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rotinegg
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Malgrif
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Charger
United States2405 Posts
Be careful not to smother her, time apart/space can often be great for a relationship and can make it stronger than it ever was. A lot of times it takes something major for people to reflect on themselves and figure out what they really want. You can't know how all of this will turn out but if you don't at least back it off a bit you'll never know. | ||
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Risen
United States7927 Posts
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Zorkmid
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Not long from now, you'll meet someone 10x better and wonder why you were so hung up on this girl. (true story) | ||
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rotinegg
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Rkie
United States1278 Posts
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
I'm afraid I can't offer anything else other than a "hope this gets better from now on" =/ | ||
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Nouar
France3270 Posts
Now, I'd advise to keep some time to heal alone, but not long. After a few days you have to force yourself to go out, meet friends, not to overthink it. Nobody is asking you to fall in love again right now, just going out, get a bit of fresh air in your mind, and get yourself out of this situation. If you stay lazy and don't move, you'll think it over and over and over since you won't have anything else to think about. Take a few days, then live the busiest life you can for some time, not to have too much time to think. It should be okay, then. | ||
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rotinegg
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
(or am I?) Play some starcraft. You'll feel better. | ||
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Ilovesunzandsonz
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On February 22 2012 01:52 Malgrif wrote: don't be selfish just let her deal with this in her own way. the thing you have to figure out now is how long you're willing to wait to see if she ever comes back to you and if she doesn't how you're gonna move on. Honestly probably the best advice there is. Im going through the same thing you are right now. The all-nighters, the lump in your throat. The feeling of emptiness. I understand how your feeling. I'll wish the best for you~ | ||
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Hidden_MotiveS
Canada2562 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:36 Sonzzy wrote: Honestly probably the best advice there is. Im going through the same thing you are right now. The all-nighters, the lump in your throat. The feeling of emptiness. I understand how your feeling. I'll wish the best for you~ I think he really does have a lump in his throat XD | ||
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:33 rotinegg wrote: yea... she's anemic so collapses quite often D: couldn't you just accompany her on her trip if that's the case | ||
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Gummy
United States2180 Posts
 What a sad sad story. | ||
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rotinegg
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DiLiGu
United States185 Posts
I come from all the love I can express to a TL homie here, but if you continue the co dependence trend I'm seeing from you right now, you're only going to push her away even further. As it is, you need to be strong right now- for yourself and for her. Get some exercise to help you sleep, and get your act together at work. She's going to need you as a partner and as support in this, and you can't support her in any way if she's worried about you being unstable or needy or dependent. The last thing she needs is someone else to worry about. When you're strong and independent enough to actually offer her something- a low-emotion phonecall, solid advice, etc., she'll really appreciate it. I've been through this same thing, and I know it sucks, but I'm telling the truth. | ||
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rotinegg
United States1719 Posts
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JFKWT
Singapore1442 Posts
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 22 2012 02:44 rotinegg wrote: she wants to be alone... i think i would have quit my job and traveled with her if she had asked... Fuck that. Relationships are about timing as well and respect for each other. Sure you love her, you want the best for her and loving her seems like best for you. And maybe in her way, she needs her space to figure out where she is at as well. Maybe she is doing it for you, maybe she is doing it for herself, but anyway, she made a choice and maybe, actually it is selfish or selfless, but it doesn't matter because she is doing it. She made her choice, now you go and make your own choice. Trust me, if you are really this kind of good caring guy who would selfless throw away his own dreams and life to support the one you love, you'll have no problem finding a woman later on. A woman who will love you for the man you are and make you the better man. So you, as the better man can take care of your woman properly and she will want that and want you and never want to leave you. Maybe if you meet her 5 years from now things will be different, but right now, it isn't the right time and it is probably healthier you be apart. Your life is equally worth something. Now maybe you know this, but knowing isn't going to make you feel better, cause you feel with your heart, not your mind. So go out with your close friends, go to a tent bar, drink a few bottles of soju, cry, scream, yell, then repeat it, sober up a bit, go to another drinking place, do the same thing, then go to a norebang, sing, sneak in a bottle of soju and drink with the cider, and then hopefully your friends will carry to the taxi ,completely drunk, in pain and emotional suffering, and tomorrow, when you wake up, you'll read this all again, and it will actually make sense. I know it hurts kiddo, go and drink the pain away and make sure you go with good friends so you don't hurt yourself. (I don't recommend this method for non-Koreans). | ||
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