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So i just had to break up with my gf, and i feel horrible, I have come to TL because I don't really have anyone to turn to.
It just wasn't working for me anymore. She was in hysterics, begged for me to not do this. I feel dirty and disgusting.
Can anyone give me ideas on how to cheer myself up? Ways to occupy myself? My laptop is broken so i can't play SC...
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life.
  
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Play SC on your computer, you obviously have one.
Also Ice Cream. And Star Wars marathon. Followed by LOTR marathon. Followed by Harry Potter marathon. Do it now.
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Screw that, just play league games.
If you actually can't go to a friends and play some SC2
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The question begged though is, it wasn't working for you anymore ...why?
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I dont get it, why do you feel guilty? You wanted to end the relationship, its hollow and pointless if its not a mutually reciprocal emotional affair. You did the right thing, begging or not. Only advice I can give you to feel better is to learn to stand behind your decisions in every manner, including emotional. Accept you did the write thing and move on.
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Aww  Tell us what went wrong and maybe you won't feel so guilty anymore.
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Think in this terms :why did you broke with her? Whatever the reason is I assume it is a good reason and you didn't just broke with her just for fun. So just stick with your reasons and remember them because somethings are better sonner than later even if they hurt alot right now. Things will get better. 
Now go play some 4v4s or some Team Fortress 2. Have a blast!!
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Blazinghand
United States25550 Posts
Maybe play some brood war? It should be able to run even on older computers
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I'll edit the top post so you know why.
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life. This computer is to slow to play any games if im honest. Its why I came for other ideas to occupy myself. I feel disgusting about it all.
Thanks for the fast responses. I love this community.
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On September 11 2011 08:57 Blazinghand wrote:Maybe play some brood war? It should be able to run even on older computers
brood war... what a brilliant idea!
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Korea (South)11570 Posts
Well, it seems like you ended a relationship that wasn't going to work out. There's nothing to feel guilty or bad about. Why drag something out that was doomed to fail anyways? Best to get it over with instead of waiting.
As to things to do? Now is the perfect time to find a new hobby. You just got a whole new chunk of time to yourself. Start doing random things that you thought of doing but never started.
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I don't know how I feel about this blog
I know it hurts, we've all been there but there's no reason to be calling yourself "disgusting" and "dirty". We've all done things we regret and that makes us human. Stop moping around and stop blaming yourself. I know you want to sound mature and feel like you're doing the right thing by saying she didn't deserve blahblahblah. Feel better about yourself, cheer up. And there's no reason to drown yourself in other things to get over it (i.e. playing videogames)
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I second the ice cream suggestion. You need a little "me time." Also, you need a laugh, and there are plenty of places to find one. Geovu mentioned movies, but I'd take it a step further! If you haven't heard of RiffTrax, it's a site made by former Mystery Science Theater 3000 people, and they sell comedy audio tracks for movies. Their Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter riffs are hilarious, but the Twilight one is just about the best thing ever. I have about a dozen of their riffs, so if you ever want a free Harry Potter or Star Trek one, send me a PM!
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i actually broke up with my gf in the spring for the exact same reason. almost the exact same scenario from what it seems like. i also felt bad about it. it is a really hard position to be in. i would say the best thing to do would be to try to not talk to her. she may text etc etc just say you can't talk to her right now if you do talk you may change your mind or say something you don't actually want to. go see a movie or something. watch the gsl or something else. just occupy ur mind
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There's a difference between a girl being needy or just wanting to be loved. There are two sides to each story. I mean, I highly doubt that she wouldn't let you see your friends, play some Starcraft, or live your life overall. My girlfriend hates SC, doesn't listen to metal, doesn't care about import cars, or other random things that I'm really into, and it still works amazingly. She has needs, of course, but I'd never call her needy. I'm just getting that either you weren't actually looking for any commitment at all, or that maybe somehow she really was over-the-top needy, one or the other, but no way it's in the middle. If it was the former, I could see why you feel guilty. In most circumstances "feeling trapped" is an insecurity, not a mature prerogative. I'm not making up any assumptions about your specific situation, but this is what I would guess.
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The guy at the top is right. Lord of the Rings marathon. Do it.
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Croatia5281 Posts
THE WORLD IS HUGE, so much stuff to do.
Regarding relationships:
She'll find someone that suits her better.
