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So TL, the time has come for another one of these. Yea fuck me, I know. If you feel the need to shit on me or something, go ahead, I deserve it.
I'm not going to go into a huge amount of detail because the Internet is a gold mine and Google knows everything. But we met this weekend, we were together for a couple of days (there were other kids as well). We talked a lot, my friends decided to be assholes and hang around when I clearly wanted them gone (I'm going to repay the favor someday).
Anyways, I think that I actually did like this girl. We may not be interested in a lot of the same things but she's a very driven person (and I find that attractive). I'm was kinda thinking that she was interested in me (IDK why the fuck she'd be though) because she hung out with me instead of with her own friends.
Problems:
-she lives about an hour and a half away from me
-she doesn't have Facebook (no way for me to contact her)
-I'm retarded so I didn't get her email/phone#/etc.
Wat do, TL? I should probably give this up? I kinda want someone to PM or chat with but not through forum posts.
EDIT: I just read this over, and I realized that I'm a fucking retard. JAPOFHAWOERHFAPOEWJFFJAJFA RAAAAAGEEEE.
feel free to shit all over this. I give zero fucks.
 
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Lalalaland34491 Posts
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her.
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There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign.
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Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck.
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Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.>
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United States1719 Posts
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
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On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her.
I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that?
On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign.
Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is.
On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck.
Don't know her friends
On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.>
Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded.
On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy?
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United States1719 Posts
Asking her friends that introduced her to you would be a start. Oftentimes, what's creepy to an outsider can be cute/flattering to the girl, and if she did like you, she won't find it creepy. If she didn't like you, you may come off as creepy on top of already being unattractive to her, but if that's the case she was already a lost cause; you're not looking to make friends with a girl you met once who lives away, so just do what you need to find her and dont worry about coming off as a creep.
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Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy?
just come with like a shawl or whatever and ask if she forgot it.
best trick eva
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On April 16 2012 05:22 Paljas wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy? just come with like a shawl or whatever and ask if she forgot it. best trick eva
lol glass slipper (do it - glass slipper her)
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If you have absolutely no way of contacting her you're done, just forget about it lol.
Otherwise, get dat number and ask her to hang out!
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oh nooooes! half an hour! man thats so far thats like the other side of the world! does she even speak your language???
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Do every fucking single thing you can to get in contact with her. Then explain to her that you like her and really want to go on a date with her. Do it.
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On April 16 2012 05:41 B.I.G. wrote:
oh nooooes! half an hour! man thats so far thats like the other side of the world! does she even speak your language???
He said hour and a half, not half an hour. Still not an incredible distance, but still...
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Go for it! Don't be a failurE!
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I did sth like that a few years ago and the girl actually found it really cute and was impressed.
In my case it was actually a bit more difficult. I met her on vacations and hang out with her and her friends a bit but not that much. When I arrived home I realized that I liked the girl so decided to contact her. But I didn't have her phone number or email or anything and also no phone to any of her friends. But I somehow ended up with an email to other person from the same hotel and contacted her asking if she has a number. She didn't have to that girl but had a number to a friend of that girl. So I called that friend of her and she actually didn't have a number either... But she said that a friend of her probably has so she contacted her and got the number for me.
So in the end I got that girl's number and called her and she was really impressed how much effort I put into getting in touch with her and she agreed to meet without hesitation :-)
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On April 16 2012 05:03 rotinegg wrote:
Asking her friends that introduced her to you would be a start. Oftentimes, what's creepy to an outsider can be cute/flattering to the girl, and if she did like you, she won't find it creepy. If she didn't like you, you may come off as creepy on top of already being unattractive to her, but if that's the case she was already a lost cause; you're not looking to make friends with a girl you met once who lives away, so just do what you need to find her and dont worry about coming off as a creep.
I just thought of How to catch a predator's Chris Hansen.. Just kidding bro, I know what you were saying and its sound advice. @Op; you should make every effort if you really want this to work.
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On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign. Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is. Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck. Don't know her friends Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.> Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded. Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her. How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy?
....
there are a couple of things that can happen here
a) you make no effort to do anything for fear of being a "creep" and you have 0 chance at a relationship
b) she thinks you're a creep, who cares atleast you tried
c) you get to talk to her
point being, there is ABSOLUTELY no difference between being considered a creep and not being considered a creep, if you dont get to talk to her anyways
its pretty obvious bro, you cant just be scared of everything
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My advice would be to give up on her. Long distance relationship just doesn't work out very well most of the times. You should try to find a girl you can actually spend your time with. In my opinion there is even something wrong with her in the first place. If she doesnt have facebook, she is weird. Its sad but it is true. Even the nerdest nerds have fb nowdays. In my opinion she is lying about her facebook and she just dont want to add you or she is weird. I dont understand how can parents ban you from making facebook account, just make one secretly or under false name or idk. Feels pretty impossible to prohibit it.
