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rotinegg
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Malgrif
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Charger
United States2405 Posts
Be careful not to smother her, time apart/space can often be great for a relationship and can make it stronger than it ever was. A lot of times it takes something major for people to reflect on themselves and figure out what they really want. You can't know how all of this will turn out but if you don't at least back it off a bit you'll never know. | ||
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Risen
United States7927 Posts
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Zorkmid
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Not long from now, you'll meet someone 10x better and wonder why you were so hung up on this girl. (true story) | ||
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rotinegg
United States1719 Posts
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Rkie
United States1278 Posts
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
I'm afraid I can't offer anything else other than a "hope this gets better from now on" =/ | ||
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Nouar
France3270 Posts
Now, I'd advise to keep some time to heal alone, but not long. After a few days you have to force yourself to go out, meet friends, not to overthink it. Nobody is asking you to fall in love again right now, just going out, get a bit of fresh air in your mind, and get yourself out of this situation. If you stay lazy and don't move, you'll think it over and over and over since you won't have anything else to think about. Take a few days, then live the busiest life you can for some time, not to have too much time to think. It should be okay, then. | ||
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rotinegg
United States1719 Posts
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
(or am I?) Play some starcraft. You'll feel better. | ||
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Ilovesunzandsonz
62 Posts
On February 22 2012 01:52 Malgrif wrote: don't be selfish just let her deal with this in her own way. the thing you have to figure out now is how long you're willing to wait to see if she ever comes back to you and if she doesn't how you're gonna move on. Honestly probably the best advice there is. Im going through the same thing you are right now. The all-nighters, the lump in your throat. The feeling of emptiness. I understand how your feeling. I'll wish the best for you~ | ||
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:36 Sonzzy wrote: Honestly probably the best advice there is. Im going through the same thing you are right now. The all-nighters, the lump in your throat. The feeling of emptiness. I understand how your feeling. I'll wish the best for you~ I think he really does have a lump in his throat XD | ||
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:33 rotinegg wrote: yea... she's anemic so collapses quite often D: couldn't you just accompany her on her trip if that's the case | ||
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Gummy
United States2180 Posts
 What a sad sad story. | ||
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rotinegg
United States1719 Posts
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DiLiGu
United States185 Posts
I come from all the love I can express to a TL homie here, but if you continue the co dependence trend I'm seeing from you right now, you're only going to push her away even further. As it is, you need to be strong right now- for yourself and for her. Get some exercise to help you sleep, and get your act together at work. She's going to need you as a partner and as support in this, and you can't support her in any way if she's worried about you being unstable or needy or dependent. The last thing she needs is someone else to worry about. When you're strong and independent enough to actually offer her something- a low-emotion phonecall, solid advice, etc., she'll really appreciate it. I've been through this same thing, and I know it sucks, but I'm telling the truth. | ||
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rotinegg
United States1719 Posts
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:44 rotinegg wrote: she wants to be alone... i think i would have quit my job and traveled with her if she had asked... Fuck that. Relationships are about timing as well and respect for each other. Sure you love her, you want the best for her and loving her seems like best for you. And maybe in her way, she needs her space to figure out where she is at as well. Maybe she is doing it for you, maybe she is doing it for herself, but anyway, she made a choice and maybe, actually it is selfish or selfless, but it doesn't matter because she is doing it. She made her choice, now you go and make your own choice. Trust me, if you are really this kind of good caring guy who would selfless throw away his own dreams and life to support the one you love, you'll have no problem finding a woman later on. A woman who will love you for the man you are and make you the better man. So you, as the better man can take care of your woman properly and she will want that and want you and never want to leave you. Maybe if you meet her 5 years from now things will be different, but right now, it isn't the right time and it is probably healthier you be apart. Your life is equally worth something. Now maybe you know this, but knowing isn't going to make you feel better, cause you feel with your heart, not your mind. So go out with your close friends, go to a tent bar, drink a few bottles of soju, cry, scream, yell, then repeat it, sober up a bit, go to another drinking place, do the same thing, then go to a norebang, sing, sneak in a bottle of soju and drink with the cider, and then hopefully your friends will carry to the taxi ,completely drunk, in pain and emotional suffering, and tomorrow, when you wake up, you'll read this all again, and it will actually make sense. I know it hurts kiddo, go and drink the pain away and make sure you go with good friends so you don't hurt yourself. (I don't recommend this method for non-Koreans). | ||
