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CecilSunkure
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States2829 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-07 18:21:54
May 07 2012 17:38 GMT
#21
If a doctor told you you were sterile and you get someone pregnant, can you not sew this doctor?

Edit: sue
Mr. Wiggles
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
Canada5894 Posts
May 07 2012 17:41 GMT
#22
Why don't you go get re-checked to see if you're still sterile?
you gotta dance
bonifaceviii
Profile Joined May 2010
Canada2890 Posts
May 07 2012 17:41 GMT
#23
On May 08 2012 02:28 -Kaiser- wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ?

On May 08 2012 02:22 Silidons wrote:
On May 08 2012 02:20 -Kaiser- wrote:
What method of birth control were you using?

seems like none

On May 08 2012 02:23 bonifaceviii wrote:
What everyone else said. 1 scare already and now a pregnancy? Sounds like your family planning has been shoddy at best.

On May 08 2012 02:25 FreeZEternal wrote:
OMG dude, get her on the pill or just use a damn condom. Pulling out is not birth control....



It's pretty repulsive that you all assume they were being irresponsible and not using any method of birth control. Accidents happen.

If this was the first occurrence I'd agree with you, but the "accident" train rolled out of the station when he said there was already a scare. The girl's not taking her birth control correctly.
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Eben
Profile Blog Joined September 2008
United States769 Posts
May 07 2012 17:42 GMT
#24
sounds odd with birth control + sterile.. but i guess anything is possible? Anyway, if you are not ready to bring a child into the world and raise it well and support it then don't do it, IMO.
VeNoM HaZ Skill
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States1528 Posts
May 07 2012 17:45 GMT
#25
On May 08 2012 02:38 CecilSunkure wrote:
If a doctor told you you were sterile and you get someone pregnant, can you not sew this doctor?

Find a lawyer to give him the good 'ol 1-2 cross-stitch.
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mordek
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
United States12704 Posts
May 07 2012 17:47 GMT
#26
I don't think anyone will tell you that you can be ready to have a kid. Pretty big deal and I wish you the best of luck. It's going to take sacrifice but if you two are planning on sticking this out in the long run and you think you're sterile this could be a blessing
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Grovbolle
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
Denmark3805 Posts
May 07 2012 17:47 GMT
#27
Maybe she is cheating?

Sorry to be the douche. But if you are "sterile" and she is eating pills. It's either miracle, sick statistical nugget, or cheating.

Hoping for 1 or 2 for you though.
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VTArlock
Profile Blog Joined December 2009
United States1763 Posts
May 07 2012 17:49 GMT
#28
I've been through this once before and I understand how incredibly confusing this entire situation is. This happened to me when I was 21 years old with my ex-fiance at the time. If you need someone to actually talk to and help you sort things through in your head feel free to send me a PM. I would be more than happy to go into depth with you in it about what followed.

It changes the relationship DRASTICALLY.

Best of luck and best wishes on everything
Why?
Servius_Fulvius
Profile Joined August 2009
United States947 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-07 18:20:06
May 07 2012 17:49 GMT
#29
On May 08 2012 02:11 ShoCkeyy wrote:
My thoughts are going crazy, it's my child that she is bearing, I already feel the pain of thinking of my baby being removed. Should we go through this procedure? I won't know till tomorrow. I set up an appointment for 9am at the clinic. My girlfriend couldn't call her self because she kept crying. I took it upon myself to call. I told her "No matter what, I'm here for you. In what ever decision you decide, I am here for you." Let's see how things go and how she will feel tomorrow. To be honest, I would love to have the child, but realistically speaking, I don't think we'll be able to handle it. I just needed to vent out a bit and let's hope everything goes well tomorrow. Either we have the child, or we don't. I'll update what happens tomorrow.


If this is how you really feel then you need to tell her about it (if you haven't already). Sure, you can put on a brave face and logically convince yourself that abortion is for the best, but the emotional hits you're taking right now are only going to get worse if she goes through with it.

First things first - she should really get a blood test to confirm the pregnancy. Home tests are sometimes wrong and it's going to be the first thing a doctor will do anyway.

Assuming you live in the US, she can essentially do whatever she wants without having to consider you. At least be thankful your girlfriend is keeping you in the decision-making process.

It's great you're venting this all out, but I hope you're also venting to her, as well. Either decision - keeping the baby or not - is going to be extremely difficult. Adoption is also an option should she choose to keep (quite reasonable considering you don't think you can handle it yet without the pain of "my baby being removed").

To everyone else reading this: If you're dating someone and sexually active make sure you have a contingency plan for when the unexpected happens.
Marradron
Profile Blog Joined January 2009
Netherlands1586 Posts
May 07 2012 17:51 GMT
#30
Have your sperm tested again at a different doctor. If you're still sterile the most obvious answer is most likely the true one.
imJealous
Profile Joined July 2010
United States1382 Posts
May 07 2012 17:51 GMT
#31
My old roomate's girl friend was supposed to be infertile and was on the pill anyway just to be safe and she still got pregnant. A medical diagnosis isn't always 100% certainty. Especially in the field of fertility.
... In life very little goes right. "Right" meaning the way one expected and the way one wanted it. One has no right to want or expect anything.
StarStruck
Profile Blog Joined April 2010
25339 Posts
May 07 2012 17:52 GMT
#32
On May 08 2012 02:24 ShoCkeyy wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ?


