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My last blog talked about how my bestfriend had passed away. http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=334711
Now in this blog I will talk about how my girlfriend is pregnant. It's a crazy thought, she's pregnant, but how? why? I thought about my bestfriend being reincarnated into my unborn child, but that's not possible, or is it? I don't know what to believe. Me and her have been together for over a year now and I am truly in love. I think I would be with her no matter what and I know she feels the same way about me. There's times where we feel the opposite, but we always work them out; yesterday night, she kept complaining about her boobs hurting and the fact that she didn't have her period in over a month.
Already having two pregnancy test in the drawer from the previous scare, she took the test and it came out positive. I was shocked and amazed, but just shocked in general. She's pregnant, it feels weird. My perspective of her changed; She was my one and only. We talked about the situation, we agreed to having an abortion though. We aren't stable enough to have a kid, we aren't even done with school. I actually just applied to start taking Psychology courses. How will we be able to handle a baby if our lives aren't even set yet. I have a stable job with stable income, but I don't think I'm ready for a kid or am I? We thought about it and talked about it, but we need to do what we have to do.
My thoughts are going crazy, it's my child that she is bearing, I already feel the pain of thinking of my baby being removed. Should we go through this procedure? I won't know till tomorrow. I set up an appointment for 9am at the clinic. My girlfriend couldn't call her self because she kept crying. I took it upon myself to call. I told her "No matter what, I'm here for you. In what ever decision you decide, I am here for you." Let's see how things go and how she will feel tomorrow. To be honest, I would love to have the child, but realistically speaking, I don't think we'll be able to handle it. I just needed to vent out a bit and let's hope everything goes well tomorrow. Either we have the child, or we don't. I'll update what happens tomorrow.
  
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What method of birth control were you using?
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Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ?
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On May 08 2012 02:20 -Kaiser- wrote:
What method of birth control were you using?
seems like none
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Sometime its harder when you have a child but you always figure a way to get things done. Having a mini me is the greatest thing in life.Whatever you do , or beleve in , just make sure your in peace with the decision youll take.
good luck bro
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What everyone else said. 1 scare already and now a pregnancy? Sounds like your family planning has been shoddy at best.
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On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ?
Actually, I'm suppose to be sterile and she's on birth control, the daily kind. So it's basically really weird on how this happened.
I have a thing called http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/guys/varicocele.html, it doesn't leave you sterile unless doctors say other wise, which is what they told me. Guess they were wrong? And the birth control failed some how. So this baby is like a miracle baby of some sort. I wouldn't know.
Sorry I left this part out of the blog, I was just typing away with out really thinking.
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Korea (South)3396 Posts
OMG dude, get her on the pill or just use a damn condom. Pulling out is not birth control....
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Since you are publicaly sharing this information, I feel morally allowed to raise the following point : are you certain this embryo is yours ? If you're sterile ?
This is not a very nice comment toi make, but it's probably better to think about that NOW, than in 18 years.
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On May 08 2012 02:24 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ? Actually, I'm suppose to be sterile and she's on birth control, the daily kind. So it's basically really weird on how this happened.
both of those are obviously not accurate. she's doing the birth control wrong, or she's just not doing it. never trust her though, always wrap unless you are ready to support a kid or get an abortion
and as others said, there may be another perpetrator
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Can't say I have any good advice but good luck with whatever decision you're gonna make.
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Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ? Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:22 Silidons wrote:On May 08 2012 02:20 -Kaiser- wrote:
What method of birth control were you using? seems like none Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:23 bonifaceviii wrote:
What everyone else said. 1 scare already and now a pregnancy? Sounds like your family planning has been shoddy at best. Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:25 FreeZEternal wrote:
OMG dude, get her on the pill or just use a damn condom. Pulling out is not birth control....
It's pretty repulsive that you all assume they were being irresponsible and not using any method of birth control. Accidents happen.
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On May 08 2012 02:27 Murlox wrote:
Since you are publicaly sharing this information, I must raise the following point : are you certain this embryo is yours ? If you're sterile ?
This is not a very nice comment toi make, but it's probably better to think about that NOW, than in 18 years.
