This blog is actually the follow up to this blog. Basically I decided that I would man up and talk to the girl but... well, I've written a short piece on what happened this morning. The tense might be wrong because I'am a complete idiot.
I looked at the digital clock on my phone. It was getting too late; I would never see her. As soon as the bus stopped, I sprinted off the bus like a mad man. I had already planned for today, I was going to talk to her. My heart started to beat wildly with excitement as I thought of what was going to happen.
Then I saw her, clutching to a shopping bag, walking as gracefully as ever ,"does she do ballet?" I wondered. As we got to the traffic light, I made my way to her, making sure to maintain an adequate amount of distance from her so as to not come off as some sort of creep. When I stood by her, I experienced a rather queer feeling. My mind could not focus and I seemed incapable of any rational thought. My steady breaths turned into rapid breathing, did she not notice? Did she notice my chest heaving up and down as I almost exploded with emotion?
It seemed that there was a piece of string tied ever so tightly and inextricably to my lower left ribs and that it was connected to a similar piece of string in the corresponding quarter of her slender frame. I feared that if we were to be separated by a boisterous piece of land, age, or time, that I would start to bleed inwardly for our cord of communion would have been broken.
I looked to my right; where she stood. She was struggling to untangle her earphones - earphones that were not in her ears as they usually were. Did she think the same as I did? Putting aside our music so that we could make conversation? I was hesitant to speak even though I had the perfect line to say - "Earphones are pretty annoying aren't they?".
What would she think of me? She might have thought of me to be an uncultured, uncivilized barbarian because of the uniform that I wore. Did she believe in stereotyping? I hoped not. I would consider myself to be rather cultured; I appreciated art, listened to good music, cherished literature. I was everything that most of my peers were not. In my opinion, alphabets and numbers on a piece of paper did not matter, but did she care?
All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God.
I looked away and recalled the previous moments that we had shared before. Our eyes had met for more than a couple of times, but each moment of euphoria had only lasted for a few seconds - which I assume to be normal. Was it with love that she looked at me or contempt and disgust? Would I ever find out? Is it God's will that we are never to be together and that I am to only learn from this experience?
The traffic light turned green, it was time to part. My heart told my body to turn to her and give her a warm smile, to profess my feelings, but my body strode on, fearing chastisement.
You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English might not be my "first language" but I speak English all the time. Mandarin is my "Mother Tongue" ( does it equate to being a first language? ). Anyways, I do have aspirations of being an English teacher and writing stories for children when I'm older =)
Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
Yeah... I go to a co-ed school... a neighbourhood school.
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:49 Azera wrote:
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
Yeah... I go to a co-ed school... a neighbourhood school.
Should be fine then. Lucky you didn't go to a boy's school. There 0% chance of finding a girl, if you get what i mean ^__^
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:49 Azera wrote:
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
Yeah... I go to a co-ed school... a neighbourhood school.
Should be fine then. Lucky you didn't go to a boy's school. There 0% chance of finding a girl, if you get what i mean ^__^
Well, most boy schools are really prestigious so I don't know about that. And the girls in my school... good lord it makes me want to throw just thinking about them.
You are over thinking everything and the line "All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God." is a bit too much for not actually getting to know her yet.
If you can calm down and just relax and talk to her like you talk to other people you know, you can ease the notch up slowly to show her that you like her. Instead you have these feeling already without getting to know her which is just infatuation.
Relax, talk to her like normal, and take it step by step. At the moment you are going to come off too strong and it is going to push her away.
Good luck. (Where is Rekrul when we need him for girl blogs?)
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:49 Azera wrote:
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
Yeah... I go to a co-ed school... a neighbourhood school.
Should be fine then. Lucky you didn't go to a boy's school. There 0% chance of finding a girl, if you get what i mean ^__^
Well, most boy schools are really prestigious so I don't know about that. And the girls in my school... good lord it makes me want to throw just thinking about them.
It's fine, girls don't start to look good till like 15 or 16. 17 or 18 = prime time. Prestigious is just a facade btw, its all your own hard work.