So tbh you should let her go. It's just not worth it. There are plenty of girls everywhere just waiting to have bf. I would suggest you to pursue after her only if you have low self esteem and you are too shy to ask girl out. In that case it's good to gain at least some experience with girls even if it wont work out in long term.
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Lalalaland34491 Posts
On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that?
Why? I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't matter. Ask the guy that introduced you for her number, if he asks why, just say you found her interesting. Approach it maturely, your friend will approach it maturely as well. Then call her up and say 'hey I'm that guy you met at so-and-so, and I asked my friend for your number. Wanna hang out some time?'
It may seem difficult to do, but it's a straightforward and mature approach, and she'll see it that way too.
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She doesn't have facebook? Sounds like a catch!
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On April 16 2012 06:31 PandaTank wrote:
She doesn't have facebook? Sounds like a catch!
THIS^^ Find her and hold on for dear life : )
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Not having facebook may actually be a positive. You will be forced to learn about her through personal interaction instead of stalking the crap out of her online or talking through a typed media.
You could try and track her down and it's up to you if the effort is worth your while.
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hey man! this sounds like me, i had the same problem.
never found her, always been one of those "what ifs" for me. I eventually got over it though. PM if you need to
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On April 16 2012 04:25 PenguinWithNuke wrote:
I'm was kinda thinking that she was interested in me (IDK why the fuck she'd be though) because she hung out with me instead of with her own friends.
Yeah. If she wants to hang out with you instead of her own friends, she is definitely into you.
Just keep looking for her sister on facebook, try to find her friends and ask where she lives/whatever. Like what everyone else has already said, you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. Then, just need to get some item of clothing that seems plausible, head over and say something along the lines of "Hi, don't know if you remember me, did you happen to leave this when we were at [X place] together?"
Don't be afraid to be what would normally be seen as overly friendly. Like, if she says "Oh, sorry, that's not mine, blaa blaa blaa" then say "do you mind if I come in? [Insert excuse about weather being cold/whatever]" then just talk for a while and see how things go.
It'll work out 
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On April 16 2012 06:19 Rice wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign. Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is. On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck. Don't know her friends On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.> Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded. On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her. How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy? .... there are a couple of things that can happen here a) you make no effort to do anything for fear of being a "creep" and you have 0 chance at a relationship b) she thinks you're a creep, who cares atleast you tried c) you get to talk to her point being, there is ABSOLUTELY no difference between being considered a creep and not being considered a creep, if you dont get to talk to her anyways its pretty obvious bro, you cant just be scared of everything
Go for it dude.
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On April 16 2012 06:27 Firebolt145 wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? Why? I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't matter. Ask the guy that introduced you for her number, if he asks why, just say you found her interesting. Approach it maturely, your friend will approach it maturely as well. Then call her up and say 'hey I'm that guy you met at so-and-so, and I asked my friend for your number. Wanna hang out some time?' It may seem difficult to do, but it's a straightforward and mature approach, and she'll see it that way too.
That's the problem. I have no way to get her number because I don't know anyone who was with her.
She wasn't introduced by someone--she introduced herself.
On April 16 2012 07:18 Bigtony wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 06:19 Rice wrote:On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign. Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is. On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck. Don't know her friends On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.> Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded. On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her. How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy? .... there are a couple of things that can happen here a) you make no effort to do anything for fear of being a "creep" and you have 0 chance at a relationship b) she thinks you're a creep, who cares atleast you tried c) you get to talk to her point being, there is ABSOLUTELY no difference between being considered a creep and not being considered a creep, if you dont get to talk to her anyways its pretty obvious bro, you cant just be scared of everything Go for it dude.
Thanks Rice. I needed that.
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On April 16 2012 05:03 rotinegg wrote:
Asking her friends that introduced her to you would be a start. Oftentimes, what's creepy to an outsider can be cute/flattering to the girl, and if she did like you, she won't find it creepy.
Except the twilight-style watching her sleep, even bisu can't pull this one off, that shit definately doesn't work.
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On April 16 2012 06:24 Bruky wrote:
My advice would be to give up on her. Long distance relationship just doesn't work out very well most of the times. You should try to find a girl you can actually spend your time with. In my opinion there is even something wrong with her in the first place. If she doesnt have facebook, she is weird. Its sad but it is true. Even the nerdest nerds have fb nowdays. In my opinion she is lying about her facebook and she just dont want to add you or she is weird. I dont understand how can parents ban you from making facebook account, just make one secretly or under false name or idk. Feels pretty impossible to prohibit it.
