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Steveling
Greece10806 Posts
I hope your gf makes the correct decision. | ||
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khaydarin9
Australia423 Posts
Okay, rant over. | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On May 08 2012 22:45 ShoCkeyy wrote: At the abortion clinic. I didn't want to go through with it, but my girlfriend does. I'm not going to stop her, she's the one that has to carry the child for 9months. Either way, I confronted her about cheating on me and she said she never did. So I decided to check myself up yesterday and guess what? I'm some what sterile now rather than full sterile as before. I have a very low sperm count and one of my buddies got through. It gives me hope for the future, but still pretty hurt about today. Let's see how things go from here. Thank you everyone for your reply. It means a great deal for me. Already?! It's been what, less than three days since finding out? I think she's being too hasty with the decision. Even if it doesn't change the outcome I hardly believe someone who was crying so bad they couldn't make the appointment themselves was in a position to think clearly about it. I suppose you can't change that. Even if you could, as a woman in the US she can essentially do whatever she wants despite how strongly you feel about it. At least you know you're not fully sterile and it's unfortunate it had to come to this. She will certainly be hurting emotionally afterword. I'm amazed you could go with her and still support her (I couldn't). Regardless, You're going to need each other's support for a while, so don't hold anything back from her. | ||
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Littlemuff
United Kingdom301 Posts
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ShoCkeyy
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KING CHARLIE :D
United States447 Posts
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FullNatural
United States180 Posts
On May 09 2012 06:16 KING CHARLIE :D wrote: These aren't beanie babies you're destroying...THEY'RE HUMAN LIVES. Do you understand the gravity of that? Grow up. Grow up yourself. The earth is over populated. More people should have abortions and there should be a law to the number of kids that you can have. Otherwise eventually we are going to run out of space and resources. This guy isn't ready to have a kid anyways. | ||
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Kojak21
Canada1104 Posts
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iSometric
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10341 Posts
On May 08 2012 02:41 Mr. Wiggles wrote: Why don't you go get re-checked to see if you're still sterile? This is an excellent idea. If you are indeed sterile, then we're having a whole new discussion here. A few new problems are introduced, but some are removed, namely, it won't be your child. I'm very suspicious of this whole thing. Are you withholding information from your readers? Your attitude seems to be, "Wow, I can't believe this happened. Oh well, that sucks!" Surely you're withholding your distrust of your lover? Or your rage against your doctor? | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10341 Posts
On May 09 2012 06:08 ShoCkeyy wrote: Well, she couldn't do the regular surgery. She opted to do the "Pill" procedure, which I don't even know she will take or do. Either way, she's been a month pregnant, so yea, we'll see what happens. "Pill" procedure is pretty dramatic. First she takes a pill that essentially stops the fetus from developing further. Then 24 hours later or so, she will take another pill which works to cause the uterus to expel the lining and the fetus. Now, pregnancy causes a lot of buildup along the wall, even early, when compared to say the normal female cycle. She will bleed, bleed, bleed, bleed, bleed. For hours upon hours. She will be in pain the entire time as well. Keep in mind that comes out is not just the blood of the vein, it condensed blood mixed with mucus and god knows what else (and by god I mean biologists), as well as whatever the state of the fetus is. It does only last one day. But from what I've seen and read, it's still worse than you probably think. | ||
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MountainDewJunkie
United States10341 Posts
On May 09 2012 00:57 Servius_Fulvius wrote: Already?! It's been what, less than three days since finding out? I think she's being too hasty with the decision. Even if it doesn't change the outcome I hardly believe someone who was crying so bad they couldn't make the appointment themselves was in a position to think clearly about it. I suppose you can't change that. Even if you could, as a woman in the US she can essentially do whatever she wants despite how strongly you feel about it. At least you know you're not fully sterile and it's unfortunate it had to come to this. She will certainly be hurting emotionally afterword. I'm amazed you could go with her and still support her (I couldn't). Regardless, You're going to need each other's support for a while, so don't hold anything back from her. God, that's really ignorant. Oh how could she feel that way? Well fuck man, she's the one who's pregnant. She's probably completely overwhelmed with emotions of guilt, rage, depression, uncertainty. How many days is enough for you? 4 days? 5 days? Should he get his girlfriend to call you so you can approve her state of mind? She's fucked either way. Most women, even the most pro-choice, are not emotionally detached from the existence (or non-existence) of their own fetus/baby. If she keeps it, she sacrifices her future, and dooms the child to single-inept-parent land, the world of rotating fathers and foster homes. No offense, OP, this is usually what happens. It's a child she keeps out of guilt instead of love. That's a dangerous environment. And if she gets rid of it, she feels guilty, a guilt that will never fully go away, and the social stigma alone is pretty harsh. And fuck, if she's at all religious? Holy shit. | ||
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ShoCkeyy
7815 Posts
I don't know how many more losses my heart can take. I've been going on an emotional ride for over three years now. Time will only tell. | ||
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Ahzz
Finland780 Posts
On May 09 2012 14:19 ShoCkeyy wrote: So my girlfriend took the pill. I don't know how many more losses my heart can take. I've been going on an emotional ride for over three years now. Time will only tell. time heals all wounds, and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Just be determined, and try to stay positive. Now is a critical time for your GF as well, so if you mope around it will just make her feel worse. | ||
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MoonfireSpam
United Kingdom1153 Posts
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Monsen
Germany2548 Posts
On May 09 2012 06:16 KING CHARLIE :D wrote: These aren't beanie babies you're destroying...THEY'RE HUMAN LIVES. Do you understand the gravity of that? Grow up. If only 1% of your blogs are true, you should "understand the gravity" of someone not being ready to (properly) raise children. And yeah op, get checked if you're still sterile. Edit: nvm, read you latest post(s) good luck to you and your GF I hope you get through this | ||
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Blazinghand
United States25552 Posts
On May 09 2012 14:19 ShoCkeyy wrote: So my girlfriend took the pill. I don't know how many more losses my heart can take. I've been going on an emotional ride for over three years now. Time will only tell. It's very brave of you to share everything here. Whatever happens, TL Blogs will be here to support you. Stay strong <3 | ||
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ShoCkeyy
7815 Posts
On May 09 2012 19:37 Blazinghand wrote: It's very brave of you to share everything here. Whatever happens, TL Blogs will be here to support you. Stay strong <3 TL has always been my home since '04, I think I've shared a lot with this site. But once again thanks everyone for the support. | ||
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Pure-SC2
United Kingdom1440 Posts
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L_Master
United States8017 Posts
On May 09 2012 12:25 MountainDewJunkie wrote: This is an excellent idea. If you are indeed sterile, then we're having a whole new discussion here. A few new problems are introduced, but some are removed, namely, it won't be your child. I'm very suspicious of this whole thing. Are you withholding information from your readers? Your attitude seems to be, "Wow, I can't believe this happened. Oh well, that sucks!" Surely you're withholding your distrust of your lover? Or your rage against your doctor? I agree with most of what you have written but...huh? I'm assuming this would be connected to him actually having some level of fertility. But why would he be mad at the doctor, unless he had reason to believe the doctor was negligent or careless in administering/interpreting the tests that led to that conclusion? | ||
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