hears about it, or text you or something. inviting her seems a bit desperate for a teenage girl and she'll likely not come or care.
18 year old girls are pretty bad at relationships. Yeah, since we're kinda not talking .. I'm going to invite all of her friends and see if she tags along was the plan im just going to try and stay positive lol
Okay i don't know if you happened to read my blogs recently, but yeah, i went through some serious heartache lately and i came out of it okay.
That being said, don't invite all her friends, when you hung out with them at prom, surely a few of them seemed better friend material than the others? invite the ones you actually talked to. Don't bring people you dislike to a party just to try to get a girl.
Oftentimes the women aren't worth that kind of trouble. especially at your (and even my) age.
Trust me when i say if she comes, don't talk to her until she comes up to you, spend the time enjoying the party and talk to some of the girls there and try to act like it's just not going to work out with her. because 9 times out of 10, when a relationship (or friendship) get's to the point where you are wondering if it'll work out, it won't. trust me.
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So what you did wrong was that you fought
Girls are like kittens - if you let them catch the toy mouse they instantly lose interest.
To get her interested you have to not care what happen with her. Had you gone off and chatted with her friends happily and essentially ignored her she would have been more interested. If you ask her to a movie and she says idk you say well i'm going tomorrow so let me know before then.
That said if you don't click, nervousness and all, it really isn't worth it cause it won't go anywhere
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She obviously liked you at some point, so my guess is she met someone else and doesn't want you around because it will confuse her. It happens rather often that crushes suddenly ignore you, try not to make a big deal out of it.
You tried, that's all you could do and it shows that you're a good guy.
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What a fucking bitch dude. Fuck her, who the fuck does or says that? Some people are just not worth your time at ALL.
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Update: Despite what her friends said on how I "deserved" a chance with her.. She is now in a relationship with some retard and all of her friends basically lied to me. Feels good.
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You came off as too needy and insecure, which doesn't go well with females. Her friends saying you deserved a chance with her doesn't really mean shit, as it's not her friends but herself that decides if she wants to hang with you or not. They didn't necessarily lie.
And be happy for her that she's (hopefully) happy in another relationship. Just let her go and get over it. Stop being needy.
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On June 25 2012 09:29 NuKedUFirst wrote:
After prom she had a party, invited all of her friends and their dates - I didn't get invited. I was kind of upset but understood, She knew her friends and their dates way longer then we've known each other so I shrugged it off. Her mom emailed me some pictures of prom that she took and I did the same.
There is no possible situation in which you should "understand" and be ok with not being invited to your own prom date's after party. Doing some random guessing, it appears like she couldn't get a date with someone else - knew you liked her to some degree - and got you to take her so she could at least say she's going with someone. She probably felt you were pretty awkward or there wasn't any chemistry, made a real dick move in not inviting you, and her mom felt bad so e-mailed you pictures. Again, her mom was the one that e-mailed you. There was never any actual prospects in this my man, and never let anyone use you like a doormat in the future, it's not cool.
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Wow i think i must've skimmed the first time i read it. She's a fucking bitch jesus christ. She's doing you a favour by telling you she's not interested. Find someone else who will respect you and give you the treatment you deserve.
Stop. Being. A. Doormat.
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You dodged a bullet, she'd probably be more trouble and hassle than she's worth. Get over her, move on.
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It's her loss. But really don't be the nice guy, don't try to be her white knight, don't chase, ... it never works ever. Girls are mean, it will only get you used and hurt.
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Alcohol I tell ya. I'm a disaster when it comes to talking to girls I have some sort of romantic intentions towards. Or people I do not know. I do pretty damn good if I know the people and what they like/dislike. I also seem to grow a pair when I drink enough and everyone I was involved with was friend -> gf or drunk acquaintance/I have no idea who you are -> gf. I'm a pretty mellow drunk person though, all I do is talk more/open up more, don't remember ever turning into an idiot, except that one time I also blacked out for part of the walk home, still walked on my own though and nobody got hurt, except my ass, falling. And my pride cause I had this idea my mom was sleeping at 23:00 on a Friday and didn't think I'd break furniture, falling, again.
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If a girl tells you that you're socially awkward, you're almost certainly socially awkward. Just the vibe I get from your blog backs up her position that you're socially awkward.
Work on improving your social skills before lashing out at her, her friends or her new boyfriend.
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On July 04 2012 21:54 TheKwas wrote:
If a girl tells you that you're socially awkward, you're almost certainly socially awkward. Just the vibe I get from your blog backs up her position that you're socially awkward.
Work on improving your social skills before lashing out at her, her friends or her new boyfriend.
This advice is structured bluntly, but there is some truth here. Regardless of what happened with this girl, you may want to try to understand where some of her criticism is coming from even though it is a shitty thing to say to someone. From what you've said it does sound like you were being a little overwhelming, and when I read something like:
On June 25 2012 09:29 NuKedUFirst wrote:
That year went by and I found myself really liking her despite not really ever hanging out with her. The way she looked, would act, etc. She was basically the closest thing to an angel I've ever seen.
Yeahhhhhhhh, that's a stage of desperation and obsession, and in my own experience I would say it's common for guys who are shy or don't have much like with women (girls in your case). This girl definitely did some mean things but it's probably in your own self-interest if you really think about it and see whether any of her criticism is valid.
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