I've thought about this, but it's impossible. She's not that kind of person ever since I've met her in the 9th grade. Also, we're always together. Only time when we're not together is during work hours. She works as a waitress at applebees, trying to get her hospitality degree and I'm a web developer.
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They are kids, imo. They'll see how things go later...
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On May 08 2012 02:24 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ? Actually, I'm suppose to be sterile and she's on birth control, the daily kind. So it's basically really weird on how this happened. I have a thing called http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/guys/varicocele.html, it doesn't leave you sterile unless doctors say other wise, which is what they told me. Guess they were wrong? And the birth control failed some how. So this baby is like a miracle baby of some sort. I wouldn't know. Sorry I left this part out of the blog, I was just typing away with out really thinking.
Get a DNA test when the baby is born. I know you can't believe she'd cheat, but you're supposed to be sterile + using protection... the most obvious answer is another man fathered the child.
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On May 08 2012 02:28 -Kaiser- wrote:Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ? On May 08 2012 02:22 Silidons wrote:On May 08 2012 02:20 -Kaiser- wrote:
What method of birth control were you using? seems like none On May 08 2012 02:23 bonifaceviii wrote:
What everyone else said. 1 scare already and now a pregnancy? Sounds like your family planning has been shoddy at best. On May 08 2012 02:25 FreeZEternal wrote:
OMG dude, get her on the pill or just use a damn condom. Pulling out is not birth control.... It's pretty repulsive that you all assume they were being irresponsible and not using any method of birth control. Accidents happen.
Exactly, we were always safe about it. She's been on the pill well over 3 years, and I've been "sterile" since I was 13. Either my sperm turned into a super sperm for one night, or some form of entity beyond our reality put that baby there.
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On May 08 2012 02:28 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:27 Murlox wrote:
Since you are publicaly sharing this information, I must raise the following point : are you certain this embryo is yours ? If you're sterile ?
This is not a very nice comment toi make, but it's probably better to think about that NOW, than in 18 years. I've thought about this, but it's impossible. She's not that kind of person ever since I've met her in the 9th grade. Also, we're always together. Only time when we're not together is during work hours. She works as a waitress at applebees, trying to get her hospitality degree and I'm a web developer.
There is no "not that type of girl." So many guys say that until they get mentally destroyed. Get a DNA test for god's sake on the baby when it's born.
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On May 08 2012 02:30 cz wrote:Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:24 ShoCkeyy wrote:On May 08 2012 02:21 Apom wrote:
Something escapes me. You are not yet in a position to properly support and raise a child. You are both in your studies. You already had a "scare" in the (recent, I assume) past. And you kept having unprotected sex ? What were you thinking ? Actually, I'm suppose to be sterile and she's on birth control, the daily kind. So it's basically really weird on how this happened. I have a thing called http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/guys/varicocele.html, it doesn't leave you sterile unless doctors say other wise, which is what they told me. Guess they were wrong? And the birth control failed some how. So this baby is like a miracle baby of some sort. I wouldn't know. Sorry I left this part out of the blog, I was just typing away with out really thinking. Get a DNA test when the baby is born. I know you can't believe she'd cheat, but you're supposed to be sterile + using protection... the most obvious answer is another man fathered the child.
This is being pondered in the back of my head if we do go through with it.
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On May 08 2012 02:28 ShoCkeyy wrote:Show nested quote +On May 08 2012 02:27 Murlox wrote:
Since you are publicaly sharing this information, I must raise the following point : are you certain this embryo is yours ? If you're sterile ?
This is not a very nice comment toi make, but it's probably better to think about that NOW, than in 18 years. I've thought about this, but it's impossible. She's not that kind of person ever since I've met her in the 9th grade. Also, we're always together. Only time when we're not together is during work hours. She works as a waitress at applebees, trying to get her hospitality degree and I'm a web developer.
That was not a nice thought to have, sorry for insisting. Just a fair consideration to make in your situation, I suppose.
On the other hand one could have a more positive view and say that you two are blessed by the gods!
Good luck, in any cases.
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yes..definitely get a DNA test. It does sound like she might have cheated if you're sterile >_<
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