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So TL, the time has come for another one of these. Yea fuck me, I know. If you feel the need to shit on me or something, go ahead, I deserve it.
I'm not going to go into a huge amount of detail because the Internet is a gold mine and Google knows everything. But we met this weekend, we were together for a couple of days (there were other kids as well). We talked a lot, my friends decided to be assholes and hang around when I clearly wanted them gone (I'm going to repay the favor someday).
Anyways, I think that I actually did like this girl. We may not be interested in a lot of the same things but she's a very driven person (and I find that attractive). I'm was kinda thinking that she was interested in me (IDK why the fuck she'd be though) because she hung out with me instead of with her own friends.
Problems:
-she lives about an hour and a half away from me
-she doesn't have Facebook (no way for me to contact her)
-I'm retarded so I didn't get her email/phone#/etc.
Wat do, TL? I should probably give this up? I kinda want someone to PM or chat with but not through forum posts.
EDIT: I just read this over, and I realized that I'm a fucking retard. JAPOFHAWOERHFAPOEWJFFJAJFA RAAAAAGEEEE.
feel free to shit all over this. I give zero fucks.
 
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Lalalaland34478 Posts
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her.
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There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign.
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Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck.
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Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.>
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United States1719 Posts
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
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On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her.
I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that?
On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign.
Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is.
On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck.
Don't know her friends
On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.>
Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded.
On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy?
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United States1719 Posts
Asking her friends that introduced her to you would be a start. Oftentimes, what's creepy to an outsider can be cute/flattering to the girl, and if she did like you, she won't find it creepy. If she didn't like you, you may come off as creepy on top of already being unattractive to her, but if that's the case she was already a lost cause; you're not looking to make friends with a girl you met once who lives away, so just do what you need to find her and dont worry about coming off as a creep.
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Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy?
just come with like a shawl or whatever and ask if she forgot it.
best trick eva
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On April 16 2012 05:22 Paljas wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her.
How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy? just come with like a shawl or whatever and ask if she forgot it. best trick eva
lol glass slipper (do it - glass slipper her)
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If you have absolutely no way of contacting her you're done, just forget about it lol.
Otherwise, get dat number and ask her to hang out!
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oh nooooes! half an hour! man thats so far thats like the other side of the world! does she even speak your language???
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Do every fucking single thing you can to get in contact with her. Then explain to her that you like her and really want to go on a date with her. Do it.
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On April 16 2012 05:41 B.I.G. wrote:
oh nooooes! half an hour! man thats so far thats like the other side of the world! does she even speak your language???
He said hour and a half, not half an hour. Still not an incredible distance, but still...
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Go for it! Don't be a failurE!
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I did sth like that a few years ago and the girl actually found it really cute and was impressed.
In my case it was actually a bit more difficult. I met her on vacations and hang out with her and her friends a bit but not that much. When I arrived home I realized that I liked the girl so decided to contact her. But I didn't have her phone number or email or anything and also no phone to any of her friends. But I somehow ended up with an email to other person from the same hotel and contacted her asking if she has a number. She didn't have to that girl but had a number to a friend of that girl. So I called that friend of her and she actually didn't have a number either... But she said that a friend of her probably has so she contacted her and got the number for me.
So in the end I got that girl's number and called her and she was really impressed how much effort I put into getting in touch with her and she agreed to meet without hesitation :-)
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On April 16 2012 05:03 rotinegg wrote:
Asking her friends that introduced her to you would be a start. Oftentimes, what's creepy to an outsider can be cute/flattering to the girl, and if she did like you, she won't find it creepy. If she didn't like you, you may come off as creepy on top of already being unattractive to her, but if that's the case she was already a lost cause; you're not looking to make friends with a girl you met once who lives away, so just do what you need to find her and dont worry about coming off as a creep.
I just thought of How to catch a predator's Chris Hansen.. Just kidding bro, I know what you were saying and its sound advice. @Op; you should make every effort if you really want this to work.
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On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that? Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:30 lisward wrote:
There's no way you can meet her again? I mean if a girl goes out of her way to hang out with you instead of her friends it's definitely a sign. Very unlikely. She's 1.5 hours away from me and we don't do the same sports. Her school is also in different division than mine is. Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:30 arb wrote:
Ask her friends get to give her your number and text you or whatever the fuck. Don't know her friends Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:38 TheKefka wrote:
Wait.Stop the fucking everything.A girl at this day and age that doesn't have facebook?
Where do you find one like that lol,only girl I thought that doesn't have facebook nowadays is my grandma.
Holy first world problem >.> Parents don't let her have one. Her (older) sister does but I can't seem to find it. Probably because I'm retarded. Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:46 rotinegg wrote:
find her, pursue her, and if you cant, you dont deserve her. How do I do this in a way that isn't creepy?
....
there are a couple of things that can happen here
a) you make no effort to do anything for fear of being a "creep" and you have 0 chance at a relationship
b) she thinks you're a creep, who cares atleast you tried
c) you get to talk to her
point being, there is ABSOLUTELY no difference between being considered a creep and not being considered a creep, if you dont get to talk to her anyways
its pretty obvious bro, you cant just be scared of everything
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My advice would be to give up on her. Long distance relationship just doesn't work out very well most of the times. You should try to find a girl you can actually spend your time with. In my opinion there is even something wrong with her in the first place. If she doesnt have facebook, she is weird. Its sad but it is true. Even the nerdest nerds have fb nowdays. In my opinion she is lying about her facebook and she just dont want to add you or she is weird. I dont understand how can parents ban you from making facebook account, just make one secretly or under false name or idk. Feels pretty impossible to prohibit it.
So tbh you should let her go. It's just not worth it. There are plenty of girls everywhere just waiting to have bf. I would suggest you to pursue after her only if you have low self esteem and you are too shy to ask girl out. In that case it's good to gain at least some experience with girls even if it wont work out in long term.
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Lalalaland34478 Posts
On April 16 2012 04:53 PenguinWithNuke wrote:Show nested quote +On April 16 2012 04:29 Firebolt145 wrote:
Why give up? Find her, shouldn't be difficult. Ask whoever it was that introduced you to her for a way to contact her. I guess I could, but wouldn't it be creepy to do that?
Why? I don't know how old you are, but it doesn't matter. Ask the guy that introduced you for her number, if he asks why, just say you found her interesting. Approach it maturely, your friend will approach it maturely as well. Then call her up and say 'hey I'm that guy you met at so-and-so, and I asked my friend for your number. Wanna hang out some time?'
It may seem difficult to do, but it's a straightforward and mature approach, and she'll see it that way too.
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