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:49 Azera wrote:
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
Yeah... I go to a co-ed school... a neighbourhood school.
Should be fine then. Lucky you didn't go to a boy's school. There 0% chance of finding a girl, if you get what i mean ^__^
Well, most boy schools are really prestigious so I don't know about that. And the girls in my school... good lord it makes me want to throw just thinking about them.
It's fine, girls don't start to look good till like 15 or 16. 17 or 18 = prime time. Prestigious is just a facade btw, its all your own hard work.
I'm not talking about looks, even though I my tone may seem rude, I'am not like the superficial guys most are at my age ( attracted to boobies, early sex, w/e ). What makes me despise them so much is that they're childish and immature and observing trends (Secondary 4 girls), most girls from my environment will remain so.
On September 30 2011 20:08 Demonace34 wrote: You are over thinking everything and the line "All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God." is a bit too much for not actually getting to know her yet.
If you can calm down and just relax and talk to her like you talk to other people you know, you can ease the notch up slowly to show her that you like her. Instead you have these feeling already without getting to know her which is just infatuation.
Relax, talk to her like normal, and take it step by step. At the moment you are going to come off too strong and it is going to push her away.
Good luck. (Where is Rekrul when we need him for girl blogs?)
Yeah, I definitely don't want to come off as too strong. But to clear things up, what I meant by that sentence is that I wanted her to overlook our academic differences =P
On September 30 2011 18:31 marttorn wrote: You're just a kid right? And from Singapore? English isn't your first language? Well, this was pretty well written, maybe you should consider becoming an author.
Bitches love authors.
English is our first language
Also, @OP - girl might have gotten pissed with that opener lol. trying to un-entangle her earpieces and this guy comes up and talks to her.
On September 30 2011 18:49 Azera wrote:
On September 30 2011 18:45 ampson wrote: Dude.... You're 14, there can't possibly be a girl who would be angry just from you talking to her unless you were being a complete creep. You are overthinking it...... A LOT. If you see the girl (and don't actively seek her out) just talk to her. If it doesn't go well, you're 14 and there's plenty of girls in the world. Just don't think so much about what people will think of you, calm down, and you'll be a lot happier.
I guess what might be hampering my process would be my ego and fear of getting hurt or rejected.
Also yeah 14's young, give it time. You go to a Co-ed school i assume.
Yeah... I go to a co-ed school... a neighbourhood school.
Should be fine then. Lucky you didn't go to a boy's school. There 0% chance of finding a girl, if you get what i mean ^__^
Well, most boy schools are really prestigious so I don't know about that. And the girls in my school... good lord it makes me want to throw just thinking about them.
It's fine, girls don't start to look good till like 15 or 16. 17 or 18 = prime time. Prestigious is just a facade btw, its all your own hard work.
I'm not talking about looks, even though I my tone may seem rude, I'am not like the superficial guys most are at my age ( attracted to boobies, early sex, w/e ). What makes me despise them so much is that they're childish and immature and observing trends (Secondary 4 girls), most girls from my environment will remain so.
On September 30 2011 20:08 Demonace34 wrote: You are over thinking everything and the line "All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God." is a bit too much for not actually getting to know her yet.
If you can calm down and just relax and talk to her like you talk to other people you know, you can ease the notch up slowly to show her that you like her. Instead you have these feeling already without getting to know her which is just infatuation.
Relax, talk to her like normal, and take it step by step. At the moment you are going to come off too strong and it is going to push her away.
Good luck. (Where is Rekrul when we need him for girl blogs?)
Yeah, I definitely don't want to come off as too strong. But to clear things up, what I meant by that sentence is that I wanted her to overlook our academic differences =P
Academic differences shouldn't matter, the problem is that you don't feel like you are good enough for her and your confidence is non-existent. I used to be the same way through up to 8th grade and it was the reason I didn't get girls until high school.