So tbh you should let her go. It's just not worth it. There are plenty of girls everywhere just waiting to have bf. I would suggest you to pursue after her only if you have low self esteem and you are too shy to ask girl out. In that case it's good to gain at least some experience with girls even if it wont work out in long term.
She's not lying about her FB. If she had one, I could find it easily (a quick Google search shows me tons of links about her, but no FB). I'm not that naive.
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On April 16 2012 06:24 Bruky wrote:
My advice would be to give up on her. Long distance relationship just doesn't work out very well most of the times. You should try to find a girl you can actually spend your time with. In my opinion there is even something wrong with her in the first place. If she doesnt have facebook, she is weird. Its sad but it is true. Even the nerdest nerds have fb nowdays. In my opinion she is lying about her facebook and she just dont want to add you or she is weird. I dont understand how can parents ban you from making facebook account, just make one secretly or under false name or idk. Feels pretty impossible to prohibit it.
So tbh you should let her go. It's just not worth it. There are plenty of girls everywhere just waiting to have bf. I would suggest you to pursue after her only if you have low self esteem and you are too shy to ask girl out. In that case it's good to gain at least some experience with girls even if it wont work out in long term.
1h30 is not long distance ffs
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On April 16 2012 08:42 Erasme wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 06:24 Bruky wrote:
My advice would be to give up on her. Long distance relationship just doesn't work out very well most of the times. You should try to find a girl you can actually spend your time with. In my opinion there is even something wrong with her in the first place. If she doesnt have facebook, she is weird. Its sad but it is true. Even the nerdest nerds have fb nowdays. In my opinion she is lying about her facebook and she just dont want to add you or she is weird. I dont understand how can parents ban you from making facebook account, just make one secretly or under false name or idk. Feels pretty impossible to prohibit it.
So tbh you should let her go. It's just not worth it. There are plenty of girls everywhere just waiting to have bf. I would suggest you to pursue after her only if you have low self esteem and you are too shy to ask girl out. In that case it's good to gain at least some experience with girls even if it wont work out in long term. 1h30 is not long distance ffs
Explain and be more specific. It may not be a long distance for you, but as a high school student, it is for me.
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Lalalaland34491 Posts
On April 16 2012 08:09 PenguinWithNuke wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 06:27 Firebolt145 wrote:On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? Why? I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't matter. Ask the guy that introduced you for her number, if he asks why, just say you found her interesting. Approach it maturely, your friend will approach it maturely as well. Then call her up and say 'hey I'm that guy you met at so-and-so, and I asked my friend for your number. Wanna hang out some time?' It may seem difficult to do, but it's a straightforward and mature approach, and she'll see it that way too. That's the problem. I have no way to get her number because I don't know anyone who was with her. She wasn't introduced by someone--she introduced herself. Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 07:18 Bigtony wrote:On April 16 2012 06:19 Rice wrote:On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign. Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is. On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck. Don't know her friends On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.> Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded. On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her. How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy? .... there are a couple of things that can happen here a) you make no effort to do anything for fear of being a "creep" and you have 0 chance at a relationship b) she thinks you're a creep, who cares atleast you tried c) you get to talk to her point being, there is ABSOLUTELY no difference between being considered a creep and not being considered a creep, if you dont get to talk to her anyways its pretty obvious bro, you cant just be scared of everything Go for it dude. Thanks Rice. I needed that.
You have her name? Ask your friends, 'hey I met this girl named X on that night and I've been trying to get in contact with her, do you know her?'
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Classic over-analyzing. Just go for it you have nothing to lose. Think of it like an experiment or whatever the hell you have to think of it as to try something. If you don't try something you will regret it.
You worry about being a creep? Give her one shot and lay it out there the way you feel. She will love that shit. Tell her she is pretty or smart or whatever it is you like about her and just leave it at that.
If you are lucky you will meet again. There are positives and negatives to long distance. Try to focus on more then just the short term.
I don't believe you that you can't get a hold of her. Welcome to 2012. Get it done FFS.
Good luck.
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On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that?
I have no idea how this is creepy at all...as long as you don't keep waiting for a disproportionate amount of time, if you know of a friend/someone who can provide her a phone number or something, just call her up and say this is Blah from the other weekend and continue you're convo from there. This doesn't seem like a complicated situation at all compared.
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if you don't have the balls to do something about this situation, then just drop it.
is it really that hard to go there and ask her out?