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HeeroFX
United States2704 Posts
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willll
United States73 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:18 rotinegg wrote: shots on me if your last statement comes true... Each will be different; each better and worse in their own ways. Hopefully you will still be an excellent person though, so that you can make the most of the your time with them. The only thing I've ever regretted about past relationships was the ways I let them screw up the ones that came later (even if it was with the same person). In the meantime, focus on what you can change: yourself and your mindset. If you're not eating, get some food! If you're not sleeping, get some sleep! Request time off if you have any, cut back on your responsibilities if you don't. Health should be your #1 priority, nothing good will happen in your relationships if you get sent to the hospital. Good luck!! | ||
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Wortie
Netherlands212 Posts
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DiLiGu
United States185 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:54 rotinegg wrote: + Show Spoiler + in all seriousness, thanks, it helped a lot, and everybody else, too: thanks. Hehehe I win the thread! <3's and hugs | ||
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mrafaeldie12
Brazil537 Posts
But really, people aren't exact, if she wants to be alone, there is nothing you can do about it. | ||
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RBKeys
Canada196 Posts
The worst thing you can do is crowd her, especially when she's planning to go away for so long. I have first hand experience this as it was how I bagged my current ex-girlfriend (sort of -- I'm hoping it changes). She left Korea on a year long trip to learn english and her last stop was Canada, in my home town. She had a boyfriend (I didn't know till we started going out) who she was with for over a year who was 27. Their relationship was dwindling from a combination of the separation, arguments, and the fact that he was very bat shit crazy. Basically, we were both interested in one another and she left her boyfriend at the drop of hat. I don't say that in terms of your girl though -- I say it more in terms of you. Don't lose yourself over this. The guy in my story threatened to kill himself, demanded all the money he spent on my ex back, and was blaming her for losing his job. DON'T DO THAT! Take some time to yourself -- get composed -- and then ask yourself these things: Do you still love her? If no, then forget her. If yes, (which I assume is going to be your answer) then what is the best way you can show love to her despite everything that's gone on? If you push her, or if you go crazy, you will drive her away for sure -- I've seen it happen to a lot of guys. So just take it easy and let her know that you will always love her -- trust me, it will resonate with her. IT'S imperative that you come to terms with the fact that it may not work out though. When you let someone go, you need to understand that they may not come back. I know it's not the best thing to hear, but I know guys that have killed themselves over girls because they weren't able to let go and that's not a path you want to go down. Pulling for you though man. Things will work out for the best, just be patient. | ||
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Cyber_Cheese
Australia3615 Posts
good luck whichever way it goes, bu i think you'd have to see her in person to fix this one Edit: maybe you could meet her in segments of her trip or something? | ||
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Swampy
United States10 Posts
Give her some space to sort out how she feels - chasing her now is the opposite of what you should do. Spend more time with your other friends and make an effort to stay social even if you dont feel like it. Dont send text messages late at night.... | ||
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Zealos
United Kingdom3574 Posts
 Good luck <3 | ||
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Dandy4
United States493 Posts
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
On February 22 2012 01:44 rotinegg wrote: Part 1 + Show Spoiler [baby...] + ![[image loading]](http://www.teamliquid.net/staff/rotinegg/419243_192691164172223_10000.jpg) Sorry this isn't the k-drama version of part 2 like some of you were hoping... HOLD IT Hold it there, brother. Hold it. Wait for it... ... OPTICALSHOT IS HERE *KABOOM* (and here goes the remaining 2 hours and 30 minutes of my workday) Reminder of part 1 / shameless self-promotion: Rotinegg K-Drama Season 1 Finale [sarcasm]Guys and girls, that is a must-read. Even I go back and read it sometimes because I can't believe I wrote such beautiful feelings into text. Come on, that warm of a thousand suns line was purely my work I swear I made it up on the spot and damn I might even use it as a pick-up line.