If you do like her and she doesn't like you back, then atleast you know and are able to move on to someone else. If you keep doing this you will eventually beat yourself up over it. Either she likes you and you waited forever and she has a boyfriend, or she doesn't like you and you've been missing opportunities with other girls that do or will like you.
On September 30 2011 20:08 Demonace34 wrote: You are over thinking everything and the line "All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God." is a bit too much for not actually getting to know her yet.
If you can calm down and just relax and talk to her like you talk to other people you know, you can ease the notch up slowly to show her that you like her. Instead you have these feeling already without getting to know her which is just infatuation.
Relax, talk to her like normal, and take it step by step. At the moment you are going to come off too strong and it is going to push her away.
Good luck. (Where is Rekrul when we need him for girl blogs?)
Yeah, I definitely don't want to come off as too strong. But to clear things up, what I meant by that sentence is that I wanted her to overlook our academic differences =P
Academic differences shouldn't matter, the problem is that you don't feel like you are good enough for her and your confidence is non-existent. I used to be the same way through up to 8th grade and it was the reason I didn't get girls until high school.
If you do like her and she doesn't like you back, then atleast you know and are able to move on to someone else. If you keep doing this you will eventually beat yourself up over it. Either she likes you and you waited forever and she has a boyfriend, or she doesn't like you and you've been missing opportunities with other girls that do or will like you.
Ok then, how should I start conversation. I know I should say a casual "Hi", but what do I do with my hands?
On September 30 2011 20:08 Demonace34 wrote: You are over thinking everything and the line "All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God." is a bit too much for not actually getting to know her yet.
If you can calm down and just relax and talk to her like you talk to other people you know, you can ease the notch up slowly to show her that you like her. Instead you have these feeling already without getting to know her which is just infatuation.
Relax, talk to her like normal, and take it step by step. At the moment you are going to come off too strong and it is going to push her away.
Good luck. (Where is Rekrul when we need him for girl blogs?)
Yeah, I definitely don't want to come off as too strong. But to clear things up, what I meant by that sentence is that I wanted her to overlook our academic differences =P
Academic differences shouldn't matter, the problem is that you don't feel like you are good enough for her and your confidence is non-existent. I used to be the same way through up to 8th grade and it was the reason I didn't get girls until high school.
If you do like her and she doesn't like you back, then atleast you know and are able to move on to someone else. If you keep doing this you will eventually beat yourself up over it. Either she likes you and you waited forever and she has a boyfriend, or she doesn't like you and you've been missing opportunities with other girls that do or will like you.
Ok then, how should I start conversation. I know I should say a casual "Hi", but what do I do with my hands?
Just talk about whatever, so long as it isn't too personal at first. And as for your hands, don't fidget. If it's a problem, keep them in your pocket or something, or at your sides.
When substitute teachers or whatever told us when I was younger to "sharpen our social skills," it always struck me as a little bit odd, but I've realized there's a lot of truth in that. Socializing is just like anything else: the more you do it, the better you get at it.
My advice to you would be to practice talking to girls you don't care so much about. Try things out to see what does and doesn't work. What might work for me might not work for you, and vice versa, but do realize that confidence is a huge plus in the eyes of girls.
Just talk to her. Most girls / women are really happy and friendly about it... because its a huge compliment. Your pick up line or conversation starter... is utterly shit really :s! Earphones are annoying? Wtf..
Just get into a normal conversation. 'Hey sorry didn't want to interrupt you but I've noticed you bla' mostly works and if she sends you into desert, its most likely not because of a pick up line... Obviously if you behave like a retard or creep she'll give you something funny...
On September 30 2011 21:03 mTw|NarutO wrote: Just talk to her. Most girls / women are really happy and friendly about it... because its a huge compliment. Your pick up line or conversation starter... is utterly shit really :s! Earphones are annoying? Wtf..
Just get into a normal conversation. 'Hey sorry didn't want to interrupt you but I've noticed you bla' mostly works and if she sends you into desert, its most likely not because of a pick up line... Obviously if you behave like a retard or creep she'll give you something funny...
