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So i just had to break up with my gf, and i feel horrible, I have come to TL because I don't really have anyone to turn to.
It just wasn't working for me anymore. She was in hysterics, begged for me to not do this. I feel dirty and disgusting.
Can anyone give me ideas on how to cheer myself up? Ways to occupy myself? My laptop is broken so i can't play SC...
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life.
  
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Play SC on your computer, you obviously have one.
Also Ice Cream. And Star Wars marathon. Followed by LOTR marathon. Followed by Harry Potter marathon. Do it now.
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Screw that, just play league games.
If you actually can't go to a friends and play some SC2
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The question begged though is, it wasn't working for you anymore ...why?
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I dont get it, why do you feel guilty? You wanted to end the relationship, its hollow and pointless if its not a mutually reciprocal emotional affair. You did the right thing, begging or not. Only advice I can give you to feel better is to learn to stand behind your decisions in every manner, including emotional. Accept you did the write thing and move on.
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Aww  Tell us what went wrong and maybe you won't feel so guilty anymore.
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Think in this terms :why did you broke with her? Whatever the reason is I assume it is a good reason and you didn't just broke with her just for fun. So just stick with your reasons and remember them because somethings are better sonner than later even if they hurt alot right now. Things will get better. 
Now go play some 4v4s or some Team Fortress 2. Have a blast!!
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Blazinghand
United States25560 Posts
Maybe play some brood war? It should be able to run even on older computers
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I'll edit the top post so you know why.
I broke up with her because emotionally we wasn't on the same level. She was a bit needy for me. She was a brilliant girl, was supportive and did everything for me. If i made a mistake she would forgive me, she didn't deserve it. But I am 20. I don't want to get serious. I just want to live my life. This computer is to slow to play any games if im honest. Its why I came for other ideas to occupy myself. I feel disgusting about it all.
Thanks for the fast responses. I love this community.
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On September 11 2011 08:57 Blazinghand wrote:Maybe play some brood war? It should be able to run even on older computers
brood war... what a brilliant idea!
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Korea (South)11597 Posts
Well, it seems like you ended a relationship that wasn't going to work out. There's nothing to feel guilty or bad about. Why drag something out that was doomed to fail anyways? Best to get it over with instead of waiting.
As to things to do? Now is the perfect time to find a new hobby. You just got a whole new chunk of time to yourself. Start doing random things that you thought of doing but never started.
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I don't know how I feel about this blog
I know it hurts, we've all been there but there's no reason to be calling yourself "disgusting" and "dirty". We've all done things we regret and that makes us human. Stop moping around and stop blaming yourself. I know you want to sound mature and feel like you're doing the right thing by saying she didn't deserve blahblahblah. Feel better about yourself, cheer up. And there's no reason to drown yourself in other things to get over it (i.e. playing videogames)
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I second the ice cream suggestion. You need a little "me time." Also, you need a laugh, and there are plenty of places to find one. Geovu mentioned movies, but I'd take it a step further! If you haven't heard of RiffTrax, it's a site made by former Mystery Science Theater 3000 people, and they sell comedy audio tracks for movies. Their Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter riffs are hilarious, but the Twilight one is just about the best thing ever. I have about a dozen of their riffs, so if you ever want a free Harry Potter or Star Trek one, send me a PM!
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i actually broke up with my gf in the spring for the exact same reason. almost the exact same scenario from what it seems like. i also felt bad about it. it is a really hard position to be in. i would say the best thing to do would be to try to not talk to her. she may text etc etc just say you can't talk to her right now if you do talk you may change your mind or say something you don't actually want to. go see a movie or something. watch the gsl or something else. just occupy ur mind
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There's a difference between a girl being needy or just wanting to be loved. There are two sides to each story. I mean, I highly doubt that she wouldn't let you see your friends, play some Starcraft, or live your life overall. My girlfriend hates SC, doesn't listen to metal, doesn't care about import cars, or other random things that I'm really into, and it still works amazingly. She has needs, of course, but I'd never call her needy. I'm just getting that either you weren't actually looking for any commitment at all, or that maybe somehow she really was over-the-top needy, one or the other, but no way it's in the middle. If it was the former, I could see why you feel guilty. In most circumstances "feeling trapped" is an insecurity, not a mature prerogative. I'm not making up any assumptions about your specific situation, but this is what I would guess.
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The guy at the top is right. Lord of the Rings marathon. Do it.
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THE WORLD IS HUGE, so much stuff to do.
Regarding relationships:
She'll find someone that suits her better.
You'll find someone better for you.
Any drama is unnecessary although understandable; live on.
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at your age (assuming she's at a similar age to you) girls have a lot more options than you. she will probably get over you faster than you can get over her. be prepared for the pain.
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Mastdurbate?
That's what I would do if I had a recent ex to mope over. I find it calms my mind and makes me think less about girls. This may backfire though... maybe you'll start crying over having to go back to using your hand.
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just relax, take a deep breath order pizza and have a movie marathon...thats what I did when me and my gf broke up, it stings like hell (of course and usually does) but thats about all you can do
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