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On July 15 2011 16:31 tryummm wrote: You already have confidence. You might not have it when or where you want it, but you have it. Confidence is knowing. Its an inner certainty and absolutely nothing can change it. It doesn't matter what happens, what people say, or what they do. It cannot be challenged. After the Wright brothers conducted the first manned flight do you think others telling them "You can't fly" would change what they knew? Their reply would be "I know I can, and I just did." Their confidence in their ability to fly would not be hindered.
I could literally post a few pages worth of post on confidence and how to develop it, but I'll control myself and stop there since you just asked for a definition.
Don't worry I'm not looking to develop confidence hahaha. Not at all looking for definitions and trying to follow them.
I'm just curious to the meaning behind the word that gets tossed around. And so far I'm happy with the replies :D
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Who rated 1 star? You're ruining my confidence!
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confidence is this for me:
Know what you want, know how to get what you want, got want you want, and say how you did it.
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I think it also involves something like... no second-guessing yourself. If you go through life not questioning your decisions so much and not having a voice that says, "maybe you're being stupid...maybe this person thinks what I'm saying isn't valuable..." - I think that's confidence.
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always question your failures and success. thats how you glean wisdom and move forward
don't invest energy into them because they're out of your control
posted another really crappy blog that got closed in less than 5 minutes. was giggling when i wrote it. why do i always do this when im really tired. good night lol
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On July 15 2011 17:00 evanthebouncy! wrote: confidence is this for me:
Know what you want, know how to get what you want, got want you want, and say how you did it.
I don't agree with that formula. That's a formula for losing.
Do you think Ed Hillary knew how to get to the top of Mount Everest when he came up with the idea that he would climb it? Of course not.
If you think about doing something and you know how you are going to do it, that means you are doing something you have already done before. There is no motivation in doing something you have done before, and there is no growth in it. When you come up with an idea that will result in personal growth you won't know how to get what you want. You will only know the next step. Then once you take that step, you will come up with another. And another, and so on. You progressively realize worthy ideals, you don't realize them then achieve them.
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Confidence to me is a justified belief in myself/someone/something. It could easily be misplaced, but the fact that you follow through it is the confidence part (yeah, that's borderline arrogance, but if you follow through, that arrogance disappears)
Its shutting up that voice in your head telling you that maybe its not a good idea, or caging that butterfly in your stomach when you try something
Like seeing Riku in public, going up to her to say "I love you", without worrying too much about of you fail, or make an ass of yourself
(For the record, I don't know you well enough Riku to say that, I just had a feeling you'd see this and would appreciate the link to your blogs)
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Confidence is knowledge. More specifically, knowledge about your assets, be they skills or physical goods, or even knowledge about something else.
Appearing confident while not appearing to be pretentious or arrogant, however, ...
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On July 15 2011 15:26 KurtistheTurtle wrote:Confidence is the lack of anxiety. Anxiety is the lack of confidence. Kind of like light/dark. When you're confronted with a decision where you perceive a lot of resources are going to be risked you'll be afraid to lose them (money, self-esteem, time, opportunity, etc). Confidence is the result of making a decision to risk regardless of the fear, and--important and counterintuitive--confidence goes up whether or not you're successful. Have a quote for this. if I remembered where it was from I'd credit it: Show nested quote +"Can a man still be brave if he's afraid?" he heard his own voice saying, small and far away. And his father's voice replied to him. "That is the only time a man can be brave." Bravery is the mechanism which brings confidence.
FWIW, that quote is from A Game of Thrones. It's from Bran's point of view.
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That's nice and romantic, but I never faced fear while learning computers, and I'm supremely confident that you can't use a Turing machine to solve the Halting problem. Surely I wasn't being brave, going to class with all the scary classmates and professor, going through the cancer-inducing sunlight...
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On July 15 2011 15:15 Probulous wrote: If you are willing to flop it out you are confident...
You're welcome.
ROFL, or your on a date ^^
To the OP, type "define confidence" into google:
1. Full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing: We have every confidence in their ability to succeed. 2. Belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him. 3. Certitude; assurance: He described the situation with such confidence that the audience believed him completely.
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Here's the simplest explanation of confidence:
Not giving a shit about what others think of you.
That's basically it.
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Confidence is a combination of boldness and self-assuredness. It basically means that you are able to do things without fear of failure due to being certain of your success, even before the outcome is known.
People who are confident are sure of themselves and approach situations without fear of failure. This has the recursive effect of preventing failure. The boldness comes into play because confident people are often able to enter into uncertain situations that a more cautious or prudent person would avoid.
Too much confidence and boldness can also be a bad thing, because it might make you somewhat of a buffoon to people. You want to stand out positively and succeed, but never stand out and fail. The nail that sticks out gets hammered - so you better be a good nail.
On July 15 2011 21:37 masami.sc wrote: Not giving a shit about what others think of you.
That's sociopathy. You have to at least care a little bit of what others think of you or you might accept lesser success in life and be satisfied with it.
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Thank you everyone I'm clear now. I especially liked what KurtistheTurtle has to say :D
What about dates then ?
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