[/sarcasm][/deliberate] ----- Disclaimer: I am doing this on the sole basis of your previous approval (or implied approval) to my contribution to your part 1 blog. I'm no love doctor or anything, I just do what I can do cheer people up. ----- Season 2, Episode 1 + Show Spoiler + Prologue: fantasy-like scene, guy and girl on skype but they "meet" in their chat-imagination-space in a park. Cloudy, looks like it'll rain in any minute. They hold hands, each have their moments of recollection as they each go through the important scenes from Season 1. In the imagination-space, soft piano music is playing. Scene snaps back to real world. Boy: ... well... Girl: I tried, but it's just not the right time for us. Boy: I know. Thank you. Girl: I'm sorry. Boy: No, I'm sorry. I hope you'll have a wonderful trip. Girl: Take care... long pause Girl: Well, good bye then- Boy: I will always remember you in my heart. Girl: Please don't say stuff like that. Boy: But I can't help it. I'm only being honest with you, like I've always been. Girl: Why are you making this so hard? back to fantasy-space where the two are in the park holding hands. screw sissy piano music, now it's Park Wan Gyu's "Love of a Thousand Years"+ Show Spoiler [Youtube Link] + Girl: Why are you making this so hard? Boy: Because I love you. starts raining Girl: drawing her hands back I... I got to go. Really. Bye now- Boy: snatches her hand and holds it firmly You still love me, don't you? Girl: trying to run away We don't have to make this any more difficult. Just let me go! pouring rain - tears and rain all over everywhere Boy: You still love me, DON'T YOU? Girl: barely managing ... no. Boy: forcefully You love me. You STILL LOVE ME. Girl: No! NO! fighting to free herself from his grip Boy: I... still... Girl: Ahhh! manages to free herself, runs away about 9 meters then stops Boy: not chasing her, audible Good bye, love. Girl: barely audible ... love you. fantasy scene fades away and transitions back to real world, where the two are now off skype but still sitting in front of their monitors, streams of tears Q_Q;; same music Girl: just as music ends ... love you. Scene fades away. Some poorly made interlude of multiple scenes play (sorry gotta keep it true to K-drama). Our protagonist is at university, TA-ing a new class. Perfectly happy scene. Lots of qtpie's in the little tutorial group. Boy is such a boss he's doing crazy math on the board and girls are giggling at how nerdy but cute he is. Tutorial dismissed, all students exit, some qt's still giggling over whatever. Boy exits last, plugs his earbuds on, gets out on the back entrance of the buildings, strikes up a smoke, looks up to the sky. "Love of a Thousand Years" (oh ho ho what a coincidence) is playing. Sky is sunny, a stark contrast to his memory associated with this song. Regardless, he puffs his pains away. Girl2: approaching from behind Excuse me. Boy: dam this earbuds are too damn good, can't hear a thing Girl2: lightly taps Boy Excuse me. You are still within 9 meters of the door, you can't smoke here. Boy: with the perfect too-cool-for-you-look, turning around I heard you. takes his earbuds off, which stops the music, of course. He tosses his half-done cigar to the ground, grinds it with his foot Good? Girl2: Well, soo-ree, mister. I didn't mean to be rude. Boy: taking a little interest because she's def a qtpie No problem... and who might you be? Girl2: My name is Girl2. (sorry for my lack of creativity) I'm a 3rd year piano major. My favourite composer is Chopin~ suddenly Oh why am I even talking to a 꼴초 (chain-smoking fag) like you. If I catch you again I'll have to report to campus police! Boy: Ahaha, have it your way girl. I'll watch out next time. Girl2 takes one more awkward look at the Boy, runs away and rejoins her friends crowd. Girl3: Haha so you noticed too! I told you, our new TA is soooo cute!! =3 Girl4: I simply melt *sigh* every time I listen to his perfect proof of Stoke's Theorem... Girl3: Aren't you a brave one for approaching him like that! Girl2: Oh shut up, he's just a dude smoking where he shouldn't be. I let him know what a loser he is. Girl4: Please don't rat out on him, I'm going to hate you forever! Girl2: playful shove on Girl4 Maybeee~~ wahaha! What's for lunch? Girls walk into the cafeteria building, bright sunny day, playful music. Music fades. Camera slowly tracks back the Girl2's path and here we have Boy again, smoking another. Flashback Girl: My favourite composer is Chopin~ brief scene of her playing piano puff Flashback Girl: playfully Oh you are such a 꼴초 (smoking fag), when are you going to quit? puff puff Boy finishes the last of the pack, tosses to the ground, and grinds it thoroughly. He returns inside the building. Brief pause, then preview for Season 2 Episode 2 plays. Ha, didn't think I'd leave it too easy for you, did ya? Okay I hope you're not offended if you're not a smoker, and even if you are. I just thought it'd make sense in K-drama terms. The important take-away message is, that I didn't write a Season 2 Episode 20 (the grand finale to this epic drama). I've written Season 2 Episode 1 for you. Yes, I wrote it for you - not saying it'll happen exactly like that (not that it's a bad thing, the way I made it hahahah), but I think it'll be a transition period for you for a bit. Stay close to friends and family. Embrace the present and live it, yes, literally just live it. Season 2 is your present and the future. You'll be writing it as you live it. How will Season 2 end? Will you choose someone like Girl2 as she heals your wounds and makes room in your heart for herself? Will you find the lessons of trust and compassion through Girl2 but ultimately return to Girl at the end? Or you could completely dismiss the S2E1 that I whipped up (read it like Stewie, do it, hooo-ip) and write an amazing, heart-warming drama of your own? Hope you'll find comfort in the company of good friends (hey and your eSports brothers like us at TL!). Also, keep blogging so I don't feel bad about slacking off at work. =P | ||
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rotinegg
United States1719 Posts
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Ruffian
United States369 Posts
Fighting~!! | ||
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