Sorry, I haven't had much experience with pick up lines T.T
Confidence o young'un. Confidence. Then it doesn't even matter what you say.
lol it's funny cause I pretty much went to the only Selective School in my state back in my days, and we had the problem that everyone else from other schools justs thinks we're a bunch of pompous smart-asses (we were smart-asses but we were nice =[ ).
But yea. Confidence. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. YOU HAVE TL's support behind you =]
Hey Azera would you like to skype with me i could help you out with your nervouseness; then again i think the timezone will be a bit of a problem Btw im really impressed by the way you post your feelings, you should really consider being an author of some kind, (btw im an english teacher myself :p ) srsly the only problem i see in you is building the confidence to talk to her , because trust me with those kind of words you can talk pretty good to girls
On September 30 2011 20:08 Demonace34 wrote: You are over thinking everything and the line "All I wanted was for us to talk to each other, soul to soul, disregarding our mortal flesh, as equals, just as we would be when we stand at the feet of God." is a bit too much for not actually getting to know her yet.
If you can calm down and just relax and talk to her like you talk to other people you know, you can ease the notch up slowly to show her that you like her. Instead you have these feeling already without getting to know her which is just infatuation.
Relax, talk to her like normal, and take it step by step. At the moment you are going to come off too strong and it is going to push her away.
Good luck. (Where is Rekrul when we need him for girl blogs?)
Yeah, I definitely don't want to come off as too strong. But to clear things up, what I meant by that sentence is that I wanted her to overlook our academic differences =P
Academic differences shouldn't matter, the problem is that you don't feel like you are good enough for her and your confidence is non-existent. I used to be the same way through up to 8th grade and it was the reason I didn't get girls until high school.
If you do like her and she doesn't like you back, then atleast you know and are able to move on to someone else. If you keep doing this you will eventually beat yourself up over it. Either she likes you and you waited forever and she has a boyfriend, or she doesn't like you and you've been missing opportunities with other girls that do or will like you.
Ok then, how should I start conversation. I know I should say a casual "Hi", but what do I do with my hands?
Just talk about whatever, so long as it isn't too personal at first. And as for your hands, don't fidget. If it's a problem, keep them in your pocket or something, or at your sides.
Carry a backpack. Hold the straps while you talk and then make it seem like you are on your way somewhere if things get realy awkward and you get completely denied. Also if she doenst know who you are then its a bad idea to completely ask her out without you and her knowing eachother.
Sorry Azera I will be the one to burst your bubble. Coming from Singapore and studying in the States for 3 years now, I will just say this:
SG girls are totally "cannot make it". (In English, they are just plain bad.) They aren't really open to cold approaches, and you gotta be really smooth, or look epicly good. Just chill..
On September 30 2011 22:59 gzealot wrote: Sorry Azera I will be the one to burst your bubble. Coming from Singapore and studying in the States for 3 years now, I will just say this:
SG girls are totally "cannot make it". (In English, they are just plain bad.) They aren't really open to cold approaches, and you gotta be really smooth, or look epicly good. Just chill..
Hell at this point I think just talking to her would be the biggest accomplishment of the situation, regardless of if she shuts you down hard or says yes, it's almost irrelevant at this point. The worst that can happen is she says no and you are no worse off in life than you are now, hell you might even come out ahead with the valuable experience gained.
On September 30 2011 21:37 zeOllie wrote: Dude. that was insipirational writing.
and good choice of songs.
you know what. I give you my full support to go up to her and man up and DO IT :DD
and if it fails... (which it won't) there are plenty of other fish in the see.
heres a random quote: success comes from experience which usually comes from failure
so gl hf!!!! and GO GET HER BOY!
On September 30 2011 21:39 me_viet wrote: Confidence o young'un. Confidence. Then it doesn't even matter what you say.
lol it's funny cause I pretty much went to the only Selective School in my state back in my days, and we had the problem that everyone else from other schools justs thinks we're a bunch of pompous smart-asses (we were smart-asses but we were nice =[ ).