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On April 16 2012 09:10 Firebolt145 wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 08:09 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 06:27 Firebolt145 wrote:On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? Why? I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't matter. Ask the guy that introduced you for her number, if he asks why, just say you found her interesting. Approach it maturely, your friend will approach it maturely as well. Then call her up and say 'hey I'm that guy you met at so-and-so, and I asked my friend for your number. Wanna hang out some time?' It may seem difficult to do, but it's a straightforward and mature approach, and she'll see it that way too. That's the problem. I have no way to get her number because I don't know anyone who was with her. She wasn't introduced by someone--she introduced herself. On April 16 2012 07:18 Bigtony wrote:On April 16 2012 06:19 Rice wrote:On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign. Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is. On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck. Don't know her friends On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.> Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded. On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her. How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy? .... there are a couple of things that can happen here a) you make no effort to do anything for fear of being a "creep" and you have 0 chance at a relationship b) she thinks you're a creep, who cares atleast you tried c) you get to talk to her point being, there is ABSOLUTELY no difference between being considered a creep and not being considered a creep, if you dont get to talk to her anyways its pretty obvious bro, you cant just be scared of everything Go for it dude. Thanks Rice. I needed that. You have her name? Ask your friends, 'hey I met this girl named X on that night and I've been trying to get in contact with her, do you know her?'
fb best advice....
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dont u wanna get ur willy wet MATE?
JUMP ON IT LAD, CHICKS NEED LOVIN TOO BRAH, shes probly cravin your pickle right this second
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UPDATE:
I got her number from someone who knows her!!! Gonna call it now! Will updater later
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So I texted her, and stuff and she didn't think that the trouble I went to to get her number was creepy or anything
I FUCKING LOVE YOU GUYS
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How do i not get friendzoned, turn this into a relationship or whatever?
I need advices
and i stayed up till 3 in the morning chatting with her. I feel like a fucking boss right now.
and she didn't say that i was creepy or whatever for getting her number and shit.
i really owe you guys.
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well, you only get friend zoned if you let it... i dont even know how to be friends with girls, because if i ever get close to one i just wanna have sex with them. and i dont typically get close to ugly girls (sorry lol sounds so bad) but its kinda true. that doesnt mean i can't hang out with ugly chicks, just that to be close, i still want the possibility...
always be clear that you like her, only school kids get 'friendzoned', or weird people
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Lalalaland34491 Posts
On April 18 2012 14:33 PenguinWithNuke wrote:
How do i not get friendzoned, turn this into a relationship or whatever?
I need advices
and i stayed up till 3 in the morning chatting with her. I feel like a fucking boss right now.
and she didn't say that i was creepy or whatever for getting her number and shit.
i really owe you guys.
Give it another one or two phone calls, or one or two meetups, then say 'hey, I don't know if it's really obvious or anything, but I'm interested in you. What do you say?' You'll have to play it by ear a little and look for an appropriate time. That said, set yourself a deadline of maybe 2 weeks before telling her or you'll chicken out, never tell her and get friendzoned.
The fact that you stayed up till 3 chatting with her is a really good sign, props.
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United States1719 Posts
On April 18 2012 14:33 PenguinWithNuke wrote:
How do i not get friendzoned, turn this into a relationship or whatever?
I need advices
and i stayed up till 3 in the morning chatting with her. I feel like a fucking boss right now.
and she didn't say that i was creepy or whatever for getting her number and shit.
i really owe you guys.
you're in the clear; at this point, if you don't fuck up royally, you won't get friend zoned. remember to be assertive and lead her, while still being manner.
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The more you think about the dreaded friendzone, the closer you get to it.
The more you do things out of the ordinary to avoid the friendzone, the more steps you take towards it.
Trust your guts, not your head nor the shit you read on the internet (except TL because TL is awesome  ). It won't turn into a relationship unless you show her how you feel. Be confident about being yourself.
Say you think Twilight is the best love story ever. Maybe you think Rebecca Black and Justin Bieber are the future stars of music. Perhaps your favourite band is Nickelback. Hell, if you actually agreed to those man you are one disgusting fuck, but but if that's truly what you are, then she might find it attractive. Okay those examples were horrible lol. The point is, be proud of who you are and don't be afraid to show her (but don't like overly press your interests onto her).
Don't go out of the ordinary to be a white knight. Here's a line I quite like these days: if you want her to be your princess, you better be a prince yourself. Don't be her slave, and don't make her your slave either. Another thing - less thinking about distant future, and more enjoying the present!
Good luck!
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Fuck you. I shitz all overz.
But seriously, the friend zone...I hate that term.
Every girl I've ever dated was my friend. The only woman I loved was my best friend (until she stomped on my soul). Why is there a mentality (in some) that you can't be friends with your g/f? I need to research this...
Just relax, be yourself. Hell, tell her you like her. She'll be like ZOMFG a boy likes me!!!11!!1!
+ Show Spoiler +I basically just commented and made up some advice so I could say fuck you first :D
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