You'll find someone better for you.
Any drama is unnecessary although understandable; live on.
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at your age (assuming she's at a similar age to you) girls have a lot more options than you. she will probably get over you faster than you can get over her. be prepared for the pain.
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Mastdurbate?
That's what I would do if I had a recent ex to mope over. I find it calms my mind and makes me think less about girls. This may backfire though... maybe you'll start crying over having to go back to using your hand.
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just relax, take a deep breath order pizza and have a movie marathon...thats what I did when me and my gf broke up, it stings like hell (of course and usually does) but thats about all you can do
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On September 11 2011 09:08 Quesadilla wrote:
There's a difference between a girl being needy or just wanting to be loved. There are two sides to each story. I mean, I highly doubt that she wouldn't let you see your friends, play some Starcraft, or live your life overall. My girlfriend hates SC, doesn't listen to metal, doesn't care about import cars, or other random things that I'm really into, and it still works amazingly. She has needs, of course, but I'd never call her needy. I'm just getting that either you weren't actually looking for any commitment at all, or that maybe somehow she really was over-the-top needy, one or the other, but no way it's in the middle. If it was the former, I could see why you feel guilty. In most circumstances "feeling trapped" is an insecurity, not a mature prerogative. I'm not making up any assumptions about your specific situation, but this is what I would guess.
Dude, i was going to say the same shit! i like the way you think lol
But seriously now, if she was all like "damnit hang out with me every night, dont play games all the time, dont go see your friends" etc, than yes, makes total sense, woman can be insane sometimes, but if you liked her, and she was reasonable with the day to day things, like games, friends and shit, than theres probably some deeper reason to why you broke up with her. Maybe im biased cuz my gf broke up with me for some arbitrary reason, and i knew it was shit, and she wouldnt tell me the actual reason, trying to spare my feelings or w/e, well fuck it, i want a real reason you know. Anyways, assuming you did things properly, you should find yourself a bottle of liquor and/or some pot, and get messed up and play games. But for me, the only way to really fell better, was to be honest with myself, and really ask "Why did i really break up with her"/ Just saying, GL to you bro, woman and relationships are actually the hardest things to deal with in life.
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I feel you man, breaking up with my gf was one of the five most painful things I've ever done. I played tetris at first but I do that automatically and it didn't stop me from replaying how much I hurt her in my head. Math was a little better, I'd recommend that
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would it be uncouth of me to say you should go back to her on your feet, grovelling and whimpering?
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On September 11 2011 08:37 Colm wrote:
So i just had to break up with my gf, and i feel horrible, I have come to TL because I don't really have anyone to turn to.
It just wasn't working for me anymore. She was in hysterics, begged for me to not do this. I feel dirty and disgusting.
Can anyone give me ideas on how to cheer myself up? Ways to occupy myself? My laptop is broken so i can't play SC...
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life.
omg... this was litterally my ex... same story everything. Hysteric... my ex even threatened to commit suicide.
Don't really know what I did tho, because at first I was relieved and didn't really miss her, as she was too needy and all that (you described it really well, lol). Don't know what except games and possibly a movie / awesome show marathon?
I recommend Game of Thrones or The Walking Dead, if you haven't watched those.
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Watch Starship Troopers. I don't know I was thinking about doing that. Go have cheap sex with strangers.
I don't know you I don't know how to cheer you up.
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On September 11 2011 09:59 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:
Mastdurbate?
That's what I would do if I had a recent ex to mope over. I find it calms my mind and makes me think less about girls. This may backfire though... maybe you'll start crying over having to go back to using your hand.
Can you masturbate while crying? Probably not unless one of your relatives died.
Back on topic - my gf almost quit me today and I was the one begging her to calm down. We fight all the time and this shit is nothing new. But you should know that fucking with other peoples hearts will get back to you tenfold. You didn't want to get serious? Fuck you really, why do you even date. Shit you feel bad, how cute. You're too pussy to carry this responsibility, too bad that girl was silly enough to date a deuche.
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On September 11 2011 08:37 Colm wrote:
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life.
I'm 23 and I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. By being with her, I lived my life more fully than I ever would have otherwise. I don't understand where people get the notion that you can't "live your life" and be in a relationship. Having someone to love and grow with you is the best life you can live.