But yea. Confidence. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. YOU HAVE TL's support behind you =]
On September 30 2011 22:25 Danika wrote: Hey Azera would you like to skype with me i could help you out with your nervouseness; then again i think the timezone will be a bit of a problem Btw im really impressed by the way you post your feelings, you should really consider being an author of some kind, (btw im an english teacher myself :p ) srsly the only problem i see in you is building the confidence to talk to her , because trust me with those kind of words you can talk pretty good to girls
Thanks for the support! =) I'll try not to let you guys down. And sorry, I don't have Skype anyways =(
On September 30 2011 22:59 gzealot wrote: Sorry Azera I will be the one to burst your bubble. Coming from Singapore and studying in the States for 3 years now, I will just say this:
SG girls are totally "cannot make it". (In English, they are just plain bad.) They aren't really open to cold approaches, and you gotta be really smooth, or look epicly good. Just chill..
In my experience, it's always been better to say these things than to show what you've written. I've had a 0% success rate with showing written stuff like this, whereas I've had a non-0% success rate with trying to talk earnestly.
On October 01 2011 02:06 Azera wrote: What would happen if I showed the girl what I wrote?
If you want to get her, which I presume you do, don't show her the writing. She'll think its weird and probably think that you're a bit of a creep. In my experience most girls don't like it when a guy spends ages thinking and planning and basically procrastinating. I'll give you the example that made me truly realise this. So the first couple of times I went to clubs or music nights, just places where you can dance I'd dance around the girls I liked, hoping that they'd start dancing with me, and I'm pretty sure, at least from speaking with other friends, that this is what most guys do, especially when they're still quite shy around girls. Most of the time I was unsuccessful and then you start wondering what makes you so unappealing to girls.
So one night I got super drunk, and with super drunkenness comes super Dutch courage, and just went up to girls and started dancing with them (it sounds creepy when I say it like this, but really its not like I'd keep trying if they didn't want it) and it actually worked.
Basically this is just a long winded way of saying, just go for it if you want her. Sure you might get rejected and that'll be temporarily embarrassing, but I'd say you're less likely to get rejected sooner rather than later, and its better to get rejected straight out than spend 5 months brooding, only to get rejected then. I think this is a lesson that guys really need to learn form their own experience, but you can at least be pushed in the right direction.
On October 01 2011 02:17 Azera wrote: Well then , I guess Ill just talk to her. If we get together I can show her right? Or is that too creepy?
Its too creepy. I've heard stories of guys who actually got with girls, who then found out that they'd been writing about their feelings and it just scared the girl off.
On October 01 2011 02:17 Azera wrote: Well then , I guess Ill just talk to her. If we get together I can show her right? Or is that too creepy?
When I'm giving myself relationship advice, I often think of advice I would give my friend.
Your friend is infatuated with a girl. Through a stroke of luck, he manages to get her on a few dates. Then he asks for your advice. Do you advise him to: 1) Be cool. 2) Show her all the borderline creepy writing he's got about stalking her for weeks (months?)
On October 01 2011 02:17 Azera wrote: Well then , I guess Ill just talk to her. If we get together I can show her right? Or is that too creepy?
Go for it you can do this! just start with a casual line or a random funny quote to break the ice, I'm pretty sure it will flow smoothly if you always be yourself, don't try to act epic cool cause that'll just ruin it and that's not who you are, trust me been tru this millions of time with a load of girls,and nothing works better than being your truself always and keeping your head cool and casual GL!
On September 28 2011 01:37 Azera wrote: Ok, I understand what you're trying to say, but how do I start talking to her? Do I just walk up to her and say "Heh, strange how we always see each other." (This is true, for not only do I see her when I go to school, I see her at a street near my school daily and on the bus home as well.)