Actually, I'm suppose to be sterile and she's on birth control, the daily kind. So it's basically really weird on how this happened.

I have a thing called http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/guys/varicocele.html, it doesn't leave you sterile unless doctors say other wise, which is what they told me. Guess they were wrong? And the birth control failed some how. So this baby is like a miracle baby of some sort. I wouldn't know.

Sorry I left this part out of the blog, I was just typing away with out really thinking.


Unfortunately lots of the doctors I have met in my past are usually wrong. That's why I usually see more than one when it comes to serious issues such as that, but as you said your girlfriend was on the pill, so meh.

Shit happens!
ecstatica
Profile Blog Joined February 2012
United States542 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-07 17:56:48
May 07 2012 17:54 GMT
#33
Unless this is purely fictional (which is definitely more likely than the facts in your story)

If you knew you were sterile why was she on a pill? Pills are generally not very good for women, aside from a few semi-mythical benefits.

If you love her so much why is abortion the first thing on your mind, not the opposite?

About cheating - anything is possible, you should know whether it could happen or not. You need to find out if you're in doubt. Or maybe it was a huge shit test and you just failed?
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L_Master
Profile Blog Joined April 2009
United States8017 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-05-07 18:01:23
May 07 2012 18:01 GMT
#34
On May 08 2012 02:38 CecilSunkure wrote:
If a doctor told you you were sterile and you get someone pregnant, can you not sew this doctor?


Isn't that what surgeons are supposed to do to patients.

In all seriousness though I hate this sue happy nature of American society. What are you going to sue the doctor for? Being wrong? If you have reason to think the doctor made mistakes out of laziness/negligence etc. then I can understand but if the doctor did his job to the best of his ability and there ended up being a mistake somewhere on the chain I hate the fact that their is a potential lawsuit there. Not to mention this aspect plays a pretty significant role in our rapidly increasing medical care costs.

As to the OP...I can't really give much comment because I'm biased pretty strongly one way. To me, at the moment of conception, that is a living child. From my perspective if you go and have an abortion your murdering a child. Needless to say, I'm no supporter of abortion and cannot imagine anyone with my view even contemplating an abortion.

It really all comes down to what you believe about the status of life in this months leading up to birth. If you don't view the cell mass as a living human until some other point in the pregnancy then I can understand why someone would choose to have an abortion.

I think you need to really sit down and decide what your beliefs are about when life begins and ensure your in a comfortable spot with your own moral ground. Take some time to figure out how you feel and what you believe and make a rational, thought-out, reflected upon decision.
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drgoats
Profile Joined March 2010
United States310 Posts
May 07 2012 18:14 GMT
#35
Speaking as someone who just had his first child 10 days ago, have the baby. Yes, it seems a little daunting now and brings up many questions about how your life will change and how you will be able to afford a family, but things will work themselves out. There are plenty of government programs that will help you come up with the proper care for your child and you will have your families as well. You can go to school part time and work part time and still find time to be a father. Trust me, once you hold your child in your arms for the first time you will think you were crazy for even considering an abortion. Good luck.
Mithriel
Profile Joined November 2010
Netherlands2969 Posts
May 07 2012 18:15 GMT
#36
Congrats is all I'd say

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LaSt)ChAnCe
Profile Blog Joined June 2005
United States2179 Posts
May 07 2012 18:19 GMT
#37
On May 08 2012 02:30 ShoCkeyy wrote:
Show nested quote +
On May 08 2012 02:28 -Kaiser- wrote:
On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ?

On May 08 2012 02:22 Silidons wrote:
On May 08 2012 02:20 -Kaiser- wrote:
What method of birth control were you using?

seems like none

On May 08 2012 02:23 bonifaceviii wrote:
What everyone else said. 1 scare already and now a pregnancy? Sounds like your family planning has been shoddy at best.

On May 08 2012 02:25 FreeZEternal wrote:
OMG dude, get her on the pill or just use a damn condom. Pulling out is not birth control....



It's pretty repulsive that you all assume they were being irresponsible and not using any method of birth control. Accidents happen.


or some form of entity beyond our reality put that baby there.

you should ask her what his name is (the other entity)

seriously though, she's not being honest with you
PanN
Profile Blog Joined December 2008
United States2828 Posts
May 07 2012 18:24 GMT
#38
Wish you the best Shockey. Hope everything works out for you one way or another.
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Arcanefrost
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
Belgium1257 Posts
May 07 2012 18:28 GMT
#39
If you're sterile you really shouldn't have an abortion imo, maybe when you actually plan one it will take years to have one. Anyway, I think you ade the right decision by supporting her in whatever she decides.
Valor is a poor substitute for numbers.
PanN
Profile Blog Joined December 2008
United States2828 Posts
May 07 2012 18:30 GMT
#40
On May 08 2012 03:28 Arcanefrost wrote:
If you're sterile you really shouldn't have an abortion imo, maybe when you actually plan one it will take years to have one. Anyway, I think you ade the right decision by supporting her in whatever she decides.


I don't think you can be sterile then magically have a baby years later? I could be completely wrong. But I was under the impression that being sterile means no babies ever.
We have multiple brackets generated in advance. Relax . (Kennigit) I just simply do not understand how it can be the time to play can be 22nd at 9:30 pm PST / midnight the 23rd at the same time. (GGzerg)
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