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On September 11 2011 11:55 Mohdoo wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2011 08:37 Colm wrote:
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life. I'm 23 and I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. By being with her, I lived my life more fully than I ever would have otherwise. I don't understand where people get the notion that you can't "live your life" and be in a relationship. Having someone to love and grow with you is the best life you can live.
Well disguised gf brag post ?
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nothing helps but time
or going out and getting more pussy
nothing gets pussy quite like the "i just broke up" story
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you made a good decision
you don't want a deep relationship and extending the relationship with your former girlfriend would have only made the break up worse for her
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On September 11 2011 12:16 opsayo wrote:
nothing helps but time
or going out and getting more pussy
nothing gets pussy quite like the "i just broke up" story
Nothing gets pussy like google but I'm sure you know this better than anyone.
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On September 11 2011 11:37 supaplex wrote:
Can you masturbate while crying? Probably not unless one of your relatives died.
WHAT?! 0_o
On topic :: Zatoichi movie marathon while playing Brood War. There are 26 films, so plenty of time to reset and clear your head.
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What I'm imagining:
GF:"Hey honey, wouldn't you like to go out tonight instead of playing starcraft until 2 in the morning?"
You:"Where's my sandwich?!? Where is it? It's not here. I swore I told you to make me a sandwich."
GF: walks away and returns with a sandwich and tears in her eyes.
You:" Bitch you're so needy!"
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My way of getting over a break up, remind yourself "hmm I don't give a shit". Your mind can do amazing things. You can easily suppress the emotions
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On September 11 2011 08:41 Geovu wrote:
Play SC on your computer, you obviously have one.
Also Ice Cream. And Star Wars marathon. Followed by LOTR marathon. Followed by Harry Potter marathon. Do it now.
Seems like good advice.
Can also start working out ^_^
Helped me a lot through my breakup.
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Watch DeMuslim's stream.
Some guy who had a terrible breakup with his gf said that he watched DeMu's stream and that was the only thing that kept him from being crushed. He msged this to him during a stream. xD
Trust me, the stream is awesome, amazing and DeMuslim is always fun.
If not that, watch some other good stream.
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That's because Bens voice is that of an angel
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On September 11 2011 11:37 supaplex wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2011 09:59 Hidden_MotiveS wrote:
Mastdurbate?
That's what I would do if I had a recent ex to mope over. I find it calms my mind and makes me think less about girls. This may backfire though... maybe you'll start crying over having to go back to using your hand. Can you masturbate while crying? Probably not unless one of your relatives died. Back on topic - my gf almost quit me today and I was the one begging her to calm down. We fight all the time and this shit is nothing new. But you should know that fucking with other peoples hearts will get back to you tenfold. You didn't want to get serious? Fuck you really, why do you even date. Shit you feel bad, how cute. You're too pussy to carry this responsibility, too bad that girl was silly enough to date a deuche.
She knew I didn't want to get serious from day 1. I don't want that currently. The more time went on the more we bickered about silly stuff. I feel it was the right decision to break up with her cause every time we bickered she would always cry and say how i treat her unfairly and make me to be a bad guy when I really am not. It's not even if I was being one of those idiots that always thought they were right and couldn't say sorry.
So to your statement about fucking with her heart, I might be fucking with her heart now but it's a lot better than making it worse for her in the future. I came on here to get it off my chest. I appreciate you giving me the tough "man up" response but I'm just clarifying things for you.
Either way thanks everyone .
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On September 11 2011 13:04 THE_DOMINATOR wrote:
What I'm imagining:
GF:"Hey honey, wouldn't you like to go out tonight instead of playing starcraft until 2 in the morning?"
You:"Where's my sandwich?!? Where is it? It's not here. I swore I told you to make me a sandwich."
GF: walks away and returns with a sandwich and tears in her eyes.
You:" Bitch you're so needy!"
This post wins the thread. I lol'd fairly hard.
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you probably felt like you wanted to explore with other girls and tired of your current status. It sounds like there wasn't much wrong. Instead of breaking up, you should "take a break"
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i hope to god you told her in those exact simple words why you chose to break up with her. There is nothing worse than a vague breakup. I've gone through it, fuck that shit.
Also, if your 'wanting to live life' is a metaphor for wanting to sleep around and fuck girls(nothing wrong with this imo) then do a better job of explaining this to her as well.
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