That's one way. "Hi! I see you on the bus every day, but then noticed you on a street near my school. Do you have friends in the area?". It's important to ask a question that warrants participation. The question I posed isn't that great either because it's a yes or no question that she could answer with a yes or no. A simple transition is "Sorry if that sounds a little creepy. I'm Azera, I go to school the school nearby. What's your name?". Go from there. Great questions to ask are "Where are you from", "Where do you go to school", "How is school going", "How do you spend your free time"....stuff like that. Personally I think it's a lot easier to meet people through social groups since the ice is so much easier to break, but when it comes to talking to someone you've never really met this is the way to go.
Is it terrifying? Yes! Is it going to happen if you don't speak up first? No!
You had it going with the "earphones are annoying" bit - it would have been a decent ice breaker. So would "Hey, what were you just listening to?"...actually that works too because then you can go into a conversation about music (great choice with Vanessa Mae, btw. She rocks!).
On October 01 2011 09:21 RezChi wrote: "Earphones are pretty annoying aren't they?" with a smile= victory. WHY YOU NO DO THAT!?
I don't know... nerves/lack of self-esteem
Wait I just thought of something. What do I do if she has earphones in?
*tap shoulder* "Excuse me, i just can't get over the fact of how beautiful you are. I know i may sound like a creeper but I'd just like to be the first one to tell you that." *smile and look back forward* if she replies talk to her = D
On October 01 2011 09:21 RezChi wrote: "Earphones are pretty annoying aren't they?" with a smile= victory. WHY YOU NO DO THAT!?
I don't know... nerves/lack of self-esteem
Wait I just thought of something. What do I do if she has earphones in?
*tap shoulder* "Excuse me, i just can't get over the fact of how beautiful you are. I know i may sound like a creeper but I'd just like to be the first one to tell you that." *smile and look back forward* if she replies talk to her = D
On October 01 2011 09:21 RezChi wrote: "Earphones are pretty annoying aren't they?" with a smile= victory. WHY YOU NO DO THAT!?
I don't know... nerves/lack of self-esteem
Wait I just thought of something. What do I do if she has earphones in?
*tap shoulder* "Excuse me, i just can't get over the fact of how beautiful you are. I know i may sound like a creeper but I'd just like to be the first one to tell you that." *smile and look back forward* if she replies talk to her = D
On October 01 2011 09:21 RezChi wrote: "Earphones are pretty annoying aren't they?" with a smile= victory. WHY YOU NO DO THAT!?
I don't know... nerves/lack of self-esteem
Wait I just thought of something. What do I do if she has earphones in?
*tap shoulder* "Excuse me, i just can't get over the fact of how beautiful you are. I know i may sound like a creeper but I'd just like to be the first one to tell you that." *smile and look back forward* if she replies talk to her = D
Perfect opening line around here for a girl you completely do not know is
"Hi, sorry, but you're just too/so/etc cute that I couldn't let you keep walking by without talking to you/getting your number/etc" If the girl is into you they wont mind this approach at all, if they aren't you'll find out immediately, it's very efficient.
And you only show a girl stuff you write about her once you're like rather close on some level.
The words for writing aren't often the same that should be used for talking. It's tough at any age to muster enough courage to speak publicly, but you're probably showing enough maturity if you do so. Girls are generally more mature than boys around that age, show that you can hold your weight. How you handle the rejection afterwards can go a long way. So just be try hard to not try hard.
i would take you on as my personal protege but there's already this 14 year old singaporian street fighter warrior who's my skype buddy and training partner
anyway, nobody has brought this up yet - the reason you can't show her your writing is because you invest so deeply into her but you haven't even talked to her yet. in her eyes you could be writing this about any girl if she were pretty enough. and that's exactly what you're doing, so don't act like you aren't shallow and "not like the other boys". you're exactly like the other boys, just "smart" enough to try to rationalize your intent
the line suggested above about "you're cute ...etc." works, but consider it a high level build order. however, if you actually do try it i think your % of success is pretty high (~40%). its powerful if done with confidence, and more importantly, girls your age aren't used to being complimented. if you compliment her casually and with elegance, she'll probably like you even if she doesn't like your exterior
that's why boys who "get it" young can be so successful during their high school years. finally, just go for it. if you wait too long it'll fail anyway